pyyxxaro:
Abeg make JAGABAN nor call them oh

perhaps your father should call them instead. Oh sorry I forgot he is nobody.

Giftedhand47:
I still need. More insights as to how to stop anger

anytime anyone makes you angry close your eyes immediately and count 1 to 20 backwards then walk away thank me later

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

you know what to do you just lack the courage to do it

Uyi168:
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you just go about running your mouth anyhow..

if, for now, she has no means of catering for them, then her option is reasonable.

her option is only reasonable if that is what she's going to do If the kids were hers

Dogalmighty17:
You arrested and lucked up your husband for 2 days? No one is dumb here ma. No right thinking woman just suddenly locks up her husband. Was there food in the kitchen for him when he came home? Did you cook for yourself and just the children?

There are other crises resolution and mediation channels available to resolve issues within spouses. Did you explore any of them?

You most probably had nurtured this thought of locking your husband up for a while. You also most probably have mocked him in your actions and your words.

Madam, you don buy market o! I assure you of this, your husband will never forgive you. The day that man gets a job and finds his feet you will be the one begging for divorce.

I am not making excuses for him. Your husband is going through serious depression. No man wants to not be able to provide for his family. The present economy doesn't help at all. You could have handled the situation better.

it's always very easy to criticize people's actions when you are not in their shoes, whatever she did was out of frustration, although she should have subjugated the issue she let her emotions took the best of her and now she is facing the consequences, the deed has be done na solution remain find elderly people to help you beg him, join hands with him to get a new job, so issues like this won't repeat itself be supportive, this too shall pass

Brokeandnolove:
Hi fellas, I will go straight to the point. My girlfriend of over a year hardly ever initiates sex, so sex between us strictly depends on when I make a move. Sometimes it might coincide with when she's Hot and everything goes well. Again I don't like going for more than one round of sex because I hardly cum during the second round till it eventually turns to hard work. She will still be the one that will complain that she's tired. I believe that sex is meant to be enjoyed and not stressful.

Now I am not a freak for sex, and can comfortably go for a week without sex depending on the situation of things between us even though we stay together for now. I don't initiate sex if we are having issues and sometimes she complains that other men come crawling to their women for sex at night after an argument with most times leads to reconciliation but I always lock up as if I am staying with a man thereby making some of our issues linger longer than necessary.

She gets moody each time she's Hot and I don't make a move, I simply told her to initiate sex anytime she wants because with the economic situation on ground sometimes sex is the last thing on my mind.

We had sex yesterday afternoon and later that evening we were gisting and we talked about early morning sex, she pointed out that I hardly initiate early morning sex and I told her it was because she hates being disturbed when sleeping. I proceeded to tell her we will have early morning sex today. Unfortunately I worked all night and slept around 4 am so I couldn't initiate any sex. She woke up moody and angry which made led to an argument that culminated in her leaving the house.

While chatting on WhatsApp she told me not to carry my boring sex life into marriage. So guys is there anything wrong with a lady initiating sex when she wants it I am pretty sure if she initiated sex this morning I wouldn't have refused.

your answer is there already, she likes sex but do not like to instigate it, so do not expect her to make a move before you do the doo and again even if you don't do it often, make sure twice or thrice that you will be doing it in a week make her beg for her life lobatan

Nazgul:
Is this supposed to be an achievement to Nigeria or what?

This mindset of hitting cloud 9 whenever any Nigerian artist song is played on foreign soil should stop.
O
The artist can celebrate it as a milestone achievement, but not the entire country we ought to stop this slave mentality.

stop being envious if it was your sonng you won't spit out this shit. if the entire country celebrates, it means we are happy with their achievements and also helping them promote the song more, learn to be happy for other people's achievements it's only then people can celebrate you too

jeromestarks:

A woman has kids for you and you can't remember her?
Are you normal at all?

so you didn't see the Emojis to know that I was bluffing about the part I said I can't remember her am just being sarcastic

jeromestarks:
...why did you breakup?
And how many girls or guys have you dated since then?

Mine: my first love was a girl called Rachel. We met in jss3.
Quite, calm and very observant young girl.

We broke up after junior waec. No mobile phone then so we couldn't reach each other when her family relocated to the West or so.

Since then , I have dated 58 women.


Over to you.
Can you remember your first love?

am not sure I can remember her, but one thing I can remember is she is the most beautiful thing that has ever happened to me she has 2 beautiful daughters for me and we all living happily

Dubetex96:
Another political appointment rascality again this man was a frm junoir minister of labour under him youth employment was not his priority rather he abandoned his job and became APC twitter medi warrior attacking discerning voices of well meaning Nigerians.

His appointment is not justifiable rather a political compensation and an avenue for him to loot the common wealth of Nigeria

am sure you won't spit this shit if keyamo is your dad bunch of hypocrites everywhere

Jestin:
The usual 9ja style. Paddie Paddie government

abi now if na obi na him enemies he for dey put for posts

talented321:
Where were u when the prick fall in? It is in the public? Or don't you have am agreement with him? Because i don't think it was done in the public'' and if it was not done in the public then there would have been plans.

so u no even Sabi whinnying na WA oo

tesppidd:


Everyday endure, Everyday endure.

Na so we go endure, people go suffer, die, and before you know it, Mahmoud will release timetable for 2027 elections.

Renewed Shege.,

no mind Dem jare if it were peter obi now e for don perform magic, he for remove fuel subsidy like he promised and we for dey buy fuel like 50naira per liter now life for don easy gaaan

meolaniyi:
I have never seen where the senate rose to condemn the killing of Christians in Plateau and Benue State.

I thought they said the sit-at-home is not affecting Nigeria.

Useless criminals. Chasing shadow. What will you tell the finish government that Simon Ekpa did? That he ordered sit at home and people are obeying him.

Bunch of criminals.

You guys are finding it difficult to Understand that lgbo people are not like any other tribe in Nigeria. You cannot subdue an Igbo man. Not possible.

Go and ask The British people that colonized Nigeria. Igbos are dangerously stubborn. You cannot cow them. Know this and Nigeria will have peace

another fish brain publicizing his asininity

oluwaseyi0:
I work from home

average of zero naira per week

dey play
Tell us about money spent on data

Why is nobody thinking he might be hiding to know if the lady is cheating or not before his cover got blown

CandyOps:
Watch how the jobless urch.ins and Omo ale dem wey done collect 30k to dey troll Igbos online jump on this in 3... 2... 1... boom!😄😄

Fuckin' jobless and homeless URCH!NS trolling with their cheap ass Infinix and tecno transsion phones 🤣

Like, you wake up everyday of your life and your job na to dey browse Linda Ikeji, Nairaland and IG searching for Igbo related topics to troll on? Lol 😂

Must be such a terrible pathetic life. No wonder una full this thread because una dey vex say Igbo man done dey collect una usual Skull Mining game. Una think say we don't know how u guys are being paid just to be trolls online lol these guys think we're dumb?

this one is in pain

kyber:
The day I use the first dose of Vega and I tried to have sex with my gf, she refused to have sex telling me she needed to sleep.
I belive it’s cause the first time we tried it I didn’t satisfy her cause my dick became flaccid when I went into her. I used Condom though.

She told me she likes her sex raw but I didn’t want to but I’m considering trying it out to know if I can sustain the erection without condom

you will be surprised how long you would go without condom, it's normal, condoms usually kills sensitivity in some male organs but PLEASE make sure you take tramadol up to 200mg to destroy dat girls pussy for looking down on you during your predicament

shevchenko:
Una want Tinubu right?


This regime reminds me of Abachas


May his Soul rest in peace .I pray he was Christian so that he can go to heaven

so if peter obituary was our president he would not have been killed, Or what are you insinuating? You can stay there and wait for every single opportunity to criticize this government or you pray that gods blessing should locate you and your household in his era the choice is yours

solmusdesigns:
After God... Respect Government

Makinde just showed Auxiliary nobody is bigger than the constituted authority

I hope Rahman gets justice


.

and who is Rahman please?

Ezeama400:
Always saying stupid things at the sight of microphone without reasoning, subjecting Nigerians to unnecessary suffering..

See how his careless statement pushed Nigerians to hardship since morning ...

His handlers should advice this drug addict to seek their opinion before making a public statement..

All in a bid to sound as a decisive leader of agboros, he ended up embarrassing himself with subsidy talk...

Only a confused clown speaks without direction !

for how long do you wanna continue wailing save your energy 8years is a long journey

saintjimos:
Tinubu will deal with the US

on colos on colos

phemmyjohnson:
And na this yeye drug looking picture de put .. They should change that nonsense ..

if your father is worth it, he would have being the one in the picture

It's nothing. they will be rewarded for promoting to the premier league with around 178million

Can somebody please remind this Igbos that it's too early to wail 8 years is a long journey

Tinubuderanged:
the drug lord is worst.

actually the ipob king would have being the worst

Olarewaju89:


Let be honest, they have really try.
Nobody believe they can even qualify for top 4 let alone to be in number one in the EPL with those giant club like man city and co.

abeegi arsenal was only fortunate to be in form when giants like man u, Liverpool and Chelsea dropped

madampresh:
Bitter truth, everybody that is going into power always find their way to siphon money.

nooo obidients believe peter obi is going there to preach the gospel they believe he is a saint

Tntsi:
You cannot defend indefensible.
Druggie is in for it. He must personally show up to discuss this matter that he has managed to suppress and repress since 1999.

PODATTI has finally brought it to the world stage. Druggie must show up to testify.

even if the angels come down and testify for him you know your blunt head won't still believe. USA don talk say Dem no get any criminal record against am you still dey shout make he kon testify

thesicilian:
Osimhen and Haaland will likely replace the Messi and Ronaldo rivalry within the next few years

It's not fair to forget mbappe in in this scenario