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FiRst of all, cheating is neveR noRmal, cheating is bad, as in when u look up the meaning of bad in the dictionaRy; that is it!!!!!!! I have not cheated on my partner befoRe........I always end one Relationship before I start another one.

It depends on how seRious the relationship is and how I feel about the guy. I use a blackbeRRy and the only thing I do with it that I don't do with my otheR phones or laptop is pinging. If this constant pinging annoys him oR makes him feel unsafe and he asks me to stop using a blackbeRRy then I will stop cos its my duty to make him feel safe. MoReover, I also hate it when I'm with a guy and he fiddles his phone.

Nice post!...it just spoke to me.


Thank you poster!

Lmao jaRe! Nna lekwanu grammar! Odikwa risky.....make I Run go bRing my dictionaRy come »»»»»»

@yield; ofcourse I agree with u, I just meant a broader perspective! Yes being good to people is part of being good but there is more to being a good person than just being good to people! For instance, someone that does ritual might be good to people but that doesn't make him/heR a good peRson. Hope u get my point now?

Yield: Really depends on the motives. It's one thing to be good because you expect something in return. It's another to be good because that's just the way you are and you don't care about being upheld nor praised in any way. Also, being good does not mean you've to be passive. You can still stand and speak up for yourself when you need to.

Yes, it does.

Common guys, this thread is not all about being good to people or being born again. Its about doing the right thing always! Its about being upright and incoRruptible, straight forward and honest. Its about whether to upheld or bend the truth a little, its about sowing or not sowing ur soul to the devil in otheR to make it big or not! That's what the "good" in this thread means!

Yes I can kneel down for my spouse if I offend him, I can kneel down to ask for forgiveness........I remember kneeling down to spoon feed him sometime, he didn't ask me to and I didn't even know when I did it......I guess love just dey scatter my dada then.....lol. But he felt good lording over me and I just let him. "Winks"

@salt 1; when next you think u wanna advice people to change their evil ways as a "born again", pls pray for the holy spirit who is the executor of God's word not you! Common wisdom ought to have told you that!

@salt1; get behind me satan! Pls get off my thread if u think u can come here and provoke people in oRder for this thread to be derailed. I'm not one of you people that hide under the phrase "born again" to perpetuate evil! By the way who are u to judge? Do u even know what it means to be born again? Cos if u do u won't come online to say trash! The last time I checked winning souls for christ is not done through being insulting........ Or does being born again take away ur ability to comprehend common English? Pls brother born again let ur light shine! and get off my thread!

iya ayi: Doing good is d best.the do-gooder may seem like a fool sometimes, but it pays off in d long run. It is rewarding at d end. Doing good keeps d world sane, makes it a peaceful place to live and thrive. Whatsmore, it wil be handsomely rewarded in d life hereafter.

Pls when will it pay off? Is it when I die? I'm not born again, I just believe in the principles of doing good! And somehow its now part of me. I feel very miserable doing otherwise. E.g, when I was working for a construction company I was in a position that i had access to some of the company's materials. I could have stolen and made money just like others were doing. Instead I sat on my desk, worked my butt off and depended on my salary. My friends I did the job with have built houses and bought cars but I'm still struggling! In fact, at the end of the day another manageR (thief) came to head my depaRtment and sacked me cos I'm a "jew" girl! Infact, I could give countless instances.......even in school I watch people that can't even wRite their names make good grade becos they soRt and people that woRk hard either fail or come out with low grades. Even when it comes to my relationship with people I give my best and my all but I don't only get nothing in return but I would be taken advantage of! I have seen good people suffer! Being a good person doesn't guaRantee you will get same fair tReatment from people, but does it mean ur right should be deprived? Can someone pls tell me the difference between being good and being stupid! Cos I really want to learn!

hbrednic: being good is equal to low self esteem,
in life you have to be bold and ruthless,deal with people before you become their victim,
but always show compassion for the weak.

Lol.....now I'm scared!

@fluid26; lol, you are really veRy funny? Vivian at 8 was a serious tomboy!

@fluid26; lol....pls can you tell me why u find it hard to believe?

I was 20

fluid26: Ghen Ghen!!!

Round 2....Fight!


*buys popcorn and joins the audience*
Jyydebaba, shift! No mess hia o!

*WhispeRing* abeg shift small make I join u so that I go fit chop that popcorn, buy ice cream too.......with threads like this I no go ever spend my money go comedy shows again!

Oh menh, this is the peak of enteRtainment......Ewo! I don laugh tire
@ikekings: bia nwokem why u dey run na? Grab the opportunity with both hands joor.

There are no reasons people cheat! You cheat cos u want to so u look for some lame excuse!

Onye nke a osikwenu ebee puta bikonu? Abeg make we hear word jare! Nigerian girls cheat? Why won't they cheat? Why are u guys complaining when u are their motivating factor? When a girl is her natural self, uses the things she can afford herself u tagged her classless and not ur standaRd. When she steps up her game, wears bRazilian hair, uses bb bold 5, wears expensive perfumes and accessories she becomes classy and ur standard! Then u go for heR?, how on earth do u think some of them make the money to afford all these? Most times are u not the ones they cheat with? Most NigeRia men are hypocrites! Nna u people should get out and get a life joor, if a Nigerian woman is not good for u, pls marry Asians. Everytime Nigerian girls this nigeRian girls that? Ma nke no obodo oyibo na aru agboro agaghi ekwe anyi nuo mmiRi togbo iko!

@ikekings: lmao, the "bringing out the crazy" is not foR u. That department is for my man only, so don't get ur hopes high smartass.

Imo its not wrong. A woman should know the kind of man she is married to, you need to be his everything, not just a wife! You need to be his biatch, his haRlot his slut, his mistress, whatever is it he fantasize about ! I'd follow my man to the club unless he just wants to hang out with the guys only. I can have my slumber party at home. For me to agree to spend the rest of my life with him means I trust him not to hurt me, I trust myself to forgive him even when he does. I fell in love with him not becos he is perfect but because he is imperfect and messy but he is my mess and I just love being impeRfect and messy with him.

@ikekings: then deal!........but if u deviate I'm gonna so kick ur ass u know that? Lol........we let u know when the time comes! Lol............. But on a serious note, I'm a crazy kind of girl (crazy nor slutty) and I can't just put up with a man that can't bring out that craziness in me.

@ikekings; that reminds me....wetin u say I do u? U wan club with me abi? Terms and conditions dey ooooo.....
1. Do not expect me to drink cos I don't!
2. I only be in VIP or lounge cos I'm allergic to smoke and touts.
3. I dance alone...(I'm not shy of dancing with a man oo) I only dance with my man!
4. I can't be in the club past 1
5. You won't get drunk
6. AfteR the club, I bid or peck u goodnight and go home.

Agreed? Then we have deal! And don't woRry u won't spend ur dime on me. I don't need. Lmao!

Babes knock it off already! This issue ain't worth fighting over. Life is all about choices and we choose how to live it. What makes us mature and "responsible" is our ability to accommodate people irrespective of how they choose to live their lives. But trying to make ur own choice seem betteR? Then u should be on this planet alone! If you choose to go to club;fine, if you don't; fine. Its doesn't make u a better or a worst person! But coming online to run off ur mouth? Babes that's the peak of being irresponsible. That means u could do this in a market place? Haba!
@Tenderly1; you claim to be born again right? I'm sure God will be preparing a golden crown just for u for running ur mouth on the internet? And u think that's the best way to win souls for christ? SMH......, u could have fooled me! Babe pls pray if there is nothing else for u to do!

Responsible? Guys don't be deceived.....the only thing that signifies a girl's responsibility is who she is when no one is watching! Yea, we all love to be seen as responsible but a number of us are not even tho they live a triangular lifestyle and spend all their days in church. Of couRse girl go to clubs for different reasons just like we go to church for different reasons. I do a lot of things depending on my mood, I go to club, I go to the pool, I go to the cinema, I go the stadium cos I play badminton, I go to the gym when I want to workout............if a man can't handle it, soRry u ain't for me cos I'm not promising to change.
I have a woman who lives next door to me, claims she is a pastor and always preached to me to repent as if I'm a devil. Then bam! the man she was living with died and we found out the man did not marRy her. Who was she deceiving?

@mawojuuche: u aRe veRy myopic and shallow minded. Yes, I like going to the club when I'm having a bad day, I don't even drink but I love dancing especially when I'm feeling the DJ. And I'm very responsible and homely tho not perfect. The only reason I would go to a club with a guy other than my brother or boyfriend is because of protection. In most cases I even buy the peRson drinks and at the end of the day I go back to my house. Bro, that's me and I don't hide it. So if a man says he doesn't wanna maRry me cos I go to club pls be my guest and close the door behind u. Moreover, I can't be with a man I can't go to club with. Pls change ur mindset.

When has it become a crime for a lady to go to club? As in in the real sense of going to club? Pls carrry out ur research very well.

I had this huge cRush on Michael Jackson........ Watching him perform on stage was the highlight of my day. I would exchange blows with anybody that says anything bad about him. Then when he died I ran away from my house for days cos I felt I was seeing his face everywhere in my house.