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Opera Mini: Didn't really have much experience, though d babe took in immediately after wedding. I must confess I'd a strangely strong wife. I neva saw her vomit, was not sick 4 up to a week thro out d 9 months. She was only weak in d mornings, neva allowed me 2 cook 4 her, even d few times we went 2 d market 2geda was at my insistence. It was only much later in d pregnancy, did i start shaving her FCT, and dt was cos she could no longer do it. She told me she was pregnant just last night, n i look 4ward 2 a bigger role ds time, since we've a 2+ daughter in addition to cater for.

congratulopia... Season 2 has begun.

hmmm. Nice nice nice. God bless ur families.
know I'll meet someone great who'll gve me sth extra special to write too! Heheheeh. Show up fast o jare.

DailyNews: he came here honestly for advice, why are we castigating him and using demeaning words? That's not fair....@kadata, u must be so matured....to have given such a mature advice....@op, just pursue your life dreams of becoming great or whatever u dream....pursue your goals; viz, your academics, your career, your business, trade, in fact whatever career or activity you cherish, just pursue it with passion, ambition and always pray to God for success and help....and try all u can through fervent prayers too to become successful in whatever u chose to do in life, and then watch out how ladies of all status, class, age and social cadre will flock around you to be your friend and possibly lover, by then, sit back, smile, shake your head, think back and remember today with joy and make a wise choice out of the crowd....then, worship God always for helping you achieve your dreams! Just take it easy, women aren't the only source of joy and happiness, develop other means of deriving passion, for instance, I have no girlfriend, not one, and I am not regretting and not chasing....but I am the happiest, busiest, most joyful man on this planet called, earth...you know why? cos I have developed lots of passion that keep me happy and going that sometimes I hardly recognize when night comes....to the extent that sometimes I just wished more time could be added to day...lol....so discover other things to keep you busy, focused and happy....then, study the word of God to also inspire you to live a chaste life! Good luck and may God be with you. cheers!

I trust u to give de level headed advice. Long time no hear ooo.

nna eh. Nothing person no go read for nairaland. Throw u out half naked just for a phone check? Half mad and irrational cos of insecurity? Hmmmm.
She seriously needs help before she loses all de reasonable husband materials dat will come her way.

WOULD HIS PARENTS RATHER THEIR SON ANSWERS 'MARRIED MAN' TO HIM HAVING PEACE OF MIND IN HIS HOME THEREAFTER?
@acidtalk, take that your friend like ur own blood brother and give him de advice u would give your own. Or, give hin ur phone to read replies on here.
Marriage is not an affair to be built on pity, lies or parents' pressure. Let him look well before he makes de biggest mistake of his life.

crackhouse: my friend, the truth is that she have started comparing u with other guys maybe in terms of bedmatics{you know what i mean} and other things. The best thing u will do for yourself is to leave her alone and concentrate on your studies. I know one day she will be dissappointed by the guy{or those guys} and by then she will start making efforts to get back to you again but u know what? Whenever it happens, pls don't accept her back cos if u do it means u are the dumbest human being that ever lived on this planet earth. If u still insist on having a girlfriend i suggest u look elsewhere but it will be very nice if u leave those things and concentrate on ur studies afterall i never had a girlfriend until my first semester 500 level{final yr} in the university and mine was not a student. I am telling u, u will never regret suspending that kinda lifestyle for now. What matters is ur position or status after school and not ur kinda school life u are living.

good! Boyfriend-girlfriend r/ship while in school is not and never will be a necessity. Freedom to be you and remain unattached till the right time is exhilarating. Develop yourself as a single man. When u're through, with that good result, ladies will be the ones fighting for you.

ONLY FRIEND? Did I see correctly?
As in ONLY friend
She MADE YOU DO WAT?? So, the two of you were each other's ONLY friends
And these set of people want a REASONABLE, WORKABLE relationship With this kind of thinking?
Wow. Kai! Unbelievable.
So, now, who do u turn to for sound advice? Nobody. U've chased them away?
Aside from that, it looks like this feeling you guys always mistake for Love (I call it infatuation)gets you men in big trouble. ASK YOURSELF AGAIN/SEARCH FOR THE TRUE DEFINITION OF LOVE and check if she 'Loves' you.
Relationship is an AGREEMENT for goodness sake. TWO people must have the same mind on it for it to work!! How can YOU ALONE be the one pushing for it?
Use your head. Do not let mere fluttering of the heart becloud your sense of reasoning. OPEN YOUR EYES AND SEE. Stop walking like a blind man in broad daylight. Women have not and will never finish. Who knows: you could be there fighting for another man's wife, while yours is elsewhere waiting for you to find her.
What kind of wife do you hope to marry? Do u want to have peace of mind? Sleep with both eyes closed? Use the wisdom God has given u.

[quote author=~Killz~][color=#000030]No way. . . Let her go! 2 days is too short for a repentant attitude. She wan use your brain. If you say yes to her, you have officially become her bit[i]c[/i]h.[/color][/quote]

@ acidtalk, I agree with u a 100 percent dear. Happy am nt de only one who thinks this generation needs to come back to God. Many things have gone wrong. May ur wish and prayer for yourself concerning marriage be what u will have.

U DO NOT BEG FOR LOVE. SOMEONE EITHER LOVES YOU OR THEY DO NOT.
IF SHE LOVED YOU, SHE WOULD UNDERSTAND YOUR KIND OF PERSON, AND EVEN TRY HER BEST TO DRAW YOU OUT OF YOUR SOLITUDE. Not dump you.

IF YOU THROW YOURSELF AT HER MERCY AND SHE ACCEPTS YOU BACK, YOU WILL ONLY BE A 'MANAGEABLE STOCK' - SOMEONE TO BE ENDURED. FOCUS ON DEVELOPING YOURSELF IN EVERY ASPECT, AND DOING WAT YOU DO BEST.

Get yourself together man, YOUR OWN WOMAN WILL COME.

EVERY MAN THAT SEES YOU WANT TO MARRY YOU...U ARE IN UR FINAL YEAR IN THE UNI.. NOW YOUR 'FIANCE' IS AFTER YOUR SISTER.
THIS OP IS SEEKING FOR ATTENTION, WITH HER PURPOSEFUL GRAMMATICAL ERRORS.
Won't be surprised it's a known nairalander with a new ID solely for seeking attention and making up fake stories.

THERE IS NO REASON JUSTIFIABLE ENOUGH FOR ANYONE TO SLAP ANOTHER...WHETHER MALE/FEMALE. Some women are losing it. Civilization my foot.

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bennyraz: why do you think my rules are not neccessary? I wouldn't marry a wife that is full of pride neither would i marry a wife that nags. Raw Gold has to pass through hot fire to get pure Gold. For me, my rules are my hot fire for any lady i want to marry. She has to be re-defined.

lol sweetheart, na fight? Lol
I said 'some' not all.
Hey, ur home is yours. No need defending to everyone. Happy Easter.

Remembering our parents marriages of yester years...... Long lasted, disciplined homes with order.... Regulations guiding conduct.... Respect... Reverence.... High sense of morals and responsibility... where the man ordered his home..children grow up to be sound men and women.
And not the haywire, lawless, Free-for-all, ' civilization-ridden' homes of today.
Having a home with order does not mean people won't or shouldn't be allowed to express themselves freely. NO. Rather that freedom should be accompanied by maturity and responsibility.
Any relationship without some level of order or that the couple haven't sat down to plan how their home should be, is a union of two unserious, playing-to-the-gallery (because society said we should marry)folks who lack focus.
@OP, some of ur 'rules' are nt necessary.

[quote author=pendo89]Op do not ignore the bolded or take them lightly.



Now listen,Love is a great feeling but it carries with it some heavy responsibilities.A divorced woman has been there, done that.Fine she may have learnt her lessons but do you realise that regardless of her age she's somewhat matured in some stuff? Kids esp tend to bring out a certain level of maturity because they test one's virtues and humble one a great deal.
Pay attention to what she said 'she may prefer a fellow divorcee who has her kind of exp because you don't fit into the bill.That is her reasoning.
Yes you are older but as far as she's concerned? you are inexperienced.Now before you take the big leap please make sure you have gained her full trust.
Why else is she asking you to take her as plan B? It's because she wants you to date other ladies and compare them to her.Thereafter you can make an informed decision.She doesn't want you to rush and marry her before she gives you the chance to explore other relationships first.

Shes feeling inadequate in what sense? Maybe the guy really messed her psychologically so what she needs is healing first not a man.
I can tell you this with confidence.If that lady has not healed from the scars of her previous marriage,this one will not last either. It takes time and she needs time to recover before entering into another.Allow that to happen.

Its good she has an income meaning she's not dependent on you.Her options are easy and I can tell she is not desperate.
Such women prefer treading carefully,they take time before they can fully trust another man.You therefore don't pressure them but move at their pace and see what happens.
Look here's no way you are going to hide her baby from your family! I don't consider it a wise move.Why would you? your conscience will always be troubled.
If you cant expose her and her baby to your family and relations then you are not ready to marry her.Where will you two be hiding?
Maturity means you embrace the other party with all they have just as they are.The kid is part and parcel of her and if your family doesn't approve don't use force.
Actions speak louder than words.There are ways to warm up parents hearts and keeping them in darkeness is escaping reality. Face them as a man and let them tell you off. At least you told them the truth.
Keep doing good to them and they will see you are truly determined.There is a time to surrender and parents are not made out of stone.

My final word? Be her best friend and do what she recommended.Take her as plan B.Explore others and compare.She has given you the go ahead and she wants to do the same exploration too.Take your time please cz you are both still young.
You may or may not end up with her.
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God have mercy on you all.

ismhab: See how poverty wants kill Ndi igbo.

lol. Igbos must be giving you sleepless nights with their successes and hardworking spirit.
Don't you think it's better than being known as a hopelessly lazy people?

we're talking about de background and our eyes, and some people want us to read their writings (killz and 190 take note)

phlame: You are happily married and you still dey Bleep outside

Some people DO NOT read or comprehend.. Yet they are quick to talk.

Ammyng: They will help you. . Second option apply at the same hotel for dish washing position "ekwensu"

[color=#990000][/color]hehehehehe.
No curse am biko.