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Sports / Re: Jay Jay Okocha Visits The Super Eagles Ahead Of Cote D'ivoire Clash by wonderr(m): 5:05pm On Jan 18
pyyxxaro:
Abeg make JAGABAN nor call them oh
perhaps your father should call them instead. Oh sorry I forgot he is nobody.
Family / Re: Pls Help Me I Have Anger Issues by wonderr(m): 9:24pm On Dec 31, 2023
Giftedhand47:
I still need. More insights as to how to stop anger
anytime anyone makes you angry close your eyes immediately and count 1 to 20 backwards then walk away thank me later
Romance / Re: My Wife Has Set A Timetable For Sex For Me. What Do I Do? by wonderr(m): 7:18pm On Aug 24, 2023
addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.
you know what to do you just lack the courage to do it
Family / Re: I Want To Take My Late Sister's Two Children To Orphanage by wonderr(m): 11:51am On Aug 23, 2023
Uyi168:
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you just go about running your mouth anyhow..

if, for now, she has no means of catering for them, then her option is reasonable.

her option is only reasonable if that is what she's going to do If the kids were hers

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Family / Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by wonderr(m): 7:36pm On Aug 22, 2023
Dogalmighty17:
You arrested and lucked up your husband for 2 days? No one is dumb here ma. No right thinking woman just suddenly locks up her husband. Was there food in the kitchen for him when he came home? Did you cook for yourself and just the children?

There are other crises resolution and mediation channels available to resolve issues within spouses. Did you explore any of them?

You most probably had nurtured this thought of locking your husband up for a while. You also most probably have mocked him in your actions and your words.

Madam, you don buy market o! I assure you of this, your husband will never forgive you. The day that man gets a job and finds his feet you will be the one begging for divorce.

I am not making excuses for him. Your husband is going through serious depression. No man wants to not be able to provide for his family. The present economy doesn't help at all. You could have handled the situation better.
it's always very easy to criticize people's actions when you are not in their shoes, whatever she did was out of frustration, although she should have subjugated the issue she let her emotions took the best of her and now she is facing the consequences, the deed has be done na solution remain find elderly people to help you beg him, join hands with him to get a new job, so issues like this won't repeat itself be supportive, this too shall pass

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Romance / Re: My Girlfriend Never Initiates Sex But Still Complains She's Not Getting Enough by wonderr(m): 2:53pm On Aug 22, 2023
Brokeandnolove:
Hi fellas, I will go straight to the point. My girlfriend of over a year hardly ever initiates sex, so sex between us strictly depends on when I make a move. Sometimes it might coincide with when she's Hot and everything goes well. Again I don't like going for more than one round of sex because I hardly cum during the second round till it eventually turns to hard work. She will still be the one that will complain that she's tired. I believe that sex is meant to be enjoyed and not stressful.

Now I am not a freak for sex, and can comfortably go for a week without sex depending on the situation of things between us even though we stay together for now. I don't initiate sex if we are having issues and sometimes she complains that other men come crawling to their women for sex at night after an argument with most times leads to reconciliation but I always lock up as if I am staying with a man thereby making some of our issues linger longer than necessary.

She gets moody each time she's Hot and I don't make a move, I simply told her to initiate sex anytime she wants because with the economic situation on ground sometimes sex is the last thing on my mind.

We had sex yesterday afternoon and later that evening we were gisting and we talked about early morning sex, she pointed out that I hardly initiate early morning sex and I told her it was because she hates being disturbed when sleeping. I proceeded to tell her we will have early morning sex today. Unfortunately I worked all night and slept around 4 am so I couldn't initiate any sex. She woke up moody and angry which made led to an argument that culminated in her leaving the house.

While chatting on WhatsApp she told me not to carry my boring sex life into marriage. So guys is there anything wrong with a lady initiating sex when she wants it I am pretty sure if she initiated sex this morning I wouldn't have refused.

your answer is there already, she likes sex but do not like to instigate it, so do not expect her to make a move before you do the doo and again even if you don't do it often, make sure twice or thrice that you will be doing it in a week make her beg for her life lobatan
Sports / Re: Chelsea Announce British-record Signing, Caicedo With Nigeria R&B Music by wonderr(m): 5:49am On Aug 15, 2023
Nazgul:
Is this supposed to be an achievement to Nigeria or what?

This mindset of hitting cloud 9 whenever any Nigerian artist song is played on foreign soil should stop.
O
The artist can celebrate it as a milestone achievement, but not the entire country we ought to stop this slave mentality.
stop being envious if it was your sonng you won't spit out this shit. if the entire country celebrates, it means we are happy with their achievements and also helping them promote the song more, learn to be happy for other people's achievements it's only then people can celebrate you too

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Romance / Re: Can You Remember Your First Love? by wonderr(m): 1:48pm On Aug 06, 2023
jeromestarks:

A woman has kids for you and you can't remember her?
Are you normal at all?
so you didn't see the Emojis to know that I was bluffing about the part I said I can't remember her am just being sarcastic

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Romance / Re: Can You Remember Your First Love? by wonderr(m): 1:16pm On Aug 06, 2023
jeromestarks:
...why did you breakup?
And how many girls or guys have you dated since then?

Mine: my first love was a girl called Rachel. We met in jss3.
Quite, calm and very observant young girl.

We broke up after junior waec. No mobile phone then so we couldn't reach each other when her family relocated to the West or so.

Since then , I have dated 58 women.


Over to you.
Can you remember your first love?

am not sure I can remember her, but one thing I can remember is she is the most beautiful thing that has ever happened to me she has 2 beautiful daughters for me and we all living happily grin grin

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Politics / Re: ‘He’s Miracle-Working God’ – Festus Keyamo Reacts To Ministerial Nomination by wonderr(m): 8:43pm On Aug 04, 2023
Dubetex96:
Another political appointment rascality again this man was a frm junoir minister of labour under him youth employment was not his priority rather he abandoned his job and became APC twitter medi warrior attacking discerning voices of well meaning Nigerians.

His appointment is not justifiable rather a political compensation and an avenue for him to loot the common wealth of Nigeria

am sure you won't spit this shit if keyamo is your dad bunch of hypocrites everywhere

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Politics / Re: ‘He’s Miracle-Working God’ – Festus Keyamo Reacts To Ministerial Nomination by wonderr(m): 8:41pm On Aug 04, 2023
Jestin:
The usual 9ja style. Paddie Paddie government
abi now if na obi na him enemies he for dey put for posts

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Romance / Re: Your Reasons For Asking Forgiveness When Caught Cheating? by wonderr(m): 2:00pm On Aug 03, 2023
talented321:
Where were u when the prick fall in? It is in the public? Or don't you have am agreement with him? Because i don't think it was done in the public'' and if it was not done in the public then there would have been plans.
so u no even Sabi whinnying na WA oo

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Politics / Re: Subsidy Removal: You’ve Endured, Persevere A Little More, Tinubu Tells Nigerians by wonderr(m): 4:55pm On Jul 28, 2023
tesppidd:
grin

Everyday endure, Everyday endure.

Na so we go endure, people go suffer, die, and before you know it, Mahmoud will release timetable for 2027 elections.

Renewed Shege.,
no mind Dem jare if it were peter obi now e for don perform magic, he for remove fuel subsidy like he promised and we for dey buy fuel like 50naira per liter now life for don easy gaaan
Politics / Re: Senate Condemns South-East Sit-At-Home, Asks FG To Extradite Simon Ekpa by wonderr(m): 6:16pm On Jul 26, 2023
meolaniyi:
I have never seen where the senate rose to condemn the killing of Christians in Plateau and Benue State.

I thought they said the sit-at-home is not affecting Nigeria.

Useless criminals. Chasing shadow. What will you tell the finish government that Simon Ekpa did? That he ordered sit at home and people are obeying him.

Bunch of criminals.

You guys are finding it difficult to Understand that lgbo people are not like any other tribe in Nigeria. You cannot subdue an Igbo man. Not possible.

Go and ask The British people that colonized Nigeria. Igbos are dangerously stubborn. You cannot cow them. Know this and Nigeria will have peace
another fish brain publicizing his asininity
Travel / Re: How Much Do You Spend In A Day For Transport by wonderr(m): 4:10pm On Jul 24, 2023
oluwaseyi0:
I work from home

average of zero naira per week
dey play
Tell us about money spent on data
Family / Re: Funny Thing Your Spouse Did While You Were Quarreling That Got You Laughing by wonderr(m): 12:10pm On Jul 18, 2023
Why is nobody thinking he might be hiding to know if the lady is cheating or not before his cover got blown

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Crime / Re: Man Kills His Girlfriend, Removes Her Body Parts For Ritual In Abia (Graphic) by wonderr(m): 11:15am On Jul 14, 2023
CandyOps:
Watch how the jobless urch.ins and Omo ale dem wey done collect 30k to dey troll Igbos online jump on this in 3... 2... 1... boom!😄😄

Fuckin' jobless and homeless URCH!NS trolling with their cheap ass Infinix and tecno transsion phones 🤣

Like, you wake up everyday of your life and your job na to dey browse Linda Ikeji, Nairaland and IG searching for Igbo related topics to troll on? Lol 😂

Must be such a terrible pathetic life. No wonder una full this thread because una dey vex say Igbo man done dey collect una usual Skull Mining game. Una think say we don't know how u guys are being paid just to be trolls online lol these guys think we're dumb?

this one is in pain

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Health / Re: My Girlfriends Have Left Me Because I Have Erectile Dysfunction by wonderr(m): 8:09pm On Jun 24, 2023
kyber:
The day I use the first dose of Vega and I tried to have sex with my gf, she refused to have sex telling me she needed to sleep.
I belive it’s cause the first time we tried it I didn’t satisfy her cause my dick became flaccid when I went into her. I used Condom though.

She told me she likes her sex raw but I didn’t want to but I’m considering trying it out to know if I can sustain the erection without condom
you will be surprised how long you would go without condom, it's normal, condoms usually kills sensitivity in some male organs but PLEASE make sure you take tramadol up to 200mg to destroy dat girls pussy for looking down on you during your predicament
Politics / Re: UI Professor, Ajewole Assassinated In Ibadan, Oyo State by wonderr(m): 9:54am On Jun 07, 2023
shevchenko:
Una want Tinubu right?


This regime reminds me of Abachas


May his Soul rest in peace .I pray he was Christian so that he can go to heaven
so if peter obituary was our president he would not have been killed, Or what are you insinuating? You can stay there and wait for every single opportunity to criticize this government or you pray that gods blessing should locate you and your household in his era the choice is yours

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Politics / Re: Why I Sacked Auxiliary - Seyi Makinde by wonderr(m): 4:45pm On Jun 05, 2023
solmusdesigns:
After God... Respect Government

Makinde just showed Auxiliary nobody is bigger than the constituted authority

I hope Rahman gets justice


.
and who is Rahman please?
Politics / Re: Subsidy Removal Won’t Take Immediate Effect - Tinubu Clarifies by wonderr(m): 9:37pm On May 30, 2023
Ezeama400:
Always saying stupid things at the sight of microphone without reasoning, subjecting Nigerians to unnecessary suffering..

See how his careless statement pushed Nigerians to hardship since morning ...

His handlers should advice this drug addict to seek their opinion before making a public statement..

All in a bid to sound as a decisive leader of agboros, he ended up embarrassing himself with subsidy talk...

Only a confused clown speaks without direction !

for how long do you wanna continue wailing save your energy 8years is a long journey
Politics / Re: President Biden Congratulates Bola Tinubu On His Swearing-In by wonderr(m): 7:55am On May 30, 2023
saintjimos:
Tinubu will deal with the US
on colos on colos
Politics / Re: Wikipedia Just Updated Tinubu's Profile As President by wonderr(m): 11:32am On May 29, 2023
phemmyjohnson:
And na this yeye drug looking picture de put .. They should change that nonsense ..
if your father is worth it, he would have being the one in the picture
Sports / Re: Luton Will Need To Spend $10M To Bring Their Kenilworth Rd Up To PL Standards by wonderr(m): 9:26pm On May 28, 2023
It's nothing. they will be rewarded for promoting to the premier league with around 178million
Politics / Re: ‘I Look To Engaging With You’ — Tinubu Congratulates King Charles III by wonderr(m): 1:00pm On May 07, 2023
Can somebody please remind this Igbos that it's too early to wail 8 years is a long journey
Politics / Re: This Will Be My Last Official Engagement, Buhari Bids Farewell To King Charles by wonderr(m): 1:31pm On May 06, 2023
Tinubuderanged:
the drug lord is worst.
actually the ipob king would have being the worst
Sports / Re: Arsenal Will Officially Be Playing Champions League Football Next Season by wonderr(m): 5:48pm On Apr 27, 2023
Olarewaju89:
grin

Let be honest, they have really try.
Nobody believe they can even qualify for top 4 let alone to be in number one in the EPL with those giant club like man city and co. grin
abeegi arsenal was only fortunate to be in form when giants like man u, Liverpool and Chelsea dropped
Sports / Re: I Love My People But Nigeria Is Very Corrupt - Israel Adesanya by wonderr(m): 3:51pm On Apr 13, 2023
madampresh:
Bitter truth, everybody that is going into power always find their way to siphon money.
nooo obidients believe peter obi is going there to preach the gospel they believe he is a saint
Politics / Re: Why Tinubu Forfeited $460,000 In US — APC Tells Court by wonderr(m): 6:39am On Apr 12, 2023
Tntsi:
You cannot defend indefensible.
Druggie is in for it. He must personally show up to discuss this matter that he has managed to suppress and repress since 1999.

PODATTI has finally brought it to the world stage. Druggie must show up to testify.
even if the angels come down and testify for him you know your blunt head won't still believe. USA don talk say Dem no get any criminal record against am you still dey shout make he kon testify
Sports / Re: Victor Osimhen Closes In On George Weah’s Record, Hails Liberian Legend by wonderr(m): 7:22am On Apr 07, 2023
thesicilian:
Osimhen and Haaland will likely replace the Messi and Ronaldo rivalry within the next few years
It's not fair to forget mbappe in in this scenario

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