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lawman88:
I really need good advises from you guys. I got a new job this month and the salary is 87, 540.00. I was happy with the job until yesterday. I took over from a man who resigned from the job. When I was checking the cabinets in the office yesterday, I came across the appointment letter of the guy who resigned. His basic salary was N147, 600.00. I saw all his credentials. He has no experience before and he only had degree while I have master degree. I have a lot of qualifications and experiences he did not have.

I just got depressed and feel like i'm cheated and being used. I don't have the zeal to work again. The manager was happy when we negotiated the salary, I don't really know what was making him happy until now I realized. I feel like telling him to upgrade my salary or I resign, but the problem now is that I don't have alternative now.

if you have more experience than he does, you wouldn't take over a job he resigned from, your bargaining power shows the level of your exposure and experience, it also shows you have not earn what you are earning or about to earn in your present employment. better take the offer and do your job judiciosly they might consider you for pay rise

McCoy662:
Good morning Nlanders, I have this very issue bothering me. I have been in a relationship with this girl for about 3years now. I love her so much, and she loved me until of recent when she told me that she's no longer interested in the relationship. She told me the stern truth that she was seeing someone else.
It's not like I don't take care of her, because I have given her almost everything she requested from me. I bought 90% of her clothes myself as she can't even buy for herself if I give her the money. I pay her bills too.
Just about 2 months ago, the said guy called me and told me that his gf ( my gf) said I'm her ex, and they are now together. This guy is not that rich, he's just on average income scale, he's not super handsome and the worst is that, this girl calls and comes to my house for sex anytime she feels like. But that's all, we are not friends like before, we don't go out together, she don't even oblige my requests anytime I ask her for anything. She don't even visit on a regular except for sex
Right now, I'm fed up; I'm tired of being in this love triangle, though I love her so much.
My guys advised me to beat her up and warn her never to come close to my house again, but I just can't. Though I feel used as a sex object, but I just can't say no to this girl's request.

I don't just know, am I being stupid?? Is there a Best way to handle this in a more diplomatic way?? I really love this girl.

When next she call you for sex, just rub your pennis with robb or aboliki and do it well with her. txs me latter

Honeydenz:
transformer. As expected he became jealous and started fighting with his friend, begging me to tell him what he must have Really funny how things can go awry in relationships these days. So I have this school boyfriend whom I visited, spend the weekend, I have a female friend in the lodge too. So his bestfriend, now in Califonia, came visiting and surprisingly my boyfriend started telling him how active I was In bed, that I love the act so much

Olosho ���

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sodiqapril:
6m on a watch...let me just see ₦800k...I'll buy a direct image printer and I'll never taste poverty again in my life..this life ain't fear but we move...God let your blessings locate me today

he can afford it but dont believe all these their updates, showbiz is about lies and show off

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okay.

.take us to your house to know yu are Nathaniel Samuel, lets see your father and mother in your family house
.. take us to the house of that Grace that gave you the explosive
.. show us the place in which the event you attended the previous day took place.
... lets allow living faith church the victim of your terrorist act be part of the internal investigatiom team and you will see how this thing will be unravel

ghettokid1:
Why all the curse??
.
Jesus's last prayer:
"Forgive Them Father, For They Do Not Know What They Are Doing".
So why all the curse??

sit down there let them wipe all your generation with this kind of forgiveness

Riele:
Yawns.

To sum up your gibberish above You are broke

how much is your own net worth

Olanrefront3355:
Another chance to touch you?

I'm more of a relationship expert to stuff like this but you should find a way to leave that house, without telling your Dad nor your Sis. Your Sister will never forgive you if words broke out and it eventually ruins her marriage . Do you have to take care of the kid in that house (idk if the kid is at skul age). It's just an opinion, it's your word against his and from experience it doesn't do much than ruin the victim.

Act fast

i dont know why some men are just plain stupid, your wife is not at home and the next woman to sleep with is her sister, shame ! if konji hold you, wen don finish for this world?

osuofia2:
OSHO BABA DON MEET HIM MATCH, I THINK THE ASO ROCK CABALS ARE STRONGLY BEHIND OBASEKI, OSHO BABA HAS BEEN TOO QUITE OF LATE WHICH IS UNLIKE HIM THAT TALK BEFORE THINKING LIKE PARROT, MEAN WHILE WHERE IS CLARA

by the end of APC primary election i will quote you once again on this forum. keep your fingers crossed

ossaisly:
They will seek for ur permission to access your contact which you must not decline. Once you accept it, forget it. And if you decline, they won't grant you the loan.

ookay i got it, but is it right to send messages to all contacts

Truthbites:
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My brother, I concur with u

Under Nigerian laws, a limited liability company must have two shareholders. If either one or both are dead or extinct, the company ceases to exist.”*


Na wa..I'm not aware of this law

a limited liability company has minimum of 2 shareholders and maximum of 50. the death of one shareholders doesnt signify the end of the business and the shares of one owners can be transfered to another one unlike sole proprietorship

Qween12:
please i need an advice, my boyfriend is having sex with my roomate , i just discover it recently and we've been dating since 100level,

please i don't know what to do, i have to create a new moniker to post this,

please i feel like killing both of theom

so you want to kill both of them for sleeping with your room mate? is he married to you? do you allow him to pay your bride price before sleeping with you? abeg leave matter and face your study, if your CGPA can't flash MTN number you will be in soup. this is your father talking..

Davash222:
So, the minority AA and APGA would impeach the speaker Or you will send your village people to come and impeach the speaker?

Nigeria politics is dirty, if he doesnt decamp they will scatter the whole place and cause crisis, just for police to lock up the assembly siting security reason

agemmy113:
Pls Nairalanders, I need your advice. My boss traveled out of the country and she posted a picture on her WhatsApp status which I commented on 'what a nice pics'.

But to my surprise she is taking it up.
Pls what should I do?

Edited: I wrote Good pm ma, what a nice look.
She hasn't confronted me but she told her housegirl that I will have to explain what I mean to her when she comes back.

you passed your boundary, your communication with your boss on whatsapp should be purely official matter, expecially when she is a lady.

Cutezt:
Lalong should please get out of that place, the man is very clueless, the man has proven it times without number, he once asked the people of Jos to thank buhari, cos when he assumed office, he didn't know what to do, it was buhari that advised him, this is at a public event o, I remember also during one of the 1st October parades at polo field, Lalong has most of his followership from the hausa people living in Jos and his people in Shendam, so when Lalong arrived the parade, his fans were screaming "GOVERNOR MAI PATCHI", meaning patch patch governor, he has not started and completed any project since he became governor, even in his hometown, the only thing he does is to patch potholes on the road, and that is only when his god, buhari is coming to the state.

If you want to see real tribalism in politics, Plateau State is the ultimate location, they will rather die than allow a Berom man rule.



Yes sir, they did, and they also ruled briefly during Botmang, any person who has been on the Plateau before and after Jang will confess that Jang is the best leader Plateau has ever had after Gomwalk, the development and infrastructure he made on the Plateau is second to none, and his works are still standing tall and speaking for him till date, secondly, even a blind man could see that it was a great sin to class late GNS Pwajok (Berom also) alongside Lalong, Lalong is no match at all, it is no one's fault that the Berom people have decided to make education and advancement their priority, so when their children come to contest for positions, there will be no contest, but the Plateau people saw GNS as a Berom agenda and ganged up against the Berom on a protest vote and they all voted for Lalong, I was in Jos at that time, you could be killed if you are caught pasting a GNS poster at rukuba road and Dilimi at that time, now, all of those who voted are crying and gnashing teeths.

Should we chose a lower standard person because the best candidate is from a certain tribe? Or was it his choice to be a Berom man?

i finished from UJAY in some 11 years back. J town is a city to behold, good weather amd nice atmosphere but it is shameful no good governance or people with good track records to lead the state, terminus market was destroyed by evil people and that brought the economy of the state to her kneels, no responsible governor will leave that unatended to, Bauchi road is no go area for christians again, because it was considered as a danger zone to non muslims . when you are in jos fruits is like give away...i miss j town

Mrzfavour:
Am 22yrs n married with a kid . We dated 4 just two months n I got pregnant my family forced him 2 marry me coz of de pregnancy, we didn’t even get time to know ourselves very well. He later did introduction n paid my bride price I moved with him in his family home , we stay like stranger he doesn’t talk 2 me unless it’s necessary ,he keep late night he goes out every weekends n comes back in de morning , he has other girlfriends he has given dem my number 2 insult me , he has no love for our baby 8 months old he doesn’t play with her n he has never put her pictures on Facebook or WhatsApp but he put his nephews n nieces and his friends children there but no his own daughter, since September 2019 he traveled 2 Abuja to work 4 his elder bro in his appliances shop he doesn’t call me but he calls his moda every single day dey will talk for hours without him asking 4 me , when I call or texted he will ignore , his bro, his wife , kids n him visited us for Christmas festival he didn’t even talk to me until dey left on de 3rd of January. his family are not saying anything and dey blamed me saying I put myself in dis mess coz I was supposed to focus on my education n not following him n my family are also saying de same dt i run faster than my shadow n I wanted 2be married so I should endure , I’m just tired of dis marriage I cry everyday not knowing what to do. De reason I brought my problem here is coz he is also a member in dis platform he gives people good advices about marriage but he doesn’t practice de same in our marriage n pls help both of us with advice on how to work with our marriage. Thank you

once your baby is two years old, drop her with his mum, go back to school, be faithful to yourself because you are married already by customary law, do good for yourselve he will later come for you begging, but if you continue like this he will consider you as a liability, finally apologize to your parents for dusappointing them

dazzlingd:
That you enjoy poverty does not mean others will.

There is no nobility in poverty

stupidity dey worry you, poverty is a thing of the mind, you can never live a better live than me

people who can hardly feeds or paying children school fees are talking about paternity test that run in to thousands of naira. abeg go sidon

We4all:
Some 'runs girls' have built houses, bought choice cars and are always travelling round the world. Many girls are starting to see runs as a form of business venture and it's really paying off.

advise her she might go for a night out and never return

We4all:
Some 'runs girls' have built houses, bought choice cars and are always travelling round the world. Many girls are starting to see runs as a form of business venture and it's really paying off.

the end of it may be devastating

walex2:
why do peope like to fabricate lies on faceless forum seeking uselss attention? your own wife will store a number with sugar daddy? who is using 2go again at this again? your screeshot shows 31st of december and you are seeking advice today

Yes i believe your story, but i will advise you to bring the screenshot down from the post, the number of the so called man is appearing and trust me some people will be calling him, this might put you in trouble as he might take action against you, you should have confronted him and your wife first and hear his opinion before taking a further step(s)

Goodplace:
Pls advice... If a person is earning 130k Monthly and having the intention of getting married soonest and paying rent of 270k/ yearly can he consider that job a good one and moreover can he get married comfortably?[color=#000099][/color]

please dont get married, it is too meagre to sustain you and your wife in this harsh economy, do well by earning minimum of 500k, atleast a flat in Lekki, and a good car to make your wife comfortable.

over sabi they worry you me wey i dey manage my 40k per month with my wife and kids go advise you not to marry with 130k per month

shinarlaura:
Op I 'll blame you for everything that is happening. You choose to take side with your wife, that is why she is doing all those things. The fact that your mum is even trying to make peace and your wife don't want to have anything to do with her says it all. You really have to talk to your wife cuz is the one manipulating u.

you nailed it

E685:
My wife and I have been together for 8 years now, married for 5. I am 33 and she is 30. We now have our first child, a son who is just turning 1. He is everything to both of us. Before our son, our relationship was strong, although to be honest I’ve always been frustrated with my wife’s way of handling issues. I’m the kind of person who is very hard to get angry, I hear people out, and I talk out my issues. I listen to all sides and I think logically before emotionally. I seek therapy when I’m stuck. My wife is the opposite. She reacts with emotions first. She is very quick to be offended by anything. She will shut down and refuse to communicate until she has had time to process. I do all of the work resolving issues we have. I sometimes wonder if I ever stop taking the high road and work through our issues, if anything would ever resolve itself. So that being said, conflict management aside, we are happy. We are passionate, have similar interests, and make each other laugh.


Then there’s my mother. Where to begin. My mother, while seen as incredibly loving and generous to many people, is also a person who has been shut out of so many relationships in her life that I really just feel bad. My father and her are divorced. She has a genuine phobia of being left out - of gatherings, of relationships, of family. She is extremely smart and knows how to manipulate people into doing what she wants. She also widely seen as a “difficult” person. She is difficult in that she finds great offense to issues many people would not notice or care about. If she feels wronged, she will overwhelm the person who wronged her with incessant questions trying to make them feel her side until they cave in. In her closest relationships, her absolute need for the show of love and inclusion and validation cause the very people she is trying to reel closer in to push her away, a self fulfilling prophecy. My Mom, while I love her, is her own worst enemy.


Needless to say, these two, my wife and my mother, clash. At first they liked each other. The very first issue involved our wedding planning. My wife had a very clear plan for the guest list, and my mom asked for a number of her friends to be included on the list. My wife did not want that, got immediately upset and the situation blew out of control. My mom called me nonstop asking why my wife could be so cold, unwilling to see her side, or give in even an inch. My wife felt my Mom was making the wedding all about her, and could not believe she was called cold. She was “done”. My mom wasn’t paying for a cent of the wedding either so this was another offense. In the end I brokered a compromise, much to the dismay of both women. Each held the grudge for a long time. Occasionally my mother would do something that my wife disliked, and my wife would be pissed at me for not standing up for her. Admittedly I had never stood up to my mother, I always took the time to listen to her side and find reason behind her otherwise inflammatory ways. My wife and mother had a falling out right before the wedding, and forced me to choose sides. I struggled as I found both of them to be at fault. I chose my wife and my mother hated it. Ever since, basically anything that my mother says or does, whether good or not, offends my wife. Even the most genuine attempts by my mother to reach out to my wife are smacked down. My wife has never made any effort to release the past resentment. Over the years my mother has attempted to take the high road, only to be barely acknowledged by my wife. I have always pleaded with my wife to at least pretend to like my mother. She did a bad job of pretending because my mother would always call me and ask why my wife appears to never care or never let go of past feelings. So both saw through each other, my mother would continue to act happy and loving, while my wife never would.

Anyway now our son came into the picture. He is amazing and being the first grandchild on both sides, the grandparents want to be around him every chance they can get. My mother visit every weekend . I told my wife we have to let her do this. My wife dreaded this. I told my mother that one of the weekends, we wanted her to visit on a Sunday (staying over till Monday morning) instead of a Saturday because we had plans that Saturday. In actuality the day was a birthday celebration for my father in law , being held at her parents house. She just didn’t want my mother involved in everything so she put her foot down. My mother wouldn’t take no for an answer and pulled it out of me what we were doing that day. Well she took great offense to the fact that she was not automatically invited, and couldn’t believe how cold, unChristian, and I loving my wife and her family were.

This stuff affects me greatly so of course I share with my wife, and she exclaims she is done with my mother. No longer wants to be nice or pretend, she is tired of how much my mother always wants it all to be her way and then throws out insulting and hurtful words about my wife to get her way. I get messages from my moms friends telling me how I need to see things my moms way, they would never exclude their mother this way, and that my wife is causing all of this.


And so here we are. I saw my mother the next day, and my wife removed herself from the situation by staying out for the day. It was incredibly uncomfortable. I told my mother how mad I was at her for always being so difficult and never just letting it go. I told her my real feelings about how I wished she could stop needing such inclusion and love. Her response was that she is justified in wanting to be included in everything, and that my wife has never shown her any love or effort and it was obvious, so what could she possibly do? I told her my wife is willing to work on this, perhaps in professional therapy. But in reality my wife wants no part of that and has no desire to mend anything anymore. I think she resents me for trying to mend things.

So what do I do? I’m frustrated with my mom for being difficult, always needing more and never letting things go, and saying inflammatory things when she doesn’t get her way. But I see that all she’s ever wanted was peace and love, and my wife never gave her that. I’m frustrated with my wife for getting so easily offended at everything my mother says or does, and I wish she could make any effort to see the other side and let go of such a grudge. My mother is definitely strong willed and manipulative but I think there is love there if only we could work through it. My wife is extremely assertive and refuses to let anyone wrong her twice. Both think the other has always been dead wrong, the entirety of the blame, and will never change. My wife is ok never seeing my mother again, yet my mother says she wants to let bygones be bygones and attempt to work through it.

What should I do? Forever stuck in the middle. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

. Your love for your wife has becloud your sense of reasoning, all blame are on you, cos you are a weakling, as a man you should be in control of your home but you have failed in that regard, you failed by allowing your wife to determine the number of guests wanted at your wedding, and even your mum has to fight out this with her, that gave you out, it seems you support your wife action and even complain about your mum as been critical . the love of a wife is different from the love of mother. if you die today your wife would remarry but can your mum give birth to you again,NO

iamballo:
Hello fellow nairalanders, I'm a regular here even a lot of u guys kws my story here long b4 I got married in 2017. The issue now is that my marriage is on d line bcus of my wife cunning act lately, there is dis man I hv been suspecting that my wife is having affair with but b4 now I don't hv any tangible evidence abt dem dating or whatever & anytime I raised d issue she always talk her way out of it which I always believe.
Two days ago I borrowed my wife phone to send some msgs to my clients & few msgs was sent back to me thru her phone so as I was going Tru d inbox to check d msgs d tin I saw almost makes me fainted. A conversation between her & d man. I hv attached a screenshot of their conversation below.
please what's d best way for me to handle this situation because I'm down & devastated at d moment.
please I will really appreciate if this can get to the front page for wider views.

why do peope like to fabricate lies on faceless forum seeking uselss attention? your own wife will store a number with sugar daddy? who is using 2go again at this again? your screeshot shows 31st of december and you are seeking advice today

SoNature:
Nobody takes pride in suffering, son!

then husstle rather than subjecting pussy to a dead rod

Wearabletech:
Is it really true having sex with many men expands a woman's vagina ?

Casting my mind back to my adolescent years, without a second thought I agreed with my mom who does not mince words while expressing her fears about her sons bringing home an unchaste or loose woman for a wife.

As a woman, to be called ‘’loose’’ back then could mean you are sexually promiscuous, an adulteress or simply a prostitute. Therefore the construct of a ‘’loose vagina’’ was unfairly associated with deviant sexual behaviours in women. It was believed that, the vagina loses its elasticity when stretched too much during sex with multiple sexual partners.

Even though, a married woman having sex regularly with a satyromaniac husband with an obsessive, abnormal, uncontrollable, and insatiable sexual desire may not be viewed in the same light.

Today, there is a noticeable gap in time space continuum, yet not much has changed about the perception of a loose vagina myth. Nevertheless, even if one has an IQ of a door, It’s clear that the construct of a loose vagina is just another psychosexual fairy story crafted to restrain female sexuality and shame sexual behaviours that is deemed culturally inappropriate. Not merely the fact that multiple sexual partners cause the vagina to lose its elasticity.

How could it be? First off, female sexuality is still a mystery till date. Often, women in their sexual prime would begin to feel inadequate especially after a couple of vaginal child births.

Time and again, you’ll hear stories of how cynical husbands and insecure boyfriends complain or wrongly accuse their spouses of infidelity when they feel their woman is becoming loose down there.

Get more..

no vagina will remain thesame after my bleepinf. no lady has ever leave me after tasting my jolly

ghettokid1:
Supreme Court 4 senatorial election?

yes it will go to the supreme court since it was PRE ELECTION matters. but election tribunal for National Assembly ends in court of appeal.

SoNature:
Coming from a girl, I am shocked!

How old are you?

Listen, some ladies prefer older men to young guys because they are way more mature and understand their idiosyncrasies better. More importantly, they don't have plenty of drama like the young guys.

Yes, I have met many girls who prefer to marry older men to the young guys because of the reasons above

shut up noting like maturity, why not marrying matured hungry looking old man. noting justify knacking grey hair prick.

young lady knacking grey hair prick because of money. spits*k

franchasng:
Pls don't let them deceive you.

Listen to me.

Hope Uzodimma forged result with fake INEC result sheet and INEC Returning Officer and Collation Officer stroke it out as fake because other party agents did not even sign the result sheets and only APC and one other party had results on the results sheets out of over 5 candidates, how come

At the election tribunal, this incident was brought up, Tribunal called on INEC to testify and INEC testified that the result sheets were forged and not issued by them INEC, so tribunal nullified Hope Uzodimma's claim.


It went to Appeal Court, the same case was brought up, INEC again testifies the result sheets were forged and the Appeal Court Judge still went further that the result should be called out, and only APC and one other party's result were legible, the person calling the result said he couldn't see other party candidate's results clearly, so he was asked to call out Hopes results and total number of Hope's acclaimed vote exceeded total number of accredited voters and was still not enough to counter Ihedioha's total votes.


So don't let them fool you, this is pure coup by Buhari/APC led government.

If the Supreme court panel were acting purely on legal terms, why didn't they order the results to be made public so the world can see the so called result and see

Its brazen daylight robbery!!

okay i agreed with your analysis but the number of total votes declared by INEC was lower than the total accredited votes, and secondly are you saying the former governor did not rig in Mbaise zone of the state considering the nunber of local govt won by him out of all the local govt, his returned votes in 5 local local govt were more than total votes in other 15 local govt . just like yaya bello that won okene with more than 30000 votes