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I don't see what is wrong by calling by his name. Is it first or last or Both? I mean if the name was given to him then its not a crime. If you prefer reffering to him by something else then great but there is nothing shameful about calling your husband by their first name

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all these girls sef, shouting Dark guys! dark guys!! dark guys!!, some of u are black as smoked pots and u're looking for dark guys, una wan born shadows shebi?

What is wrong with being dark and liking dark. Black don't crack and the darker the black the less likely you will even slightly crack. I am dark and I love dark men. Not oily dark, cool dark with firy red lips. If my child comes out dark the better. When your light and the sun hits you get uneven skin tone. Dark people don't have to worry about that. Look at Nnena from America's Next Top Model.

Maybe this pastor guy is only comforming to it so that his congregation will not be arrestedزي ز

I didn't realize hurt was reserved specifically for men.

So because I said better him than me means I only want men to be hurt. See there you go making an ASS You ME. If something not terribly bad, say someones feelings are hurt or someone wasted all their money, I say "Better you than me." I say this irregardless of the person's sex.

or are you insinuating that nigerians are incapable of correcting their own issues?
are you placing the western world on an unabated pedestal?

Please tell me an issue that Nigeria has solved for itself and then also please tell me how you propose this issue will be resolved short of adapting to the madness. Since I am a westerner intruding in the country which I was born, when a house is burning down the residents won't ask others for help for fear of intruders butting into their business.

let those women or those affected by this policy speak out. the thing i have noticed is that people wont say anything until it happens to them so hopefully the son/daughter of one of the big lawyers will get caught up in this and hopefully he/she wont have her mobile phone with her for help .

We can only hope or some really thirsty police man approaches a foriegner.

@this guy that article is an eye opener,this thing no be joke o.
Somewhere in that story,a man was also accosted for indecent dressing,he was wearing jeans and a T or so.

Everyone should now carry a bedsheet handy in case the moral police are around.

I only brought in the feminist idea becasue I was unaware that men were getting the same flack for wearing jeans. But this will end the long run affect women more than it will affect men. So it is in all honesty a feminist issue.

must a ban on provocative dressing be turned into a feminism issue?
or are you insinuating that nigerians are incapable of correcting their own issues?
are you placing the western world on an unabated pedestal?

Before you prosecute me I was just giving a suggestion. We all know that once foriegn influence becomes involved those that enacted this law will mellow. The only reason that woman some years ago survived after giving birth out of wedlock was because of outsiders crying out against it. Lets face it these politicians don't want Nigeria to look worse than it already does.

you can't use a man's sexcapades to measure your decency as a woman, nor can you overcome all the societal double standards that have been going on for years.  man's body is unrestrained and programmed differently from that of a woman's.  In short, he can sleep around for years (not that I support it) and get away scott free, while a woman on the other hand will be considered cheapened if she acts the same way.
moreso, you can keep looking for ways to assure yourself that he waited, but there really isn't a clear clut way to find out.  just pray to God that you get yourself a good man, sex is just an aspect of marriage, it doesn't really prevent future heartache.

Well actually I was watching this plastic surgery show and this muslim girl got her hymen replaced becasue her friend reped her. So women can get away with it as well. People that do sports also have an excuse. But you are correct about the double standards.

Blood transfusions and organ transplants.

Who gets HIV that way anymore? Even Nigeria must know a way to prevent HIV this way. The probabilty of that is so rear it is insignificant in this case

From an infected mother to her infant.

The person would most likely not be alive to be worrying about marriage. There are drugs to prevent mother to child infection.

Blood products

How would you get that blood prodct in the first place? this one is not clear

Tattoos/piercings

Very unlikely if you go to a non shady tattoo place. If you go to a friends cousin then its your fault if you get it.
These examples are too circumstancial.

I am not a very big believer in the whole prodigal son thing. If I could wait then you bet your kobo he needs to assure me he waited.

@wendymama
yu honestly need som ex education Grin , yu sound like yu av little or no knowledge bout this topic Tongue yu get married to a virgin or start exing a virgin no mean say make yu no test HIV positive Shocked Shocked Shocked, shyne ya eye well well Huh nd it also doesnt mean yu both will get on well later on, this whole relationship thing is mor than just ex Tongue Tongue Tongue, it's a life contract so be wise nd don't be fooled Wink Cheesy Grin

Please tell me another way of getting HIV apart from having sex or doing drugs. No one was talking about along or great relationship we were just talking about virginity

why do you seem so adamant on premature ejaculation? it's a part of acquiring experience, you can't expect to eat your cake and have it back. if you want a virgin man, those are some of the repercussions you will encounter for the first few tries.

How many times must we go over this. My firend said you can tell that a boy is a virgin if he prematurely ejaculates. So based on what you [Kobe] are saying that is the truth. What I said I think would be the best thing is a lie detector test.

wendy
even our very own 'naija oprah' is asking for a voice of reason, she's got everything(exposure and contacts) to make the most noise but she like our other very 'educated' women are waiting for the voice of reason-preferable from a male- Lawyer Gani ? Undecided

Well then is there any important male Nigerian Lawyer that would be willing play the prince charmming role. Also what if someone asked, say like me a Western feminist group to look into this mess do you think most Nigerians will be angered by outside help?

Someone should start a thread like that

I too believe that resistance is the key but it is easier said than done. I also know that reasoning is out of the question. But this law is one of the most backwards attempt I have seen in a long time. I wonder if this government realizes that this is the year 2007

ilu ikop dret uytre kiolh gterujh yuipol.
[quote][/quote]Somebody please tell em what this sentence means. This is the best place to get intouch with Nigerian side

and you're in need of sex - may your pussy dry up - that is close up, I pray - i pray, i pray, may u wake up tmrow and see that your pussy hole has gummed together - i pray, and may your boyfriends d ick bend beyond repair, brake inside your pussy - in short, may his d ick come out from your mouth during sex, and may u come liek if u are peeing - may your obo oooze out water uncontrolably - may your obo dry up completely.

ol, i saw somewhere where you said the first time a guy banged you
you could not walk for six days, what a shame, that serves you right Tongue Tongue Tongue Tongue
useless ashawo, can't you insult without bringing sex
or are you so sex starved Undecided i pity the animals around you
because am sure you can bang a dog

ogbono - it was u who mentioned sex first - i see come has covered your face - u are a biro, a tree, a ship, a cow, an elephant, a p enis and you're a beans - ewa aganyi.

Wow, am i a keyboard, a mouse, a bucket , please i need more smileys i want to laugh out loud, lmao,

u mention sex words first by calling your mother a smelie pussy
you this useless sex starved bitch,, am sure you s=are not creating a pamphlet not to talk of a magazine,, useless ashawo,

lol, am a ogbono, an egusi, lmfao, step up your words plssssssssssssss
i feel like am arguing with ny 3 year old cousin

u have suddenly become a nincompoop who assuagely conflates and deflates when all that is necessary is to placate the seeming imbroglio with matured and concommitant jingoism- u have parambulated the roller coaster to harangued posterior by exposing your terra costic innuendoes which only makes u a gragarious homo sapien and a gangantuan juxtaposed hegemonistic vengeanceful duck.


Clap for the Pig, you are so so stupidddddddddddddddd,
where did you copy it from,
foooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool
maybe a porn magazine would serve a better purpose for someone like you,

Honestly I have been laughing so loud that the people I work with think something is wrong with me. I love Nigerians, especially angry ones, especially igbos. I am not trying to instigate but you guys are too funny. I would say this argument should come in a Nigerian movie but I don;t know if it has too many profanity. Ashawo is prostitute, ogbono, egusi- type of soup,

What are these words:
biro,
ewa aganyi.

foooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool

this is something my mother would say. And she would stretch out like this two. Thank to of you very much.
Some Nigerians were on a tv program called Brothers and Sisters filmed in England.

funny enough

only the first part of the post was directed at you

the rest was to the thread, please don't get testy on me

moreso a virgin doesnt mean lack of disease

Unless that person is a drug using virgin, the first thing I think of when I hear virgin is sexually transmitted diseaseless individual. If you know anyother way of getting sexually transmitted disease apart from shooting up cocain or sleeping around please enlighten me.

wendymanda, you yourself don't sound like a virgin now.

a virgin wouldnt know all this stuff you listed here.

Honestly Tpia, I do wish that was a joke. So what you are saying is that common knowledge is experience. Well I am not sure if sex education is taught in Nigeria or not so I will not address that. You can think what ever you will, I live in a free country and free thinking is one of the perks of  that. O.K if  you are basing your assumption based on premature ejaculation go back and read the beginning of the thread when I started that topic. You know what happens when people ASS You ME. I'll tell you when you assume you make an ass out of you and me.

O.K, you guys are too funny. I have not heard insults that those in a long time. And in Igbo, wow amazing. I can't read spell in Igbo but I think I understood you girls wrote. Extremely funny.

Nigerian men living in Nigeria must have little joysticks

That is how they concoct all this chauvinistic schemes

I never thought about it that way, but this explanation makes sense.

wendy I guess you're saying the lie is apprehensible, since it causes no heartbreak. pastor's daughter i fear you o.

As long as she is not going to use that excuse on you then you don't have to worry. You don;t seem like the type of person that others would spare their feelings. Like I said before Iwas just giving advice personally I wouldn't care whose feelings gets hurt. Better him than me

in this case wendy i am the proposed hubby

as i stated earlier i can't marry a virgin

i would rather a divorcee than a virgin

what you see as being used i see as experience

Good for you. I never said I have a problem with non virgins. I just said if I am going to wait then who ever I am with should have known that patience is a virtue. You might like experience when it comes to sex. I like a diseaseless person, if I marry a virgin I don't have to worry whether or not he might have something. When I say virgin I mean to the fullest extent; no kissing, no MouthAction, anal sex or anything of such nature. He should be like a monk that left the monastery. When I say clueless together I mean absolutely clueless, like a caveman seeing fire for the first time.
Take it however you will

women in Nigeria always wait for men to fight for their rights. That's one of the problems we're having.

Well this is the time they need to break out of that cacoon. Since men are the ones infringing on womens rights it really wouldn't be a good idea to wait for them. Sometimes it seems that Nigerian women are still living under the belief that women and children "should be seen and not heard." This only works if your deaf and dumb, and when your seen and not heard like a door mat it's easy to be trampled upon. No one knows or cares when a door mat is in pain.

You said it's your friends mother. Hmm, if you want money that bad that your diginty does not come it to play then don't waste time waiting for a response from this forum jump into bed with her. I wonder how old you are and she is?

Aren't their some female Nigerian Lawyers who can protest this ridiculous law? Maybe a woman should wear trousers and after she is brutalized by the police she can get help from Amnesty International. I know the idiots in charge don't want negative attention from the west.

what exactly is corrupt?

some may see corrupt as the mass genocide of native indegenes of a land to create a new United States. Which is how the USA was born. Is the USA a corrupt nation? They have assasinated and toppled more Presidents and governments than every other nation combined. Are they corrupt?

What aren't Africans? Lazy. Black. Dirty. Poor. Corrupt. Stupid. Hell we have been ingrained every bad human trait applies to us that whites don't even have to keep on perpetuating it for themselves. We do it on our own now.

Bush and Cheney are one of the most corrupt US Presidents. Yet noone blankets the whole USA as a corrupt nation. There are no jobs or opportunities in our country and people resort to "crime" to get money through 419 scams and suddenly the whole country is corrupt. The same asshole politicians who horde billions in swiss and british banks turn around and say we have to fight the plage of 419. Such is the twisted country we live in.

You think the USA is one of the richest countries on earth because it played fair and worked hard to be where it is? Read some history people, if what Nigerians do is corrupt then this country is Nigeria to the power 1 million.

I have always maintained this stance on why people think Nigeria is very corrupt based on 419. It plays on greed. Like the I go Chop your dollar song goes when white man does it is o.k.

Tell him straight up that you do not like him and give clear reasons. eg: "denex I appreciate your regular visits and all that, but I hope you know I can't get romantic with you because I just don't like you beyond being classmates. You're too loud, you complain too much and I generally don't enjoy spending time with you"

Of course you know that will just break anyones heart. But if she appreciates your company why would she not generally enjoy spending time with you.

nothing do you, just follow your heart

I think if she knew what her heart was saying she would not have started this thread.

of course all men (and women too) want something fresh and untouched, the problem exists when the men in question have a double standard - not holding themselves to the same requirements they want of their mate which is a patently selfish mindset.

or the other case, because of their sexual failures will rather go with one who won't know any better, and so his fragile 'ego' tied to his 'performance' in bed will remain intact.

The world is filled with double standards but men are the biggest perpetrators of it. The sad part of it is that women end up having to give in to the idea of being a virgin till marriage while most times their partners have been gallivanting about. In the end we tend to say it is because men are scare and we women have to settle with what we can get. I hope I don't have to suffer this same fate but that is most times what desperation does. Women become afraid that they are getting too old so they marry anything out there. The virgin marries the divorcee with three children, sucks for us doesn't it.

Oh yes in response to you Kobe I said my friend said you can tell a virgin boy by premature ejaculation. I didn't ask her the intricacies of going about to find out whether the boy is a premature ejaculator.

Hey, you wanted my opinion and I gave it to you. You mus'nt agree with it. I agree that it is the man's roaming eyes can get him into trouble but a man cannot walk around with blindfolds during the entire svc if every woman chooses to dress like she just came from a night club.

Hey the way I see it, if women can't wear trousers because of mens wandering eyes then these men should wear blind folds. I don't wear tight clothes but I like trousers because they are very comfortable. But women should have a choice to wear what they want instead of letting men getting away with imposing on our rights. It's a mans world but women gave birth to these world so it should also be a woman's world.

Well Mr. Kobe since I have never been in such a predicament to care that the others feeling is hurt I am just giving a suggestion. What I usually say is that my father said I can't date (which is the truth). But of course that answer is not laced with comedy or overly dramatic. Does arranged marriage still happen in Nigeria? If so then maybe my idea is not too far fetched. She didn't say she was a Christian and its a white lie.