See them... Making marriage look like its the destination
You pipu should stop all these Abeg. Marriage isn't the ultimate.
If you marry at 19, good; If na 30, make sense..
All of us go gather dey okay laslas

Righteousness89:
you Lack knowledge of GOD sis/bro..
Hosea 4:6

I know God. I also know you're telling lies.

Bahddo:
bloody liar. You think everyone is stupid? Stop lying in the name of God!

Only the guy see person Wey no get organ Wey still born..na him still see person Wey carry belle to term without knowing

Awon eleyi bad gan

Righteousness89:


That's How it always seems until such Miracles Hit you...

I doubt Nothing in this life... with GOD All things are Possible..
it's the Level of Trust and Belief you have on GOD dt determines the level of Impossiblities that you will Experience..

Maybe one day I will give a Right of Impossiblities that came to pass in my personal life..

ONLY BELIEVE..
If u wanna see GOD'S HAND.. Believe Him with all your Heart Without Plan B

Baba stop that thing!!! God doesn't need people to lie just to prove he is powerful.. We have seen God defy science, but this one you said ehn, na real "fabu"

manlawal:

abi ooo am a non affiliated believer how can a christian be telling lies of such magnitude?

Must people tell lies just to prove a point? SMH.

Righteousness89:
No One Stops anyone from Having a CS..

If you Are a Believer and you Believe GOD that you will Have your child without a CS , you will have what you Believe..


I have seen Woman who had a child and never knew she was Pregnant.. infact she was in her house having dinner with her husband when they noticed that they heard a sound . There was no light and they had to bring a lamp to see what fell on the ground, only to see a baby, and some form blood on their mother.
This happened in Lagos..

I have Seen a woman who was born not knowing if she was a man or a woman as she had no organ.. Yet as I say this, she is happily married and with a kid..
This happened in Lagos

I have Seen A woman who doctors removed her womb , Showed it to her and her husband and told them that there is no way she will be able to take in....
Today she has 3 Children.
This Happened in Lagos

There are lots them like that I know of..


If you Pregnant and you don't want a CS let your faith Carry u.

If you Pregnant and you have difficulties in putting to bed, there is no harm in having a CS..

Having CS and not Having CS does not guarantee safe delivery ..

GOD ALMIGHTY is above all

Hmmmmm... Daddy waa. While I'm a believer, what you said here isn't possible.
So they were eating and heard "gbum"...o di baby

Small small naa

Thinz dey happen sha

calgaryFriend:

Your head dey there, the problem is that most people these days were not properly raised and they do not know how to behave. The only thing I owe you is a correction once, and I corrected her and she still continued, imagine discussing future plans with someone and they continue chatting with others.

That kind of red flag is a no no... I have not told her I am not interested again sha, I already toasted her before this happened and she said she will give me a feedback, she is expecting me to ask her how far now I just lock up I am not even chatting her again . When she chats me I just respond and move on and say thank you.

I am sure she is ready to tell me yes, but as far as she has not said yes to me she cannot claim I broke her heart

I'm happy for her ooo. She made a narrow escape.

calgaryFriend:
I can relate with you OP. For me I am outside of the country and I already made up my mind not to marry from outside the country. I have been meeting people online but after relating with them for sometime I realise the extent of how ignorant, materialistic and focus-less most ladies are.

I was following up with a lady last week, then I saw her whatsap status - ENU GBE, E FUN MI LOWO ENU GBG (i am broke, please give me money I am broke). What kind of human being comes on social media to write such trash ? People dont even have respect for themselves or their families.

WheN i WAS in school I was placed on minimum wage and I tried to live within my means how can people just begin to behave like peasants, so that pissed me off and I just cancelled that babe.

The next one was even a little promising but on 2 occasions I was speaking to her and she was speaking to other people, imagine chatting someone and they admit they are also chatting up to 7 people at the same time.

Then I rebuked the person and the next few days we are talking on phone and the person is typing and after I asked what was going on she said she was chatting with people while speaking with me on whatsap call, I did not even react, but I just cancelled her in my mind.

It is quite tough really, the quality of women out there is really very low, we just have a few who are young and have proper sense.

Goodluck as we continue to search...

Soooo, she sinned by chatting other people while speaking with you? You expect her to chat only you at all times?
Common!! That petty fah!!

Jabioro:
Na so she lost her life..she for give am the sex.. even she no dey mood..now she is late..

Ta ree
Abeg naa, no dey talk like this fah!

Sirmuel1:
See the Man head like frog.... I pray he rots in jail.


BTW, why is no one asking what she did to be beaten like that? Some Women are the cause of some violence. You know your husband is hot tempered, yet you will keep running your mouth like tap.

Wife-beater spotted!! See reasoning! For your mind now, you don contribute for here. Shior

Bruno3000:
Not in naija. You will find none. Trust me.

Brother why naa?
Don't discourage him joor.
OP, don't worry. Plenty smart girls dey Nairaland

Nicklaus619:
Lols this shit happened to me, In my own case I thought i almost lost it cos i was gradually depreciating in thought and it affected me generally and my boss and colleague alike noticed this, my boss had to give me a compulsory casual leave because I was gradually becoming a shadow of my self, I hardly shave my beard or eat properly, as I kept thinking of her, she got a better part of me, so this is what I did.

1. I deleted her contact, nudes, pic, and her nude videos on my phone, laptops.
2. I unfollowed her on all social medias
3. Distanced myself from going close to her street.
4. Hang out more with my friends and try to flirt around as I could.
5. During that period, my cute Neigboure got me laid, we had sex many times though but we never took things seriously, she had a fiancé she is been crushing and I was busy dating this ungrateful mofo
6. I got engage with my ps3 each time I am having a free time to replace her absent.
7. I resumed from leave happier and livelier..I moved on and now I am dating a girl that's way above her league, Lols this makes her so mad cos she sees us on several occasions.

In conclusion
Bro follow the above step and u will move on, if u go back and beg her to come back she will play emotional games with u and turn u into a money vending machine, cos it is clear she ain't got no interest in u no more...
Be happy bro this life is too short for one bitch to make it miserable for u. Cheers

Oh boy... So guys hurt this bad too?
Good thing you moved on jare. All the best with your new gal

EngrBriggs:


I am in this same situation as you. I am currently dating a lady who is a graduate and will be 25 years this year. She is loving, caring, industrous and very generous. She is well accepted by my family even though she is from a totally different tribe.

I had planned settling down with her, until I began to realise;

1. My physical attraction to her was waning by the day. She is fast losing her good physique to belly fat and this is really putting me off.

2. She has suddenly become rebellious and will not accept her faults 50% of the time. When I notice something she does wrong and draws her attention to it, she will give excuses and rant about how excessively demanding I am.

3. My mum has never treated her badly. But on one ocassion, my mum extended her anger to her after a disagreement I had with my mum. This lady took it personal and even threatened to stop calling mum. All these because of just one incidence in about a year.

4. Despite coming to my house almost all the time, this lady has never cooked for me. I dont know if she is a good cook or not, although she cooks in her house.

5. She takes offence too quickly. Any little or prolonged joke and she loses her cool. In contrast, I am a very playful person and I cant cope with too much seriousness.

6. Finally, the cultural difference which wouldnt have been much of a big deal except for the fact that she is not so willing to adjust to changes and take simple corrections on how things are been done in my culture.

Weighing her good side and not-too-good side, I became confused. I dont want to settle down with a disrespectful, rebellious woman even if she is the nicest and most generous person in the world.

I can cope with most of her wrong-doings cos I noticed when the chips are down, she is soft-hearted. However, I find myself always thinking, why not be a bit patient, you'll meet someone who will complement and understand you better.

I really do not want stress after marriage and even if there will be, it shouldnt be from things I have noticed and could have avoided before marriage.

Oh wow!! Now this is a serious one.

I think you should prioritize. Rank all you want in your woman. If she has the most important ones, then she just might be your best bet. No one is perfect you know. If she doesn't, well...

BTW, have you tried letting her know these things stress you?

All the best bro

So true

ready4glory:


Hahahaha Gbedu don enter body . I really do hope you've made (and/or are still making) great friends from here .

Looool...

Yea. I've met people here

ready4glory:


Please, is your heart still under maintenance? I'm asking for a friend

Loool

chukstessany:
Hi, I'm looking for a roommate - location is Yaba, Lagos. It's a self contain at Tajudeen Olarenwaju Estate, Yaba, it's close to the island and close to all mainland location.

The estate is secure and beautiful with a volleyball, basketball and lawn tennis court with a playground available for use. There is constant light with security and they on the generator in the evening if there's no light. The amount is 350 so we would pay 175k each.

I'm looking for an easy going person and I'm female

Gotten one?

Interesting thread...lemme grab popcorn abeg

Tosinex:
punctuation, capitalization, that's all what you went to study in the Uni, little wonder your heart is under construction! You better go back to receive sense too!!

Sha get out of my mention

Tosinex:
compliments!!! is that all you can give? and for your ITK tosin is not my name, so get that into your thick skull.

Lol

Whatever you are, just get out of my mention!

P.S: Please learn capitalization and punctuation. You could use the internet....Google; instead of wasting data mentioning people

Tosinex:
Nice name, good command of English!!, is that what relationship and marriage is based on? I guess you're teen!!

Looool. And I see you don't understand English. I paid a simple compliment, you gave it your own interpretation. Pele Tosin
Try reading to understand you hear? And Please take yourself off my mention!

Nifemi... Nice name, good command of English... Not very common here on nairaland
Good luck in your quest!

kaygentle:
Here am i

Loool

You're smooth....

ADEBOSUN:

Hello "co-mention" loooool

jakandeola:
winter4 adebosun

Huh??

goodlifehyd:
Lmao with ur shorts looking like something asking for freedom and the dilapidated building that looks like its gonna cave in overnight Abegiii park well make we see front

Oga Why naaaa Issokay o

Onyi22:
Am still wondering how this tomboy made it to d music industry with the trash she always sing,
Nothing good can come out from Afonja, they r all bunch of irresponsibilities......
And for those frustrated, broke ass niggas on nairaland DAT keeps sending me gmail begging me for my number, I weep for them all...
I said it before n am still saying it,DAT I don't go out with poor guys, they should find their level.....

Madam, We know you crave cheap attention, but please do not murder English in the process. Learn to speak correct English.... It's "I am" or "I'm".... and it's "Keep" for plural
You can also expend some of the data you use to type these things on Google. Google is your friend girl.

Looking at your profile sef.... " weather good or bad " lol... Issokay. Blast on sisto

Ishilove:
Isn't rather odd that majority, if not all the posters are the 'victims'? The other party was the cause of the break up.

Says quite a lot.

Look at it from this angle: The guilty parties are not talking. The hurt ones are those pouring their minds out. If I was guilty, I wouldn't say a word here also....abi how would I justify cheating on my husband? Or beating my wife to a pulp...

realtalk19:


what went wrong:
He became aggressive and violent after I got pregnant and wasn't responsible to the kids welfare.

he refused getting a job and I ended up being the bread winner of the family on debts.

he was proud, nassicist and impatient.

he curses at every opportunity

he relayed solely on his mum's advice always and keeps secrets.


how did it end:

After he locked I and the kids out. my family stepped in to save me and the kids.

our rent was due and despite working he still expected me to pay the rent which I refused cos I was fed up, exhausted and frustrated.


whose fault?

it was entirely his fault because even when I endured the responsibility and violence ,it got worse, and he felt he owns me and can do anytin he like without being questioned. he had a dyfunctional upbringing which made him belive torturing a woman Wil make her worship him.


any regrets?

my regrets were setbacks, trauma and ending up with the wrong partner.

red flags on spouse?

lying, violent,anger,malice, impatient in the sense that he wanted fast money he didn't need to work hard for whereby making him addicted to football betting and online hook up.

what I would have done differently?

taken my time to study him and avoid sentimental discision.

never dated a short guy. lol . anger issues and inferiority complex where by he make me feel less of myself and made me loose my self esteem by talking down and condemning every good thing I ever did

be more patient : cos of my age then (27years) I felt the clock was ticking and I wuldnt want to get married late.


moved on: when I got pregnant I had an opportunity to move on after the violent actions but I didn't because I felt I had no chance if I end up as a single mum.


I am very relaxed and more peaceful now. it's been 2 years of success, progress and hope with my kids alone and am so happy I made that discision to leave for good alive.

Despite the traumatic experience, am still hopeful and believe in a happy and successful marriage especially with the right spouse .

Chai... Keep on keeping your head up.. Great Courage it took to leave.

Marriage fears just tripled!

MacMkboy:
My Parents Are One Reason Why I'd Want To Get Married As Soon As Possible. I Wonder If They Could Have Survived Without Each Other's Support In Their Over 25years Of Marriage. They've Had Their Rough Times, But They Never Allowed It Escalate Beyond 2days And The Older They Get, The Closer They Become.

Awwwwww.... So sweet. This kain thing rare sha