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@victorian
Don't misunderstand me. I'm not saying any woman should want to be seen as a child. I brought up the examples of kids, friends etc just to say it could be anybody causing the provocation. What is important is for an individual to always put his/her emotions in check and not allow anyone make them do the worst when provoked only to start regretting it later. Most of the men who beat their wives face equal or worse provocation elsewhere, yet they know how to manage the situation. It's all a matter of mindset.

@kulyie
Where did you get your definition of 'lady' from? Abeg check well o.

@victorian

What if it's your kids who provoke you after a long day at work? We all know how naughty kids can be. Would you still hit them because they provoke you?

^ you keep talking about provocation? Does it mean you can't control your temper? I ask you again, if your colleague or boss or even friend provokes you, would you go hitting them?

No one is indispensable. If the wife isn't there, the man will get round to doing those things anyway. The first point doesn't make much sense to me.

When will you guys get tired of all these rock, yam, meat, corn with Allah's name on it? Whether true or fake, these things are not needed for the validity of Islam.

I won't be surprised to learn that all these things are fabrications from anti-Islam to create doubts and arguments.

After committing murder can she still stay in that house she built with her sweat? Look at the number of people that will suffer. Her own life is ruined, first off. Her kids will carry the stigma and torment throughout their lives, the man's parents and other beneficiaries who he might be catering for.
Some people are literally making marriage a do or die affair.

It's not your hubby's responsibility to cater for your family. Don't resent him for not doing it.

Find a source of income for yourself. Very important.

Talk to him, let him know you don't like the way he talks to you. If after several polite attempts he still persists, begin to talk to him in like manner. If he complains tell him you learnt from the best teacher, you learnt from him.

I need to understand the way people think. So which one is a worse crime? Infidelity or murder? Are they even comparable? Comments such as the ones above would only make people get bolder to commit heinous crimes in the society.

Why should a woman kill her husband because he's taking another wife? So what's the woman's gain after killing the husband, becoming a murderer and jeopardizing the future of her kids. I don't even see any sense behind the killing. One senator's wife did same to her husband few months ago and that one was even the second wife o.

Is it by force? If your husband does not value you any longer and sees the need to take another wife, if you can't cope with it, why not just quit the marriage instead of destroying lives?

Now this woman will be on the run all through her life or spend the rest of her miserable life in jail. I guess this is a better option than sharing her husband with another woman.

Both pictures are unrealistic. How can one carry a baby to the office with all the whining and frequent demands. She's even on phone. So her client/customer or whoever she's speaking with can hear the babbling of the baby underneath. Which company allows such?

And for the one cooking, how can she have two kids tugging at her wrapper while she stirs something hot on the cooker? She wants them to get burnt ni?

I used to call both of them like once in two weeks or more and then my dad would complain that I don't call them enough. Infact he did most of the calling. The last time he called, the last time I heard his voice, he was complaining that I didn't call nor visit, I promised to visit but after a few weeks, mum called at night that dear daddy had passed on. I felt (still feel) so bad about it.

Now I call my mum everyday. Just finished speaking with her self.

Alright thanks

Now I have a question, a muslim couple that did the Islamic wedding, if they're having a divorce, do they need to still obtain divorce papers from the court for the divorce to be valid or the Islamic prescription of going about it suffices?

@tbaba

I think those issues you're bringing up on the Muslim singles thread are better discussed here.

Who snapped the picture? An onlooker? The man himself? And who brought it to the public?

@OP please where did you get this picture?

^^ learnt a new word from you 'swaggacious'

Interesting and mostly true.

This is a very good one. Thanks for sharing OP

Hehehehe Baba oyo, so it's your son that is doing the typing. You can't type.

Asiri yin ti tu o.

It's absurd to sleep in separate rooms but they can have separate rooms to keep their things since one room isn't enough for some women to store bags and shoes.

Wow! Congratulations!

Be respectful towards her but maintain your stand. Your family affairs remain yours, not her business. Thank God your wife is with you on this. As time goes on, MIL will get used to your style and let you be.

Baba oyo why write melo as m'elo? What are you shortening there? You know you have students here already, learning yoruba from you. Abeg teacher no teach us nonsense. Lol.

@topic
Infidelity, abuse.

The third party referred to here is the family, like parents-in-law or where those aren't available trustworthy and honorable islamic scholars around.

Asalam alaykum sisters,

I am marveled and at the same time humbled at your faith and steadfastness. May Allah in His infinite mercy grant each and everyone good righteous children soon. Allah has said He won't leave the believers without testing their faith. May we all pass these tests and become stronger and better Muslims afterwards. May we not be confronted with tests that'll be too great for our souls to bear.

Let's remember the hadith where the Prophet (saw) says the affairs of muslims are surprising to him and this is so for him(the muslim) alone. When he experiences good, he's thankful and that is good for him. And when he experiences hardship he's steadfast and that is also good for him. And no one has this attribute except the believer.

May Allah answer our prayers and make us grow from muslimsto muhmeen to muhsin . . .
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This is the division the Prophet (pbuh) prophesied. Subhanallah. There's division even amongst ahl-sunnah! O ma se o.

Amin

Most marriages now do not want the involvement of third parties. They see it as poke-nosing. Compared to the olden days when extended families had a close-knit relationship and everyone knew what was happening to everyone. Perhaps this is one of the major reasons for high rate of divorce now compared to then.

At times you won't even know that a couple is having issues with their marriage. You'll just hear them declare they're separated or divorced without any family member getting involved.