₦airaland Forum

Truthbites:
By snatching ballot boxes? With guns? He will fail this time. Shuiabu is a tough guy. He will snatch ballots boxes too. Edo is not Lagos

So PDP snatched the box from a sitting Governor and incumbent president, Obaseki has never won any election even during his own election in 2016 he lost hos pooling booth and Local govt

walex2:
i will rather quit politics than allowing IPOB to support me, once you are supported by IPOB your political carrer is dead, SARAKI, AMBODE, AMOSUN, DINO, TAMBUWAL, OBASEKI and etal

So Diri won the election? so who was dragging with Wike and Okowa? abeg sit down if IPOB didnt support Saraki who did?

tatatar:
Ipobs have added another unfortunate one to their list

i will rather quit politics than allowing IPOB to support me, once you are supported by IPOB your political carrer is dead, SARAKI, AMBODE, AMOSUN, DINO, TAMBUWAL, OBASEKI and etal

Chikpat:
Obaseki will win Oshomhole even in APGA party

Thesame Obaseki that lost his pooling booth, Ward, Local Govt, and Senatorial district at the last general election even as a seating Governor, While Osho won 95 percent of election in entire edo north. Be deceiving yourself

Senudi96:
His reason can be summed as half truth, because the main election can also spread the virus and also gathering delegates from all LGA in one place can also spread the virus. I don't have any political affiliation, but I think Obaseki is just doing what a typical political in his shoes will do. Gud for him.

correct man, the best submission so far

Biofil84:
I said it this Obaseki guy is a technocrat can u imagine the weapon he is using to counter osho direct primary method, a very valid weapon.

Osho should rest and allow this guy finish the remaining 4 years, he was also given same chance so he shouldn't deprive others of thier own privilege.

Hnmmm if this guy enta for his 2nd term in office eeeeeeh osho will need to feel a form before entering Edo state and write an exam before entering his village.

but if the main election were to be held today, people will still queue to cast their vote? so why apprehensive about direct primary using covid. 19 excuse

AfroKnight:
You cannot tell me that you didn’t notice this rigid behaviour during courtship.

Better discuss with her to find a solution.

Also, hustle to get enough money. You’re a man. Even their so called Feminism will not make a naija woman spend her own money on a man. Better take care of yourself.

As for the sex, you must let her know in clear terms that she cannot use sex (Withholding it vindictively) as a weapon to punish you. Any woman who does that deserves to be cheated on.

Honestly i dont understand how some men are so dumb by coming to Nairaland to report a case like this, maybe am too rigid or because of my age or financal status... i mean a woman i married legally with bride price fully paid, catered for, provide food and shether, will give me a time table for sex? and i will come to a faceless forum to report, haa i dont think any woman can do that to me, even the Bible says the wife doesnt own her body in marriage, neither do i own my body.

AfroKnight:
You cannot tell me that you didn’t notice this rigid behaviour during courtship.

Better discuss with her to find a solution.

Also, hustle to get enough money. You’re a man. Even their so called Feminism will not make a naija woman spend her own money on a man. Better take care of yourself.

As for the sex, you must let her know in clear terms that she cannot use sex (Withholding it vindictively) as a weapon to punish you. Any woman who does that deserves to be cheated on.

Honestly i dont understand how some men are so dump in coming to Nairaland to report a case like this, maybe am too rigid or because of my age or financal status... i mean a woman i married legally with bride price fully paid, catered for, provide food and shether, will give me a time tabble for sex? and i will come to a faceless forum to report, haa i dont think any woman can do that to me, even the Bible says the wife doesnt own her body in marriage, neither do i own my body.

ken711:
I have been dating a girl for about 18 months now. Very pretty but my brothers, let me tell you...look before you leap when it comes to pretty girls.
From the minute I met this girl it has been one money request after another. If it was small sums I guess I wouldn't really mind, as I have always worked for blue chip companies and can afford it. The thing is, her requests are always very big!.....20k this, 20K that.....but my brothers, I have to tell you the one that has made me even disappointed in myself.

She lives with her parents and they are the most dysfunctional family I have ever heard of...Everyday one person is fighting the other, and this my girlfriend, as fine as she is, is the most arrogant, prideful, violent & rude person I have ever met. She hounded me everyday that I must get her an apartment of her own, so she can escape her home, and I agreed to but by saving monthly.

Would you believe, one night, when she was working at a bar as an usher for guinness, she gave her number to 2 different men just because of this apartment. my spirit kept telling me that she gave her number out, but she kept lying...only for me to catch her texting one of the men when we were at church of all places.......she even went as far as going to meet this rich man at a hotel, but the man ran away when she made that request, and I as a fool decided to finally do it for her. (I suspect she cheated on me that night and I always tell it to her face because she has cheated on me twice before)

I live on the Island and tried to get her to rent here as well, as I really want to keep an eye on her.....She has too many guys around her who live in that area and she is this kind of person who cheats out of revenge, even over small things.....this girl refused and threatened to break things off!....bro, as a mumu I sent the money to her to rent the place and for other things, about 400K.....

Ever since that money left my account, it's like my eyes cleared!!! I couldn't believe that instead of saving my hard earned money, I went and sent it to a girl that has cheated on me twice (or even more), lied to me, slapped me and done so many things.....but I just decided to leave everything for God, seeing as she was desperate.


The problem now is that the demands for that apartment is now becoming too much!!! The expenses just to get the place finished are such a burden on my financial and mental state...The worst happened about two days ago, she wanted me to pay 20k....Infact I just got so tired of bills that I kinda was stalling on it, but what happened next truly shocked me.. ....would you believe this girl started punching me, slapping me and even tore my shirt cos of 20k.....she even threatened to break my office laptop (working from home) until I sent the money, after that she left........now she is trying to apologize so that I will pay for bed and gas and the remaining things....my brothers, I know u will say am a fool!...I accept...I am a handsome guy, studied abroad, I just don't know why loneliness made me fall in love with such a sadistic user...my only problem is, do I pay for the bed and just finish what I started or just free the whole thing and the nearly 500K I have already spent...please help!

dont pay for anything again, dont pick her calls either

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Mariangeles:
Reading through the chats, I just felt sorry for you @op

You might think you're fooling your wife, but the truth of the matter is you're living in fantasy.
You're delusional.
You craved her attention so bad, you created a character to live out your fantasies, fooling yourself.
I strongly advise that you wake up from the illusion and deal with the matter at hand.
For how long is the charade going to continue? As long as you enjoy it? Even knowing it's fake?
With all sincerity, I feel sorry for you.

You just spoke my mind, let me tell the op that all ladies desire atleast a comfortable life, allowing your wife to stay with her mom due to your financial instability belitles you as a man, so instead of wasting your time and energy poking her on social media, it will be better if you can engage in other useful ventures to better her life and that of your children, let me also tell you for free that 90 percennt of ladies would do thesame thing as your wife if they found themselve in your wife condition. let me also add that your wife has nothing to lose if you eventually reveal this chat to her. rather it will quicken her step to leave you finally. shalom

VickyRotex:
Ahhh! Egbon you dey vex oo
Enjoy your isolation time

never! I can't be provoked, not even by a gorgeous lady

VickyRotex:
I did. I don't even know which one gives me more headache between his English and your own

the issue of pandemic is what is affecting you, not my grammar. Enjoy your quarantine time�

VickyRotex:
Sorry, I don't think I understood what you meant.

.you will understood the understanding when you read his chat in full�

VickyRotex:
How can someone who spells "quarantine" as "quarantern" be a teacher?

Naija, which way na?

The closing remark is the "face with rolling eyes" emoji. I'm a fan of that emoji.

I really shouldn't be laughing on this thread. This is disgusting.

that one was even better than (but i dont matter)

zaksman1960:
Please guys don't mind any mistake I will make .am not So good in writing

Have been married for two years now ,meet my wife through a friend .we got along and did married say one year after we meet.during our courtship I never for once had any reason to doubt her loyalty as everything was nearly perfect.as she told about her past life and relationship though not so good but not too bad either.
Before I forget to mention she was done with her OND at the time I meet her .and was eager to complete her HND this was not a problem for me as i was ready and capable of assisting her to complete the program.she have birth to our first child during her final year though not easy for her combining education with baby .but she was able to complete the program though with an extra semester. To cut the story short my people she was mobilized for NYSC for batch A 2020,though she could not complete the 3 weeks camp due to the Corona virus pandemic.as their camp was cut short .
before I forget I do have access to her phone as I know the password to it ..am not that kind of guy who possess trust issue beside I trusted her wholeheartedly so I had no reason to suspect her. most times I just check news on her phone and atymes play game ..
So I was push one day to check her whatapp .I observe a chat with a guy,her fellow corper the guy asking her how she copes with lockdown .how she is enjoying my di...k and if she does enjoy it ..I was shocked. For her to be chatting with a guy asking her such question .I didn't ask her about it I just ignore it. I began to follow up with her chat with this guy , I observe she does delete all her chat with this guy but as a fast guy atymes I manage to read her chat before she deletes them ..after that scene she was chatting the guy complaining that she does not see his calls ..the guy replied that it's because he knows am around because of lockdown that why he doesn't call. Then just yesterday night the guy was asking when she is coming over. though she slept off thats why she could not reply him .this morning I observed as usual the chat was deleted.

I need ur advice my people .sorry for the long write up. I have not confronted her yet cause am not sure if she is really cheating or about to.and also I think I don't have enough evidence too.

Why does she deletes her chat if nothing is fishing

why giving yourself am heart attack? copy the guy phone number and send him an SMS warning him to desist any chat from your wife . Dont say anything to your wife, but read her body language thereafter.

Newbielearner:
The next time she is caught? Sir, if this were to be you, is this what you would have done?

yes i will defiinitely do that, there is a room for second chance she might give an exucuse for the first time expecially if i dont have a concrete evidence

Tango123:
So what if u sit her down and she lies to your face?

What if you report her to her family with evidence, and she promises to change and never changes?

What price can you put on peace of mind? For me, peace of mind is priceless. If i was the one, even if i sot her down and we have a good discussion, even if i report her to her family and we have a meeting, so far as there is doubt already, i will do a dna test.

If i am to raise another person's child, i need to know and do it willingly. Well, that is my opinion. You are entitled to yours sir

so if you can afford it, what if he cant afford the 600k plus of doing DNA? you gather all the evidence and the profile of the man that she is going out with to her family members and you insist the next time she is caught, that would be the end of the marriage, so if all these doesnt instill fear in her and still go ahead dating the man, then you can call off the marriage, if truly you are the father of the child, she will confess it later on

gaius01:
Goan do DNA test
You better confront her, not being scared about it. Since you are such she does such, spend on a woman ñear to bankruptcy? Haba that's why I can't spend on a woman that ain't my wife yet

all of you always shout DNA do you even have an idea the cost of doing DNA? so even after rhe DNA if he later find out the baby is not his, who is the loser? the best bet is to call the wife and have on on one discussion with her and if she is not yielding report her to her parents and family members.

SeverusSnape:
I'd feel the same if i were you.

Couple's life in school eh... chai!, Let me not talk because you'd feel discouraged about her. If your heart is no more there, Let go.

i agree with you, i can see many ladies here bashing the op. i will advise the op to check if the lad's womb is still intact due to too much postinor and contraceptive even D&C couple life at school was so bad that i will not marry any lady who engage in it, you must marry your couple and not give me AJEKU, too much sex everyday my dept presido can bear me witness

botrix:
Pls does it mean that the total discharged and deaths are subtracted from the total confirmed cases.or the total confirmed cases are the number of people still having the virus in Nigeria?

the statistics was not good enough , the total mumber is the actual discovery number, if you minus the death and discharge you will have the total active case

this nonsense must stop after this COVID 19, from your write up you said he was a chronic womaniser, secondly you said you guys have not met before, but the very first time you went to his house you were willing to still offer him your KPEKU. thanks your star is into yahoo plus but your head did not succumb to his diabolic juju, if not your womb would have gone by now

marry her as she will bring more good fortune for yuu, if yuu send her away your so called loving wife will abandon you, and none of those ranting here will give you a dime. the way of God is not our way, if two wives was a sin, Abraham, Moses, Jacob, Solomon ,David and the rest wouldnt have made heaven. dont tell me it was an old testament becuuse your pastor do quote malachai 3: 8to10 to collect tithe. tell me anywhere in the Bible that Jesus condemn marrying two wives, Paul only admonished in his letter to timothy that He who desire the post of a bishop should be a man of one wife. are you desiring to be a pastor? NO

a write up by an slowpoke who doesnt know the difference between playing politics and smart decision who can move a nation forward, so in your warp brain Osinbanjo should act incompetent so that he could please the master. i bet you Osinbanjo doesnt need to be president to accompanish anything again, i have not seen another Nigerian who has prove his onions like Osinbanjo

RisenPhoenix:
Yes she will still get the divorce, but the child custody issues become unclear in that case.

generally children under 18 are under the custody of the wife with the husband responsible for feeding, welfare and education unless a case was proven that the woman is irresponsible e.g drugs addict or drunkeness

RisenPhoenix:
Who told you there was battery? Don't make hasty assumptions.

@op. There's no way to divorce in one morning. And stop overhyping their differences. Just advice her to involve some cooler headed party from the elders in the family to mediate. If there is any form of assault, tell your parents to get her to come and stay with them for a while. If she's taking that option, she should be cautious where she stays during this period; otherwise the husband can claim in court that she abandoned him to live with another man.

even if the husband claim she is cohabiting with another man, the woman wil still get her request to divorce, is easier for a woman to divorce a man in Nigeria than man divorcing his wife, once the woman is no more interested the marriage is over, expecially if the relationship is about threats to life

Smartchoiiice:
I barely can last 5 seconds while doing kerewa. My girlfriends have cheated, insulted and broken up with me because of this....

Please what can I do about it? It is getting real embarrassing these days.

Advise me please.... and no insults.

eat more of banana, take honey, that nuts that mallam always sell. thank me later

Blu03:
I'm very insecure. If i'm to get married and have kids, i would want them to have the best life has to offer. To have a safe future...
I must have a steady, well paying job. He must too.
I must have a good amount of money in the bank. Savings to lean back on (just in case). He must too.
I must have properties and other assets. He must too.

But this is for me.

For others, at least 3million in the bank. Plus a house and car.
Transportation and house rent can take alot out of one's salary...

20 yrs i want this i want that, 25yrs i want anyone with love, 30 yrs abeg make anybody just show up

ogbuefi677:
Nigerians will happily pay if they see d funde are being used judiciously.
But in today's Nigeria, the elites are getting even more profligate.
Doguwa of the HOR was boasting the other day that we can all see he has been given 3 new official cars,and that d 3 given to him in the last house are parked by the side of the new ones.
Hanan Buhari and other Buhari's children are still flying around with the presidential jet.
Aisha Buhari's kitchen was allocated billions for kitchen utensils.
Buhari and Osunbade budgeted billions for their foreign travels.
The allocation for the clinic in Aso rock is more than that of 6 teaching hospitals.
So in all these,the fortunes of Buhari and his goons are the only thing improving.
Fuel prices,electricity tariff etc are going up,yet Buhari and co keep living in affluence and you want the masses to sacrifice?
Our roads,hospitals, everything are gradually getting worse .
Ask ppl who live or come from Anambra, d tax regime and revenue drive are even more stringent but ppl happily pay cos they can easily see d result of their tax.

i totally agreed we should hold our leaders accountable, but increase in VAT would affect the rich more than the commoners, luxurious goods will generate more income

ogbuefi677:
Stopped anti people bills like increase in VAT,hate speech bill amongst others.
These 2 bills have been passed /about to be passed under your change Senate

i dont know why people see increament in VAT as anti people policy, VAT are been paid by the elite on consumption, show me any country even africa that has 7.5 percent VAT. in developed country yuu pay about 30 percent of yur income as PAYE in Nigeria we pay about 6 percent after removin all the reliefs

dated for 4 years during our undergraduate course, went far off for post graduate together, fiam we need to do intro and we agreed to check products before paying, yuu understand nah.. whim after first doing, she backed off, my thing was too huge for her, she left me for biritiko man