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KreativGenius:
But is this fair? To everyone is this fair? Is this not demeaning? My friend told me he got banned and i can't even compose comments well on his behalf. I think he will comment less on the forum from now. This is unfair treatment

thats the reality of life my man.Later they will say ladies aint treat with respect and need bla bla,when even attitude thats exhibited here by male folk is disgusting.Some go along way ridiculing an opinion iron out by a man or a reaction to their unrealistic visionary bae here,just to get pm or digit from the girls

Just shove it off,they know the right thing but they decide to follow the wrong path.Just forget about nairaland issues,thats why i hardly comment atimes.If not becos that am off duty today, i wudint have time for sharing those ideas,but all the best we learn everyday.

iamJ:
girls will say they are smarter guys will say the same tin

Who cares biko? Argument here wouldnt make a mechanic in owerri a doctor in spain

you are bad guy.Thou,so on point

Jupxter:
Tushe, Tushe @ they do more harm than good to the societal institutions.

i was radical back then,but at the peak of my career,i realize most of those book written by those "scholars" whose thoughts influenced my radicalism cannot hold water in the scheme of things,rather they are a threat and have ulterior motive beneath it,this make me move to a more liberalist and partly conservative.

naija2:
yes, I am not saying it is just one gender that is affected by it.feminist say They fight for both sex. All I am saying is they should fight for respect. Be it for male or for females

i think,you have expantiate more on your thoughts,well said.But feminism is an evil thought rooted from the threat to the family institution and society.I hope you aint nurturing this dogma.

Jupxter:
Not just for men, these ideas shape the thought, attitude, behaviors of this female making them "unfit" for the stability that marriage demands. Hence, a threat to the institution in the long run. I am yet to see high society ladies make such agitations, daughters of Oyedepo, Adeboye and co should be leading this struggle if it's as legit as they claim

yea my man.My usage of "man" connotes both "male and female".When you read some of their scholarly work you just realize that they do more harm than good to the societal institutions.

naija2:
every lady at one point in life has been disrespected. Even those you feel are in “higher” category than I am, just because I decided to put out my opinion.

now i think we are on the same page now."Disrespect" is not a word associated to a particular gender,"its a coin of two side".At a point in man's life you experience it, irrespective of ur gender,color,race or strata in society,its just a social phenomenal which is part of social life.I hope u catch my drift.

Jupxter:
It's really insatiety and they create an illusive existence for themselves that doesn't exist, that's why they keep screening and screening and never find men to stay and stick with. Insatiety, a mentally ill state, an elusive existence brought about by faulty and flawed theorems strung together to fulfill their fantasies.

thats why theorem,are not meant for "some" to go through it, cos those ideas may shape the thought,attitude,behaviour of man due to those ideas which are "utopian" and dificult to achieve in reality but use as a measuring rod to view reallity.Back i was a brain child of "marx",but as time goes on must of his ideas where discarded and wither away in my psyche due to its irrelevant in the sphere,thou not all

Jupxter:
Let's ask them here too, to itemize what they want.

i believed many of them cant list it.Just like one of my scholar "said man is insatiable"

naija2:
Yes, respect is earned but we still live in a society where most male still feel a woman’s talk is trash.

then i presume it depends on the part of the world you are,friends you associate with and the level of their reasoning,if not women of moredan age enjoy virtually all, if not morethan wat the male folks bargan in society in recent time.

Jupxter:
If care isn't taken these ladies will demand more than this.

brother,i dont really know what they want.You cant sit in your room add no any "value" to ur self,family and society at large and expect to see things fall in ur way.Go out and see how some ladies who understand the "concept of life"rubbing feathers with "men" and stil understanding the "concept of role and specialization" not those whinning on social media that we have been deprived this or that,when in reality reverse is the case.

Madam,respect as u suggest is "earn" not giving as u thought.Have seen men who "idolize" and "respect" their spouse because she worth it,i have work with a lady which i respect and dignify well.I always believe that ur personality and self achievement earn you what you desire from others, be it respect or dignity.What did guys really want.Nobody will accord u with respect becos u believe u are a "lady" when u dont worth it,you have to earn it and watch how people accord you with so much respect you desire.

IAMSASHY:
create her ursef

too much specs...Ur signature thou...

Jupxter:
It's sickening. I'm also going to reduce my comments. We could be up against kids. No need taking these folks serious

well said my man.

Jupxter:
It's the gender war bro. The warfare that continues to pull us apart.

i hardly comment,but what bit my imagination was a comment made by a female.Many of them think the world revolves around them,as such you can "reduce" some people to a lower part of the society due to their temporary position in the strata of life.In reality many of them are the opposite of what they claim here.

Saying some "men" dosint need an "erection" due to their "temporary state" of not financial bouyant in their "present form",which the status can change within the twinkle of an eye if he has prospect,hardworking and a goal oriented individual is an irrational and illogical statement made by an unscruplous element.Should we now say the "ugly"and "unattractive" female folks are not deserving to be love by a man or get married because of their looks or flaws.We are all humans and no one has it all,what u lack is abundance to another.

Jupxter:
I'll speak the truth even when i won't benefit from it, all all times will i stand for the truth

a man should stand for the truth path,irrespective of hard it maybe.

Jupxter:
I've seen so many ladies tore down their relationships and marriage, i've seen the pain they struggle with. I've seen some die untimely, i've seen ladies become numb, and emotionally depressed caused by these dogmas, these unfounded theology, and i speak for them, not for any form of personal gratification.

yes its avoidable only if they could listen and do the needful,we are all interconected one way or the other.You have done well man

Jupxter:
Gracias. It was the " fears " that rained the energy, fear broughts about by feminism, so i comment to edify, not to jaw-bone my sisters. I hope they listen. It's needless to have this side by side, when a blissful, calm and healthy relationship makes provision for healthy needs and desires of the female folk.

i wish those that believe in this ideology "retrace their step back" and enjoy the love and the true essence of man in coexistance where all are important in his or her role and responsibily .No need for this unhealthy competition within sexes.You are on point.

You have really mention my "fear"which is the proliferation of these idears in our society,it affect and reshape the mental realm of the "younger female folks" which on long those not augur well for them.Thou,some may be lucky,while some not.I have encountered few of them when i was in school,u found out many of them are just doing it our of sheer ignorance or due to one experienced or the other which reduce them to this stage.Well said,i respect ur views and ideas,nice sharing ur time with me.Gracias

@jupxter,i think u got me wrong,we are on the same page i was just buttresing on ur usage of "bossy"which i said was exhibited by the "liberal feminist" when they are in a relationship or other works of life.Why, i said the radical ones hate men in totality and have nothing to do with them.I hope u catch my drift now sir.

@Jupxter,thats why i say its evil,cos any idea or dogma that threating the "values of family and make it looks like obsolete or unfunctional" is faulty and uncalled for .Family has play a pivotal role in replacing the dead ones and rearing the new ones in a value laden way acording to the prescription of that society.Most feminist believe you can be a single mother,insemnation,lesbianism,love machine,drugs and all sort of self satisfaction without the coexistance of man,while they forget the psychological,emotional and social effect on the part of the "child".The liberal ones agree, to be with a man but in a 'bossy' way just as u mentioned earlier on.You can be "boss and be respect" when you earned it,not when you think you are a lady and deserves special treatment or playing victim card without anything in ur upper chamber.Two sailors cant run a ship,if u wanna be a boss in a relationshp,work,school,and other facet of life, prove it.My take

@jupxter.your last post just did a justice to this concept.I did a "research" on "divorce" and i was dumbfounded at the rate in which divorce/failed marriage has sky rocket in our society in mordern age.many of the "predisposing factors" that leads to it, are among the so much principles of the so called feminism.However,it can bring about a break than of morality,emotional,psychological,unsympathetic offspring and lack/less conscience in the part of the child and at large a threat to the society.Stratification has make individuals in society to all have "role and responsibilities" in which we all fit in regardles of the strata or sex u are.

Jupxter:
As a student of history, i know how feminism started in 1950s,the purpose, how it was formed, how bills were passed on the ground of the house in US, and how it reached other parts of the world. Till date, i'm yet to see any feminist that knows the root of feminism intimately.

They come here with some form of knowledge without detailed understanding about how it got started. Sadly, it's we males that dig deepinto its origins and have this understandingand even clamor for some of the benefits these waliers cry for.

Funny enough, ask them what's it about, what are you agitating for, and tey'll say, go and read. They can't intellectually debate their stance without quoting third parties, so petty !

You are so on point.When the "women's liberation movement" emerged;they fought for civil rights i.e equality for all adult regardles of sex.Thou,they won at britain and later in america.But it was more of papaper sign,not achievable in reality.feminism is evil

Jupxter:
Allow me re-brand it. I stand with you 100% as you've expressed the thoughts of so many male-folk here



Many people who really practice the tenets of "feminism"hardly have a successful "relationship" or "marital life" which manifest into divorce or single family.



To me, all individual has a ROLE to play which should not be contradict in order to avoid "role conflict".



If you make use of ur potentials be it a man or female u will achieve greater height and earn urself respect and authority even among the male-folks.



Feminism breeds egoistic,atheism,lesbianism and its anti humanism which was the basis of those who propagate it.

you are granted sir,many of these females really dont know the root of "feminism" they just jump unto the concept without really do their reseach.Any of them can counter me and am available to educate them on the "ulterior motive" of the movement how it emerge in Europe and other part.

War of the gender...But,truly some of this idea is unattainable in reality.Many people who really practice the tenets of "feminism"hardly have a succesful "relationship" or "marital life" which manifest into divorce or single family.To me, all individual has a ROLE to play which should not be contradict inorder to avoid "role conflict".If you make use of ur potentials be it a man or female u wil achieve greater height and earn urself respect and authority even among the malefolks.Feminism breeds egoistic,atheism,lesbianism and its anti humanism which was the basis of those who propagate it.

trustyshoess:
@bolded, how?
interesting perspective though

we can all clamour for "liberal feminism",but,the truth is that the society has been stratified and many factor has make it dificult.Feminist or not, the society has absorb the reality that 'women' holds a pivotal role in the modern society,while men also have their own functional role which cannot be underestimated.In mordan days,u can achieve ur goals in as much you have got the guts and resilience irrespective of your gender.But,emotion,happines,self fulfilment is stil deeply rooted from interaction and association with different gender be it a man or a woman,its not a "one side thing".Only if u seize to be more human.Ideology atimes is really difrent from reality,its just a way to measure the proximity of reality in order to serve as a measuring rod.

@trustyshoes,ur idea of "feminism" isint bad,but your logical reason has some "radical inclination" in it which is my fear.Marx,was the one who champion a "classles or egalitarian" society which we all know that it was "utopian".A lady mention nature in her point,but i will buttres my point from the angle of "social".Man is a product of society which makes it dificult to cutoff completely from it.There are "social facts" which are "internalize" into the subconscious of man and one way or the other it reflects in our thinking,perception,attitude and behaviour.Having said that,self love only without complementing with humanity only breeds an "egoistic personality" and that those not fulfill the true essence of man.Read more on "functionalism".The true fulfillment of man those not only stems from innate,but also from your interaction with other elements of the social world.

@op,the devil you know,is better than the angels you dont know.You are a real ote/mugu.Mugu must fall,take heart.

@op,i can relate to this.Thou,i see it has coincidence much time.I dont really have firm conviction that it has spiritual undertune

princessayesha:
I do not have the strength to type so I will go staight to the point....why are we ladies suddenly desperate for marriage and why do guys take advantage of that? And guys...how would you feel if another man does same to your sister?
honest answers only

truly been desperate connotes that she will hide alot of flaws which will mar the relationship when the guy find out.Just be yourself,and any guy who find you worthy enough will love you as you are, irrespective of the age/flaws.Desperados atimes are pretenders and lieyers.My thought thou.