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Family › Re: My Friend Threatens To Divorce Wife Over This Issue by wirinet(m): 8:54pm On May 25, 2020
Ishilove:
Ehhhh, so I have to consult my husband before I can spend my own personal money? huh undecided
Yes my dear. That's why it's called a marriage. Otherwise, you two should have been living as boyfriend and girlfriend without the need or trouble of signing a contract to "love honour and obey" and "till death do us part".

It seems most Nigerians enter a marriage contract without even understanding the meaning of marriage.

In addition; the husband too must inform his wife before making any major expense that might affect the fortunes of the family. It will be wrong for the man to buy an iPhone 11 for his sister, while the wife is using Itel A20.
Politics › Re: Propose Nairaland Media Tour Between East And West by wirinet(m): 8:46pm On May 25, 2020
Eastlink:
Yoruba didn't pioneer film making in Nigeria. The British actually began filming documentaries before independence. And yes there were indigenous documentaries that time but Government had control over production and distribution of films.

What Hubert Ogunde produced was his threatre plays which he recorded in celluloid as a means to sell to wider audience. There were so many theatre production as of them and many weren't filmed as Ogunde’s.
You Yoruba’s keep saying Ogunde was the pioneer of filming in Nigeria and yet the government records don't agree with you. As long as the government agrees, only government stations we're allowed to produced films and they were regulations to that effect.

The so-called Ogunde films are recorded theatre production. What is holding you from showing Nigerians the so-called film produced by Ogunde? You know you can't because it will expose you guys as fraud. Wikipedia rewriting won't save you guys.

In the past we had series such as Masquerade by NTA Enugu and Village Headmaster by NTA ibadan. but despite that it didn't start the movie industry. What NTA did was to revolutionized filming in Nigeria.
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Hiwever, thre real first movie with actual locations and later sold on tape to Nigerians was ’Things fall apart’ which was a joint venture by the BBC and NTA. The Nigerian movie storyline today had it's fitting from that production.

It was through this wonderful production team that the likes if Amaka Igwe etc emerge from to kickstart the Nigerian movie i-started. And with the assistance of Babangida who promulgated the liberation decree, the stage was set for private film and movie production and Living in bondage was birthed in 1992!
You've got so many things mixed up that I don't even know where to start.
I am from NTA family, so I can tell you about the evolution of television, videos and films in Nigeria. Prior to FESTAC77, there were no commercial recording and playback appliances in Nigeria. Only NTA had what was called AMPEX in the 60s and U-Matic in the 70s. The first commercial recording and playback appliance was Sony Betamax. Later VHS took over with VHS around 1980. So how could movies be made and and sold to Nigerians before the coming of Sony Betamax?

Even abroad prior to the late 70s films were made only on celluloid. Hubert Ogunde made films on celluloid and showed it in cinemas halls all over Nigeria. I remember him coming to University of Ife in the late 80 and showed Aiye. Nollywood started making films when igbo traders started selling and dealing with VHS tapes.

The Things fall apart that was released in 1987 as a 13 part series shown on NTA was the real first movie with actual locations sold on tape to Nigerians? You obviously have no idea of what you are saying.
Foreign Affairs › Re: American Politics Thread: Trump Is The 47th President! by wirinet(m): 7:28pm On May 25, 2020
Abbeybailey:
Our people ( Nigerians ) are very passive. I can't even comprehend Americans going through what Nigerians are going through without bloody revolution. It's true the people deserve the leadership they get and that's why a lot of us are fighting tooth and nail to hold the feet of our Leaders to fire. That applies to all not Trump alone and that's what makes a country great.
It's not that Nigerians are passive, the problem afflicting Nigeria and Africa as a whole is the twin evil of religion and tribalism. Religions leaders conspire with political leaders to pacify the masses with pacifist and submissive doctrines. They both milk the masses of their resources. This lead to situation where the people are taught to put their fate in the hands of God or miracles.

Tribalism is a weapon that is used to shield our leaders of any wrong doing. I call it "she is our sister syndrome". When ever a leader commits a crime, his tribe is ready to protect them, because he or she is from our tribe. They justify it by saying that when crimes are commited by other tribes, they are not punished.
Politics › Re: Propose Nairaland Media Tour Between East And West by wirinet(m): 7:13pm On May 25, 2020
Jasparrow1:
Abegi, make person here word with this una pioneer rubbish. Nollywood belongs to the Igbos. Period!!
I agree Nollywood belongs to the igbos, but film making in Nigeria was pioneered by the Yorubas.

Besides, Nollywood is beginning to lose its relevance as video and films are going online. Online streaming service and YouTube is gradually taking over.
Politics › Re: Propose Nairaland Media Tour Between East And West by wirinet(m): 7:01pm On May 25, 2020
Jasparrow1:
Which of the Yoruba movies are more popular than Igbo movies. Do you even have a movie industry grin grin
Yorubas pioneered the movie industry. When Hubert Ogunde was making films in the early 70s most Nollywood actors and producers were not born yet.
Foreign Affairs › Re: American Politics Thread: Trump Is The 47th President! by wirinet(m): 6:53pm On May 25, 2020
budaatum:
You speak as if those "Nigerian politicians" came from Mars to rule over the citizens of Nigeria instead of being citizens themselves and elected by the citizens. It's a convenient trick I find used by those who do not consider themselves complicit in the country being in the state its in. Such people would call Nigeria a zoo but refuse to accept that they themselves are the animals caged by their own bad thinking.

Sorry, but my position is, we the citizens are responsible for our leaders, and if they are bad, we should perhaps fix our thinking that makes us elect them instead of irresponsibly blaming others for our own ill-judgement and choice. It's we who after all suffer from our bad choices and not those we have placed in positions of enrichment, and definitely not Martians!
I cannot like your post enough. A people get the leaders they deserve.
Politics › Re: Propose Nairaland Media Tour Between East And West by wirinet(m): 8:33am On May 25, 2020
[quote author= post=89915877]I want to propose Nairaland Media tour between east and west, some Yorubas here to visit and tour eastern states and Igbos also to tour Western states during holidays.

Cc.

Pazienza, LegendHero, Ritchiee, Simplyleo, Covidodo, Nwanyiogwashi, Adadike, etc[/quote]Although at first glance it sounds like a brilliant proposal, but on close introspection it's not a good idea. The main reason being that of scale. It's very difficult comparing two entities with very different scales. It's like comparing a river and an ocean and asking which one has the bigger, smaller, finer or numerous fishes.

Let me explain further.
The total landmass of the 5 eastern states is approximately 30,000 square kms while the total landmass of the south west is approximately 80,000 square kms. The south west is more than 2 and a half times bigger than the south east. Obviously the south west will have more developed areas than the south east, at the same time it will have also more undeveloped areas and slums. There would more roads, bridges, schools, hospitals, stadiums, etc., simply because of size alone.
If we are talking about more modern structures, the south east capitals should have a lot (i still doubted the number would be more than that of south west), simply because most of the cities of the East were destroyed in the aftermath of the civil war and most structures had to be rebuild (the Nigerian state failed woefully to rebuild the infrastructure). Most of the houses were build after the civil war and thus more modern. In the south west you will find lots of colonial and even pre colonial structures still standing. Lots of its capital still have the colonial look and feel. It's like comparing an ancient city Rome to modern cities like Singapore or Dubai.
Christianity Etc › Re: Breaking Every Connection With Your Sex Partners by wirinet(m): 7:41am On May 25, 2020
Therapyken:
So from these infomation you can conclude whether they are sex machines or not abi?
Clinton that had been engulfed in sex scandals through out his career culminating in the Monica Lewinski scandal that led to his impeachment does not qualify him a sex machine?

What of Trump that has had 3 marriages, multiple relationships, over 25 sex abuse allegations, known to patronise prostitutes does not qualify?

What of Obasanjo that has no idea of the actual number of children fathered by him. He was even accused of sleeping with his daughter in law?

Should we discuss the sex lives, sports stars, music stars, actors or business moguls?

Highly successful and motivated people exhibit very high sexual energies among other energies. You will be surprised that even highly successful pastors and Reverend fathers exhibit higher sexual energies than Solomon of the bible, it's just that it's hidden and covered most of the time.
Christianity Etc › Re: Breaking Every Connection With Your Sex Partners by wirinet(m): 7:17am On May 25, 2020
Therapyken:
And where can the sex lives of these individuals be checked?
Press reports of various sex a canals, number of wives, number of children by multiple women, accusations of sexual harassment by numerous women, etc.
Christianity Etc › Re: Breaking Every Connection With Your Sex Partners by wirinet(m): 7:06pm On May 24, 2020
Whikky:
smiley



How does it shatter destiny?
Don't mind him, if sex shatters destiny you think Trump, Clinton, Obasanjo and others will be president? Check the sex lives of top businessmen, sportsmen or entertainers, you will discover they are sex machines.
Crime › Re: Young Banker Commits Suicide In Lagos (photo) by wirinet(m): 12:55pm On May 24, 2020
ProfAmaben:
They said Christ is God na
Olumba Olumba also claimed to be God
Christianity Etc › Re: Breaking Every Connection With Your Sex Partners by wirinet(m): 12:44pm On May 24, 2020
ThatFairGuy:
I hope you are not an atheist. Even if you are!
I'm a Muslim, we read and was made to know that, ONCE PEOPLE START DISOBEYING ALLAH(GOD), the mercy of Allah(SW) will be remove gradually on Earth. Hence the hunger, poverty and all sorts.
In this context, Sexual immorality is the topic which sourced for MY SADNESS.
I am an atheist, simply because I believe religion has been used by our enslavers to enslave us forever. They gave us bible and koran but withold science, education and industrialisation. They teach you Boko is Haram. They build educational and research institutes in their countries but build and sponsor mosques and madrasa in our own country.

People have been disobeying Allah from very beginning and people will disobey Allah till the end. I know it's your duty to put those that disobey Allah to the sword or the bomb, as Allah seems incapable of fighting for himself. The irony is that those country that purports to be obeying Allah is where you will find the greatest poverty, hunger, wars and violence in the world, ie Afghanistan, Yemen, Iraq, Indonesia, Northern Nigeria, etc., while those that don't care about all have little or no poverty and violence, ie Norway, Switzerland, Australia, Japan, South Korea.
Christianity Etc › Re: Breaking Every Connection With Your Sex Partners by wirinet(m): 11:26am On May 24, 2020
ThatFairGuy:
This age, majority doesn't see sexual immorality as a sin but civilization. Very bad
Why is it sad for you? Out of all the huge problems confronting the world - poverty, hunger, illiteracy, wars, terrorism, diseases (including millions dying right now of coronavirus ), it is who people choose to have sex with that is making you sad
Christianity Etc › Re: Breaking Every Connection With Your Sex Partners by wirinet(m): 11:23am On May 24, 2020
sotall:
undecided


You dont need any religious book or word of God to tell you how to practise safe sex.

If religious books were a solution to sexual immorality, news about Christian and muslim cleric sexually harassing members wont be in our ears on a daily basis.


You cant tell everyone to abstain from sex because the amount of sex hormones responsible for sexual urges differs in people.

Rather give them safe options like masturbation and condoms.
Don't mind holier than thou religious fundamentalists, they are so obsessed with sex, that they think of sex 99 times a day (according to Sigmund Freud). If you don't want to have sex (illicit or otherwise ), that's your personal business, it is crazy to push your sexual preferences or otherwise on other people.

Sex that every living thing on earth (including plants ) engage in, is what some religious fundamentalists will not let us hear word about.
Politics › Re: Governors Kick As Buhari Okays Financial Autonomy For Assemblies, Judiciary by wirinet(m): 7:59am On May 24, 2020
flyingpig:
What's difference between bill and executive order and does it mean buhari understands a bill won't be approved by national assembly, hence opting for an executive order instead?

Will the executive order remain in effect beyond his tenure or at the end of his tenure
A bill is a proposed law submitted to the national assembly for assent. An executive order is a law made only by the president that bypasses the national assembly.

Yes, the president knows that the national assembly might not even consider the bill should he sent it first to the national assembly. As he opted to use the executive order route, the fight for financial and political autonomy will be fought in public. We will see all those against the autonomy of the judiciary and local government in the open, and all blames should not be heaped on Buhari.

A Good fall out is that the battle will be fought in the judiciary, we shall see if the judiciary too will fight for its own independence.
Politics › Re: Governors Kick As Buhari Okays Financial Autonomy For Assemblies, Judiciary by wirinet(m): 7:38am On May 24, 2020
ibietela2:
Why not just TRUE FEDERALISM?
Because financial and political autonomy are all essential parts of TRUE FEDERALISM.
Politics › Re: Governors Kick As Buhari Okays Financial Autonomy For Assemblies, Judiciary by wirinet(m): 7:36am On May 24, 2020
Lostz:
it takes one high court judge to suspend executive order or throw it out
You are right.... but, it would go all the way to the Supreme Court, which can take a few years. The status quo will be maintained (meaning the executive order will be in force) while the case works it's way up the Supreme Court.
Politics › Re: Governors Kick As Buhari Okays Financial Autonomy For Assemblies, Judiciary by wirinet(m): 7:32am On May 24, 2020
Ordinary judicial and legislative autonomy, which should be fulcrum of a federation, politicians are against, and you think they would support financial and political autonomy aka restructuring and resource control. Even the local governments rejected their own financial autonomy from state governors.

Nigerians politics is mainly about self interest rather than group interests.
Politics › Re: Governors Kick As Buhari Okays Financial Autonomy For Assemblies, Judiciary by wirinet(m): 7:27am On May 24, 2020
Lostz:
who in his right sense even joined the judiciary and state legislature with the executive?

the duara should send a bill to the national assembly so it will become law instead of using executive order
And which national assembly would pass the law granting judiciary and state legislators autonomy?
Certainly not governor controlled senators and house members.
Family › Re: My Friend Threatens To Divorce Wife Over This Issue by wirinet(m): 8:32pm On May 23, 2020
Oladayo12:
The deed has been done already & she has apoligised, i disagree with your last statement bro some men out there are mere figure head i'm sure you know that. some women can singlehandedly raise a child successfully without a man while some obviously can't. Also, it takes the grace of God and not the presence of the father. Pls don't get me wrong here having both parent is quite splendid but never a measure to determine the child's coming out good or not.
Believe me, in my relatively short life on earth, I have seen and experienced a lot. I know lots of highly successful single mothers. Their children hardly end up well. Most I know end up being drug addicts or never self sufficient, but depend on their mothers for life.
Don't get me wrong, even children raised by both parents can end up wayward and there are a few children raised by single mothers that end up rounded and successful, it just that statistically, children raised by single mothers end up being wayward.
I think it nature. Children fear and respect their fathers more than mothers in their teen years. It is after the teen years that the equation sometimes changes.
Family › Re: My Friend Threatens To Divorce Wife Over This Issue by wirinet(m): 7:39pm On May 23, 2020
Oladayo12:
Yes you are perfectly right bro, some women are truly going through hell either divorced or not. But the op's wife seems to be working, she should be able to raise her kids up herself with or without a man.
It depends on who run the upkeep for the house. Family expenses for a 6 months to 1 year period will buy most cars (tokunbo). If the wife runs the house alone, then she has some right to buy a car for whomsoever, but if it's the man that runs the house or it is being done jointly, then it is wrong for the woman to buy the car without consulting her husband.

Even if the woman is financially buoyant and able to raise the kids herself, a woman raising kid alone without a father or father figure hardly ends well.
Family › Re: My Friend Threatens To Divorce Wife Over This Issue by wirinet(m): 7:15pm On May 23, 2020
Oladayo12:
I'm pretty sure the man will outrightly object her from buying the car for her mum had it been she informed him before hand, but all the same she should have notify him about it. That aside, He should go ahead with his divorce, i wonder why some men feel like they're doing a woman great favour by marrying her.
Divorce is harder on women in this part of the world than on men. It's very difficult for a woman with 3 or 4 children to start all over again. If the children are still young, they stay with the mother. A man can simply disappear and start a new family. Men in these parts are not forced to pay child support.
Family › Re: My Friend Threatens To Divorce Wife Over This Issue by wirinet(m): 7:10pm On May 23, 2020
Sixfeetbelle:
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Being married doesn't entail all your finances be put into one purse. Couples have joint account then they also have their personal account. Whatever he/she does with it is their personal business but once they are needed to support the family's finances and they fail to do so, that's when it becomes an issue.

Let me ask you, if the situation was reversed, what would be your argument?
No one is saying that all finances must be put into one purse, what I am saying is that major family decision that involves huge capital must be discussed and agreed upon in a marriage. Family current and future family expenses are are huge; the cost of education in Nigeria is huge. I already pay up to 500,000 every 3 months for school fees for 3 children (one in secondary and two in primary). I shudder to imagine what I would be paying when they get to university. All these in the face of dwindling economic realities in Nigeria. If my wife or I is making huge profit or money now, it is sensible to discuss savings for a rainy day (maybe start contributing money to an education fund for the children )

As a family, we should prioritise and plan for the future. The bane of Africa (both families and societies ) is our inability to plan for the future, and that is the reason we are getting poorer and poorer.

If my wife use her money to buy car for her mother, when we have crucial family needs, I will be very upset. I would not even complain openly, but know that I will start prioritising personal expenses over family ones, and I will stop buying any thing for her.
Family › Re: My Friend Threatens To Divorce Wife Over This Issue by wirinet(m): 6:01pm On May 23, 2020
Sixfeetbelle:
Your friend is overexaggerating and should calm down. If there was no incentive to put resources together, her buying her mom a car from her own personal account should be no issue. Otherwise, the wife did badly.

But if he wants a divorce, he should go ahead. Immature people shouldn't be married anyways.
That is a very selfish behaviour. You say her own personal account should be no issue, but his own personal account should be an issue, right?

The guy might the responsible for the house rent, feeding, school fees, medical expenses of the family, utilities, etc., and most probably, that was why he has not been able to buy a car for himself. And here you have the wife using "her own personal account" to buy a car for her own mother without consulting the husband.

A woman that puts her extended family before her nuclear family is not worth to be called a wife.
Family › Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by wirinet(m): 4:23pm On May 23, 2020
UncleJJ:
Regina did nothing wrong.
Even though I believe people should be free to live their lives as they deem fit as long as it is in consonance with the law, I would never support any of my 16 year old (or is it 18 years) female relative getting married to a 65 year old grand father for all the billions in this world.
It's just immoral.


She decided to marry the man with the money, and not sleep with men for money.
Her decision should be instructive for your sisters and mine.
Her decision should never be instructive to my sisters. I can never support my 16 year old sister getting married to a 65 year old man. My family does not play with female education. Itsekiris and Niger Deltans in general teach their daughters to be self sufficient and not depend on men for survival.

That the only bargaining chip a woman has for a good husband is her youth. And if she cashes that chip once a good suitor arrives, she will not end up like many marriages we see on nairaland daily.
The only bargaining chip a woman has is not her youth. It depends on what the prospective husband wants in a woman. If it's just sex and a trophy piece, then youth is the most important. But, if it is companionship, intellect, good manners, ability to manage a home, contributions to the family, etc., then youth or should I say looks takes a less important role.

Youth can get a woman a husband, but can youth keep a husband? If youth is the only bargaining chip a woman has in finding a husband, what happens after youth withers and disappears. Once a woman drop one or two babies, youth will disappear like abracadabra, what then happens? The man abandones the old cargo in search of a fresh youth. I call that the Ned Nwoko effect, because he is on his 6th wife. He married a Moroccan wife a couple of years earlier.

Such as
- wife sleep with boss for promotion
- husband second child belongs to husbands best friend
- wife is not sexually satisfied
- wife does not respect husband
- husband says wifes vagi-na is slack
- wife has not conceived after years of marriage
- husband sleeps with maid because of her taut derriere
All the above has little to do with husbands not bringing in enough money. It has more to do with promiscuity and lack of self conyrol of the woman. Many of these women sleep with old poor boyfriends, drivers, cable men, even pastors who are much poorer than thier husbands.

I have to agree with @Ybaby Regina married well. If she did otherwise, she would have certainly ended up like most
Nollywood actresses; sexual enslaved and eventually slut shamed by people like yourself.
A 16 year old girl that married a 65 year old man as a 6th wife married well? So what's the future of the marriage? How will the children she will have for him fare in the overall scheme of things?

There are many Nollywood actresses that are happily married.
Family › Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by wirinet(m): 1:54pm On May 23, 2020
Ybaby:
Where did I say Regina Daniel's is a role model?

She has a choice. What problem do you have with her choice. Imagine her marrying you and making the same mistake her mother made marrying her dad.

2 generations as a man's ladder?

Donot take me seriously I donot need your validation, i only need you to pay your kids school fees

That's all
You obviously did not follow the Reginald Daniels story. The reason given by Reginald Daniels father for the break up of the marriage was definitely not lack of provision from the father. He accused the mother of infidelity. I am sure the man realized that Rita Daniels was only after gold and had no iota of love for him. The father is a Lagos based lawyer and he has raised another family.
Family › Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by wirinet(m): 1:49pm On May 23, 2020
Ybaby:
Join the whatsapp group

Grab the mop
Believe me, I would not mind. If fact I am in the office I am doing for my wife right now and people are mopping the floor, I would not mind joining them.
Family › Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by wirinet(m): 1:47pm On May 23, 2020
cooooooks:
This is not a gender war.

Men. Stop bankrolling women with nothing to offer. Stop toasting every woman and girl you see on the road. How won't a girl be entitled when grown men have been toasting her since she was 12? How won't she be entitled to pay men back when someone close to home had sex with her when she was 11??

Women. Date only who you live and respect. Don't bankroll a man you despise just because he makes you feel good. Follow your heart and not your checklist.

These gender wars are meaningless.
The women don't realize that they cannot win an gender war. They fail to realize that they bloom only for a relatively shot period and they become withered. After the flowering age of between 16 to about 30, the only other value they possess is their intelligence, skills and education. A man can start his life at 50. So many abandon previous families and start a new one, ie Ojukwu, FFK, Danjuma and lots more. It's the women that eventually loses.
Family › Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by wirinet(m): 1:40pm On May 23, 2020
Ybaby:
Infidels connect.

Form a whatsapp group name it

Fathers who don't pay school fees

Or

The irresponsible fathers

Or

Lazy men meet

The perfect name is

Married men who mop

Just be creative dear grin grin grin grin
And mothers are forbidden from paying their children's school fees? Many people on this forum had their school fees paid by women - mothers, aunties, grand mothers.

And you have not seen irresponsible mothers who leave their children to suffer and sleep around with different men.

So what's wrong with men who mop? I don't understand what you are always getting at. Are you saying that a man should no mop or wash plates if he is chanced and his wife is not able to.

I stopped taking you serious after you mentioned Regina Daniels as a role model. It betrays the values and morals you were brought up with.

I just feel sorry for the man you cunningly trapped with fake love, when all you are after is an escape from poverty.
Family › Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by wirinet(m):
Getsaved:
You nailed it absolutely man, but this your moniker get as e be o. I be wan follow you before but nah.

Back to the point, I am not married sha, but in as much as you said a 100% truth about the family life, there is something you did not add. In as much as we men expect our wife to support us financially by working, I think we should help them at home with shores - learning to cook when they are not around, assisting them in washing clothes ( i mean when they wash we can rinse with them in love), carrying baby sometimes ( not backing baby outside o, just helping her shaking baby to sleep while she works), fetching water for her e.t.c. We can do it with wisdom and love and increase in it when they are pregnant or not feeling too well. And the women should not taking it as a norm to "seeing the husband finish" and disrespect the man the day he did not do these shores. I mean, How can my wife be working and afer been stressed at work, i will allow only her to be working as a woman at home ? How una see am?
You will be surprised that women that parasitically live on men are the very lazy ones. They don't cook well that is if they cook at all, they don't wash well and relies on washing machines, dry cleaners or housemaids and are terrible at taking care of babies. They simply tie wrapper all day while watching African Magic or telemundo. They are even lazy in the other room, they just lie on the bed like dead wood and expect you to do all the movements. I had experience with one while I was still a play boy.

All these chores are no big deal in today's world. I have washing machines to wash basic cloths and children's uniforms. I have borehole and running water. I cook occasionally for the whole family. My children even prefer my cooking. All the while I provide 100% for my family.

It all depends on situations and circumstances. If today i am unable to provide and my wife is in a position to, I expect her to do so without flinching. If both of us are earning something substantial, I expect both of us to have a family account made up from contributions from both of us, from where family upkeep and expenses are made.

That's why it's called a family, both partners should discuss and plan for the general wellbeing of the family. Marriage should not be seen as a poverty escape mechanism.
Family › Re: The Biggest Mistake In Marriage Right Now For A Woman by wirinet(m): 8:24am On May 23, 2020
KingSatan:
As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus"wink.

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!
Oga, nothing more to add. Nigerian women don't want to settle for entitled men, but expect men to settle for entitled women.

Dem go tey for bus stop.
Foreign Affairs › Re: Trump Asks Governors To Reopen Churches & Mosques (Declares Them Essential) by wirinet(m): 8:09am On May 23, 2020
CrazyOptimist:
Come on - first of all, Trump doesn't give a damn about religion. Secondly, people can pray without being in their house of worship. Many houses of worship are live-streaming their services.
Don't mind them. Trump that can recite just one verse of the bible. Trump has their mumu button or should I say maga button.

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