₦airaland Forum

Lostz:
who in his right sense even joined the judiciary and state legislature with the executive?

the duara should send a bill to the national assembly so it will become law instead of using executive order

Oladayo12:
The deed has been done already & she has apoligised, i disagree with your last statement bro some men out there are mere figure head i'm sure you know that. some women can singlehandedly raise a child successfully without a man while some obviously can't. Also, it takes the grace of God and not the presence of the father. Pls don't get me wrong here having both parent is quite splendid but never a measure to determine the child's coming out good or not.

Oladayo12:
Yes you are perfectly right bro, some women are truly going through hell either divorced or not. But the op's wife seems to be working, she should be able to raise her kids up herself with or without a man.

Oladayo12:
I'm pretty sure the man will outrightly object her from buying the car for her mum had it been she informed him before hand, but all the same she should have notify him about it. That aside, He should go ahead with his divorce, i wonder why some men feel like they're doing a woman great favour by marrying her.

Sixfeetbelle:
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Being married doesn't entail all your finances be put into one purse. Couples have joint account then they also have their personal account. Whatever he/she does with it is their personal business but once they are needed to support the family's finances and they fail to do so, that's when it becomes an issue.

Let me ask you, if the situation was reversed, what would be your argument?

Sixfeetbelle:
Your friend is overexaggerating and should calm down. If there was no incentive to put resources together, her buying her mom a car from her own personal account should be no issue. Otherwise, the wife did badly.

But if he wants a divorce, he should go ahead. Immature people shouldn't be married anyways.

UncleJJ:
Regina did nothing wrong.

She decided to marry the man with the money, and not sleep with men for money.
Her decision should be instructive for your sisters and mine.

That the only bargaining chip a woman has for a good husband is her youth. And if she cashes that chip once a good suitor arrives, she will not end up like many marriages we see on nairaland daily.

Such as
- wife sleep with boss for promotion
- husband second child belongs to husbands best friend
- wife is not sexually satisfied
- wife does not respect husband
- husband says wifes vagi-na is slack
- wife has not conceived after years of marriage
- husband sleeps with maid because of her taut derriere

I have to agree with @Ybaby Regina married well. If she did otherwise, she would have certainly ended up like most
Nollywood actresses; sexual enslaved and eventually slut shamed by people like yourself.

Ybaby:
Where did I say Regina Daniel's is a role model?

She has a choice. What problem do you have with her choice. Imagine her marrying you and making the same mistake her mother made marrying her dad.

2 generations as a man's ladder?

Donot take me seriously I donot need your validation, i only need you to pay your kids school fees

That's all

Ybaby:
Join the whatsapp group

Grab the mop

cooooooks:
This is not a gender war.

Men. Stop bankrolling women with nothing to offer. Stop toasting every woman and girl you see on the road. How won't a girl be entitled when grown men have been toasting her since she was 12? How won't she be entitled to pay men back when someone close to home had sex with her when she was 11??

Women. Date only who you live and respect. Don't bankroll a man you despise just because he makes you feel good. Follow your heart and not your checklist.

These gender wars are meaningless.

Ybaby:
Infidels connect.

Form a whatsapp group name it

Fathers who don't pay school fees

Or

The irresponsible fathers

Or

Lazy men meet

The perfect name is

Married men who mop

Just be creative dear

Getsaved:
You nailed it absolutely man, but this your moniker get as e be o. I be wan follow you before but nah.

Back to the point, I am not married sha, but in as much as you said a 100% truth about the family life, there is something you did not add. In as much as we men expect our wife to support us financially by working, I think we should help them at home with shores - learning to cook when they are not around, assisting them in washing clothes ( i mean when they wash we can rinse with them in love), carrying baby sometimes ( not backing baby outside o, just helping her shaking baby to sleep while she works), fetching water for her e.t.c. We can do it with wisdom and love and increase in it when they are pregnant or not feeling too well. And the women should not taking it as a norm to "seeing the husband finish" and disrespect the man the day he did not do these shores. I mean, How can my wife be working and afer been stressed at work, i will allow only her to be working as a woman at home ? How una see am?

KingSatan:
As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus".

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

CrazyOptimist:
Come on - first of all, Trump doesn't give a damn about religion. Secondly, people can pray without being in their house of worship. Many houses of worship are live-streaming their services.

amanikondo:
You are utterly dumb. Was that caused by Donald Trump or Coronavirus? Zombie.

Even if you are not working today, the Trump govenment is paying $600 per week due to coronavirus if you lost your job. Plus more from the state asshole

amanikondo:
My uncle of 70 years just told trump economy is best he has ever experienced in the US.
The American media like Clinton Network News (CNN) brainwashes people. The owner of CNN specifically instructed CNN to always attacked Trump. I just searched and it has been scrubbed from the internet.

DamZik:
A dead Trump is one million times better than a living Buhari.

Emma1Oj:
I so much love the part where he said" if they don't reopen the place of worship I will override them" oh how I love that statement. this is a leader not that tin I voted for in abuja.

wisino1:
This is a president that knows the efficacy of prayers and God word. and also since the election is around the corner he is banking on the large number of vote from the Christian in American to come through for him again.....God bless American...God bless Nigeria... God bless Donald Trump

emusmithyy:
Trump is a Christian.

He believes in God. It's hard to find a president who speaks for God as he is.

I believe he's there because God wanted him there.

Genset:
She is stating the fact and the truth and u know it. Better go and work hard. 90% of problems on this section is caused by lack of finance and the woman having to overwork herself and ends up complaining bitterly. In Africa, finances has never being the women role no matter how much they earn. They always complain bitterly when they have to do it because she is overburdening herself with two different roles which is providing and still having to take care of the home whilst the man sits and does nothing.

erubasa:
The only problem killer and solver is Jesus. When you hold on to him tight he will pass through your challenges and troubles. Hold fast to him for courage

kingxsamz:
I don't.
And whoever says he has an explanation is either delusional or insane.
I thought I made this clear to you already.

wonuks:
I'm not about to convince you to dump your belief in nothing. I'm just telling you that God is not something you go-to lab to prove. He does not need proof. Only a fool says that there's no God. You can choose to take or leave it. That's my believe and it's working for me

Humanoid01:
The afterlife is not a duplicate of this life. It is not a "second chance" , but rather an aftereffect of this life. The belief that you're going to give account of the life you live here should make you value it. Therefore, the afterlife is not in itself appealing. Those who take their lives;

1. Don't believe in the existence of an afterlife.

OR

2. Have a misconceived idea of what the afterlife is about.

That is why we need to discover our individual purposes of existence and fulfil it. Most people are afraid of dying (including those who believe in the afterlife and those who don't). This means that there is something within our subconscious minds that signals the existence of an eternal world which is determined by the kind of life we live here. This should make an atheist reconsider his stance on the existence of God and who He really is.

Humanoid01:
If this is the only life we have, then you have every reason to support his act as an atheist. If this is the only life we have, then what difference does it make when he dies since he will be unconscious forever? Everybody should just commit suicide and go into extinction since this is the only life we have. Don't you think so?

EmekaMD:
if a man with NEPA bill as a certificate is leading u and ur so called professors then who are you to question Kanu's educational qualifications.

You can disagree with Kanu all you want but one thing that is certain is that that dude is well learned and smart. Can ur Buhari win him in any intellectual debate ?

Nusooo:
Read the statement in full: “Good to see that Nigeria, her failed government and opposition come to my page to receive free education in History, Civics, Constitutional Governance and Democracy. Very soon I have to start charging them.”
“Last night I wrote in my penultimate post that “Boss Mustapha made an announcement which the Vice President, Yemi Osinbajo ought to have made in the absence of Mr President.

“It is an abomination in a democracy for a mere political appointee to issue a directive to citizens who cannot hold him accountable through the ballot box.

“This is Government 101.The TV station knew that was not only wrong and democratically untenable, it was a subversion of the Constitution and will of the people.

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2020/05/nnamdi-kanu-to-fg-ill-start-charging-you-for-free-education-on-my-facebook-page/

Article number: 5

(1) Subject to the provisions of this Constitution, the executive powers of the Federation-
(a) shall be vested in the President and may, subject as aforesaid and to the provisions of any law made by the National Assembly, be exercised by him either directly or through the Vice-President or Ministers of the Government of the Federation or other officers in the public service of the Federation;

Smoke55:
what Should Baffle You Is How A Secondary School Drop Out And A Cow Herder Managed To Be Your President.

larrysworld:
The last I checked, the country actually heading for destruction is Nigeria, not America. He has every right to disclose what he is using IF he wants to, there is nothing irresponsible about it; it is called transparency. What might be irresponsible is to disclose other people using it without their consent. The drug has been approved 40 years ago Bro...

trutht828:
Point to where he said he takes the drug daily

“I happen to be taking it. I happen to be taking it. I’m taking it, hydroxychloroquine. Right now, yeah. A couple weeks ago I started taking it. Because I think it’s good, I heard a lot of good stories … I take a pill every day.”
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/may/18/trump-taking-hydroxychloroquine-covid-19-fda-warnings

eyinjuege:
British medical journal and American journals have done their studies and both conclude hydroxychloroquine does not treat the covid, but rather causes a lot of abnormal heart rhythms .