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RenegadeX:
How old first of all?

If you read your bible well you will see that all curses on children came from fathers. I don’t think women have that power over their children. Mothers curse is over hyped here in Africa.

Only a mother indeed can curse. People have been cursed by their boyfriend, girlfriend, neighbors, pastors, husbands of people they slept with and so on and it worked. You don’t know about life you just won talk. It’s like you’ve done that shit before that’s why you are justifying it.

For you to raise your hand sef say you won beat your elder brother you are cursed already without him uttering a word. Not to talk of him bleeding as in blood is involved. Oga anything he says at that moment is being marked and registered.

Oga I cursed him first to do badly at school and it happened, e go soon dropout. If someone should curse me that I would fumble at school, I would prove you wrong by getting multiple A’s. I cursed him and told him to go and prove me wrong but he couldn’t

And his unrepentance has lead to more curses. Dey there dey play. There are people you don’t mess with in life. Even in 48 laws of power one law says “do not offend the wrong person “.

You don’t know what it feels like to be injured in a fight with your younger one. Your ego as a man, your confidence, they way people look at you changes. You are seen as that dude that was badly hurt by his younger brother. Oga I cursed him in pains on the hospital bed. I cursed him while laying naked at night, I cursed him when pins and injections was entering my body.

If not that I have the fear of God my revenge will be to end him or maim him for life but let him wallow in his curse. If I end him I will be helping him. But I won’t stain my hands with blood.

As the bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the curse causeless shall not come. Proverbs 26:2

The only time you are free is if you did not do anything to the person and the person is just cursing you for nothing then it won’t work.

do yourself a favour and place in success on yourself and love ones too

My female friend was cursed sometime ago by someone that she wouldn't get married. Today she's happily married with kids. She married a successful young man that LOVE her to the brim. If you think say naso course take be, almost everybody will be under course because we must have offended someone either as a child, teenage, and adult. In school, place of work, place of worship et al

Your course do not hold any water one bit on anyone. You're not his biological mother. Place a success on yourself and your love ones and watch the outcome first before deceiving yourself about cursing someone who isn't your child. Very funny

I am not in anyway supporting your brother beating you or you beating your brother. I am not a violence person but the aspects of you cursing your brother na pure myth. You're only deceiving yourself. Take it to the bank

TheSuperX:
I can't believe you typed all these just to get a pussy from a female Nairalander 😂😂

You want every lady here to perceive you as a perfect and righteous man, dude you are a fool. 😂

You can only daydream about these women. They are getting married every Saturday to responsible guys. Keep hating on women you hear. More than half of girls we all graduated together has been married. Some got married to abroad base guys. While those married in Nigeria are doing pretty fine

We the guys never marry. We still dey hustle. Keep hating on women you hear

They're not responsible for your misery

obama99:
Na little school wey you go give you that kind liver. Next time be very careful and seek for wisdom before you talk that kind talk. He is just unfortunate to be in that situation. Thank God he didn't put his hand in stuffs that will wipe the whole family.

Ask you mum to beg him on your behalf and later go to him to apologies. Also tell him the reason why you brought out the issue is that you yourself thinks things should not continue this way, if the family must come out of this issues.

Ask him for his own opinion and make respectful friendship and decisions together on way forward. Always accord him the respect due to him.

LOl

Apology for what please? The elder brother should thank his star for having a sensible brother like Op. Some brother will not even think twice about him. Not even a brother who's still struggling for himself. Op is a good and responsible guy that every brother should pray to have. No be only Apology na Antology.

RenegadeX:
You are wise. Op said so many demoralizing things to his brother that he didn’t type here. Even the ones he typed here is enough for someone down already to cry.

And what you said about his mother using him to disrespect his brother. I have experienced it first hand and my younger brother had the audacity to throw a punch on me that I started bleeding. Well I placed a curse on him and I haven’t lifted it

You don't have any curse for your brother. You're just wasting your saliva. Only mother can truly curse a child. The rest na trash.

Ask yourself this simple question, if you have the power to place a curse on someone, why not use same power to place a success on yourself and your love ones?

I am not in support of your brother beating you or you beating your brother. I only know that your curse will not affect him because you're not his biological mother

seanwilliam:
dumb post by dumb human being.
When a man and a woman are poor and in relationships , the woman is the understanding one Abi ?. Why is she not rich herself ? Do you know what it takes to house and feed a fellow human being as in a complete adult?


Do you even know if the man was doing ok too before he met her? Or there was a turn in fate?.

@ op, nobody has really provided any solution to your situation. You deeply know what to do to get out of this. Don’t let nairlanders whine u .

And @38, you need not sugarcoat anything for him ( I know that he’s not lazy ) but trust me, there’s different between doing what works and what is right .

Good luck !

The earlier you realise that LOVE alone don't matter in marriage the better for you. The earlier you stop hating on those ladies making a wise decision in marriage the better for you. Their mothers, grand mothers and even great grand mothers chose LOVE above every other things. But there was absolutely nothing to show for it after decades in marriage

Most even went into poverty. Love will never pay your bills. What money cannot do, much money will obviously do it. Live and let others live please

Those rich folks will obviously date a girl and marry later. You cannot dictate to them who they should date or get married to. You cannot tell them how to spend their money

You're free to sit your sisters down and advice them to marry a poor man living in a single room or at most room and parlour. That's entirely your choice. And it's left to your sisters to listen to you or not

Leave people's daughters and sisters to make their choice. They aren't blind sir. They saw the choices their mothers, aunties made and they saw the outcome

Even me as a struggling guy will never involved someone daughter into my wahala all in the name of marriage. God forbid

Akwamkpuruamu:
I am from the east and I base there but I will be in Lagos next, precisely Gbagada. If he's willing I can teach him Biodigester soakaway system Job. And I'm sure it won't take him time to learn and two months is enough for him to be earning at least 100k a month, if he can put to practice what he learnt. You can email me on integritybiofil@gmail.com

Thank you so much sir. God bless you for doing this.

DownTime44

Mummyimbecile:
OP, please take this advise from this Man.

Don't make your elder brother to be depressed with the manner you talked to him. Things will get better.

I know it's not easy seeing your 38yrs old elder brother staying idle.

If he's responsible, I think you all can come together and ask him what he wants to do with his life so you people can sponsor him either in Business or to travel outta the country.

I wish you and your family the very best. Thank you and God bless you.

Op himself need help. If you go through the post carefully you will realise OP work in a pure water factory which I'm sure won't earn more than 20-25k. The elder brother no do well. He's busy working as conductor without thinking of his life. Now he's a liability to the family, especially to the younger brother. I sincerely feel for the family

gigabyte13:
Depending on what you said and how you said it. For him to have cried, your tone wasn't friendly at all and you know it.

You must have really made him felt bad instead of encouraged.
Go back to him, with an assistant planned in mind. He needs physical assistant not just washing him with words.
Go back and support him maximumly to your own capacity. Not just talking

LOl

If i have a younger brother like Op eh..I will be so happy and proud of him. I don't think Op is talking baae on his elder brother present situation but how he was living his life to have arrived at this junction. A 38 years old man doing conductor for donkey years with nothing to show for it. He doesn't even have clothes nor shoe. I am not in anyway mocking him. The elder brother really fvck up big time abeg. He should thank his star God bless him with a brother like Op

Kaycee54321:
Elder bro was myopic.

Many years of working for a driver and never sitting down to ask how he can move up the ladder from being a conductor?

The only person I pity the most is Op's mom. Like many have observed, a woman who naturally seeks a partner that's stable enough to provide and protect her offspring shouldn't be frowned on.

It's not easy.
My friend will always say, "Make money and be stable first; love can be generated anytime".

some guys prefer women to start suffering with them. They believed those women are virtuous women, while those using their common sense are bad women.

Look at the outcome of a virtuous woman. She ended up having kids suffering in their 30s and almost 40s.

Young girls out there should please open their eyes.

Beverlyjean:
Do not ever disrespect ur elder brother ...he is ur father now as the first son... no one enjoys suffering ... if he an opportunity, he will definitely take it

what do you mean that he should never disrespect his elder brother? Respect is earn, you don't seek for it. Apart from being irresponsible, his common sense ought to have told him that he's not getting any younger still living under his parents roof.

GodWrites:
I am not blaming you, rather your parents. It's your parents responsibility to make sure you get the best life has to offer.

Your mother shouldn't have even married your father in the first place if he was incapable of taking care of his kids.

Like I said, it's their fault and not yours. I am sure if given a choice you wouldn't have allowed them to birth you.

That's life.

interesting

I thought guys adore, worship and respect women who married struggling guys. I thought that's what some guys want. A woman who will start from a single room with them

Op mother is one of the numerous women out there who chose LOVE above every other thing. She stood with her man through thick and thin. She gave birth to kids. She was submissive as some guys want. She hawked with her children. I'm sure she never hawked while she was single. That is what marriage has done to an average Nigerian women. Marriage took most average Nigerian women backwards in life

Please what has the so called marriage benefited her? What was her benefits chosing love over every other things? What was her achievements being a submissive and respectful woman?

Her only achievements was to give birth to children suffering even in their late 30s to 40. Look at where her virtuous woman landed her into.

So pathetic

Stevenbright:
They can help look out for and talk to people who either have Keke nappep they can give out on agreement to him or someone who can buy and give it to him on agreement to work with.

I believe Op would have done that if there was someone anywhere to help get him a bus. Someone who can be supporting his eldest brother from his little pay. I doubt there's anyone within their circle that can afford that and they wouldn't have gone to seek for help. The only mistake i noticed the elder brother made was not going to school or have an handwork. It's a little bit easier to help someone get a better job like Op. It's easier to support someone who already has a skill or handwork. It only take the grace of God for someone who lack both. It is well.

That guy is depressed and might lead to something else if things continue like this

True

Stevenbright:
You guys should support him to get the license and in getting a vehicle to start driving.

It is even preferable if you guys to the line of getting a Keke nappep because it is more profitable and easy to maintain and may not strictly require a license since he will not be plying major roads.

He just need to drive responsibly and carefully and stay away from drugs and alcohol.

you have a good point. Getting him a small bus would have been better for him but i don't think Op family has the power. Op work in pure water factory as a graduate while his 38 years old brother is out of job. I'm sure they would have done that since if it's something they can afford.

sunnymighty:
I understand how you feel about it all, it's for the greater good, call him again, apologize to him and make him see reasons and not feel insulted. The lord will see your family through, times are hard.

apologise how? Op didn't wrong him in anyway. The tears was probably the reflection of his life. Why apologise to someone you never offended? Do you want Op and others to pamper him at that age? Maybe i didn't go through the page well. I don't see need for any apology

Olarewaju89:
You can't do anything bro except you keep on praying for him and also assist him financially if you have. (not under must pls)

For your mother, Humm... She knows better than you and i in this matter. Sit her down and tell her to something concern your brother.

if you carefully read you will realise OP himself need help. He's working in pure water factory. Pure water factory that hardly pay 25k

Op was just unfortunate to come from a poor family. He's a good brother to that his eldest bro. He can't help him because Op himself need help. He was only showing concern to his brother predicament

Zihno:
Hello Chibertha, can you please advice me? I applied to 5 schools for a PhD and 4 of them rejected my application. One offered me an unfunded Msc admission ( SUNY Buffalo). I’m considering using Mpower to sponsor it. COA is $46k

some school only accept masters students to PhD. Did you wrote GRE? Your GPA? Course of study (i learnt some courses are competitive) All of these influence one admission

TheSuperX:
I can't believe you typed all these just to get a pussy from a female Nairalander 😂😂

You want every lady here to perceive you as a perfect and righteous man, dude you are a fool. 😂

check guys doing pretty fine financially and ask yourself why are they different? Why do i behave different from them. Why is my mentality about women differ. You think you're more sensible than those guys? If you think you're, why not make use of the sense to better your life and become successful?

Channel your energy in something productive and become successful then watch your life transform.

DownTime44:
Hi guys


Please i put up this post basically because of my elder brother. I sincerely want to know if i was wrong talking to him, or I could have just let him be. I wasn't myself ever since i talked to him, and i was somewhat having guilty conscience since then.


I have an elder brother, he's 38 years old and also the first son. I am the fourth child in the family of five. The second child is a female and she's married. We lost our third child, that's my immediate elder brother some years back, while i have a younger brother. I came from a humble background. Lost my dad while i was in JS 3, even before his death we had been hustling on a daily basis for survival, and we live happily as one big family. My mother, siblings and i do hawk daily before we could eat. All thanks to public school in Lagos, my family wouldn't have had the opportunity to basic education. We hawk daily after school, weekdays and weekend. My family was bred and brought up in Ajegunle.


Few years after the demise of my father, we struggled to pay house rent. We had to leave Ajegunle to a local and developing area. I didn't allow my family conditions deter or weigh me down. Never! I believe I'd make it in life legitimately without venturing into crime, fraud, theft etc. After my secondary school, i was into all sorts of labour work. I worked in factory, building site, cleared bushes, laundry man , just to save up and further my education. I worked for 6 years after my secondary school, bought a bike from the little savings i had and proceed to school through jamb. I gave the bike to someone who often deliver #6,000 weekly for the upkeep of my family. I was in year 2 when i let go of the bike, it was on a higher purchase and the agreement we have had elapsed. I hustled my way through school and graduated. I'm done with service last year but couldn't land a job, probably due to my age. I'd be 29 this year and most graduate trainee often request for age below 28. Although, i had a 2.1. I'm only managing in a pure water factory to make ends meet, keep soul and body together and support my family


I sat my elder brother down and talked to him. He has been hustling like every other person in the family but i don't understand what's happening. He didn't futher his education nor learn a handwork. He's 38 but still live under his parents roof. He has been doing conductor work for many years. The family had talked to him several times to look for something else. It's fine you are hustling as a man for survival but doing conductor for many years without thinking of what else to do is wrong. A family friend of ours who later got to know what he does for a living had advice him also.


The bus he was following, the driver had misunderstanding with the owner and he collected his bus back. My elder brother had been idle for months, doing nothing. He claimed he has gone virtually everywhere in search of bus he could be working with but couldn't get any. This is a family that we all had to bring something no matter how little to survive. I was talking to him as a younger brother. I asked him why didn't he heed to people's advice when they were advising him then to stop the conductor work and look for something to learn, if perhaps he doesn't want to further his education? He doesn't believe in Nigeria education, because he could count graduates without job or those with petty job. My elder brother wear almost rag as clothes. I had to give him some of my little wears I'm managing. He has just one slippers. We don't wear same size of shoe or sandals, we could have been sharing that also. He sold his phone to feed sometime ago and had been without phone. I was initially saving to get my mum a small phone but i had to give him the phone instead.


He was crying when i was talking to him. I understand the situation of things in the country, which i myself is going through. I was just trying to know what other things he could come up with. I am not happy seeing him sitting idle doing nothing. The fact that he's the first son and found himself in this condition at that age breaks my heart daily. My mum had been so worried about his condition. I had to convince her that things will be better. I don't want her to develop high Blood Pressure that could lead to her untimely death.


Please guys was i wrong talking to my elder brother?

spot on bro

You're not wrong in anyway. He should think of what he can do with his life. He can't continue living like that. I feel for him and your family. It is well. God will come through

NastiLord:
Else i go just comot water for fridge drink

better o

Please don't be a violence man

SpatialKing:
Received... I will contact you

Thank you sir.

SpatialKing:
You have a good CGPA

Please send me a mail

Thank you sir. I've sent you a mail.

TheSuperX:
It's better I don't have a son than having a son that's a pussy ass Neega like you, a son that's a coward that can't stand or fight for himself, your type are the one that women use for punching bag, you should start growing a vagina and cut off your dick because you aren't fit to be a man 😂
so for instance if a woman beat you up you will just stay there and be looking like a fool? It seems like it's a single mom that raised you hence why you are slow.

i know you're a small boy in his teens. I wouldn't blame you completely for being chest beating all over the space.

Women respect real men who protect and provide for them. In every 100 reported case of domestic violence in Nigeria, 98% are against women. How many women can physically stand with a man? How many women have you seen beating men compare to men?

You're a small boy in his teens, i understand. Go and make money and stop seeing women as a competitor. Women should be look after and cared for. God ordered we men to love women unconditionally while women should respect men. Love is greater than every commandments of God. A family or household where love exist, such family is bound to be peaceful

I know it hurts to be broke man in his teens. But that shouldn't break you down completely. You can still be a responsible man worthy of emolition

TheSuperX:
When you stop being a coward, weakling and a fool, your life will start getting better, but for now I pray you start acting like a real man. don't worry I will pray for you. 😁😁

real men are financially stable. Real men protect women. Real men provide for their families. Real men don't raise their hands on women.

Not a little boy in his teen age sprouting gliberdash on seun platform, instead of reading his book to become a responsible man

In this age and time?

God!!!

TheSuperX:
I might be your father's age mate you might not know, you can now run along, coward! 😎

Teenager blood talking. I understand you though. You'd obviously outgrown it later

My only hope is for you not to outgrown it in jail

Fazeman25:
So, not accepting to be beaten up by a woman & beating her up in self defence is now what is drawing Africa backwards?
Your ancestors must be really disappointed in you 😒

men had been so irresponsible for decades beating women. African men in particular though. If you mistakenly see a woman beat up a man, you'd be hyperventilating. What would you now say concerning domestic violence an average African women go through in marriage?

In every 100 domestic violence reported in Nigeria, 98% if not more are against women. What has been your contribution towards that to end it?

Your hypocrisy sink

TheSuperX:
You think everyone is as broke and wretched as you are? a weakling and coward? lol.
Just to let me you know, I made my first millions in my early 20's, I got black belt in Taekwondo in my early 20's too, tell me what have you ever achieved in your life?
From your posts I can easily deduce that you are a simp and a weakling and you are the types that women take for granted, wise up boy and stand for yourself.

You are a little boy in his teens. When you grow up you will understand.

Rayban25:
Havent you realized by now that the person you're quoting is most likely in his early teens?

I thought as much. He's all over the space sprewing rubbish.

Fazeman25:
That will be one of the worst humiliation to happen to a man.
It will be better to be beaten by a small boy than to be beaten by a woman

but it is better and good for a man to beat a woman?

African man! No wonder we're still backwards in almost everything compare to others

TheSuperX:
You are nothing but a weakling, a total disgrace to alpha men out there. Mess with me and I would put you in your fvcking place, no time. 😎

Go and make money and stop reasoning like a poor man that you are. Financially stable guys don't see women as their competitors.


Go and make money and watch your mentality change.

TheSuperX:
I fight men like me too if they mess with me, the thing is that I won't touching you but if you mistakingly hit me, you will feel my wrath that day. that's how I am.

Then you go die for jail. Keep running your mouth like tap. You go know the power of women when e clear for your eye