₦airaland Forum

@ Rhino
Pple need to be aware too that because they are virgin don't mean they are HIV negative, because as long as u visit nija hospital, you are as prone to it as sleeping with Mr. HIV, so when you go to nija clinic, buy your own needle i beg.

I'll add something else to this: pls all the ladies, take ur weavon needles to salons when u want to do you hair. A pack of needles costs just 30naira and you can use them for well over a year, which is much more cheaper than getting the virus. If the saloonist mistakenly pricks your skin, all u'll get is "sorry". But your mind will never be at rest. Please buy your manicure and pedicure set too. We all know how easy it is to get wounded when fixing your nails. These things are cheap to buy, yet few people remember to buy them. This life, na one we get oh, there's no part II.

quote from okanran
That'd be the right time to go for the test. .tis' part of getting to know each other, really. And I dare say it shouldn't stop at that, guys/babes are wont to cheat, Bleep what the self-righteous think. so ensure your test is periodical.

I agree with all your points Bro, especially this. I remember when I went to do a HIV test with my boy-friend. The councillor happened to be my Mum's friend! I wanted to leave to another hospital at that point but it was too late and I am happy I didnt go back. Only God knows what she had on her mind, but she broke the rule of secrecy and went to tell my mum that I came with a man to do a HIV test at the hospital. Lol! Guess what! Mumsie congratulated me on taking such a bold step! When people do the right thing, they should be applauded. The reporting auntie must have thought "These two people want to do, that is why there are coming to do test."

$$Rhino:
so u will be riding an infected privates till he propose, then, you will decide to make sure the privates is not over affected so that marriage cld be jolly jolly. Na wa oh

Help me ask them oh. That's what I mean. No need to wait till you want to marry someone when you may end up wasting the relationship. Time of test is now - I think in this computer age, everyone should know their HIV status by now sef.

Sleeping with the person or not sleeping with the person is not the issue here. Please understand this post.

The issue is you have decided to date someone and your relationship may end in marriage.

The issue is after marriage, you will definitely sleep with the person.

The issue is waiting till the wedding period before doing a test may lead to someonés heart being broken if the worst happens, and all the years of the beautiful relationship and waiting to get married will be wasted. I know many people who never bothered to do this test before marriage because they had got too familiar with each other by the time they were ready to get married. I know a guy who never bothered to do the test (even when people told him his wife had once been a bad girl) and the lady died of HIV after their wedding when she went to have deliver the baby.

Please get the point. The point here is the TIMING, not whether sex is pre- or -post marital.

Boslo:
The right time is when u want to start having sex .

like after marriage then you go do a test and discover that your partner is positive? 

These days, families, doctors, Churches and even society insist that an intending couple do a number of tests, like bloodgroup, HIV and general compatibility tests before they walk down the aisle. Usually, this is afer wedding plans have begun and a dating process has ended. My question is "Should one wait till few weeks to the wedding before running a test as imporatant as HIV?" This is dangerous, I mean what if one partner comes out positive? The people have probably been doing before now too (in most cases), so the other partner is possibly infected by this time. 

I think the right time to insist on a HIV test is at the beggining of a relationship. If someone indicates interest in you and you accept to have him/her, the next step should be to go for a HIV test (even if you have done it before). You may even go together. A right thinking person doesn't need a Pastor or Mother or Doctor to tell him to do this. This way, you save yourself the trauma, anxiety and anticipation of having to do a test so close to your wedding or even having to cancel wedding plans and explain to people that some thing happened along the line. Besides, you are sure of yourselves evn during the whole courtship process. So nairalanders, get up and begin to drag your partners (or prospective partners) to the nearest heart to heart centre. Or what do you think?

@ Ukukaegbu
Okay, thanks

nomanicole:
@ dadon g, na wah for you oh!i can see your d only corper in this world,or beta stl d 1st person 2b a corper in your village.so it is so much of an achievement 4u.heyyah! i'm not in primary school sir,infact i grad last year,and i'll be goin 4 service ds month,i've already collected my call up number.[[/b]b]its no big deal.don't u see.d important thing is get a job and a life

It's no big deal because you have just collected your call -up number _{(that's if that is true)}. Start the real process, then you'l come back here to tell us the real deal. Instead of getting useful info that'll keep you for the next one year, you're saying "Its no big deal." Well, good luck to you.

d important thing is get a job and a life
Some people get jobs and get lives being retained at their places of primary assignment you know.

@ Kedukc
Tips for thoroughly enjoying camptime. Well, that will need a whole documentary! The thing about NYSC is that camp life is the only interesting part of it. Besides the struggles, pushings, fights and hurried life (which are part of the fun), you'll get experiences you can never get in your life again. The rest of the service year is so drab, long and monotonous. So no matter what people tell you, enjoy your camplife. Participate in everything you can because you may never again have an opportunity to. Good luck and have a fun-filled service year.

Here we come!!! How come i never thought of a thread like this before? Well, I be Senior Otondo, will be passing out in September too. I have really enjoyed my service year - at least i got to know about, and join naira-land during the year. My only regret about NYSC is that I didnt look for enough trouble in that one year. I learnt as Corpers, we have enough immunity - including that no one can take you to court during that year. So my advice to Batch A 08, find enough trouble during this year wey u no go fit find for your entire life  and if any one wants to hold you, bring out your ID card and plead, "Am a Corper please, I am new in this town, I didnt know that I was not meant to do so-and-so." Believe me, it's real fun. But if them catch u, no call my name oh!

@ Ukukaegbu
I was a mad puppy too! LOL. I am Batch B sha. Platoon 7 wee oh. You need to see how jealous my roomates used to be of us, platoon 7 members then. I miss Mad dog and my regret is I never took a picture with him. Do you have a real crazy one of him so we can make a copy for me?

@ all NACC
Corps members for Christ! One of you, in spirit and in truth.

@ Ife-eco-06
Lucky you. You finished serving in May and u already got a job, and in an oil company. Congrats Bro. September 11th is sooooooooooo close and we are in the labour market now, I pray that date aint going to be Osama-like! God knows I can't sit idle for even one day, I need a job, incase there are nairalanders that can help. I know i'll make it sha, for as i always say "You can't meet me where you left me!" Meanwhile all Coffers here, wish u guys luck - for Batch B 07 and B 08, in ya next stages of life and for Batch A 08, over the next few months. Don't worry , time really flies and before you know it,  March 2008 is here. Till then, be good!

@ Poster
Ask from the student's parents what their opinion about dating the girl is!     

@ Post
Very DRY

@ Post
Has Fashola Really Done Anything In Lagos State?

That's like asking "Has YarÁdua done anything in Nigeria?"
sucks

@ Poster
All a Man wants is a patient woman, to watch his dreams fall to place and to quit nagging a brother, you think she knew he would be this close to rulling a super power, no, but she stuck with him and his VW bettle anyway, where are all the good women at, damn!

Who tell u say she no no say the man go dey close to ruling a super power? You no look him face? The man face resemble like say he dey meditate - thinking for his life. Him mind no even dey for the picture wey dem dey snapp, na only babe dey smile.

where are all the good women at, damn!

And where are all the good men at, hush!
Guys too are so smart ^{and lazy}[b][/b] these days. What with dating children of top-shots coz they dont wanna work to make money? I know some guys who only have eyes for ajebota girls them.

sistawoman:
Cuz i thought yall were getting tired of hearing about my husband.

Husband, ex-husband, pre-husband, we are tired of hearing of them all. Get us some fresh news!!!

salinson:
well this kind of issue is interesting because some ladies are decent that guys don't need to ask for sex but if the time comes that is necessary for sex she will definitely surrender for the guy.
while most ladies now look forward for sex, that any guy been is boy friend or fancy if so called did not show sign of interest in sex she within 2weeks, she will go for some one else,so that why most guys and me qiucly do that before she act funny.
for me have met several ladies and have sex with them that same day, while most of my ladies, first or second time we met we must surely go for kissing.

WELL DONE!!!

@ post
Marriage!        Some girls like to hear just that.

@ Lakanye
Why would you do this to yourself? (your pix) It's disgusting      No wonder all the girls on nairaland want to finish you with mouth. You're too old for that now, bro.

@Sister-Woman
You keep rambling "my ex, my ex, my ex" in all your posts. Are you some Jennifer Lopez or some Elizabeth Taylor?

This is serious! May their souls rest in peace. This is what joblesness can do to Nigerian youths. Some probably knew they got not the strength, but still participated coz of joblesness. Too bad.     Is immigrations/government going to compensate their families?

@ Advocators of solutions to mouth ordour
The guy didn't know that he's got the ordours before he approached u? He must have tried all those solutions before but they didn't work now. What makes u think its the brushing and dentisiting that'll help? What if he no gree do sef? Some guys have ego oh.  

pinkflava7:
Goodluck @ Poster

I didn't say I am about to date one, only want to get people's opinions on the issue because its no-go-area for me.

Gamine:
This is EXTREMELY IMPOSSIBLE!!

EXACTLY! Some even ooze of body and mouth ordour at the same time. Doublé palaver    

ibkaye:
hehehe, yes, but i will tell him about the stench, cannot have my lips burning to a crisp when we gets to liplocking due to the ghastly odour, you feel me

Sometimes, mouth ordour is innate and just wouldn't go no matter what u do.

@ Post
Imagine introducing ur guy to ur friends and he opens his mouth to say hello and, the rest is history

Clean suit,  very loving, cool frame,very caring, polished English, very handsome, very brilliant. Almost all you want in a man, but you can't stand the smell that oozes   from his mouth whenever he opens it. Canyou date him? 

@ All those saying Church isn't compulsory.
That's a fallacy. And i will say you guys should be careful not to blaspheme. The injunction to "keep the sabbath day holy" is enough for someone to go to know that going to church (at least every sunday) is[b] COMPULSORY[/b] It's normal not to feel like going, but even if u don't feel like, you MUST go to Church. If you can't do Church for a genuine reason like serious illness, examinations on the same day and time with Church, etc. Jesus may understand; but to sit and laze away simply because you DON'T FEEL like it, is a SIN

@ Poster
Sometimes the feeling of not going a churching may be because you've been overworked all week ( Am sure u're either working or schooling) and feel the need to rest on Sunday, and what better time to rest than in the morning, which coincidentally is same time for service! Then evening service becomes unattractive and u feel like u should go visiting or prepare for work the next day. It happens to me all the time and I believe to most people who are working. Monday to Friday; work, sometimes including saturdays. And when saturdays are free, there is cooking, washing, cleaning up, etc. to do and by the time you realize it, the day is gone and you haven't rested, and then sunday becomes the easy prey to fall on for rest. But believe me, this is a lame excuse. Before I left my parents house last year, I think Í had missed church service just twice in my entire life; but between last year and now, i can't even count how many masses i've missed. It's either am feeling ill or it is raining or I am hungry and the list could go on and on. But at home for where? No one will let you stay at home without churching; under rain or sun, there is always a car in to which every one must enter and must go to church. There's is always something about one being controlled and one being in control of his/herself, so now it's like "If i don't go to Church, there is nothing any one can do to me" No daddy, no mummy to boss one around. Sincerely, i feel very sorry to God that i had to miss Church all the times i did, for silly reasons. I know he's forgiven me and I promise him never to do it again.

@ Those giving monotony excuses, i think it doesn't count whether its the same routine every day or not. Why don't you resign form work or change jobs every year because it is monotonous? I mean u have to wake up every day, brush your teeth every day, bathe every day and do the same work at the office every day yet you keep doing this things, why? You work because you are going to be paid or because if you refuse to go to work because you don't feel like it, you will be penalized. So what is the difference? Why do human beings like to give excuses when it comes to things of God? We even perform the work monotony five or six days a week and for eight, nine or ten hours, but when it comes to going to Church, which is once a week and for 2 or 3 hours, we complain of monotony, simply because we feel God cannot come down and punish us! I think we should all think properly before making decisions. Repercussions may not be visible now, but they will surely come on the last day.

@ Changing church proposers
Like that above, this is no issue. Chruch going isn't for comfort or for catching fun, but is is compulsory. In the presence of God (no matter the church), there is fulness of joy. If u don't experience this fullness then, you definitely have problems. I mean how many churches can you afford to be changing? you may change church every year;as soon as one becomes montonous, you simply jump to another. Same question"why don't u change jobs, wives, husbands, etc every year because u need a change
@ Let us all change our attitudes towards the things of God, without him, there will be no jobs, no family, no friends, or every other things we feel make up happy.

@ Poster
I find your inability to cook & clean my house extraordinarily unappealing
Then get ur mother or younger sister to cook and clean your house. Na by force?

Physical features i hate in men, okay
I hate jeans, tee-shirts and canvass wearing _baby men

Lip gloss wearing men

Men with nine-month old pregnancies

Body and oohps, mouth ordour[i]ing[/i] men

Men with all the primary colours on them (Bleaching men)

Men whose barber seems to be so far away they can't get a decent hair cut or a decent shave. What's it with the afros guys, we're in year 2k8 not 1976.

Men in Erikada Badu colours (this time, wearing) like red, yellow, orange, green, lemon and pink.

Men with hair like a rat that just fell in to a pan of frying oil

Men with fat in the run places (breasts, buttocks, waists, hips),

Long hours are worse when you've got the preacher screaming at you from the pulpit.I don't get that part sometimes.I mean,he/shez got a mic already.Why shout still?
[quote][/quote]Blood and water!! I can take all the time-spending but definitely not the shouting! Sincerely, whenever i have to attend a pentecostal church for one occassion or the other, i always return home with a serious headache. I never get to understand why Pastors must shout at the congregation in the name of preaching. For crying out loud, God ain't deaf and my own God comes in "a still small voice", so i don't get why pastor must always be shouting and like pointing (accusing) fingers at his church members as if he is warning them or they've committed some crime. The only pentecostal pastor i admire is Pastor Adeboye of Redeemed and i wonder why his fellow Redeemed pastors can't be like him. Shout and we'll hear and agree with you,shout all the halleluyahs; but after that minute, everything dissapears. Take your message slowly and slowly will it sink into the hearts and minds of people. Gosh, all these our Americana-want to-be pastors! ,let's say its part of popular culture!!!   

Cristalz:
8.30 - 1.30 ? Wow. 5 hours of what? Really i don't see the point of extra long services. . . .haba,for how long can the human brain concentrate at a stretch anyway? Then when people start dozing they say its the devil. Is it really the devil or just nature taking its course?

These days Catholic masses are almost as long. I went for a 10.00am mass at 10.30am and they had already started, but mass didn't dismiss till 1pm on Sunday. I really felt bad. I like my church because it's meant to be a 45mins stuff and u're out, but these days, its one launching or the other in Church. I wonder if they do this in Rome or it's part of our Nigerian mentality. My Sunday should have been fun as i walked into the Church in the most elegant of clothes. People couldn't stop turning to admire me. But service overtayed and one after the other, people started to waka. It's not in my character to leave church before the end of mass because I love GOd so much and can dedicate all day to him - for a good cause- so i stayed on. The annoying thing is i dozed off while they were doing their series launchings and announcements and before i knew what was happening, i leant and fell on the person sitting by my left.    Was i embarrased? I woke up and was happy to discover that it was a younger girl, so no offences, besides the church was almost empty by then, so i just covered up my sin by dozing a little more. After Mass, i just begin dey waka far dey go my way. That is what my sunday was like.

In my place, we say "cousin, cousin, o do me mkpai" Are u sure u guys are just cousins, coz if its not cousinship, it's brotherhood and sisterhood in the Lord! Besides, the term cousin can be extended to like fourth cousins oh.

PARTNERS IN CRIME!! There's something fishy about u two- Hannibal and Radiant

LMAO.
I'll need to consult a dictionary before i reply those - that's if u didn't coin some of them. Just wait for me, i'll be right back

Yeah, but u said it urself that u'll marry an "ugly dingbats who uses her remote-controlled wombs to tie geezers like you down." Have u forgotten already? I already said u've got real light brains.

Hannibal:
Temper temper!!!!
You keep having a go at everyone that has questioned your motives so it seems the whole kizzack embarrases your half-witted self.
When u bring such stuffs on a forum in future. . . .be ready to be scrutinised.
Don't go bonkers on members who are bound to question your sanity!!!
What a minger!

I really wonder what it is with u today. U want to continue from where Radiant stopped abi? Well, Hannibal, Carnival or whatever u call urself, it seems u're so interested in me. But i have news for u - I don't deal with baby men who go about rattling their mouths everywhere, and unfortunately that's wat u are - a baby man!

The topic couldn't have embarrased me. have u forgotten i posted this myself? Then u really have got light brains!

I wonder why some people are so daft on this forum. You post a thread and people begin to relate the experience directly to u.

Rather unfortunate say u no be Mr. I for don trap u too.

@ Gamine
For those who lack understanding
"that dier," is "that their ". Its an abbreviation. Don't you use abbrevs when sending text messages? There wasn't any more space in the topic section so i couldn't spell it all out. Still need better clarification little Miss?

@ Gamine
And what is wrong with the topic? Why don't u go to the first post and read it properly before u make recommendations Mr. Lecturer?