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whitelotus:
Many of these trump supporters seem to be paid trolls.

They just repeat whatever they hear on fox news and Breitbart.

These guys are like brain dead boys that just parrot whatever they see on right wing talking points.

That is how someone here repeated the lie that Trump is a 2 time war president, after done right wing sources made the claim. Trump that is a draft Dodger and his presidency never fought any wars.


Then, in the case of Ahmaud Arbery, we had a trump supporter repeating the same derailing tactic of changing the topic to black on black crimes. A black man was murdered by 2 white men and rather than addressing the issue, these Trump trolls are talkin about black on black crime.

Watch this satire that mimic how dumb Trump and his worshippers are.
https://m.imgur.com/a/dWb4MyV

deji17:
Yoruba are not even afraid of being in opposition. We have occupied that spots for 55 years, yet we did not accuse anybody of betrayal.

That's the IPOBs law of political alliance. Igbos form alliance with the north is great, Yoruba form political alliance with the north is betrayal.

Ojiofor:
According to report, AG sent delegates both to NPC and NCNC at the same time offering them same deal,so they accused them of double dealing.
Saduana called Zik to inform him that he was hosting a delegation of AG in Kaduna that was where Zik got idea of whats was going on.

Is that so? Awo sent delegates to both sokoto and Enugu at the same time and the delegates arrived at their respective destinations at the same time, even though there were no flights in 1959. To make matters worse, the Sardauna knew that the AG delegates were already in ziks house at that moment (without whatsapp or facebook). Zik even had to excuse the AG delegates to take the call of the Sardauna.
Meanwhile, Zik and the Sardauna had been friends since childhood, and Zik speaks perfect Hausa.

emrain:
The union is not the problem. Blackman is the problem. How many ”black” countries are doing well today? Yeah, it's easy to blame every other person but yourself. You are the problem with Nigeria. An average black man is mentally lazy, hence why they hold unto God and hope he'll come to their aide one day. Lazy black skin mf!

Abeg told dem (according to chief Zebrudaya - alias 4:30). Helep me ask am whether na Lugard make Aba look like slum inspite of the governor collecting hundreds of billions of naira from Abuja since 1999.
Na Lugard say make the government no build research institutes, libraries, training schools, universities and even secondary schools in Anambra and other states in the south east.

This Lord Lugard na powerful spirits o.

Ybaby:
In a family setting the husband provides he protects - locks the doors at night, spiritual head, kids school fees, shelter, discipline etc

the wife nurtures basically she she does everything else - family health, ego stroking, storytime, PTA, Home cleaniness, Kids to school, Gifts for Teachers, Arranging holiday time, Nourishment etc

For the kids
She teaches affection and pampering - he teaches affection and courage
They both teach self esteem but it is more of his responsibility to let his kids know the child of who they are
They both do homework but it is her responsibility to teach and guide the child in the path of moral
They both teach business but it is more of Daddy's role
etc





Any job! some jobs are more feminine but she can do any job as long as she is able to perform the above duties for her family

I run a software company and code really well - we have a staff of about 30 programmers
I run an importation company and own 5 ecommerce websites that are doing quite well
Also a media company that is doing ok but could be better
Both companies are over 6 years and though my husband gave me capital - he does not ask me for money and he never will. Na man him be.



My husband is not required to do chores in the house at all. If he wants to - all well and good but he is a very busy man with plenty on his shoulder- because of him other men have a salary to feed their family.

I have helps that do chores and I coordinate. I cook dinner every night too and make sure we have a meal together Oga, myself and the children. We talk about our day and give support. Crack jokes - watch TV or play monopoly.
He also gives one weekend a month for family recreation and a vacation every year - all funded by him but organised by moi



Once a boss slapped by ass, I slapped him and my husband later locked him up. No one messes with the Queen.

I also never say no to seexx in 19 years. I respect my husband as in truly adore and respect him not audio type. He is a one of a kind man and he in turn adores me even more - I am the queen

Hope this answers your question

Your situation is no different from what happens in the homes millions of families around Nigeria. It's not much different from the OP's story and it's very similar to the situation in my family. Of all the businesses I have opened for my wife, I hardly ask for any account or returns, I still run the house 100%. So don't think your husband is doing anything extraordinary.

What this tread is about is when or if shit happens. If something tragic suddenly happens to the husband and he is unable to earn again - temporarily or even permanently. Businesses can fail overnight especially in a lawless country like Nigeria where a Governor or president can demolish business premises. Businesses can crash overnight with policy reversals by government. A government can wake up one morning and seize a bank. Apart from business failures, a health tragedy can hit anytime that will stretch the family fortune. It could be cancer, stroke or other debilitating illness. The bone of contention here is that wives should be in a position to help out the family in case of tragedy. It is inhuman and immoral for a wife to forget all that the man has sacrificed for the family and start treating him like an infidel when he falls into difficult or tragic times.

If your husband should read your views on your reasons for marrying him, and that you only remain loyal just because he provides and would abandon him immediately he stops providing, he will be highly disappointed. I dare you to show him your comments on this thread and tell us his reactions.

Hardestknock55:
The day the evil spell was cast! We are still praying for deliverance up till date. I know, one day, we shall be delivered...

So why we're you not delivered in 1960 when we were allowed to govern ourselves?

thatthing111:
Why are you people cursing someone that died a long time ago. Yes, he did what he did, but we have gained Independence since 1960...60 freaking years ago. If Nigeria was a human being, she would be in her old age now. How can we still be blaiming someone that died years ago over our condition?

Some people need a scape goat to blame all their failings and faults on. These people never takes responsibility for their failings, but look for every other person or situation to blame, even a man that died more than 80 years ago, before their grandfather was born.
It's like the Christian devil, a convenient excuse for our failures.

kikero:
Because since Independence, we have lived on the myth that we have enough money, when in reality we don't.

Our economy is based on selling stuff, and then using the revenue to import stuff in value higher than the value of our exports. That's why our economy is always in a bad state.

And that's why I don't support true federalism or even breaking up the country. Because it is an invitation for the bigger parts to fight the smaller parts for control of raw materials. (Yes, Sudan is not invading South Sudan, but that was because they spent 10 years thrashing out the terms of secession, and people on both sides were willing to make compromises.).That's what the first Civil war was all about. Control of resources, and to be honest, if every part of Nigeria was industrial then, there probably would have been a separation long time ago.

Until Nigerians and their government learn that the issue is every part of this country becoming productive, and that the biggest business of this country should be manufacturing and not resource dependency, we are going to remain backward.

Most African states too are in the same way. Amalgamations....that are resource dependent. And that's a sad thing. And instead of us to develop polices and to even make the sacrifices needed to be developed, we would rather sit down and blame Lord Lugard, and refuse to use our god given brains to even manufacture one pin.

This is the koko of our problems, and not whether we divide Nigeria into 2 or 36 countries. As long as we continue with the economic model bequeathed to us by the British, which makes exporters of primary goods and importers of finished goods, we will always be in economic and political doldrums.

Holluwhakemmy:
The men who succeed are the efficient few. They are few who have the ambition and will power to develop themselves.

I am surprised by women with these mindset, it betrays faulty background, probably due to a disfunctional polygamous family.

How can someone say men who succeed are the efficient few. Are you insinuating that the millions of men working or doing various businesses are failures or inefficient majority? Have you seen a jobless, unsuccessful and inefficient man go through all the expenses and rituals of marriage? Obviously most men marry when they are fairly financially stable and hope for a brighter future. But shit happens. A man falls and rises several times during his life time. It's a tragedy to marry a woman who would step on a man when his down instead of helping him in rising up.

nwaimoroseyaho:
There is nothing new here that I have not seen before. It happens in Every marriage where the wife is the bread winner. Your wife is not a bad woman, she was in a bad situation. When only one person is virtually running the family is tiresome, and depressing.
I have been in your wife's shoes feeding my family for 8years, I couldn't even afford undies and I was a banker.
In my own case [ I never cheated but I was depressed and people around me didn't help matters at all.
I eventually lost the job but God helped my husband. Today I don't struggle anymore, my husband foots the bill.
Plz if you can still mend things by seeing a pastor or counsellor, it will help bring back the old flame.

It false to suggest that it happens in Every marriage, it happens in lots of marriages, especially if the purpose of the marriage is material and financial. I have seen many marriages where the husband lost his job and the woman had to pick up the gauntlet to provide for the family until the man finds his feet.

And you don't think it's also tiring and depressing for the only the man to working day and night to provide for his family. Marriage is not "happy ever after". Any man or woman that is not ready to suffer the vagaries and uncertainties of marriage should not marry and stick to baby mama and baby daddy.

It good that you did not find financial solace somewhere else. I hope you also did not insult, disrespect and demean your husband at his most difficult period. If you did, he would have some grudge in his heart for the rest of his life, as he will feel you only married him for financial security.

It's difficult to mend fences after such betrayals. How do you ment fences with someone that does not love you, but only after material gains. What happens if things get difficult again?

Ybaby:
That your last line is a foolish threat.

They donot have to settle for low par men so they can be married - the ones that did are opening thread or maltreating the men

They can go online and meet men from other climes - the world is a global village but I will never subscribe to abhoring infidel

About Cosmas Maduka ..... I love that Nnewi small god.... what a man!! no formal education - no father to cater for him - he could not read or write but with faith he changed his story and today you can mention his son.

Do not deny faith and end up as an infidel or if you already have kids you are not providing let me know o so I can call you an infidel

It seems you are ignorant that Cosmas Maduka was an "infidel" before he married Charity. Cosmas married charity at the age of 19 years when he had nothing, and they build their fortune together. Their company CosCharis (COSmas and CHARIty) is a testament that his wife was critical to his success.

At a time Finidi George was the best number 7 in the world.

Ybaby:
What are you saying na?

I love provider men. I appreciate them. Without such men we will have no roads, no roof.... these men move human race forward

It is infidel men i detest... lazy men who are looking or eating from a woman sweat.

Do you understand now?

I don't understand. What happens if the man had provided for you, your children and your family for 30 years, and then for some extraneous reason, (maybe stroke, accident or business tragedy) is unable to provide, either temporarily or permanently. Does he suddenly become an infidel and lazy man to you?
If you are in a better position, does he not deserve eating your sweat?

Ybaby:
Na Dem!

Big english NO sense of responsibility

You are welcome to club infidel, take a seat pls

I am sorry you came from a background where there was no man to take responsibility and show you fatherly love. It has made you a very bitter person towards men.

I was was the one that sent my wife to school and later to learn a trade after marriage. I have open two businesses in the past for her that I did not receive N1 from. I have open a third business for her and it's just picking up.
I presently take 100% responsibility for the feeding, housing and education of my family. Now, it would be a disappointment if something tragic happens to me tomorrow and my wife would start doing shakara because she has started making more money than me.

Although I don't want to sound tribalistic, but I noticed that kind of ungrateful behaviour from mainly Yoruba women. I have seen Yoruba women that abandoned her family (children included) at the first signs of misfortune for their husband's. Many prefer to become second wives or mistresses to old men or alhajis than to stand by their husband through difficult periods.

Ybaby:
My bro every man has a 3 months grace to get his shit together.

Life happens and most wives especially in a society like NG prefer to be married at least for appearance sake so for a woman to go from angel to witch ... it takes 3 months.

Now for better for better not worse ..... that statement does not supercede the man being an infidel or worse than an infidel when he cannot provide. They will be together but he will leave by himself when the fury of hell is brought on him.

No one is more resilient than women - she is programmed to carry a child for 9 months - but no matter how.much money she has..... for emphasis I will repeat no matter how much money she has - she is not programmed to shelter, feed or cloth a man least of all her husband.


See the bible said worse than an infidel - meaning he will be treated worse than an infidel.

Teach your sons how to make money. Let the girls go to school and let the boys learn to trade and go to school.

A man is practically useless in a family setting if he is not providing

Ire o

This is the primitive ideology that has kept and is keeping Africa in the dark ages. This ideology has no place in modern societies. When societies were agrarian and less stable, men were the strength and sole providers of families and the society, but when we began building stable mega-cities and the societies became knowledge based, women left the kitchen and bedroom and started contributing to families and societies.

This primitive philosophy would lead to men refusing to educate or contribute to the progress of their wives. Most men elevate the status of their wives so that when the man falls on hard times (which usually happen in the lives of most men), the wive can carry the family. If the man becomes incapacitated due to ill health or accident or even death, the wives would be in a position to carry the family, instead of the children becoming destitute, There is a reason for the "for richer or for poorer" and "in sickness or in health" part of the marriage vow.

In organized societies, family fortunes are shared between both couples in marriage and in separation, but in primitive societies, women want to have their cake and eat it, The man's properties are family properties, but the woman's properties are her sole property.

Goldmaxx:
Must everything in this be about being black or white? The left is happily politicizing this for their own gain. Please stop it! People are killed in America on a daily basis either by white or black or purple. Black on black violence was high during Obama's time, what did he do to curb it?

More evidence will come out and it will be judged like any other murder case. EOD!

You are simply trying to deflect. We are not talking about black on black violence, we are talking about murders with racial undertones and the complicity and sometimes encouragement of the white dominated Police. If you want to discuss black on black violence, open another thread for that.

Now, explain why a white father and a son would pursue and murder a black guy they have never interacted with?

Also explain why the local police did nothing for 2 whole months despite having the video of the murder in their possession?
These are the issues black lives matter need answers to, because probably without their protests many of such issues would not be brought to the public or prosecuted.

Roon9:
Lol! Too many illiterates are in Nigeria. In saner climes just spending a certain amount of money on an item could invite the IRS knocking at your door steps. woe betide you if you can't give a decent explanation.


The opposite is practised here. An armed robber and kidnapper could be trekking today and the very next day he'd be balling and driving exotic cars, telling people "God has finally done it". I have discovered that the core problem of Nigeria isn't the government but the society.

That's the tragedy of the Nigerian situation. They are yet to understand that illegally gotten wealth elevates the individual but destroys the society. The person got his wealth not by creating value but by reducing value.

It was when Nigeria started celebrating crime from the early 80's that the country started degrading to the point of a failed country. We have the most billionaires in Africa but still the poverty capital of the world.

90% of Nigerian billionaires will be in jail abroad. It's only in Nigeria you will see someone without N1000 in his account become a billionaire 5 years later without inheriting any money or winning a jackpot, and we make them role models for our children.

TheGoodJoe:
I think best Governor in the History of Nigeria when it comes to delivering for the common man.

If he can deliver the Kano- Lagos and the warri-itakpe railways, he will be the best minister in the history of Nigeria.

stgift:
Wike did well. Why would it be only those two hotels that would flout the order. The announcement for the lock down and the consequences of flouting it was issued 3 days before the date. And the owner of the hotel feels that we are lawless like Lagos State. And even going to the extra mile of shooting the task force who came to warn them. And they feel they can go away with. Now one of the task force member has lost his life as a result of the gun shot wound and assault. The owners of the hotel should be arrested. Meanwhile the cases we have now are as a result of the virus transmission gotten in a hotel that infected over more than 17 people. And you say Gov. Wike should fold his hands and watch and extend a carrot approach to the defaulters. My dear Nigerians has learnt to eat the carrot and run, now is time to use iron hand approach.

I now know most Nigerians do not understand the meaning of democracy. See the way people are justifying a purely lawless tyrannical action. Are you now suggesting that if wike catches an armed robbery in the act, he has the powers to order his immediate execution without his day in court?

First of all wike's order can even be challenged in court. Even a law passed by the national assembly can be challenged as unconstitutional in the courts. So, wike's orders are not divine. Is there a law passed by the state assembly backing his order and his actions? Can his order lead to criminal prosecution?

If the man in question commits murder, he should be charged for such. He should be brought before a competent court for prosecution and punishment according to our laws. Murder had nothing to do with destruction of properties according to our laws.

iLegendd:
If he becomes the president, Nigeria will be great. No nepotism. He calls a spade a spade and he doesn't care if the offender is a PDP or an APC member — all he cares about is for the citizens to be law abiding.

A country where the citizens don't obey law or the leader is a nepotist, will never move forward.

Ask Buhari for your answer — if you have any question to ask.

Are you suggesting we should throw the rule of law away, empower the executive to be the legislature and judiciary and shut down the courts?

edoairways:
You said insults is allowed and you mentioned some politicians who insulted Bubu. So invariably anybody can just wake up, criticize a thing and insult those involved. When the table turns around, they should expect the same thing

Public officers are insulted regularly, in fact in the US and the UK, it's a daily occurrence. They even have satirical TV shows and cartoons that does not flatter their leaders.

Even though I was never a fan of president Jonathan, the way he handled daily insults were exemplary.

Anyone who can't take insults should not run for public office in a democracy

edoairways:
Meaning if Fayose and others insulted Bubu then Wike should expect that. Invariably each persons will insult each other anything any day

Dud the person that insulted wike do so as a revenge for Fayose and others insulting Bubu?

LibertyRep:
Is it part of the executive order that the owner will also forfeit the land even after the structure has been demolished? I refuse to believe that the matter is just about flouting the lockdown order.

Samuel Doe and Idi Amin too once had supporters.

Only Samuel doe and Idi Amin, what of Abacha? Didn't they organise a 2 million man march for him?

shehuAO:
The GDI, will carry almost everybody in Nigeria to court for insulting Wike for his arrogant behaviors in demolishing the two giants hotels in portharcourt and confiscations of people's properties like cars, trailers, cows etc.Wike knew what he has done is wrong and he must answer and pay for them.ALL those GRA GRA noise he was making in the AIT yesterday was all rubbish defense,he will only succeed in wasting Rivers money.So, some disgruntled elements like this so called GDI can support this kind of crude behaviors from Wike and began to threaten Uwazurike to apologise within 24 hrs or what happened?Yeye dey smell, hungry is all over the land, but not a place like Rivers, except you just wants to be a boy boy like these groups calling themselves GDI.There is money in Rivers,if you really wants to work for it you will get it.Very lazy boy boy who wants to support bad governance.Wike's action on demolitions on this two giants hotels in portharcourt are totally condenmable by every reasonable good thinking person in the society.

Can't these all these people wike had either seized or destroyed their properties take the rivers state government to court? ( not the state high Court but the federal high Court, as the state high Court is in wike's pocket). The state government will be liable to pay damages long after wike has left office.

edoairways:
Meaning it is do me I do you

I hate it when people argue here, there and everywhere, without keeping to the subject matter. If we are talking about left or right, you bring up or down, we change position to up or down, you immediately start talking about north or south.
Wike's supporters threatened Uwazurike with violence for insulting wike, I pointed out that insults is part and parcel of public office, using the numerous insults buhari had received from the usual sources. You countered that they did not insulted Buhari but only criticized. I showed examples of what I considered to be insults. Now, you have changed gear to ask if "it's do me I do you".
In effect you are saying that if wike misbehaves, he should never be insulted, but it's OK to insult Buhari if he misbehaves. Buhari or his supporters have no rights to complain not to be accused of "do me I do you".

edoairways:
It doesn't warrant that either. Those aforementioned names are critics they rarely insult Buhari

Kanu called Buhari a terrorist and a pedophile.

Fayose carried out a front page advert in which he listed former Nigerian leaders who died in office and suggests that Muhammadu Buhari could be next.

Femi Fani-Kayode called Muhammadu Buhari a “curse, affliction and genocidal maniac” who loves conquest and oppression.
I don't want even go into the numerous insults by reno Omokri.
So you label these criticism and not insults?

Now compares these with the so called insults by Uwazurike on wike and tell me which is worse.

edoairways:
It doesn't warrant insults since you profer due process

Since the governor was insulted, does wike not have mouth to insult back? Or at worst, can't his goons insult Uwazurike back as retaliation? Why the physical threats?

Shebi, kanu, Fayose, FFK, Timi Frank and Reno Omokri has been insulting Buhari incessantly since 2015, who has threatened them with violence? Anybody that cannot take insults has no business running for office in a democracy.

ogbuefi677:
leave Biafra matter,you go burn top gasket oo

No be you people de involve everybody for una Biafra matter. You people that cannot mention the word Biafra without mentioning Yoruba immediately after. You people that have included all other tribes of the Niger Delta and beyond in your Biafra. You people that cries all the time that others are not fighting your Biafra for you. You now have the audacity to say leave Biafra alone.

Even the thread is about El Rufai who has nothing to do with Biafra.

We are now getting a glimpse of how kanu intends to rule Biafra. No need of the courts or judiciary. Just make a decree and be the judge, jury and executioner.
The could even be challenged at the courts and found to be unconstitutional, but then in kanu's and IPOB's minds, he is the constitution.

DCatt:
Exactly!

Blacks are just 13% of the population but 48% of the murder victims, 52% of the murderers and 95% of black murders are by fellow blacks.

Until black people are ready to tell themselves home truth, they will continue to go in circle.

Even if we were to accept your warped statistics, don't you think that the disproportionate number of violent crimes amongst Blacks is a symptom of centuries of the violent condition under which blacks lived in America? Don't you think limited educational, social and economic opportunities available to blacks in comparison with their while counterparts is responsible for the high poverty rate and thus higher crime rate among black communities?

Look at this statistics among blacks in the USA;

Among racial and ethnic groups, African Americans had the highest poverty rate, 27.4 percent, followed by Hispanics at 26.6 percent and whites at 9.9 percent.

45.8 percent of young black children (under age 6) live in poverty, compared to 14.5 percent of white children.
http://www.stateofworkingamerica.org/index.html%3Fp=4193.html

Should the US not be thinking of providing more educational and economic opportunities for the black communities instead of stereotyping them to justify their murder?

Finally, if you hate blacks so much that you consider them criminals, what are you doing in a black dominated forum?

obixcel:
Lol..so who's concerned with the spate of crimes amongst Blacks - killing each other and turning hundreds black children to orphans, and mothers to widows?. Who's crying out on their behalf and advocating for an end to dis carnage if really Black lives matter?

Why not take up the cause? Why not start an advocacy group that tackles black on black violence or white on white violence or even black on white violence? People form groups to highlight their area of interest? What's your area of interest. You can't be critical of others for not fighting your own cause, it sounds illogical

Black lives matter was formed to protest and highlight the disproportionate Police brutality and unfair treatments of blacks by mainly white Police officers. If you are angry for that, form another advocacy group that support and justifies Police brutality on black to counter them.