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Radiant:
I have a feeling the poster is going through some shit she can't handle and is terribly disappointed/confused Forget marriage and go see a doctor. You don't have to prove anything to us but sort our your 'ish.

No be small thing with misinterpretations oh. Sister, please repeat urself, i didn't understand that. And why should i hide anything from nairaland. If i have problems, why won't i say it out loud and clear? E jo hold yaself there o.

@ davidylan
Did i quote my name when i said that. Mr., learn to read in between the lines

A davidylan
Sorry to dissapoint, i've never been pregnant before

@ j-girl

j-girl:
@ Topic - I can't oooo!

I'm against Sex with evidence before marriage because if you trap the guy with a pregnancy, what makes you so sure that you won't become his punching bag? Or he might hate me for life for putting him in a loveless marriage? Better yet, he can cheat on me with many girls in front of my face and there will be nothing i can do about that because i trapped him.
If my guy is for it though, if he tells me point-blank that he wants me to get pregnant for me before we get married. I'll happily let both his parents and mine know so that when kasala burst, he will not be able to back out.

You made some points there girl coz i hate womanizers, but if it happens, will u rather abort?

@ Mesmerize
story!!

@ davidylan
Oh, u wish!! Sorry, but am engaged to be married soon            

@ TOh
Yes Ma. Pls forgive me for seeking your opinion on this issue.

@ Mesmerize
"If the man is a LovePeddler"

Why on earth will i want to trap or marry a guy who's a LovePeddler. If i even fall pregs for a guy and discover he womanizes, i'd rather have the child on my own than marry him. Womanizers! Damn, am scared of them.

hahahahahaha

APPEAL.  Well, just pray and work hard not to find yourself in those shoes. If u do, u may be forced to catch the appeal.

@ Mesmerize
I smiled and i said its cool. Don't u still get it?

Mesmerize:
Mind if I ask what the opinion is?
You still think it's a good idea?

           

origina9ja:
ofcourse na
no bi the guy get the piki
okay lets think about it this way
it depends

I wonder oh.How will u chuk chuk finish and refuse to bear the responsibilty? Whether by misdoing or by misgiving or by mispouring or by mistearing, the child if his.

@ Chat2MeBac
You and Hannibal are the only ones making me happy i posted this thread. Pls help me, i don't want to die of laughter, I haven't had dinner yet.
@ Riskie
I don't think its logical that the more men are trapped into marriage thru pregs, the less married girls we would have. There will always be many single ladies around, not like there are no single guys but society does not expect same from both sexes so we don't hear about the guys coz tehy don't make a fuss of being single. Check out how many guys under 35 are single and compare with the girls. See?
@ Mesmerize
Yes i got my answer, but I still have my opinion. But TOH thinks she must shove hers down my throat! I think she's even the bad belle, am enjoying myself here, so let me laugh.

can't stop laughing at you TOH. Don't u know how to answer a simple question without naking issues. I asked if you can use a preg to trap a guy. If you can say so, if u think u can't say so and leave it at that instead of raising issues. Now who is seeking for notice here? No wonder some Nigerians like u don't know how to pass exams. Bush girl, didn't u hear or see that my sister and the guy were planning to get married next year, but t just happened?

@ TOH
Dear Madam standards, its good to know that u and ur family were "raised with standards"and "your brother wouldnt have anything to do with a deperate urchin who has to use pregnancy to make a guy stay with her." Well, this urchin has got class and a standard too and believe me, you and ur generation are no where near my feet.

@ Chat2MeBac
tell them my sister! Can't stop laughing

@ TOH
There is really need to pity whomever gets involved with me; who knows, it may be your brother!
@ Onyinye2
Yeah, Double-strapped means the guy wore two condoms. Sometimes it even pays to be triple-strapped!!
@TOH
Don't be scared. I aint ready yet trap a guy with a prego, but am saying if it happens, the guy gotta have no choice but,

@ hannibal
the chic isn't evil She just loved the guy too much and didn't wanna loose him

@ busta and debosky. hei, hei, hei hei. fire on! It's really the guys always bugging the girls for flesh to flesh": "honey please, i just want to feel u," "baby please just this once," öh girl, let's do it without the comdom for once, u'll enjoy it", etc. Then when kasala come burst they no want make person hear word.
babes, flee from all such devils, they will bite u deep. HIV is in the air too oh, not just prego.
Back to my topic now
I think it works. it just worked for my elder sister. her and the guy had been planning to marry sha sometime next year, but there was an accident and what had to be done, had to be done fast.  It works oh, most babes marrying now marry with five, six and even seven month old preggies, what do u think is the cause? Though some guys insist that babes prego these days before "walking with them down the aisle", for it to reach seven months, oh boy na marriage by fire. @ The Sly
Holes in condoms, my God, i can't stop laughing.

true talk, brother hans

@ Hannibal
it shouldn't be "This is why i don't sleep with just any babe that has no wife materialism in her. . .," but this is why i don't sleep with jus any babe without a condom. Haba, guy take it easy oh.

Hannibal:
It does work. . . . . . .
Some men would go actually go ahead and marry their partner if she gets pregnant.
Whether there'd be love in the marriage or not is anutha debate entirely.
Someone like me would def'ly marry any woman in that position because i won't have a child out of wedlock.

better person! They are few naija guys like u that have hearts. Don't mind all those other guys talking like they don't have sisters who may be in that position some day, and ask me if they will want someone to dump their sister. Leave them jo, by the time the girl's mama comes knocking at his mama's house 77x7 times, he or his mama will relent

Esss:
@ Poster

If any babe plans to use that method with me, I'm very sorry for her.

She should first of all know I'm pro-abortion,
If she insists on having the baby, then she should be ready to be a single mother, or put the baby up for adoption. Either ways I aint having no unwanted babies. No sir.

Guy u wicked oh, so e sweet to do, but hard to pay? You are pro-abortion, kai, I'll tell ur girlfriend so she'll beware.
Na people like u like that P-Square song, "make u do me, do me,

@ all saying 'no
Okay now honestly, what if the prego was a real error? What does the babe do if guy refuses, coz abortion is usually out of it for some people.

love before money kwa, money before love ni? Does love put food on the table? Abeg that issue is story for another day.

@ all
Okay, let me rephrase my question like this.
How many of u can use pregnancy to trap a guy into marriage?

am not pregnant, don't hope to be. But am just wondering if getting pregnant could be a means to trap someone i don't want to loose or THAT HAS TAKEN SO MANY YEARS OF MY LIFE and feels i should continue to wait

studentetc:
Another over 30!

I reject u in Jesus name!!! It never reach like that.

Kai, then what else can we use to trap these unrelenting men?      

If man wants to do chop-clean-mouth with me, i'll kill him oh. The preg is his responsibility afterall

Hi Nairalanders?   
Does the same old trick of falling pregnant for a man so he can marry you still work? What do u guys think because all these guys think they're smart, chop-and-clean-mouth. But will the whole pregnancy thing work?

@ poster
Question!  Ask again. I'll answer tomorow

@ nj11
Ama tutu o tumo dam ton npuwo from awu. Lokaa ma lo kpa kaim ton tona tutu. but send me email o wu, den nnyuo chatting. aya den de aja ji mi na? take k

@ buzydiva
i am not talking about high school love stories here. The girl was about 17 and the guy 23 when they met. Now were they children then?

@ sisterwoman
men are WICKED! and can disguise like forever.) I also know someone who dated a man for 5years before she discovered he was married. She felt she had gone too far to break up and thought the man may take her as a 2nd wife. After two extra years, making it seven, she got tired of his continous postings, go - no, marry me now, oh oh?. she sat him down for a real discussion and my guy said he wasn't going to double-up. Babe has been so devasted since then and she's 30years now, besides every one has associated her with this man so where does she start from?

buzyDiva:
0-1yr - getting to know each other

2yrs - comtemplate if he/she is the one . . more getting to know each other (this where I fall)

3-5yrs - You ain't sure what u really want

10yrs - Are u nuts??

how can u stay with someone for more than 3yrs without no commitment? thats just plain crazy and both partners are dumb!!

I don't think it's dumbness. It could be other issues, like the guy ain't buoyant enough for marriage. For instance, one of my closest friends dated her guy for 10years, i think they started b/4 the guy began his degree program. Then he finished school and went job searching for about 3years. Guy finally got a job and they got married in december, 2006 after ten years. I always wonder if the guy hadn't got a job till today, will babe have continued waiting, maybe for another ten years making it 20years?

Dear Nairalanders, i have been wondering what makes one stay in a relationship for three, five or even ten years! Is it really love or other issues like the person has become so accustomed to the relationship and so used to his/her partner's flaws that he/she cannot leave the relationship any more ( after all, they say no human being is perfect) OR he/she does not want to hurt her the other partner by leaving since they have become really close OR he/she is just too apprehensive to start a new relationship as he/she doesn't know what is the offing for her/him in something new, OR he/she thinks he/she's gotten too old to start all over again. Na love or wetin sef Nairalanders? Please tell me.

@ ever body acccusing leilah
Kai, when will Nigerians ever reason straight before talking? Didn't u guys read the topic well b/4 questioning? Leilah hasn't said it's a Nigerian phenemenon, she's only asking if it's normal in our culture, she may have knowledge about other cultures too, abi was she supposed to ask Nigerians about Pakistani culture?

@ poster
It's not bad to attend clubs as a married man. But if the guy must, let him go with his wife, at least to differentiate him(who already has one) from others, bachelors there (who came to search). If the hussy won't go with his wifey, then the soluiton is simple - attend ur own girly clubs alone too. Most times I don't know why ladies fuss so much about their men - if ur man is doing something u don't like, retaliate by the same means openly so he gets to know that what a man can do, After all, P-Square sang "If u do me, I do you; man no go vex"

, or at least, pretend to retaliate if it's something u really don't feel is right to do or something that's sinful. Men are the most jealous animals on earth, and retaliation surely mellows him down (or at least makes him begin to act with some more respect for you)

nj11:
Wokeyim,
Ami n de omor omor, awu a ble den den.

nj11 ade yan? nde omor omor tutu

chai da. this thread na "igbo people's forum," time for onitsha boys to improve their businessse
(runs!!!)

Best food, ok. My aunty says I have always rejected food since i was a baby. I always have one compliant or the other about some food. But let me try - I like plantain - in all its forms and ekpang kukwo (any calabar person around here?). I can eat yam once in a month and seeing beans makes me cry . I only like yam with palm oil and it must be hot! and as poundo, but something like yam and stew and the rest, count me out. I'm basically a swallow girl but selective with soup too - i  can spend my money on, and only on affang, edikan ikong, hot okro and white soup. My swallows come with gari and poundo for white soup. I hate akpu, it stinks and turns my belly . I loathe egusi and ogbono. Some people here have made me realize that i lactually like peppersoup and oha soup too.

I am tired of rice in all its forms - most times, its the only food u find in all eateries. But basically, i think i am tired af all our food - u know, eating the same thing everyday, yet am just too selective to want to try something new, i'll throw up!!

Jeovy:
You can not meet me where you left me.You said it yourself

haba, guy, that is more philosophical than sex now.