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luluosas: My account dey read zero zero since 2 weeks now. So, which place dem go see 5 5 naira to deduct.

Me too, e dey read about 3 naira for about how many weeks now. so why my own no dey work

i was already in a relationship when i came across this fair fine babe (actually a nairalander), i was standing under the trees near the road to the bank, our eyes met and the attraction was felt, i smiled at her and she smiled back and was coming towards me somewhat as if she knew me even though i knew she didm't, even the guy that was trying to do some roadside quick chyking left, thinking she was the one i was standing there waiting for (from the way she was looking at me) and the guy left, i went to talk to her and even the way she talks and uses her words made me just like her the more, i didn't collect her number (cos i already had it ) and she left.
when she left, i was like if i wasn't dating, God knows that i would have pursued this girl till i made her mine, but seeing as i am already with a good girl and i don't do them cheating things, i couldn't do anything. i told my friend about it and he said that i have not started, that i would used that phrase many more times in the coming months and true to his word, i met another fair fine babe less than two months later, but in this case my babe was there .

So Guys and Babes, how many times have you seen that babe or guy that caught your attention so much, that even if it's for a split second that, it flashed through you mind "if i were not dating, it would have been you". what circumstances did you meet the person? and what about the person made you think like that? and for those that do not have that much self control or did not have that much, how far did you go along the path before you decided to stop yourself and face your relationship

chikk: I'm not here to argue or compete with you. I still maintain that if as a man, the ONLY reason you think men cheat is for variety(for married men) and backup for singles, then I have nothing to say to you.

You did not read my post well, i never partitioned the reasons i gave for either married men or single men, you were the one trying to make me do that, i just gave for guys in general. somethings i believe you just use some expressions because you think it sounds smart to use them "I still maintain......... then i have nothing to say to you", if you had nothing to say, why did you say anything at all.

chikk: I would have agreed with your post 100% if not for the generalisation. Please, how can you generalise all women based on a couple of experiences you had in the past? Have you sampled ALL women? You sound a lot like wackyJ1, except for the fact that you believe in one primary reason why men cheat(not that there aren't more) and that adds to another reason why men cheat - pride and ego(that is; 'because they believe the tradition permits them to') please, someone tell that to Mr WackyJ the NL oldie. I'm a newbie so I can't!

@ 1st bolded, i don't know which course you studied in the university but if you think that what we know about the thing in this world and about humans were gotten from sampling every single one of a particular type of thing or every human from the 6 billion that exist in this planet then you don't really know much of anything, the knowledge of this world is built on generalisation that is why we have the concepts of majority and minority.
@ Second bolded part, are you trying to imply that the reason i mentioned is not one of the reasons that men cheat? if so then you are as equally myopic as you imply that i am. after the men see the variety, they go for it because of it's availability, even you women encourage men's belief in that tradition because many girls will still date a guy or have romantic affiliations with him even after they know that he is dating someone

chikk: Ehen!!!! See?? Now you're talking!!! I don't doubt that some women can be stu*pid sometimes by expecting their men to cheat, neither do I doubt you that most times, women are to be blamed for their men's infidelity. And that's why I opened the thread: www.nairaland.com/1260626/how-stop-man-cheating

Check out Posh diva's first comment on this your thread

mondi_cheeks: I have to forgive...retaliation is for my own satisfaction

How about just breaking up and moving on

luluosas: My own dey show press 1 since last year. They gave me 70MB yesterday and 35MB today, all with zero naira on my account.

That means that they did not deduct their normal 5 naira charge for the daily 5 mb abi?

didn't work for me

chikk: Your post wreaks of some sort of hatred on women. I wonder why. So you consult your male friends to find out why women cheat but you don't care to find out from women, why men cheat? You CONCLUDE that 'they just jump to assume that guys are dogs and liars'? And you think you're being a fair?

Hmmmm. I wonder what kind of article you're writing o. For your information oga, what your male friends told you are what they THINK is the reason why women cheat. In other words, just as you conclude that women 'assume', you and your friends also Assume.

The best way to find out of people's behaviour is to ask those people directly. You can't ask Mr A to tell you why Mr B behaves the way he does. Mr A can only tell you what he THINKS not what IS. Only Mr B knows why.

It is very unjust and unfair of you and your friends, to conclude on why both sexes cheat! So the opinion of women doesn't matter here? Hmmmm. Na wa o

And you, as a man, think that the ONLY reason why married men cheat is for variety? Ha!!!!!!!!!! Oga you surprise me o, as a man and writer that you claim to be, you surprise me, I swear! Because I, as a woman, can give you 10 different reasons why men cheat, but you come up with only one? And you calim to know why women cheat? You definitely have something against women!

I don't hate women just the way they act sometimes.
Look at this babe oh. When did you enter romance section or Have you actually been talking to women at all? Let me tell you something i talk to girls and women many, but when it comes to that topic they just jump to start saying that men are liars and cheats, that is all they ever do, romance section has calmed down, i remember when it was always women coming to talk about how the men are this and that, the feminist wars i called it. Me i had no problem with it then because yes men cheat most times and that doesn't concern me because i won't ever cheat but what became my motivation is that when you hear women talk about how men are this and that they sound so righteous like they can hardly do it, but i soon began to discover that was not the case, that even the girls cheat as much as men but the guys rarely complain (they're still benefiting abi?)
also you see yourself, you just sit down there and think we just assume? So you think i just sat down and started writing based on Assumption? So anything written about trying to understand and break down how another individual thinks or group of individual think is just assumption? I bet you thought it was smart using that word. Congrats
I would like to see those 100 reasons and i would still reclassify them under two..
You sound smart but i've learned long ago that what a woman says from her mouth and the one she does is different. If women did , the way they talked when they are castigating, i wouldn't mind the castigation,call us men whatever you want just don't do what we do...

OCTAVO: Na today o my brother.
Me just dey press the thing go ni whether dem reply or dem no reply.
I've been receiving abundant rain of MB.

Lol... Even with the press one abi?

chikk: Its so unfortunate that from your post, you limited 'relationship' to just dating. You forget that married people are on this section of the forum and, they may read your posts.

What you're saying is that, to men, cheating on their women is JUST A BACKUP? In the case of a married man, what's the backup for?

You're writing an article on 'why women cheat' and you take contributions from guys around you? Do I take it that your conclusion that men cheat for just two reasons, was brought about by the contributions given to you by the women around you?

Seriously, I'd like to read this article!

yes the married men. Well i'd like to believe that those men went through the long process of dating in order to know who their wives were before tying the knot. And i didn't really consider the marriage angle, there really should not be cheat from anyone once marriage sets in.
For the married men, they don't need backup just the first reason given: variety

nah from the guys as well, and also from my own personal feelings (i would never cheat but whenever i get temptations i sit down to analyse why). Do women really know why guys cheat? Don't they just jump to assume that guys are dogs and liars?.. Guy's reasons are just short and boring because they usually cheat with their eyes wide open, they walked into it..
But for the ladies, there are so many reasons, some so ridiculous as i said that you wonder whether the female specie has any sense at all, sometimes they don't know they're going down that path until they find themselves there. One reason eg is self delusion, they see the sign but choose to ignore that the sign is a sign.

OCTAVO: I'm clocking 1gigabyte

na wa oh. NO be just today you start?

luluosas: Yes, at least I got 70MB today with zero naira.

*in Gandalf's voice* Our time has come again Brother

chikk: I have interest in these statements. But do you mind throwing more light on them please?

Well, i won't go into much here, i am writing an article on why women cheat and it is also 8 microsoft pages long, with contributions from some guys around me who have seen many cases it will soon be complete.
but as for the reasons why men cheat, first reason is that "Variety is the spice of life, they may not necessarily feel anything for the girl but they just want to taste something different. as for the other reason, they just want to have backup in case their current babe goes astray because guys are becoming increasingly aware of the tendency of ladies to cheat these days (after all the stress they go through in the relationship, they have to live with the fact that it may all be for nothing later).

That's the reason why men cheating and women cheating should never be equated, so far as i know guys cheat for just two straight forward reasons.
But for ladies they are so varied and most times ridiculous.

luluosas: I did the multiply ish yesterday with zero naira on my account but this morning, I have received 12 G-BAM messages of 5MB each, though I am yet to check my data balance.
So, did you get anything on your side? However, I will do more multiply ish now before I will border myself with checking the data balance. Let the game begins.....

Do you mean to tell me that the multiplier ish is working again?

Mz naira have you ever cheated on your boyfriend in all the 6 years of your dating...
By cheating, kissing another guy on the lips, flirting with a guy heavily via text is also included.

Can i See this Phone in onitsha?

See guys here giving fake fake answers...
Forgive Cheating? Never... Why would you? You two had an agreement, she broke it, cheating does not just start from the sex part, it starts when the girl starts doing things she should only have done with you with another guy, from the small things like hanging out extra with him, exchanging texts with him and saying sweet things to him and then denying your existence...

For those of you guys saying you will forgive the girl. After you do come and talk to me, after i finish talking to you, you'll pick up the phone right there and then and break up with the girl...

will i see this phone in Onitsha?

WHERE CAN I SEE THIS PHONE IN BENIN?

beatbug: lolz, funny dude.

so it is dual sim?

beatbug: it is!

talk true!!

this phone dey my eye oh.... Let everyone ensure there is no problem with it oh.... Too bad it is not dual sim

mr.drizzy:
yes nah..how else can u get that huge data on mtn bis that is capped..nawao

Have you tried it ?

aybomb: at first bis and now free of charge

is it with the 2hours stuff?

Francheezy: naw dere r so many tins 2 fal bck on....wen mtn blocks 2HRS

you subscribed to BIS First abi?

So why shouldn't i call her cheap, was it not just 6 months of online dating it took?

Beware the guy, relationships are not always easy to keep a secret someone is bound to notice and then does the guy expect you to lie? Also it gives the guy an avenue to cheat if he wants to. Get some background info on him and find out whether he is truly single or whether he does not have another private relationship somewhere

uniqueren: whatever happened to tell the *two* girls the truth

Because girls themselves would not do that,

Bro i see you hurting one of those girls if you are not careful but i am on the side of your current girlfriend because she is the one in there fair and square and she is the one that does not know anything about what is going on.
Normally if you start having trust issues with a girl something is likely going on, and so you cannot know whether your ex is telling the truth or not. you yourself have made a very big mistake and the problem is the you are not the one that is going to suffer or enjoy from your choice, it is your current beau. why didn't you break up properly with you ex and define the terms well, now you feel like you're owing her mother something.how can you go and date someone else when you know that in the mind of your ex you were still dating, did you not lead her on. the only thing you can do now is very clear, you have to call your ex and talk to her, say evrything you should have said and after that you talk to her mother and declare your stand but explain things also in a gentle manner for her to understand the whole story, hopefully she will see reason with you

Still haven't found that out yet, i've tried the code again but i haven't gotten any texts to confirm the multiplication so that is what i am waiting for