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Abi o Ify. Even I was feeling awkward typing all those here but I just couldn't help correcting the wrong impressions.

And biko jidegirl and maclatunji enough of the fights. It's alright. E ma binu mo.

@jidegirl

You're getting so many things wrong about Islam perhaps because you're using your home/experience to judge all Muslims. To start with, most of the muslim men around me are usually the first to apologise when they wrong their wives, in fact, I have one who jokes about the fact that whether he's the wrong or wronged, he's the one that apologises because his wife simply refuses to. Well, maybe I'm just lucky to have such one-in-a-million, exceptional muslim men around me.

On the topic, you emphasise that the Quran says the man must be responsible for everything in the home. You're not far from the truth. Each partner has clear stipulated responsibilities and roles to play in the home and the quran states these in no unclear terms. Interestingly, you will not find anywhere in same holy book that forbids the woman from helping her husband should the need arise.

If a man refuses his wife to work, it's a personal choice. It is not prohibited for a woman to work and earn money in Islam as long as her work does not get in the way of her primary responsibility which is her home, hubby, kids. The Prophet's first wife was a successful business woman and she and her hubby (Prophet Muhammed) did business together. How about that? There's the history of many muslim companions of the Prophet whose wives were the breadwinners in their homes.

I guess maclatunji ignored uplawal's post because of her over-sentimental and aggressive approach to issues. I'd do same.

Someone should answer my question now. Is red cap allowed for men?

Enlightening OP, interesting contributions.

On (not)wearing red, is it limited to garments alone or includes cap as well? Can men wear red caps?

My nephew was reporting his dad to me last week. The boy was coming from somewhere with his cap in his pocket,met the dad outside and the latter started cursing him because he wasn't wearing the cap. Said he tried explaining to the father that he removed it while rushing down from a commercial bus but the father wouldn't listen. He said the boy is disobeying Allah. He's turning bad etc. I was as perplexed as the boy at how some Muslims go about these things.

I knew my parents' ages as far back as when I started counting mine, dates of birth, day, time and even circumstances surrounding their births. ‎​ℓoℓ‎​. I also saw no big deal in telling my kids my age until when my daughter started telling her friends and everyone around. She would go like "... I'm xyr old, my mummy is y yrs, my daddy is Z yrs, our baby is B months...". But fortunately, when I told her it's not cool to just go telling everyone our ages she has since stopped.

I have no regrets telling her though. I'll still do same with her younger ones. The kids of this age, even if you don't tell them, they'll ask. My daughter even knows my mother's age.

@bola4dprec

Jazak Allah khayran.

Both.

@Remii

Hope you were not duped. I paid N1500 for it and got receipt. It's N1500 per annum in Lagos.

@Ify

If you do not pay, they'll keep harassing you with court summons and what-nots although I've not seen anyone who's actually faced charges before. The guy serving the papers also said that they'll lock the
gates of defaulters.

Btw, how are you?

Yes, I asked what if I do not have a TV or radio in my house, he said I still have to pay. The assumption is that all houses have TVs and radios. A very wrong assumption. Some religious peeps don't have/watch TV. They believe it's a sin.

The notice was served to all houses weeks ago and those who have not paid are summoned to court. It all seem like a joke. You just get to your gate and find a white paper either on the floor or hanging somewhere around the gate. What if it gets blown away before the house occupants get there? Or a kid picks it up and just tears it or throws it somewhere? How can people take it seriously when those in charge of it are so careless about it?

Anyway @OP, the fee is N1500 per annum. You can pay to the guy that serves the notice or go pay to the bank. And if you have a little time on your hand, go to court and fight it out.

@dominique

I do not think funbact A is suitable for babies and children. Though a lot of people use it these days and testify that it works well, that does not mean it is good for babies' tender skin. Please confirm with your baby's doctor before using it next time. I think even adults have to use it sparingly.

@topic

Sudocream or antifungal cream containing clotrimazole should work for your baby. That is most likely what your doctor will recommend. But like chaircover said, it's best to let the baby's ddoctor have a look at the skin and give a proper diagnosis.

Eczema in Yoruba is IFO

@peterwins
God bless you! The information is so timely.

@jallowbah
It's not always the case that parents don't want to feed their kids with what they eat. Kids could be so selective about their choices and parents keep trying out different things till they get what their kid loves most.

I don't think any parent in her right senses would want anything short of the best nutritious meals for their children.

Shea butter detangler+moisturizer for kids works fine.

The ministries have the power but what have they done with it so far? Let's not even go there. Ministry of education in Nigeria is a topic for another day.

I agree with you on the 'It begins with you' mentality. May Allah see us through.

Thanks for the vote of confidence.
My concern is for us to have these good schools not necessarily me having one. Afterall, even if I have one, it can not go round. I wish we have a regulatory body that looks into the standardization of all Islamic schools.

Toba yi owo e soun joor.

Go get me that book, become a Muslim, then come back. I'll find you a good muslim sister in your age group.

I must admit, you're not far from the truth. But it is not something I really dreamt of having. The thought always creeps in when I see the great need for it, when I see the sham of 'Islamic schools' that we have on ground. But it is not something one can rush into. It is not about having some cash and a building to call a school. The right things must be put in place to actualise the big dream of the kind of Islamic school I yearn for.

I have come to realise that most of the muslim schools we have now find it difficult to merge sound western education with the pristine Islam. They usually fall in two extremes: some been very good in the Islamic aspect but having half-baked teachers and mediocrity system, and the other having a good grasp of the academics but with a joke in Islamic values.

You'll want to put a child in school and search around to see many schools, yet finding none. It's bothersome.

Hey, it's not what you think, ‎​ℓoℓ‎​. I'm searching for this book 'Heart We Lost' by Umm Zakiyyah. I've not really gone to most Islamic bookshops but I just hope someone here might have seen it somewhere and give me leads. I've only searched around me and no one seem to have read the book before.

Thanks in advance.

One of the signs of end time.

^what brought about that question?

*typical Nigerian answering a question with another* lol

Bsc/B.ed is minimum qualification.

I won't call an Islamic school that has a christian as head teacher a good school nor one that encourages free mixing of boys and girls (in secondary classes). Some of the schools mentioned by some people up here are guilty of those.

-Qualified teachers with Bsc/B.ed with a good command of English language both written and spoken.

-the school must have a good board of management/directors that'll include educationists.

-serene environment for learning.

-standard infrastructure.

-owner/owners must be well-practising muslim(s).

-having a curriculum that includes sound hifz learning.

-ALL teachers must be muslims.

... and so on.

There must be other underlying issues they're not mentioning, otherwise marriage has become a joke.

Jennykadry
Chaircover
Tgirl

Yes deols, you're right. I know mine up to the 5th generation and I'm so proud of it.

For people to be able to trace these generations, they have to know their history and ask constantly from the elders in the family. It is easier for the Arabians and like nations because it is their own custom to be called A son of B son of C... But here we only stop at our surname which is usually either the father's name or grandfather's.

^ alright jazak Allah khayran. I've always been in support of a woman bearing her father's name. It is attributing that surah earlier mentioned that I'm in doubt about.

May Allah keep us on the right path.

Al-Hijrah College, Ibadan is a very good secondary school.

Please let us be mindful of the word 'good' here. We don't just want to mention the names of muslim schools, we want the good ones. One can not pass by a school and conclude that it is good/bad. Certain criteria must be met by a school to rate it as been good.

Thanks tbaba. But I still don't see the correlation between quran 33:5 and a woman not bearing her father's name. That ayah is explicit enough in its meaning. Even the hadith you quoted still does not say that a woman should or should not bear her hubby's surname.

Until I see a clear evidence on this, I would not blame a woman who chooses to use her hubby's surname nor would I blame a man who wishes that his wife bears his name. I do not think there's any sin on them. It's a societal thing. No one would say a woman who bears her hubby's name is now related to that family by blood, at least not in our immediate society here.

Not that I'm against a woman bearing her father's name, infact, I bear mine and I have no intention of ever changing it but I just want us to be clear on what Islam really says on the issue.

I just do not see the relationship between a woman bearing her father's name and what Ahzab 33:5 says.

Allahu A'lam