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Stop breeding like pigs

pansophist:
Haaaa, this one is serious. It's not a good start.

It's difficult to access their situation since we are not in a relationship. But is either the man who made her feel uncomfortable coming to him for her needs, he doesn't have, or something else. I don't know.

Lol

The man has. I don't know why is like that. Perhaps, that's what some guys want. They don't owe her not until after marriage.

jmoore:
My point is that you should channel same energy to Seun Kuti's village. Channel your epistle to Seun Kuti.

Ofcourse he has been schooled as regards to that

pansophist:


It's like you've just started dating women. I'm assuming you're a man lol.

If a woman is in need, you will know. A man may hide his need because woman loose respect for men they support financially. But women? I'll know.

They leave cues. She will talk. She will say it indirectly. It's impossible to confuse it, unless the man just don't want to help. A woman in financial need is the easiest thing to spot in the world.

If I ask "how are you", and she said I'm not fine, I'll only continue asking her what the problem is if I'm sure I can help. If not, I'll just tell her " God is your strength ".

yes i get you

But why is it like that?

A female friend of mine shared her friend experience with me. This her friend has been proposed to and their wedding is coming up in two months time. This her friend live on the mainland. She finished her service just of resent while the guy (husband to be) live and work on the island. This her friends need some cash to sort out something (around 30-40k) and she couldn't talk to her fiance (husband to be) but resorted to ask her friend

It doesn't sit well to me though. I felt if she can accept a man proposal, it means they must have been together for a while and willing to start a family with him. Why wouldn't she be free to express her win and loss to him? Or was it that she felt he won't do it for her or he will but feel somewhat awkward and she's trying to avoid that?

I don't know, i felt it's weird if you aren't free completely to your husband or wife to be

pansophist:
Of yes, of course. My consequent response to mariahangel shows that was what I meant. No sex for the man until marriage either.

And to be clear, a man should assist a woman that he is not married to financially, but where I draw the line is when the women feels entitled to his provisions, then she is crossing the line.

Personally, I will express my affection by giving if I see that there is a genuine need. She don't have to ask, I'll just give. But when it becomes my duty, or a right for her to access my provisions, then only marriage unlocks that.

I agree with you

But how would you know she's truly in need if she can't ask you as a friend? For instance, let's assume she's from a humble background. As a student, she has paid her tuition fee but hasn't completed her hostel fee. Her hostel fee is 70k but she has 40k. How would you know she needs help truly if she didn't ask for it?


Personally, i feel if she constantly ask for help from you then i wouldn't condole that. But if it's once in a blue moon, and it's something reasonable like her education, handwork, health et al, then i would be glad to help and support. Afterall, we can help a total stranger who seek for genuine help, talk more of a friend.

Evolutionlove:
All these Epitsle because of the 5k maximum you would send, That's if you even have anything to send.

Kindly get lost from this Post. ENP.

why not send him the 5k maximum instead with your short epistle?

jmoore:
Seun Kuti said Lagos doesn't belong to Yoruba. Seun Kuti is an indigene of?

Seun Kuti like every other Nigerian has a freedom of speech. Does that mean their speech would hold water or merit consideration?

Tochj:
For the likes of Reno mockery and co
Igbos are not trouble makers in Lagos
Igbos pays Taxes for the Lagos development
Pay for lands
Pay everything to Lagos for building including thugs called omonile
Why the Much Hatred?
The offence of igbos in Lagos is choosing the Best candidate in Elections
If we're not interested in one Nigeria again
Why are they still holding MNK?

who is the best candidate for election please?

hakym619:
Wow ! Really ?
But sir, what's the average processing time for employment under government? E dey enter months?

yes. It could take 6 months or even more. Depends on MDAs

hakym619:
ATTENTION GUYS

Guys I'm in tension. Recently, around April ending, i bought a government job slot. The issuer claimed that this slot was issued out by Lagos State government to the campaign DG to honor his efforts.

Please if you're an APC member in this house or a staff at Lagos civil service commission, is it true that politicians are given slots.

The person coordinating this slot selling has been telling us to be patient for documentation date - the third stage in employment processing.

NB : I and others have forwarded all credentials to him since May beginning but we're still on it till now.

ANXIETY IS KILLING ME . WHO HAS SOMETHING TO SAY 😢

I heard about this though but poor man no get money to buy

I think you need to exercise patience.

Daniel7543:
U for ask the ashawo weda she even get the 2k to give.
Na to dey broke shame guys on every thread the girl sabi. U even get time to dey quote that leech

Lol

If every woman na ashawo for your village, no forget your mama, sisters and nieces follow join

pansophist:
Nothing is wrong with the advice, but only in the context of marriage. No man should be responsible for the financial needs of a girl he is not married to.

Furthermore, [b]a woman should support her provider husband financially when he is passing through temporary financial issues. [/b]That's one of the qualities of being a good wife.

provided the man won't ask for sex from her until after marriage, then i agree with you


I assume temporary financial issues shouldn't exceed some weeks or maximum of few months. On that note, the man must show commitment during those short temporary financial issues period. He has to convince the woman with his efforts trying to get back on his feet. You know it is temporary not permanent. Also, don't forget it isn't the woman responsibility.

Be strong bro and look after your kid sisters

doneback04:
Am exempted bro, none of this can happen to me because am serving a living God, it can only happens to those who doesn't know where they belong in Christ,
the problem with people like you your brain at some point feel like nothing good can come out of Nigeria that why you tend to japa,
but you forgot that there are several people in this Nigerian that is succeeding and doing extremely well in their endeavors.
you just have to change your perspective about Nigeria and start see good inside of it,
there is a word that whatever you don't accept in your mind would not accept you
I have always seen Nigeria as a nation where my name and business will flourish and GOD has been doing it for me as we speak.

Nigeria top the list of countries with poorest and unemployed citizens. When will your God deliver her from that?

MeineMutter:
Don’t mind the wheyrhey. He thinks America is a country. It’s just a gangster street. He should come and taste life in Europe. At leas, I have lived in Iceland, Norway, Sweden and Austria and visited the US. US na trash.

how is US a trash please? Gun violence? What?

Tonnierichy:
Na why dem no get sense na. Most of them are regretting it now. They are having to do ridiculous jobs they never thought they would do in their lives. My friend japa, me sef won japa! Copy copy na him dey kill people.

Japa is perfect for people that won scholarship, or people that got an all expense paid job offer abroad. High ranking bankers are now cleaning shit abroad. Rubbish

how is JAPA good for someone who got scholarship? Will such person get a job after study or the scholarship automatically guarantee him/her job after school?

udy4luv88:
Transportation to work, fuel consumption,food stuff etc,. I had to trek down to work today... I couldn't afford buying fuel for my car, generator. I'm just a civil servant earning below 80k

Seriously? You earn 80k as a civil servant and you own a car? That's surprising though

Sunshine34:
Are you calling human rights to come fight your wife? Which help exactly is he looking for, see this weak, insane and useless man. I am very ashame of him

he's a responsible man.

Rayban25:
Shes not a pastor shes an impostor
..God never called her. Shes only there for her stomach and yet she is still as lean as pharoah's thin cows

which pastor did God called uncle? Tell us the men of God that is truly called by God

Teeeeema:
There’s no need to create seamless hiring profile. Can we create a group chat or is there a group chat already? If there is already, admin please add me and if there’s none, you can drop your contacts and I’ll create a new group chat.

can't find your number on WhatsApp. Please do you have the past question?

MrBrownJay1:
A) i have never lived in Nigeria (unless long holidays)
B) i am just giving you PROPER STATISTICS and certainly not "he say she" say personal opinion
C) again, many people in the US aint addicts nor illegal immigrants and still barely living paycheck to paycheck, and cant afford basic necessities of life. its even WORSE in the US than Europe, because at least some countries in Europe have a very strong social service system (compared to the US). a jobless 18yr old French citizen will receive money from the gov to survive (even if he hasnt paid a kobo in taxes), a US jobless 18yr wouldnt receive a kobo.
D) many people cant get a decent job because of the amount of legal/illegal immigrant taking up these low pay jobs.
E) many people in the US are broke because of the exacts same low financing car/house/Iphones etc notes you are talking about (That they cant afford)
F) addiction is NOT part of the poverty i am talking about, nor the CNBC video i just posted, if you had watched t, you would have understood that the poverty in the US that everyone is talking about must be from a different country than the US you are on about.
G) ANYONE WHO LIVES PAYCHECK TO PAYCHECK AND CAN BARELY AFFORD BASIC NECESSITIES (while living on credit) ARE POOR PEOPLE ON PAPER...regardless of what you believe. credit card debts and bad/low credit score is a sign!
H) just because i can go to the US today and find a job DOES NOT Mean i cant be broke and/or still poor in the US.

FINALLY, the fact that you believe that there is no poverty in the US (unless by choice) makes me truly believe that you obvously dont know much about the US/Europe or you are just one of those Africans who landed, found a low paying job that paid 10 times what you were making in Nigeria and suddenly believed you were rich (or that everyone in the US is). i can take you today to some entire neighborhoods in Atlanta/Miami, LA and you will see nothing but poverty and ghettos (and drug addicts dont rent the houses/apt there). go check Liberty City, Overtown, Opa Locka in Miami and tell us it isnt rampant with poverty. some people in NY can only afford shitty dumpster apts that i wouldnt even let my worst enemy live in. NO POVERTY IN THE US....yeah right!

A poor man in US is automatically a rich or average man in Nigeria or any other Africa country. They're incomparable

sukkot:
lies. that man is building a house in his village. when its time to nack olosho 10000 naira will appear from under mattress

STORY

We top unemployment rate and poverty level
How many state government is paying the minimum wage? How many graduates get job after school? When last has farmers gone to farm? I'm sure you know all these. Let me leave you

sukkot:
dont be deceived, every nigerian has 50k. the man begging you for money is only begging because he does not want to spend his own.

you lie. A man earning 30k minimum wage can never boast of 50k in his account. Unless he won't feed, transport, pay house rent and other miscellaneous expenses. Let's stop pretending please

Blaze14k:
Most poor people overseas are living above standard when you compare to nigerians that are poor. How many people can you find at least 50k in there account in nigeria

Don't mind him. Claiming patriotic more than others

I don't have 50k in my account. I'm a 2.1 graduate. There are tons of married men who can't boast of 50k in their account.

A poor American or Canadian ate mile ahead poor or even average Nigerians

Those men of God just dey play

SpatialKing:
Received... I will contact you

hello sir

I guess you're busy. I didn't hear from you anymore.

Congratulations Olusola

Mightymanna:
They have obliterate APC in Kano, NNPP has come to stay Kwankwaso have retired all greedy Kano Politicians both PDP and APC

That kwankwaso will work for Tinubu re-election in 2027

Eriokanmi:
He has spoken as a true leader because if it happens, the military will run. Where were you in October 2020, during endsars when the police ran away with their gun and youths set stations ablaze? Not even the military could disperse them rather, they gave them cover. Watch the videos of when they looted the warehouses where our corrupt politicians kept covid-19 palliatives to be shared among themselves and family and see how the youths confronted soldiers but they couldn't do anything. Go to the North East and see how boko haram besieged barracks and shut them down while soldiers ran away.

What's the population of Nigeria army, compared to over 70 million Nigerian youths? There's nothing like peace. Galant soldiers will run if it happens some would even join in the struggle because they're poorly remunerated. Haven't you heard of soldiers committing suicide or killing their fellows in this country in recent past? Haven't you heard of soldiers resigning? That would tell you whose side the gallant soldiers would be on, should there be violence. Those corrupt politicians you're siding will run to France as usual. Na only you and I go remain.

Lol

What makes you feel the entire youths are in support of Obi yet he came a distant third?

You think the northerners are in support of Obi considering the numbers of votes he got from that region? Or he was also rigged out there too ba?

You think you can defeat government? Lol

SLOVFO:


ChatGPT na something else. I use it to write my essays and even letters. And it delivers.

interesting

How did you go about it without having flaws? Please share your experience

FlawlessKarl:


The man is following Buhari's foot step. Thank God, I am leaving this dilapidated zoo next week. This man rule will be a total disaster. I just can't wait for this idiot to be sworn in tomorrow and I can't wait to leave the zoo .

please take me along. I'm also tired of this country bro.

folake4u:
I am not really impressed with this ChatGPT. I tried checking some Law programs on the platform and it gave me wrong answers.

Thankfully, it gave a disclaimer.

I see some folks even use ChatGPT to write their Statement of Purpose for Japa. I laugh in Swahili.

interesting

Is it wrong to use it for SOP?