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Ishilove:Yes my dear. That's why it's called a marriage. Otherwise, you two should have been living as boyfriend and girlfriend without the need or trouble of signing a contract to "love honour and obey" and "till death do us part". It seems most Nigerians enter a marriage contract without even understanding the meaning of marriage. In addition; the husband too must inform his wife before making any major expense that might affect the fortunes of the family. It will be wrong for the man to buy an iPhone 11 for his sister, while the wife is using Itel A20. |
Eastlink:You've got so many things mixed up that I don't even know where to start. I am from NTA family, so I can tell you about the evolution of television, videos and films in Nigeria. Prior to FESTAC77, there were no commercial recording and playback appliances in Nigeria. Only NTA had what was called AMPEX in the 60s and U-Matic in the 70s. The first commercial recording and playback appliance was Sony Betamax. Later VHS took over with VHS around 1980. So how could movies be made and and sold to Nigerians before the coming of Sony Betamax? Even abroad prior to the late 70s films were made only on celluloid. Hubert Ogunde made films on celluloid and showed it in cinemas halls all over Nigeria. I remember him coming to University of Ife in the late 80 and showed Aiye. Nollywood started making films when igbo traders started selling and dealing with VHS tapes. The Things fall apart that was released in 1987 as a 13 part series shown on NTA was the real first movie with actual locations sold on tape to Nigerians? You obviously have no idea of what you are saying. |
Abbeybailey:It's not that Nigerians are passive, the problem afflicting Nigeria and Africa as a whole is the twin evil of religion and tribalism. Religions leaders conspire with political leaders to pacify the masses with pacifist and submissive doctrines. They both milk the masses of their resources. This lead to situation where the people are taught to put their fate in the hands of God or miracles. Tribalism is a weapon that is used to shield our leaders of any wrong doing. I call it "she is our sister syndrome". When ever a leader commits a crime, his tribe is ready to protect them, because he or she is from our tribe. They justify it by saying that when crimes are commited by other tribes, they are not punished. |
Jasparrow1:I agree Nollywood belongs to the igbos, but film making in Nigeria was pioneered by the Yorubas. Besides, Nollywood is beginning to lose its relevance as video and films are going online. Online streaming service and YouTube is gradually taking over. |
Jasparrow1:Yorubas pioneered the movie industry. When Hubert Ogunde was making films in the early 70s most Nollywood actors and producers were not born yet. |
budaatum:I cannot like your post enough. A people get the leaders they deserve. |
[quote author= post=89915877]I want to propose Nairaland Media tour between east and west, some Yorubas here to visit and tour eastern states and Igbos also to tour Western states during holidays. Cc. Pazienza, LegendHero, Ritchiee, Simplyleo, Covidodo, Nwanyiogwashi, Adadike, etc[/quote]Although at first glance it sounds like a brilliant proposal, but on close introspection it's not a good idea. The main reason being that of scale. It's very difficult comparing two entities with very different scales. It's like comparing a river and an ocean and asking which one has the bigger, smaller, finer or numerous fishes. Let me explain further. The total landmass of the 5 eastern states is approximately 30,000 square kms while the total landmass of the south west is approximately 80,000 square kms. The south west is more than 2 and a half times bigger than the south east. Obviously the south west will have more developed areas than the south east, at the same time it will have also more undeveloped areas and slums. There would more roads, bridges, schools, hospitals, stadiums, etc., simply because of size alone. If we are talking about more modern structures, the south east capitals should have a lot (i still doubted the number would be more than that of south west), simply because most of the cities of the East were destroyed in the aftermath of the civil war and most structures had to be rebuild (the Nigerian state failed woefully to rebuild the infrastructure). Most of the houses were build after the civil war and thus more modern. In the south west you will find lots of colonial and even pre colonial structures still standing. Lots of its capital still have the colonial look and feel. It's like comparing an ancient city Rome to modern cities like Singapore or Dubai. |
Therapyken:Clinton that had been engulfed in sex scandals through out his career culminating in the Monica Lewinski scandal that led to his impeachment does not qualify him a sex machine? What of Trump that has had 3 marriages, multiple relationships, over 25 sex abuse allegations, known to patronise prostitutes does not qualify? What of Obasanjo that has no idea of the actual number of children fathered by him. He was even accused of sleeping with his daughter in law? Should we discuss the sex lives, sports stars, music stars, actors or business moguls? Highly successful and motivated people exhibit very high sexual energies among other energies. You will be surprised that even highly successful pastors and Reverend fathers exhibit higher sexual energies than Solomon of the bible, it's just that it's hidden and covered most of the time. |
Therapyken:Press reports of various sex a canals, number of wives, number of children by multiple women, accusations of sexual harassment by numerous women, etc. |
Whikky:Don't mind him, if sex shatters destiny you think Trump, Clinton, Obasanjo and others will be president? Check the sex lives of top businessmen, sportsmen or entertainers, you will discover they are sex machines. |
ProfAmaben:Olumba Olumba also claimed to be God |
ThatFairGuy:I am an atheist, simply because I believe religion has been used by our enslavers to enslave us forever. They gave us bible and koran but withold science, education and industrialisation. They teach you Boko is Haram. They build educational and research institutes in their countries but build and sponsor mosques and madrasa in our own country. People have been disobeying Allah from very beginning and people will disobey Allah till the end. I know it's your duty to put those that disobey Allah to the sword or the bomb, as Allah seems incapable of fighting for himself. The irony is that those country that purports to be obeying Allah is where you will find the greatest poverty, hunger, wars and violence in the world, ie Afghanistan, Yemen, Iraq, Indonesia, Northern Nigeria, etc., while those that don't care about all have little or no poverty and violence, ie Norway, Switzerland, Australia, Japan, South Korea. |
ThatFairGuy:Why is it sad for you? Out of all the huge problems confronting the world - poverty, hunger, illiteracy, wars, terrorism, diseases (including millions dying right now of coronavirus ), it is who people choose to have sex with that is making you sad |
sotall:Don't mind holier than thou religious fundamentalists, they are so obsessed with sex, that they think of sex 99 times a day (according to Sigmund Freud). If you don't want to have sex (illicit or otherwise ), that's your personal business, it is crazy to push your sexual preferences or otherwise on other people. Sex that every living thing on earth (including plants ) engage in, is what some religious fundamentalists will not let us hear word about. |
flyingpig:A bill is a proposed law submitted to the national assembly for assent. An executive order is a law made only by the president that bypasses the national assembly. Yes, the president knows that the national assembly might not even consider the bill should he sent it first to the national assembly. As he opted to use the executive order route, the fight for financial and political autonomy will be fought in public. We will see all those against the autonomy of the judiciary and local government in the open, and all blames should not be heaped on Buhari. A Good fall out is that the battle will be fought in the judiciary, we shall see if the judiciary too will fight for its own independence. |
ibietela2:Because financial and political autonomy are all essential parts of TRUE FEDERALISM. |
Lostz:You are right.... but, it would go all the way to the Supreme Court, which can take a few years. The status quo will be maintained (meaning the executive order will be in force) while the case works it's way up the Supreme Court. |
Ordinary judicial and legislative autonomy, which should be fulcrum of a federation, politicians are against, and you think they would support financial and political autonomy aka restructuring and resource control. Even the local governments rejected their own financial autonomy from state governors. Nigerians politics is mainly about self interest rather than group interests. |
Lostz:And which national assembly would pass the law granting judiciary and state legislators autonomy? Certainly not governor controlled senators and house members. |
Oladayo12:Believe me, in my relatively short life on earth, I have seen and experienced a lot. I know lots of highly successful single mothers. Their children hardly end up well. Most I know end up being drug addicts or never self sufficient, but depend on their mothers for life. Don't get me wrong, even children raised by both parents can end up wayward and there are a few children raised by single mothers that end up rounded and successful, it just that statistically, children raised by single mothers end up being wayward. I think it nature. Children fear and respect their fathers more than mothers in their teen years. It is after the teen years that the equation sometimes changes. |
Oladayo12:It depends on who run the upkeep for the house. Family expenses for a 6 months to 1 year period will buy most cars (tokunbo). If the wife runs the house alone, then she has some right to buy a car for whomsoever, but if it's the man that runs the house or it is being done jointly, then it is wrong for the woman to buy the car without consulting her husband. Even if the woman is financially buoyant and able to raise the kids herself, a woman raising kid alone without a father or father figure hardly ends well. |
Oladayo12:Divorce is harder on women in this part of the world than on men. It's very difficult for a woman with 3 or 4 children to start all over again. If the children are still young, they stay with the mother. A man can simply disappear and start a new family. Men in these parts are not forced to pay child support. |
Sixfeetbelle:No one is saying that all finances must be put into one purse, what I am saying is that major family decision that involves huge capital must be discussed and agreed upon in a marriage. Family current and future family expenses are are huge; the cost of education in Nigeria is huge. I already pay up to 500,000 every 3 months for school fees for 3 children (one in secondary and two in primary). I shudder to imagine what I would be paying when they get to university. All these in the face of dwindling economic realities in Nigeria. If my wife or I is making huge profit or money now, it is sensible to discuss savings for a rainy day (maybe start contributing money to an education fund for the children ) As a family, we should prioritise and plan for the future. The bane of Africa (both families and societies ) is our inability to plan for the future, and that is the reason we are getting poorer and poorer. If my wife use her money to buy car for her mother, when we have crucial family needs, I will be very upset. I would not even complain openly, but know that I will start prioritising personal expenses over family ones, and I will stop buying any thing for her. |
Sixfeetbelle:That is a very selfish behaviour. You say her own personal account should be no issue, but his own personal account should be an issue, right? The guy might the responsible for the house rent, feeding, school fees, medical expenses of the family, utilities, etc., and most probably, that was why he has not been able to buy a car for himself. And here you have the wife using "her own personal account" to buy a car for her own mother without consulting the husband. A woman that puts her extended family before her nuclear family is not worth to be called a wife. |
UncleJJ:Even though I believe people should be free to live their lives as they deem fit as long as it is in consonance with the law, I would never support any of my 16 year old (or is it 18 years) female relative getting married to a 65 year old grand father for all the billions in this world. It's just immoral. She decided to marry the man with the money, and not sleep with men for money.Her decision should never be instructive to my sisters. I can never support my 16 year old sister getting married to a 65 year old man. My family does not play with female education. Itsekiris and Niger Deltans in general teach their daughters to be self sufficient and not depend on men for survival. That the only bargaining chip a woman has for a good husband is her youth. And if she cashes that chip once a good suitor arrives, she will not end up like many marriages we see on nairaland daily.The only bargaining chip a woman has is not her youth. It depends on what the prospective husband wants in a woman. If it's just sex and a trophy piece, then youth is the most important. But, if it is companionship, intellect, good manners, ability to manage a home, contributions to the family, etc., then youth or should I say looks takes a less important role. Youth can get a woman a husband, but can youth keep a husband? If youth is the only bargaining chip a woman has in finding a husband, what happens after youth withers and disappears. Once a woman drop one or two babies, youth will disappear like abracadabra, what then happens? The man abandones the old cargo in search of a fresh youth. I call that the Ned Nwoko effect, because he is on his 6th wife. He married a Moroccan wife a couple of years earlier. Such asAll the above has little to do with husbands not bringing in enough money. It has more to do with promiscuity and lack of self conyrol of the woman. Many of these women sleep with old poor boyfriends, drivers, cable men, even pastors who are much poorer than thier husbands. I have to agree with @Ybaby Regina married well. If she did otherwise, she would have certainly ended up like mostA 16 year old girl that married a 65 year old man as a 6th wife married well? So what's the future of the marriage? How will the children she will have for him fare in the overall scheme of things? There are many Nollywood actresses that are happily married. |
Ybaby:You obviously did not follow the Reginald Daniels story. The reason given by Reginald Daniels father for the break up of the marriage was definitely not lack of provision from the father. He accused the mother of infidelity. I am sure the man realized that Rita Daniels was only after gold and had no iota of love for him. The father is a Lagos based lawyer and he has raised another family. |
Ybaby:Believe me, I would not mind. If fact I am in the office I am doing for my wife right now and people are mopping the floor, I would not mind joining them. |
cooooooks:The women don't realize that they cannot win an gender war. They fail to realize that they bloom only for a relatively shot period and they become withered. After the flowering age of between 16 to about 30, the only other value they possess is their intelligence, skills and education. A man can start his life at 50. So many abandon previous families and start a new one, ie Ojukwu, FFK, Danjuma and lots more. It's the women that eventually loses. |
Ybaby:And mothers are forbidden from paying their children's school fees? Many people on this forum had their school fees paid by women - mothers, aunties, grand mothers. And you have not seen irresponsible mothers who leave their children to suffer and sleep around with different men. So what's wrong with men who mop? I don't understand what you are always getting at. Are you saying that a man should no mop or wash plates if he is chanced and his wife is not able to. I stopped taking you serious after you mentioned Regina Daniels as a role model. It betrays the values and morals you were brought up with. I just feel sorry for the man you cunningly trapped with fake love, when all you are after is an escape from poverty. |
Getsaved:You will be surprised that women that parasitically live on men are the very lazy ones. They don't cook well that is if they cook at all, they don't wash well and relies on washing machines, dry cleaners or housemaids and are terrible at taking care of babies. They simply tie wrapper all day while watching African Magic or telemundo. They are even lazy in the other room, they just lie on the bed like dead wood and expect you to do all the movements. I had experience with one while I was still a play boy. All these chores are no big deal in today's world. I have washing machines to wash basic cloths and children's uniforms. I have borehole and running water. I cook occasionally for the whole family. My children even prefer my cooking. All the while I provide 100% for my family. It all depends on situations and circumstances. If today i am unable to provide and my wife is in a position to, I expect her to do so without flinching. If both of us are earning something substantial, I expect both of us to have a family account made up from contributions from both of us, from where family upkeep and expenses are made. That's why it's called a family, both partners should discuss and plan for the general wellbeing of the family. Marriage should not be seen as a poverty escape mechanism. |
KingSatan:Oga, nothing more to add. Nigerian women don't want to settle for entitled men, but expect men to settle for entitled women. Dem go tey for bus stop. |
CrazyOptimist:Don't mind them. Trump that can recite just one verse of the bible. Trump has their mumu button or should I say maga button. |
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