₦airaland Forum

chii8:
Na waoo...this girl dey enjoy ooo,make my Papa catch you with boy,those days,you will chop serious beating plus 7days fasting, plus a trip to the village to stay with grandma for one month,when you're done farming, doing all the chores at village, the next time a boy tries to walk past you,you will pick race
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She's a 23year old adult

Amanee:
If my husband is C. Ronaldo, I'll sleep nude and hit the gym everyday
Broke Nigerian men with their pot bellies looking for what they cannot afford.

Apt!!!

Shock kee u dia

sorextee:
Theres nothing in a white mans land. Let's stay here and build our economy.

True talk o

Cousin9999:
Can you actually afford a cook? Will you ever be able to afford one? Pardon my skepticism.

Will this person be underpaid and miserable, or a real private chef? I wouldn't want the former preparing my meals.

Who the fùck is preparing your meals

Some of us are successful ok!

Ladyhippolyta88:
Thank you mama
Oh my this is definitely what I have in mind@bold
I can cook but I do not find any joy in it. It bores me to be honest.My cooking is within average or below average.

My dear do whatever makes u happy. At the end of the day I'd rather to be able to afford a cook that to be a cook

CanadaOrBust:
Such a beautiful family and those daughters... now I think I know why she had to come forward.
Look, I don’t know if Fato is guilty or not. I was not there. I DO NOT KNOW. But there are things I do know:
1) He said he’s never been in a room alone with Bukola. People do not believe that and if he’s lying about that, well, you have to wonder what else he’s lying about
2) Other women have come forward with accusations against him including the two below
3) He was chief priest of a cult that sometimes used rape for initiation and sometimes murdered rivals
4) MOTIVE: what else would be Bukola’s motive for putting herself and family through all this

Every one knows the guy is guilty. It's just that in Nigeria rape is condoned and tolerated

Ladyhippolyta88:
Who cares about african nature whatever.
Certainly not me.
So yes my man is not the typical african, egoistic, myopic, backward what have you type of man.
So your opinion ain't needed.
So swerve.
Thank you, jare.

Don't waste ur time replying them. Cooking is good and I cook very well but it's no longer a relevant skill required for the 21st century young woman for survival as she has other skills

My 23year old niece honestly can't cook. Only indomine, white rice and stew? Fried yam plantain....

But she speaks Korean and French. She's also a first class graduate with several job offers so what the neck with cooking, she said she'll employ a cook or eat out

ValCon888:
Professor collaborating with a doctor to induce a 16year old girl? It is dangerous to have a girl child in this society.

Nigeria in one of the most unsafe places to have a daughter. Second only to India

naptu2:
FIFA statement.

Toh!!!

czarina:
Find a shed nau, do you have to hawk it? Food will always sell if you find a busy location even with just a makeshift space.

I can never allow my wife hawk food. God forbid!

vision2050:
Do you support him financially?
Man can nag or give silent treatment if support is not coming from partner.
Just talk to him and tell him how you feel, I hope he change.

What's wrong with all these jiggolos looking for a woman to feed them Is it now the responsibility for a woman to support a man financially? Shìt menh.

Just so u know, the op salary is 300k! Husband earns even more!

goodgirl2409:
My monthly salary is 300000 and my husband earns more

Ok read my advice ehh. Money is never the problem of your marriage. I thank God u are financially stable. My advice for u is on page 9 or 10. Go though it and thank God.

crackhouse:
the man might not complain but Let that woman get up and start something and you will see how the Man will start appreciating her every move.

Get your facts straight. He will not appreciate her for starting business and making money. As a matter of fact he may frustrate it!

The only thing that will make this man appreciate his wife is if she successfully creates the impression that she can survive and be happy without him! Then and only then will he come around.

Speaking from experience.

GoldPencil:
lol. as I read your advice I see say u don tey for the man vs woman game. na I'm I say make op listen to veteran. Men always win in the end though.

Hahaha lol!!!
Men always win because we women with sense want u to feel that way! u guys ego and all must never be hurt! But in the end we get exactly what we want and more. Trust me.

A woman's heart is one the deep blue see filled with many secrets... fact!

crackhouse:
he's not cheating. The fact is she's not making any positive impact in the family. She's just a liability to the man that's all. The man is the only person running around for the family upkeep and it has not been easy for him. Some women are like that, they are just like a log of wood that doesn't make any meaningful contribution in the house and can't help u realise your dream either.

If not for ban I for curse u out eh.

So the fact that this bloke of a man comes home to a loving faithful wife and a cooked meal means nothing?
Are him and her age mates? Isn't he supposed to provide?
Is it the responsibility of the wife to feed her husband?
If he wants her to contribute financially why can't he set up a business for her?
Did she complain about anything financially related?

You are a small boy, pls grow up!

KanuSE:
What rocks your boat may sink Op's boat finally.

If the damn boat sinks it's useless and not worth it!

If she gives him a slice of his own cake and he decided to walk out that's his loss. Op will move on too. Her destiny can not be tied to misery

femlake:
Please contact me on fembuk2002@gmail.com
I have tips on making this kind of marriage work.
Thank you.

Oga say your tips here so others can learn.

Except this is some 419shìt.... if so leave her alone, she is suffering enough!

GoldPencil:
listen to her. the game is the game. dont hate it. just play it well.

Wisdom is profitable to direct...

A scam can't scam a scammer

Classyuniquebae:
It's really disturbing to read 85% of the comments stating different reasons and justification to the husbands silent treatment !

I've been happily married for 7 years now and as someone rightly stated , marriage does not have a definite formular that works for every couple but one thing is always the solution to all marital problems and that is COMMUNICATION !!! You cannot really get anything done no matter how lovely , sweet , patient and understanding you are as a partner without knowing how to express what you feel,how you feel and what you are really expecting from your partner.

Communication makes everything easier ! It helps your partner to know that you are angry , that you are not being sexually satisfied , that her way of doing some certain things annoys you !!! Hell how is she going to know that she is not satisfying you sexually and seek to either learn , improve or take lessons from you ? How would she know that you are no longer interested and at least try to convince you otherwise or move on with his or her life ? It doesn't matter if your husband cheated or you cheated ! The truth remains that for both of you to understand the situation , look for a possible solution or go your separate ways , you must have to sit down like civilized human beings and talk it out simple !!! No need of claiming hard man or woman ! If you want a divorce at least communicate goddamn it !

Two people must be willing to talk at all times than to let things linger on, causing more pains and assumptions inbetween ! If you are not a talking type or one who would maturely set aside his ego ,anger and what not to discuss amicable or issue your warning or make your stand clear , then believe me , even if you marry 10 wives or 10 husbands ... Your marriage must crash !


In a nut shell Op , try once more to communicate with him and if he isn't coming forth , I'm sorry to say that you need to move on .
Life is too short to be spent on an unwilling partner . Once one dies, it's over ! No more second chances , so make it worthwhile while you still have the chance .
Good luck

That because 85% of those commenting are kids that are not married.
I've been married for 15years and I suffered exactly what the op is suffering. The guy has people advising him to go hard on his wife in order to exert himself as the man of the house.
He is also cheating, at this rate if she catches him she will be the one begging... men do shìt like this a lot even the core Christian ones.

She just needs to realign herself

goodgirl2409:
My husband has really changed. He is so unemotional and revengeful.
I will cook for him severally and he won’t eat. I will serve him food and he won’t eat. I will ask him what I have done and he won’t respond. Every time he gives me the silent treatment.

I feel so pained because I expected more from this marriage but barely 1 year after, he doesn’t seem to love me anymore. Sometimes 1 month will pass, no sex. He would go out and won’t bother to tell me where he is going.



He would come back very late and would just ignore me like I don’t exist.
Although he drops money for me to run the house and communicates strictly with me, it make no sense to me.
I am tired. Is this how marriage is? Is this how men are or am I just suffering?

I don’t have anyone to beg to talk to him,and I was told reporting him to any of his family members is not good. things are getting worse everyday. People who have married for many years and are succeeding please help me. What am I not doing right?

UPDATE.
I want to add that it is not sexual incompatibility.
When he is in his happy mood, I would even be tired of his endless gist. S-x will be very great. He is kind and caring. Such a wonderful man. In fact an angel. He would even wash my underwear’s and clothes.

But when his mood start which is his mood most of the time, he won’t talk to you, he won’t eat. I will finish cooking, he will go outside and buy another food and come and cook. He won’t come back on time. I will ask him what is it, he would not respond. He always feels everything I do to annoy him, i do it on purpose. I am a peace loving person. Everyone around that knows the story
always say that he has a problem.

As I was reading, i said to myself this was exactly me a few years ago. Not anymore...

Dear here's what's happening: you described your husband as a loving man right?
1. He has friends or family that are advising him to go hard on you or else you will take him for a ride. Not that you've done anything wrong o, it's just a method of creating the idea in your head that your husband has options and if u mess up you're out

2. He is cheating.... and the guys he hangs around with advices him to cheat. I'm sorry to break this to u but like 95%Of Nigerian men your husband has gone outside, therefore he is playing the best way to defend is attack! It's a mind game. All our men do it.
At the point to which he is ignoring you, if u catch him red handed with another woman, you'll be the one to beg him to return to u... I've been married 15years, I know what I'm talking about.

Solution: the good old fashion way, ignore him. Yes it's old fashion but it works!
Never let his silent treatment get to you!
Never let him see you cry or sad. You've been begging and it's not working, time to change tactics! Even if u roll on the floor crying and begging, nothing will change.
Cook but don't serve him unless he asks. If he complains just say I thought u came back with food...
Focus on yourself and make money!!!
Hangout with your friends (girls night out)
Let him see you chatting and smiling... ( This one is a killer o. Pls be careful)
Lock your phone! Don't touch his and let him not touch yours too...
Play music all the time when he is home with an ear piece.
Register at a gym! Are you in ph? I for recommend where you'll have so much fun eh! Depression will never know u.
But NEVER cheat unless you've walked out of the marriage which I don't advise.
Do all these and he'll come around begging like a dog. Trust me!
There's a saying that the one sure way to get your man back is to give him an overdose of his mistress...

Hope this helps u the way it helped me cuz my husband used to give me silent treatment like this too.

Above all Talk to God about it... the prayer changes things.

Nl fùck boys are all over this thread spewing trash from their broke asseś

I thought u guys marrying a white woman is best They are not gold diggers like we Nigerian women




















































Stupid broke idiots.

They may still be alive...

Dozie32:
So you mean I can Bleep my wife that just gave birth two months ago?

Your mates have started since 3weeks post delivery

Live everyday like it's your last.

Death can always pull up surprises...

IgbosNIGHTMARE:
That girl na confirm runs girl for Babcock before she drop out.

If you know you.


Free of charge, I no fit date that olosho.

You go know her well na.

As na your mother teach her ashawo work

While the world is moving towards renewable energy we are still searching for oil. A commodity that will soon become irrelevant

Philistine:
I hope no life was lost?

Buhari resign oooo.

You are synonymous with bad news