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FBS:
And how is that a guarantee of a happy future? Just because they are influencial and supposedly with potentials?

Wishing as they say doesn't make it so. Nothing wrong in that African culture loves that a woman can cook. How is that a bad thing?

So those who cam cook automatically have prefect happy homes?

There's nothing wrong with African culture loving a woman who can cook. But a woman who can't cook should not be hated or seen as unfit! I have a son and if his wife cannot cook but is a good productive woman I cant complain about cooking. This is 2020. By the way culture is dynamic! Subject to change. The role of kitchen is no longer strick to the female gender.

MajesticD:
Congrats to your friend's daughter.

Eventually it boils down to personal requirements and not because "the days are gone". However, your friend's daughter's dissent towards cooking hasn't become the standard of what should be obtainable because she's an MIT student. I pray she gets a man who's perfectly OK with eating entirely on orders or maid made food. On the other hand, I genuinely fear for how we've become comfortable with the decadence of certain positive aspects of our culture in the name of "Gone are the days" so we can copy the West hook, line and sinker. I sincerely wish we can emulate some of theirs, blend it with some of ours and have a more unique and better society. There will always be something missing when a woman can't at least prepare meals for her family. In our African culture, a woman who can't cook is perceived as not been properly trained, and for me, I will hold on to that. For what it's worth, there have been numerous advancements in technology (and that's where I believe the validity of "gone are the days" line ends, NOT in the actual act of mixing ingredients to make a meal) that's made the act of cooking easier so please don't get the wrong picture of a sweaty wifey pounding yam with smoke from firewood making her all teary. Cooking in itself is a survival skill for everyone.

There's so much I would have love to say but I'm so sleepy already.
#peace

She said cooking is not her thing. She will hire a cook or marry a man who cooks. She'll be fine. If she decides to have children, they'll be fine.

She a lovely young girl that is God fearing saving herself for marriage. A virgin at 20 in todays world in USA is commendable. So relax, trust me, she no go reach ground. A long line of young men with great potentials from politically and financially influential backgrounds are already forming line of potential suitors. Their parents are taking to her parents. (Anambra style) .

But ultimately it is the choice of their children.

All am saying is African culture tends to determine the rights of Women without their opinion. Thst is fast changing. This young women has no interest in the kitchen but that won't stop her for getting married or make her a bad wife.

Kennedyiheme02:
lol if you like let her hold certificate to heavens gate.. a womans degree is only useful to her boss at work.. no one cares about a womans degree tbh.. its just smoke... all that is necessary to make a good wife is your home management skills.. not MIT degree.. all thats just surdust

Fùck off with that mentality. There's a reason why MIT is investing millions of dollars in her education. Her ingenuity will feed generations without her having to step foot in a kitchen!

I can't believe you have access to the internet yet so naive! Do you know what is MIT? Have you seen any of their alumina poor or even average?

My friend go and educate yourself!

Higgies:
Come to our state head office....

Can I correct date of birth? 1980 instead of 1988?

MajesticD:
NO, a man MUSTN'T have SEVEN FIGURE INCOME before marriage. However, a man must have a consistent stream of income that can sustain a family before even thinking of marriage.

So if a woman has steady flow of cooked meals, why can't she be considered wife material? You think this is 1820? This is 2020 and if a girl is not interested in cooking she should not be forced.

My friends daughter has no interest in cooking. She says its not her thing. Guess what? She's 20, a double major aerospace engineering student at MIT. Yes! The MIT!!! On a full ride scholarship!

If my daughter is not interested in cooking no problem, the things she's interested in will ensure she can always hire a cook. Gone are the days bro...

MajesticD:
You've made so much sense. Truth is, the times have changed to make things easier for those who will embrace the change. A man who truly loves his wife will definitely look to make life easier for her by providing equipment that reduces her burden. However, I beg to differ with the "MUST A WOMAN KNOW HOW TO COOK?"
YES, a woman MUST know how to cook. How will a woman take proper care of her family without proper meals?

MUST A MAN HAVE SEVEN FIGURE INCOME BEFORE MARRIAGE?
YES! how will a man provide for his family without money?

God pls provide my daughter's with the type pf husband you gave me. The upgraded version of his type. Amen.

Because their is little hope for the boys here on nl. I pity who they marry.

My husband won't let me be stressed over anything appliances and maids are key!

zimdante:
Wow is that so? So thats how your small brain processed it.

Yes sir. You guys thought me that!

zimdante:
Wait what ! You are female? you don't sound like one but just in case you are telling the truth,
are you married?

Brostitute gold diggers everywhere.

dalass:
Wow..

At 16, you built a house.... Where did you get the wisdom and the money at that age,?

And how ?

This are innocent questions please... Thank you!

Wisdom; my family was living in one room because my dads house was uncompleted.
Money; I used to supply provisions to a big company.

What is Nigeria? A shithole!

unofficialmadman:
There's nothing you can tell me.
A sugar daddy somewhere sponsored this.

Happy birthday to her.

Taaa getaway u. Not everyone is from your family. At 16 I built a house! I slept with no one! I'm Nigerian. I'm female!

MrSensor:
How many times will she celebrate 21st? This old woman is not 21 years old. All of us can see that she is much older than that.

At 21 I looked older than this sef

Cynthiacute25:
An average Nigerian tag women as weaker vessels so expect anything from them.

Your mother only pls. Speak for her and her daughters only.

Elder0001:
Continue deceiving yourself.

We both know many naija ladies would sit down and depend on men for everything rather than work and get rich by themselves.

But then, this is the Internet where every lady claims to be miss abi Mrs independent.

Just like some claim to be feminists online but can't subscribe their phone without men.

Taaa. I don't know any lady that would prefer to beg than earn her own money! Non! The only girls that beg are the jobless ones. Same as jobless guys!

Every young girl around me is a hustler making her mark so crawl back to what ever cave you came out from. You're completely obsolete! This is 2020 dude!

It is only on a misogynistic thriving cowardly faceless forum such as nl that a stupìd question such as this would be asked...

Nonsense!

ReluctantAdult:
It's more an indictment on the women than the men who commented. I go on foreign forums like Reddit and I see the females on there don't shy away from questions thrown to females.
But Naija women are so shy and painfully reserved that one would think they're dumbos, or perhaps pretenders.

So it's on the women for not speaking out, not the men. If you can't speak for yourself, someone else will. For instance, yourself, you didn't even answer the question.

Naija women don't shy away from nothing. We are just few here on Nairaland because of the high level of misogyny. Ask this question on fb or Instagram. Ask Tundeednut to ask this same question and see!

By the way I personally find this question so stupìd that I wouldn't dignify it with a response! Who would prefer to beg than be their own boss?

pocohantas:
Thread is for ladies, first 17 commenters are men. You guys should kuku assume you have vaginas and take the floor.

Tufiakwa for this generation of men. Na una type dey go August meeting.

If this comment triggers you, please change.

Damn girl! I've always loved you

I don't know him but they say the eyes are a mirror of the soul.

He looks like he was a good person. His eyes look kind...

God rest his soul and comfort his family.

saintvc:
NBA

OF YORUBAS

BY.YORUBAS

FOR YORUBAS

They paid their dues in the development of legal system in Nigeria. I'm not Yoruba. Everything is not about tribe.

We from other regions should develop if we want to take over

Jayrockk:
This bress don dey fall o

U just had to go there

Leave to live but sisters won't listen.

I'll always support divorce because of beasts like this. What will he say provoked him to hit a pregnant woman on the abdomen?

I thank God the law makes no excuse for this type of behaviour. He will be hanged.

godkiller:
The husband had his reasons though not justifiable.

Maybe she threatened to go do juju, sell his property, leave with the daughter etc.

That is how women who pour hot oil, cut off prick, stab and kill their husbands have reasons too

iamadonis2:
Calabar. And I'm into female luxury items.

Lagos would be better for u.

Rent in abj alone will wipe out your capital.

Damn, the guy is a savage bastard!

AerialMapper:
All i see is you complaining about all you do and give and whinging about yourself

Please spare a thought for her and what she is giving...unless she isnt giving anything.

If you really and truly love someone, you will not complain about doing what you are doing!

Anyway, grow her and grow yourself; tomorrow she will be a Medical Professional and i hope you'd be a big player in the laundry industry else....

The truth is she will most likely dump him because of his attitude and I can't blame her.

LordNicvuitton:
I appreciate your kind input. She actually does the laundry in my absence (I work in a hospital within that area) so that when I'm back, I steam and package the clothes, just that i foot her daily meal and daily transport and then pay her monthly. She asked me for it, instead of her staying at home and she also knows that she won't get those extra privileges elsewhere, that she gets from me.

She is working for you so the monthly salary you pay her is not free!
As for the meals and tp, if u can't anymore inform her. Then end your relationship with her. Let her look for someone more suitable for herself. She's a daughter from a poor home, a lot is riding on her shoulders...

Guy tell her the truth! You are not yet there to take care of her needs! Cut her loose let her look for someone more capable.

She is girl friend and all you give her is free meal and tp. I won't add the salary cos she's working hard for that pay.

If free meal and tp is too much for you, then u shouldn't be in a relationship. She has a bright future. May God send her a helper! She's from a poor home which is not her fault.

One day they will kill him. Just ask Aussies crocodile hunter

InfernoNig:
You know wetin cause am? She knows

Him too knows why she spat at him.

When both parties are aggrieved both parties should keep their hands to themselves.

stanliwise:
Don't o, he might punch shit outta you and redesign your face o. If a guy slap you and e too pain you. Get him arrested. Legal system are very swift to defend women in modern society. I advise male escort you to make the report because policemen can be ridiculous .
Also grabbing a guy ball because of slap is not a fair game IMO

But if a girl slaps a guy and he beats her up, hitting her multiple times its fair game abi?

symplyrachel:
He slapped me and i spat on him.


ThankGod for his brother, i for collect beating that day

Next time if a guy slaps you, go straight for his balls.

Its fair game!