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Phone/Internet MarketRe: Unlock Your Usb Modem For Free :just To Help Nigerians by yemisolar(m): 9:30pm On Jan 25, 2011
Hi, please I have huawie E170 universal modem it works with mtn, and etisalat. But when I put glo after putting the Apn(gloflat)user name and password(flat). it gives this message: error 720 connection to the remote computer could not be established. Pls what do I do. imei-354483029866902.
ComputersRe: Glo Not Connecting With Huawie E160 by yemisolar(m): 9:28pm On Jan 25, 2011
Hi I have the same problem you are having. Pls you can send me a mail at pettral@yahoo.com 0r txt 08052141582 whenever you find a solution. Thanks.
FamilyRe: I Am Tired Of My Marriage by yemisolar(m): 12:48pm On Dec 29, 2010
Hi abbydee,
My post is a little long but I would appreciate if you took some time to go through it.
if I had a chance to meet you, I would have loved to ask you a few questions such as; how long have you been married to him, how did you two meet, how was he when you met, at what point did the ‘change’ start, what your relationship with his family like, what type of friends does he have, does he carry women, What are the things you still appreciate about him e.t c.
However I will try to offer my little advice using the contents of your post by the paragraph.
Firstly marriage does not mean abolition of rights, you have the right to complain and say what you really feel. The only challenge is saying it without hurting his ego. This basically has to do with how you say it and when you say it. Sometimes what you say is as important as how you say it. You do not have to give it to him as hot as it is in your mind. You do not have to speak in the heat of the moment. Always digest things before you say them. Talking about wishing to go back to your single days; I do not know how old you are but do you really think you would be happy if you were still single any suitor at this time. I am not that all singles are unhappy. My point is that we humans always think that the grass is greener on the other side. This is always not so. The best is to face where we are and find a way out.
I do not know your husband and I don’t mean to sound chauvinistic but from what you have written I can deduce a few things. The fact that he drinks and smokes is not the best but that he is not violent at home is commendable. The reason is that drinking, smoking and beating go together in most cases. When you said ‘no plans for the future’ does that mean that he does not have a plan or that he doesn’t share it with you? If it is the first then there is a big problem but if it is the second it is easier to handle.
Not sharing anything with him, not going out together, not having dates . . .all these are not problems but symptoms of an underlying gulf between you two. The fact that he clubs shows that he is a social person only that he is not showing that aspect of him towards you. That also explains his coming to bed after you are long asleep.
The fact that you acknowledge that you have you own faults shows that you are not being myopic about the situation, however what you term ‘lot’ of efforts in your own perspective might not be lot to him. Your post suggests that you are not from the same tribe. That could have its own challenges but nothing is insurmountable. There are a lot of people who have inter ethnic marriages and are enjoying it.
In the same vein what you see as not making ‘any costly effort’ to him might doing his best. Also if you feel like an investment to him it is your feeling and only you can change how you feel. You shouldn’t give anyone the authority to make you feel less than a person-not even your husband. That does not mean you should shout it at him or to his face but make yourself understand it so well that it becomes so real to you just as you are a mother to your child an nothing can change that.
You might have made many attempts to talk to him but if you have not made the right attempts you might not get the right result. There is always a right way to address an issue. It might not be the obvious way.
My advice is as follows;
1) Develop yourself image; I understand that a lot of a woman’s self worth comes from her family. That is why divorces tend to affect women the most. This is not bad in itself because it arises from the depth of love and commitment she puts into the family. However you must realize that you were a whole human being before you got married and marriage would not change that fact. Marriage is two whole people coming together and not two halves to become one.
2) What are the things you still like about him? What are the good sides that he has? Most times the reason why we get married and the reason we stay married are quite different. You will need to find the reasons why you should stay with him and work things out.
3) Find out the trigger factor; I’m sure he was not like this when you married him. If this is so then there must have been a trigger factor I;e the cause of the change. If you cannot place a handle on it does not mean that it does not exist. The next best thing is to ask him in a respectful sober and polite manner. A moment after a lovemaking session is one of such good times.
4) Rebrand yourself; look out for what he likes and try to satisfy him ‘the way he likes it’. Sometimes men see their wives as conquered territories from which they are not expecting anything new. A lot of the times the wives do not help as they become boring too. Try to surprise him. Do the things he does not expect you to.
5) You should seek counsel from people around you who are more mature and have better marriages.
6) Lastly, you need to find spiritual peace. By that I mean accepting Christ as your lord and savior for He is the one that can essentially give you peace and touch the heart of your husband. If this is the only thing you do you have solved 80% of the problem.

I hope you find these tips useful. If you have any question you can e-mail me at pettral@yahoo.com. Wishing you all the best.
Car TalkRe: Jesus Please Take The Wheel! Fashola Should See This (men Of Kai) by yemisolar(m): 12:01pm On Oct 20, 2010
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PoliticsRe: Gbomo Jomo (Henry Okah's Brother) Is Arrested? by yemisolar(m): 12:00pm On Oct 20, 2010
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TravelRe: U.S. Posts New Nigeria Travel Warning: Kidnapping, Robbery, Bombs, Etc by yemisolar(m): 11:56am On Oct 20, 2010
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CelebritiesRe: Star Actress Funke Akindele Robbed At Gun-point by yemisolar(m): 11:55am On Oct 20, 2010
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PoliticsRe: Rioters Burn Police Station In Northern Nigeria by yemisolar(m): 8:48pm On Oct 19, 2010
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CrimeRe: Why I Allowed Dad To Impregnate Me –16-year-old Girl by yemisolar(m): 8:47pm On Oct 19, 2010
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EducationRe: Sex education is immorality teaching in disguise. by yemisolar(m): 8:46pm On Oct 19, 2010
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PoliticsRe: Efcc To Disqualify 54 Pdp Aspirants by yemisolar(m): 8:45pm On Oct 19, 2010
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Forum GamesRe: Word Association Game by yemisolar(m): 10:17pm On Oct 04, 2010
hi guys
i have modems for sale with the following features;

3.5G/3G HSDPA Universal USB Modem
*7.2Mbps maximum downlink
*Works with MTN, Zain, Glo & Etisalat
*MicroSD Slot (Can be used as flash drive)
*SMS Capable
*Phonebook functionality
*Compatible with Windows XP/Vista/7
*Plug & Play (No CD Driver required)
*6 Months Manufacturer's warranty

best of all is goes for only 10,000 and it will be delivered at your doorstep if you are in Lagos.

all you need do is to call or mail.

thanks.

pettral@yahoo.com

+234-8052141582, 234-1-7027964574.
ComputersRe: How Do I Use Proxifier 2 Increase My Browsing Speed by yemisolar(m): 10:12pm On Oct 04, 2010
hi guys
i have modems for sale with the following features;

3.5G/3G HSDPA Universal USB Modem
*7.2Mbps maximum downlink
*Works with MTN, Zain, Glo & Etisalat
*MicroSD Slot (Can be used as flash drive)
*SMS Capable
*Phonebook functionality
*Compatible with Windows XP/Vista/7
*Plug & Play (No CD Driver required)
*6 Months Manufacturer's warranty

best of all is goes for only 10,000 and it will be delivered at your doorstep if you are in Lagos.

all you need do is to call or mail.

thanks.

pettral@yahoo.com

+234-8052141582, 234-1-7027964574.
PhonesRe: Nokia C3 by yemisolar(m): 10:09pm On Oct 04, 2010
hi. i saw your post on nairaland that you wanted a modem.

i am willing to offer you an alternative. my modem has the following features;

3.5G/3G HSDPA Universal USB Modem
*7.2Mbps maximum downlink
*Works with MTN, Zain, Glo & Etisalat
*MicroSD Slot (Can be used as flash drive)
*SMS Capable
*Phonebook functionality
*Compatible with Windows XP/Vista/7
*Plug & Play (No CD Driver required)
*6 Months Manufacturer's warranty

best of all is goes for only 10,000 and it will be delivered at your doorstep if you are in Lagos.

all you need do is to call or mail.

thanks.


OYEDELE OYEYEMI. (Mr).

O2 Energy Solutions

9a Church Street, Second floor,

lagos island,

Lagos, Nigeria.

+234-8052141582, 234-1-7027964574.
BusinessRe: Forex Trade Alerts by yemisolar(m): 5:42am On Sep 18, 2010
hi guys, if you need 50-100,000 loan without collateral four your business. you can mail me at pattral@yahoo.com. strictly business please. or call 08052141582
Business To BusinessRe: Introduce Your Business by yemisolar(m): 5:42am On Sep 18, 2010
hi guys, if you need 50-100,000 loan without collateral four your business. you can mail me at pattral@yahoo.com. strictly business please. or call 08052141582
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Lafarge Wapco/dragnet Aptitude Test by yemisolar(m): 5:41am On Sep 18, 2010
hi guys, if you need 50-100,000 loan without collateral four your business. you can mail me at pattral@yahoo.com. strictly business please. or call 08052141582
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Tues And Thurs Guardian by yemisolar(m): 5:40am On Sep 18, 2010
hi guys, if you need 50-100,000 loan without collateral four your business. you can mail me at pattral@yahoo.com. strictly business please. or call 0805141582
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Urgent Vacancies by yemisolar(m): 5:40am On Sep 18, 2010
hi guys, if you need 50-100,000 loan without collateral four your business. you can mail me at pattral@yahoo.com. strictly business please. or call 0805141582
Jobs/VacanciesRe: FIRS Appointment At Last! by yemisolar(m): 5:40am On Sep 18, 2010
hi guys, if you need 50-100,000 loan without collateral four your business. you can mail me at pattral@yahoo.com. strictly business please. or call 0805141582
Nairaland GeneralRe: What Did You Spend Your Weekend Doing? by yemisolar(m): 5:39am On Sep 18, 2010
hi guys, if you need 50-100,000 loan without collateral four your business. you can mail me at pattral@yahoo.com. strictly business please. or call 0805141582
Nairaland GeneralRe: Nairalanders!!! Check Me Out. by yemisolar(m): 12:19pm On Aug 10, 2010
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Christianity EtcRe: Govt Bans External Loud Speakers At Religious Centres by yemisolar(m): 12:18pm On Aug 10, 2010
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Nairaland GeneralRe: What Did You Spend Your Weekend Doing? by yemisolar(m): 12:18pm On Aug 10, 2010
hi guys, if you need #50-100,000 to start/grow your business. you cal e- mail me at pettral@yahoo.com. or call 08052141582.

this is strictly for small business owners only.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Shell Nigeria - The Next Generation by yemisolar(m): 12:16pm On Aug 10, 2010
hi guys, if you need #50-100,000 to start/grow your business. you cal e- mail me at pettral@yahoo.com. or call 08052141582.

this is strictly for small business owners only.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Free Oil Company Test Format Part 2 by yemisolar(m): 12:16pm On Aug 10, 2010
hi guys, if you need #50-100,000 to start/grow your business. you cal e- mail me at pettral@yahoo.com. or call 08052141582.

this is strictly for small business owners only.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Tues And Thurs Guardian by yemisolar(m): 12:16pm On Aug 10, 2010
hi guys, if you need #50-100,000 to start/grow your business. you cal e- mail me at pettral@yahoo.com. or call 08052141582.

this is strictly for small business owners only.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Urgent Vacancies by yemisolar(m): 12:15pm On Aug 10, 2010
hi guys, if you need #50-100,000 to start/grow your business. you cal e- mail me at pettral@yahoo.com. or call 08052141582.

this is strictly for small business owners only.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Total Oil Interview Any Idea On The Format? by yemisolar(m): 12:15pm On Aug 10, 2010
hi guys, if you need #50-100,000 to start/grow your business. you cal e- mail me at pettral@yahoo.com. or call 08052141582.

this is strictly for small business owners only.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Massive Vacancies @ Stanbic Ibtc Bank! by yemisolar(m): 12:14pm On Aug 10, 2010
hi guys, if you need #50-100,000 to start/grow your business. you cal e- mail me at pettral@yahoo.com. or call 08052141582.

this is strictly for small business owners only.

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