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crackkhaus:
Cry me a large body of salty STD/yeast-infested waters...
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Lmao. The more you post, the more you show you are a cretin

Omar09:
Nne desist of name calling and all what not. They way you treated in your husband's family is how you will treat another woman married into your home for one single reason: RESPECT

If you don't give any woman her chair in your home, she disrespects you and you wouldn't like that, so don't feel bad when treated the same way. It's way of people saving their ego and keeping their respect intact because once one is loosened up around people especially women married into their home, that woman takes it for granted and disrespects them. No one wants that. Not even you.

What are you saying? Did you read my position on this subject at all?

crackkhaus:
At this point, you ought to take take several seats and think of your life.

I'm pained, yet you were the one crying about how your family was mentioned?

World worst sister-in-law...

Why don't you tell us how you treat your brother's wives by burdening them & making them serve you while you sit your leprous ass down.

Maybe someone out here will be able to counsel you on how to act right and not treat wives married into your family like slaves.

You are very dumb and stup!d at the same time. Your several attempts at bringing my personal experiences into this as yielded no result. A self respecting man would have realised this antics won't work, but you are obviously one who lacks anything worth respecting. It will explain why you are constantly on the forum trying to earn the types of accord you'd never even dream of in the real world.

It must also explain why you support anything that appaers against the female gender. They aren't giving it to you abi?? pele

Now if you have a bit of sense, you would see that your last post is highly demented. It's as if, by each post your IQ depreciates. From trying to prove that women aren't that badly treated to now suggesting that they are actually badly treatedd by me. How more stup!d can anyone be, to suggest that I do what I vehemently oppose. Even a 5yr old's attention span can't be that poor.

Fucxktard!!!

crackkhaus:
Cry me a river bimbo...

You're confidently yapping about how it happens anywhere and everywhere, yada yada yada... but when you're asked to confirm if you treat women married into your family like that, you start catching feelings.

Everytime you fvckers come here to speak of these things, you're so simple-minded that you fail to see that everything you accuse other families of doing to wives married into them, is exactly the same thing your family will be doing to women married into it.

Abi women no dey marry your brothers, cousins, and uncles?
So how do you treat them? Do you sit down and watch your brothers'/uncles' wives do all the work and serve you? Or you're the only well behaved sister-in-law in this your imaginary world of gumball...

Rubbish

I come back to the site to realise that this jobless foool from the gutters has quoted me again.

I said what I said. Let it pain you to oblivion.

crackkhaus:
Sometimes when some of you come up with these hypothetical scenarios, I wonder if you live under a rock.

Is there anyway a husband's sisters will sit down with legs crossed in their own father's house while their brother's wife does ALL the domestic work and serves everyone including them?

Where does that happen? In your family house?

Next time you want to exaggerate to make a blunt point, at least keep it within the parameters of reality.

A lot is wrong with you and if at all you have a family that you respect or is worth respecting at all, you won't mention my family in such a moronic way. But of course, sharing this cyberspace with nonentities like you, this is not unexpected.

Downplay it as much as you want, anywhere the sentiments you put forth are expected, there is so much burden on the wife, how she is expected to behave, greet or relate with others without same being accorded to women born in that household.

I know how you feel since I have been in a similar situation before. Although I wasn't as disrespected as you have been and thank goodness I never spent a dime on him. Lol. The only similarity was thinking that I loved someone who didn't reciprocate it.

I now know what true love is as I have been blessed with an amazing man who loves me dearly.

I know you are afraid that you won't find someone else. Let go of him and you'd be surprised that there are good fishes in the ocean.

crackkhaus:
Another one of those 'woke' people who feel they are making sense with their shallow analysis of these things.

Cultural expectations/behaviours which are based on gender, do not prove in anyway that women are being demeaned.
These things are not that simple.

Do you expect a man who went through the process & rigours of acquiring a wife, to visit his in-laws whom he paid homage to by granting their financial requests before they gave him their daughter, to be treated any less than a special visitor?
He did not marry into that family, does not bear their name, and is not a part of it culturally...so he remains a special visitor.

It's the opposite situation for a woman, simply because she is the one who was married into another family, bears that new family's name, and is part & parcel of it in every way possible. There's no way she will visit her in-laws and be given the treatment of a special visitor when by all cultural and traditional indices, she is a member of that family.
Even a married man visiting his own parents does not sit and cross legs because that is his own family, and he is not a special visitor. The only place he is treated that way is when he is among his wife's people.


People like that guy who see only the problems and imbalance in gender-based cultural expectations, fail to understand that it goes much deeper than what men are allowed to do versus what women are allowed to do. It's not that simple.

If you want to act western where all hands are on deck, then start by dismantling the cultural system by which marriages are conducted wherein women are the price and men the bidders. Once you do that, every other thing will fall into place.
But as long as marriage by purchase continues to exist, cultural expectations/behaviours will continue to favour men...even until the year 3020.

This analysis is flawed. If she is now a part of that family, why is the burden on her? Are her husband's sisters expected to behave the way she is expected to? Can she get away with the same things as they do?

The woman is almost treated as a slave who must serve every member of that family. It is wrong by all means.

Davash222:
Your MCM Obama that was assslicking Islamic extremists. Tell me another story abeg.

But Your hero,Trump signed a deal with Taliban

What about penalties for forged certificates presented to INEC

We have been hearing of budget padding since this government came on boatd. How come nobody has been prosecuted for it?

Candrevah:
Yes you are totally right. But still I think everyone needs support, be it little, to achieve thier goals in life, believe me.....for serious minded people only....I'm everly grateful for everything God has done for me and for keeping me alive and healthy up to this stage even though I've really been through lots of adversities....sigh..

You are right.

May God help and be with you. You can also state your needs, who knows who might be of help to you here.

My own is, where is Iara Oshiomhole?

ANGELMARVE:
Wow This is Beautiful.

This is why i will always advise early marriage for Ladies.

Going into your 30s and still unmarried is a wrong and regrettable move because no reasonable young man will take you serious.

See let us not deceive ourselves, any young girl in her 20s with good and great character will always get married because guys that are ready to settle dowm will always ask their hands in marriage.

If you are above 30 and unmarried then there is a question mark on your life already.

by the order of the Peaky blinders.

Stop talking nonsense.

You are right.

People privileged to have such should be grateful. But don't forget that no one's life is perfect and it could be that some people you considered privileged have other things worrying them that you are blessed with.

Count your blessings and be grateful

jaybeyblu:
I was about to create a thread about this issue till I came across this topic. Because it is a serious one.. I am engaged to be married this year and my fiancé still lives with his parents in his village. It is quite a distance to his work but he prefers to live in their house ( which is not so modern just to please his parents) and as his wife to be,these years of dating him has been a tug of war .and as I am typing this we are at the verge of breaking up because he has bluntly refused to move out of there..NO single privacy; any single thing that happens he would run to mama this is a man in his mid 30's with a good paying job.. This is a house that he was born in, so he is still living there in that same room, it is so small and uncomfortable but he is staying there and his parents back him up. Because of this we are always having serious issues about petty things: you said this about my mother, my mother said this, I don't like the fact that you don't spend enough time with my mom.
It is driving me crazy I am working and he expects me to sit down and fry garri with his mom any little time I visit him in his words;" it would show that I am fully integrated in his family" ... I can't even spend time with him because when I come visiting he would tell me to go and sit with his mother , his parents come first before anything and he is obsessed with them.. I have bought my wedding gown and we have even fixed a wedding date but I don't think I can cope any longer because I am stressed out and loosing my mind because of this family house issue. For 3 yrs of dating him no single misunderstanding that happens between both of us that he wouldn't tell his parents. Living with parents ruin marriages it has ruined a lot and yet people still consider it.. If you want to be happy in marriage please move to your own apartment no matter how small.. The worst part when he finally agreed to move out he kept postponing it and till now he hasn't made a single move, instead he ran to his parents and told them that I am insisting he should move out when his mother came to confront me ,that I want to separate the family I explained to her that it was her son that promised me that prior to our wedding,he would move out. his mother was so bitter, she turned to him and asked if it was true? My man started stuttering that he has tried to stay there and he has to move out, that the space is so small, no electricity, his mom flared up and told him that he should take a break with me . The matter escalated and he promised me he must move out. Afterwards, when the date to move out draws near he would start picking fights with me out of the blues, act like he never even said anything about moving out, and we would just go back to square one. Some times I think he is manipulated diabolically... I really need help!

I hope you are doing ok now. How did you ever put up with such a man.

The topic ia misleading. From the story, husband works in a bank where he met the side chick, wife invited her home like ahe woukd a friend and had discussions with her.

I like the woman sha. Choose happiness always.

Proper lubrication, tender loving and care would have prevented it.

Patience is important too. It can take days

Some women are like that. The jealousy they harbour against the wife will make them try all they can to destroy the home and some end up destroying their sons in the process.

Like someone said, it is your duty to draw the line as the man of the house. Give her herr due respect and protect your wife and children.

Yes. As long aa they are not related by blood

Amazed that such a corrupt person became Governor of a state.

It's sad

It's sad how much fake news is being spread and how fast this news get to the front page. This is one of them.

Believe this at your own peril

ejanla077:
How did u kno he donated without consulting the deputy...


Lqzy Nigerian yoot

Lol. Did you read the article? You can't even type correctly.

He lacks wisdom.

He donated the money without consulting his deputy. Now you see the kind of leadership he is going to run.

As a Governor of the state, that money should have been used for your people's betterment and not deposited in a church for a few men in gown to benefit from.

chioma134:
Thanks,Kenny. Pls indulge me further. I actually started thinking about this due to something that happened at work. A colleague's daughter was sent home from school for inablity to pay school fees. She was then explaining to us that her husband divorced her(she married according to Islamic rites) and left her 4 children for her to fend fully for them. Hence her inability to cope. Another colleague then commented that if she had done registry marriage, she could have taken her husband to court and forced him to cater for his children. My question is this. Couldn't she have taken him to court based on her certificate according to Islamic rites?

Yes. She vould have

Jeferious:
Italian carry coro enter Naija, dem be like "This country is very stupid, our senators are very bastard, bla bla bla....why will they grant the f##king Italian access into the country at this critical time?"

Not up to one week later, hotel management cancels a client's reservation for fear of spreading the coronavirus, getting quarantined and consequently not being allowed to do business as usual, they came again "So unprofessional... tufiakwa for this Nigeria".

Moral of the thread: The average Nigerian is a hypocrite.

Na wa for you o. How many people made that comment for you to come about a statistics about the average Nigerian?

Something that I have done right and that has continuously worked for me is leveraging on the people around me. I am able to sight potentials and develop great relationships that propel me higher and higher.

Mind you, I don't kiss asses as I climb the ladder. People rather respect me for my views. Intelligent people always do.

I have few, high quality friends and develop good relationships with beneficial acquaintances.

The rest, I leave to God.

So what I have learnt basically is the act of leveraging.

franchasng:
You are even a Muslim woman and you are here arguing and sweating about your husband having extra women when Koran even supported your husband marrying 4 wives lol




My wife is a medical professional, and she knows how often we embark on travels which will require we do DNA for our kids when they start coming, so that can't happen in my case, unless to some other dull guys

I can quote any book I want
The koran verse supports my point and that's why I posted it. good men for good women and cheats for cheats.

Cheat on your wife and she cheats back. Chikena.The worst you can do is divorce her. If she is a smart medical practitioner, I bet she can leave your ass and find a younger man with better functional dick to fuc.k with.

franchasng:
Look, men are sexual oriented or let me say sexually wired beings who judge a woman’s love for them based on loyalty, sexual satisfaction, while women are emotionally wired beings who judge a man’s love for them based on the man’s ability to cater and provide for their needs mostly, then others.

Because of how men are wired, they get bored of mating with the same woman for years; another factor here is the fact that women give birth and this affects the elasticity of their carnal passage, and also breastfeeding and aging reduces the firmness of their boobs, thereby reducing the sexual pleasure, and visual satisfaction their husband gets from mating with them as years roll by. With readily available options parading in different provocative outfits, men are emotionally tortured, indirectly harassed as every now and then, wherever they turn to, there are uncountable number of attractive ladies parading in sexually provocative and revealing outfits, thereby drawing their minds to that same sex.

Now tell me, how many ladies of today can condone and live happily with a husband that cannot provide their needs without looking elsewhere for provision or grumbling I don’t blame ladies for that because they are wired to expect provision from their man! Same way, not many men can live cheerfully with a woman he is getting zero sexual tingling from because men are wired to expect full sexual satisfaction from women! And there is no way a man will continue to get full sexual satisfaction with the same woman for years, even after childbirth, any man that tells you that is telling lies!!

The few men that stay faithful to their wife don’t do it because of their wife or to please their wife, or because they are sexually satisfied with their wife of many years, they do it in obedience and fear of their God or deity or for religious and spiritual reasons only!!



Go and Google "Prince Philip cheated on Queen Elizabeth" and read various publications on that. When the news broke, Queen separated from him temporarily even though they still carried on with their official royal duties

You are just moving in a circle repeating the same things over and over again. Just like a woman's body can change, so can a man and that does not justify cheating. That's my point.

franchasng:
Any woman that wants to cheat is free to cheat of course! But you and I know that the consequences of a cheating married woman far outweighs that of a cheating man anywhere in the world!


I don't have any problem with any woman who decides to cheat on her husband, but she should be bold enough to accept whatever consequences that comes with her actions when caught!


Like I said and I will repeat without any apology, this current world we are living in now belongs to men, it was created for men, women later came into the picture, so a tenant cannot tell the landlord how to live his life okay If a tenant doesn't like the landlord's way of life, all he can do as a tenant is to pack out and find another house of his choice that he can afford!!!

Jeff Bezos cheated on his wife in the US, what was the consequence He lost some of his wealth to his wife! Tiger Woods did......Singer Genuiwine did, Jay Z did, President Clinton, Prime Minister Berlusconi, Israeli President, Queen Elizabeth's husband Prince Philip, etc, etc and the lost continues.....so don't even bring western side or integrity to it.....it is the same all over the world, and any woman that cannot deal with it should seek for divorce like Jeff Bezos wife did, simple!!

is ok. When did Prince Phillips cheat though. Can you post a link?

The woman should face the consequences just like the man should be ready too.
If you cheat on your wife, she will bring a bastard that you will train to University level before you realise the consequences of your actions.

Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure, and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honorable

Here is what Koran says

We all knew it was a matter of time before someone tries to use religion to cash in on this pandemic.

You are a shameless bunch.

Hypocritical Christians.

franchasng:
Listen sweet lady, the world belongs to men, and there is nothing any woman can do about it, not Queen Elizabeth not even Hillary Clinton nor Oprah Winfrey!!


Any woman that is so stingy that she cannot share her hubby with some temporary mistresses should never marry in the first place


She can become a lesbian or if she is so religious let her go to the Monastery and live as a Nun away from men wahala, chikena!!


As a young single lady you enjoyed your life, having thousands of male crushes, collecting free gifts, eating free meals, fucking who you want and when you want and kissing who you want and when you feel like, those were your prime time, as nature have it, men's prime time starts from 35yrs till 80yrs because at this period, they are settled emotionally and financially and now the heartthrob of uncountable women; young, old, underage....and to balance life, nature made it that way that married men cannot stay without keeping one or two or three mistresses to keep their sexual fire burning because you cannot expect a well to do man to be digging one hole from year to year till he dies



Don't you know that as you drill a hole in engineering, it gets expanded and worn out with time and in engine block engineering maintenance, such engine block hole will be rebored to widen the hole to enable a bigger piston to be used so as to fit tightly and not leak or cause low compression during starting.


Women are supposed to be helping their husband's source for clean, superb mistress after childbirth to keep their husband happy, fulfilled and everyone satisfied instead of waging unnecessary wars.

Men don't complain when young and single that girls or ladies are getting the whole attention and dictating how romance and relationship goes, they ignore and focus on building their life while the ladies flex life, but when it is men's turn to enjoy their own life, you ladies will start to scream fowl, who die


Advice your horsebands to use protection at all times, that's all you can do.

No be only he wouldn't want to lose you, you be Jesus ni You ladies overrate yourself walai!!


No woman is irreplaceable in any mans life unless you are the one feeding him and he cannot walk or do anything without you, if not, you are giving yourself false hope, you better wake up cos it will shock you to your born marrow to later find out that he has been digging your friends and relatives


I am not here to pamper any lady or make any woman feel good with lies, I am here to tell you ladies the hard, blunt truth about life and men. Yes some wussie men will come here to say otherwise to win some free pussy and accolades online, but I am here to drum the truth that hurts like pepper!!

Why are you beating about the bush? Your experience is not my experience and my man is not you. So stop with the generalisation already.
Ok I have heard you.


But, do you know that women also cheat although not all women cheat. It is actually becoming more and more rampant that women cheat. Why is that?

Is it because women are naturally polyandrous? Women can't continue to take one dic,k forever now. They need bigger and younger dic.ks from time to time.
Ok, let's justify it nah. Afterall, as men age they simply can't do as much number of rounds that a woman wants. They are too preoccupied looking for money to keep their attention long enough. Some of them only know missionary, some have BPH and other diseases that's affecting their sexual life.I

Any nonsense can be justified. But even while at it, there are good men and good women and I am one of the good women. So please keep your idea of women to yourself. It's probably a result of the women around you and their lifestyles.