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Honeydenz:
You talk like a child. It's not all about valuable enough to marry. The question is where is the money? Do you know how much it takes to fund an introduction, traditional and white wedding? Not everyone has the money to sponsor a wedding that's why, it's not about value.

Who is the child here if not you. Will anyone put a gun to your head to invite your whole village to a wedding?
Don't people have court weddings without even a third party? How much does it cost to have a wedding at the registry. How come you can afford data but can't afford to pay for a registry wedding? Na sense you lack.

CoronaVirusRelo:
That's just the way it is.

Incompetent lots we have.

Just like the Paracetamol and Antibiotics Doctors we have. Any ailment, you must use paracetamol, antibiotics and blood tonic. Standard cure for all ailments. Even for HIV

You must have been patronising your neighbourhood "chemists"

Btw, HIV meds are free. Go to a proper hospital.

Dedetwo:
Please write intelligently. Trump has nothing to do with the stupidity in Nigeria. Trump announced that a French study showed that Chloroquine appears to be effective against the novel virus.

He was not supposed to announce that to avoid self medication. Immediately I saw his live broadcast, I knew he goofed big time. The usual thing to do is encourage people to go to the hospitals and not mention the used medication since individuals won't know the dosage or exactly how to use medications. It obviously would be abused.

Plead:
You’re a lost cause.

No insult needed. Learn to respect people's belief systems.

I don't know the kind of desperation that makes women sleep with, move in with and have babies with men who did not find them valuable enough to marry.

Having babies won't keep a man, u no go hear.

Koginaija:
do you know what it means to be a christian? I thank GOD you are spewing this in your ignorance and not like the ones who wilfully talk trash.

Are you an average Christian?
Are you as sensible as TB Tuberculosis Joshua

I no like this TB Joshua but he always comes out as more sensible than the average Christian.

This is rubbish, talking in nonsense.

Who would he spend the first night with?

He opened another thread and kept out the part where he drinks and acts irresponsibly. Very immature person. How can such a sane girl be with you?

I am sure you still behave silly around her. Gather the little respect you have left and pretend like she doesn't exist and change for the better.

Whatever name you want to make, better make it for yourself and right now.

Would Obama need a male child to carry his name or something like that.

He better love his daughters and take good care of them.


Putting incisions on a sick child is sick. He should have dealt with the people involved squarely.

You were always fighting and people said you are compatible. How reasonable is that?
So you will end up together and continue fighting over little things?
Think about it. You in particular sound immature and that girl can never respect you.

Just continue to move on as you have already started.

Not a true story.

bluecircle470:
People wey no like to go school before.
Now begging don start in full, 24hours begging

Exact thing came to my mind. They have not even seen one case in the entire North and they are closing schools. Are they closing the markets too?

She should first of all, spread the wealth. Then, I will take her seriously.

The mods should ban or completely delete this thief.

Neither is good. Stay single

Your conscience will never let you rest.

My parents took in so many people, sometimes to our discomfort. More than half of them are ingrates who were never contented. They would get from us and also from others and still act like they weren't getting. Whereas no one cared to give us anything because they always believed we had enough.

I understand people like you and that's why you will never have peace of mind. Better go and seek your uncle's wife's forgiveness. Tell her what you did and become a better person.

This is why men should put their family in order while alive.

This dead body don suffer. It's obvious the parties involved are after his money but never truly loved him.

As polygamous as my Grandfather was, his children have managed to keep the family whole. None has brought dishonour to his name.

Missis:
For those asking if I have a job,
I had a job until late last year, I was pregnant and too sick to continue working so I quit.
Ordinarily I don't like being at home all day or asking for money, it's not my nature. This is the first time I an jobless since I got married and I honestly am not happy about it. So many things I wished to buy this period that I can't get because I don't have money.[b][/b]

Then those who asked if he used to celebrate birthdays before marriage, he used to.
We both used to celebrate each others birthdays and buy gifts then when we got married he started acting like he can no longer remember. We dated for two years. I am not asking for big gifts or anything extravagant, just for him to maybe appreciate me and pray for me or say a few nice words to me.

You are not asking for too much. Just try and make yourself happy by all means.

Also try working from home.

It's unfortunate that your husband isn't taking these things seriously even after you told him severally.

Like someone asked, I would also like to know what happens on his own birthdays.

My advice to you is to not allow it bother you. He knows it hurts you and still does it, You are giving him too much power. Next time, don't remind him and don't act like it's hurtful. Take yourself out. If you have kids, take them with you and enjoy yourself at every opportunity you can get.

Also, Try and make your own money so you won't have to be begging him anymore.

I hope pride will not kill him. So he won't take the test early enough or self isolate like others are doing?

Where are all the foolish people insulting Iran and saying God's own Country would be spared?

Kudos to our Government for acting fast from the beginning. The Americans and Europeans didn't think it could affect them. They took it with levity and see where it got them.

Everyone would have experienced this at one point or the other. Life is full of Up and down moments. You aren't the first in this sitiation and you won't be the last.

The best you can do for yourself is pick up the pieces and forge ahead.

Yes, You Can.

She kept a messy house, waiting for the girl to come and clean up even though she has her own daughters.

The kind of abuse some of you went through has beclouded your reasoning.

So you think that's ok and acceptable?

I can never bring my children up to accept this kind of abuse. That's how one woman removed her slippers and told me to take them out. I looked at her like, "You mean, me?" she could easily have walked to the door to remove the said slippers.

djon78:
That dollar episode really finished the man's reputation. His only saving grace will be if his associates get into power in 2023. But if not, he will face uncertainties especially with this new saga with Sanusi.

But woe betide him if El rufai nears that seat in 2023. He will go to jail.
El rufai can be very very mean and heartless. We know how he sanitised Abuja.

That's not being heartless but about doing the right thing.

jaxxy:
Ganduje to be honest actually works hard by Nigerian Governors standards he was just unfortunate to be caught red handed

Works hard building fly overs when the multitude of Kano children are out of school and suffering from malnutrition.

KingSatan:
Dear Nairalanders,

This is my opinion on the subject that "No Man Should be Encouraged to marry a single mother". It is actually a response to Vyvyanvyvy 's thread on Her husband's decision not to take back their son as agreed before marriage.

Please Click this link for her post https://www.nairaland.com/5731810/husband-doesnt-want-son-come

Over the years, i have disagreed with people who conclude that single mothers marry because they are looking for a "Father Figure" in the life of their children and never because of love. Maybe i was wrong to disagree with them as this story is an eyeopener on how this set of manipulative women always resort to emotional blackmail in order to shame the man when he refuses to give in to their demand of total commitment to their love child or children. The most amazing thing is that her children have a father, but they are never going to blame him for abandoning them or quitting the relationship. They are never going to send the kids to their biological relative or even give the "New Husband" the honour of renaming the children after him. Some of these women even go as far as creating room for segregation.

Now lets get down to business by critically analysing her story.

1. This woman had 2 children (12 and Six years old) from a previous relationship. The Father of her Children is Currently in Italy and told her to move on with her life as he has done. Good Lord knows why he abandoned his own family (Since there is a 3 years gap between the 2 kids, i will assume the first was 3 years old when he left)

2. She claims not to have Her Ex husbands contact or that of his siblings. This should tell you that this woman never had a good relationship with her husband's people and the reason for that is unknown.

2. She got married to this Man 3 Years ago and the marriage has produced a girl who is 2 years old and she is pregnant for another. Good Lord knows this woman loves kids.

3. Before her marriage with the new man was consummated, she confirmed that her husband ACCEPTED THE KIDS LIKE HIS OWN. Was he pretending? I dont think so.

4. Due to financial challenges, they moved to a smaller apartment and lived together with the Girl Child while the boy was sent to live with her elder brother and his wife. All through this period, the man never maltreated the girl child or rejected her.

5. Things got better 3 years later and they moved into a bigger apartment. Life has been good to them at least.

6. Her Husband has reneged on their agreement to bring in their son into the new apartment to live with them. We don't know his reasons but maybe, she will give us a clue in the next point. Remember, the Girl child still lives in peace with him in the house, he treats her just right and they have a perfect relationship.

7. This woman confirmed that her son is now a petty thief. In a space of 3 years, He was caught stealing and beaten like an animal. Whatever he stole is none of our business.

8. She pleaded with her husband to allow the boy to come and live with them and he said NO, his reason "he doesn't want him to damage our children". "Children" includes the girl child from the previous marriage I believe.

9. This boy has been rejected by his mothers immediate relatives (Her brother and Sister) due to his strange behaviours and thieving nature.

10. She claims she foots %70 of the bills in the family. Who knows? Married men will agree that when a woman resorts to emotional blackmail, this is her usual line.

11. This woman reconfirmed that her son is more important than her marriage. Here "I will not take him anywhere why does he have to live like an orphan whyle im alive ? To be honest My son is more important than my marriage and it’s my responsibilities to protect him"

12. Have you also observed that this woman Never talked about "Loving her husband"? Another confirmation that love never existed in the beginning.


My Good Friends, from the points listed above, you will agree with me that this woman married her current husband because she wanted a father figure for her children.

Anyone noticed how she isn't talking about her daughter with the man in question?

Which man will watch a thief come into his house in broad daylight and do nothing about it?

Or you think the man has no clue about your her son's sudden change?

All i see is a man who fears for the future. It's just like asking this woman to accept her Ex-husband just because he promised that he will always love her. Time Changes and People too.

What if the husband is the one trying to bring in his love child who steals? Will the woman allow that without a second thought?

If you are a parent, you will attest to the fact that one negative influence can destroy your perfect child.



My honest advice to this woman is to go back to single parenting. She cannot continue to be married as the marriage was a sham in the first place.

I believe if her current husband is given an opportunity to tell his own side of the story, ears will tingle.

To the young man out there who is about to make this mistake of a lifetime, please read this thread and reconsider.



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SATAN

Some of you are just shameless. As a grown man that you are, you had to create a whole new thread to showcase crass stupidity. Didn't the man accept to care for the child? Do you think she would have married him if she thought he would renegade?
If this son is his own child, would he send him away for the same offence?

Should a woman throw away her own child for a man, who according to her isn't even that responsible?
Who then stands for this child?

When the gender bias overclouds your thinking, you forget that this is a child who needs care, a tomorrow's man, father and someone's husband or even a future leader.

Some of you don't use your brains appropriately.

Any man who would keep a woman from her children isn't worth anything. She can't love him and her love for him can't come up in this discussion.

But she said the Father of her children told her to move on and he has already moved on in the USA

She should retaliate. What kind of humiliation is that?

02Kebreal:
I hardly see Muslims going to Christian threads to insult them.
Islam is indeed peaceful

That's true.

Christians are fond of doing this.

DateMynd44:
are u making plans of joining Islam anytime soon?

Why are you dating mynd44 ?