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You need to see how people are jubilating around here. It's infectious. I don't know where they got the fire-works. The noise is everywhere!

^must be a comedy.

But btw, maybe it's possible for women staying in same environment to have their periods in the same time range. Back then in school, my friends in the hostel used to say they always had their periods same time, that's those living in same room. I don't know if there's any scientific backing for this.

Victory is indeed very sweet.

Family section, let's congratulate the super eagles. I'm really glad. We need more good news in and about Nigeria.

Fans can always record the match and watch later. The salah won't take more than 15-20 minutes max.

tbaba1234: ^ What defines a nihilist? What defines automation? How do you define God's wishes? If God created the whole Universe the way he wanted, Created incredible order from seeming chaos, something that does not happen in human experience, How do you think you can understand his wishes?? Isn't it arrogant to try and limit God's wishes to your very limited intelligence?

How does man fight against a destiny that he does not know? Is it not reasonable for him to just do his best and pray for the best? If I made a car, do i not determine the way it responds to different conditions?? Why does he need to fight a destiny if this life is just temporary?

Why the assumption that God needs your worship? Why can't worship be a way of helping a person connect with his maker? The intrinsic light within connecting with the light outside...
Why is worship not a way of helping the created achieve is purpose?
what is the use of a car if it is not driven? What happens to a car that remains dormant for a long time? It goes bad....
What happens to the eyes if it is left closed or in darkness for extended periods? It loses its light... What happens to a heart that fails to connect with its maker for a long time?... It loses the connection and hence guidance.

Your reply is so rich and illuminating, even to a muslim. May Allah continue to increase you in knowledge and wisdom.

Wa alaykum salam.

All I can say is 'wow!'




*you just made someone's day.

I wouldn't agree that a woman bearing her husband's name is changing lineage. In our part of the world, there's no confusion at all. If a woman bears her husband's name, everyone knows it's her husband's and she's married, no one would call her her husband's sister. My conviction is that the quran verse refers to adopted children as this is where confusion may arise in the present or future as regards lineage.

Just like bearing the husband's name is a cultural thing with the oyinbos so is bearing the father's name cultural with the arabs. This brings me to ask, what did people bear in Nigeria before the influence of the oyibos and Islam?


And btw, I bear my father's name but have to use a combination of father's and hubby's for official things.

Inna lilaahi wa inna ilayhi raajiun.

We tend to forget about our mortality but a constant reminder like this is good to awaken us to reality.

Its not yet uhuru. Many laws have been made without been implemented. Most of Nigerian laws are in theory.

Whatever happened to inspection while work was ongoing? What kind of govt is this? Its not even up to a year that the repair was done and they're already talking about another repair.

God bless the likes of Jakande. His low cost housings still stand well after decades.

Lo ba tan!

Good fences makes good neighbours. How come they clash all the time. I assume your sisters don't live with you?

You wife should be the closer one to you so I'd suggest you appeal to her to take things easy. She should try to be diplomatic to your sisters. Some sister-in-laws see their brothers' wives as kind of rivals or enemies. I don't know how they reason or where this is coming from.

I've got tough sister-in-laws too but I know how I handle them. Yorubas say 'mo wa fun oniwa lo nje ore dore'. Know everyone for whom they are and you'll have a good relationship with them. If you can and if she'll listen, tell your wife to stop flexing muscles with them. She should keep them at arms length and relate with them as diplomatically as she can during family gatherings.

It's unfortunate that things have degenerated to this level. Building up a good relationship back with them may not be an easy thing. But if good fences are made now, hopefully, time would erase the bad memories of the past relationship and they can be on platonic levels.

Mind you, my good fences there doesn't mean boycotting them o. It means to keep them at arms length.

I must commend you for showing concern and looking for solution to this. Some men will just pretend it doesn't affect them or they're not aware. Wish you peace all through.

GreatGod is right there.

People recognise and react to physical abuse than they do to the mental/psychological one. A person may even be abused mentally without knowing it. When one partner puts the other down, makes them feel worthless, makes them feel their opinion doesn't count, insults them at the slightest provocation etc.
Like I told a relative who complained of physical abuse recently, if he hits you, hit him back. Even if you know you can't overpower him, let him know you won't fold your arms while he turns you to a punching bag. If the abuser is sensible enough, and hopefully, he'll realise that you too can get violent and he'll stop. If he doesn't stop, leave him.

How can an adult with common sense watch herself been abused. What kind of lowest of the low self-esteem is that? Those that continually abuse their partners most often know that they have a certain hold on the partner and he/she can't or won't leave easily.

Keep on keeping on Divva. I'm happy for you as well.

Please you have to observe you salats o. And it's best to pray each at the appropriate time if you can just struggle to squeeze out the time. It won't take more than 10 minutes for each.

You can stand, sit, lie down to make supplication and your prayers shall be answered but you need to perform ablutions and pray the required number of rakah for your salah to be valid. Or perhaps I misunderstood your question?

The man has a mental illness, sure. But what about the daughter. Is she some dunce or also suffering from some mental disease? Why did she not report to her mother? And assuming the father had frightened her not to report when she was a child, at age 18, she still goes through such?! She can't report, run away or even injure the stupid man?

It's indeed the end time.

I'd have thought that they'd have thought about and thrashed the challenge of who will become the flag bearer while making the decision to merge. What's the essence of merging only to later engage in leadership tussle later.

I can't make any predictions. Our politicians may spring up surprises that'll leave everyone mopping.

Justaqad
You're just one funny internet character. Who or what is bullying you by arabic culture? What exactly are you afraid of?

And what truth are you speaking? That you don't want arabic names? I just see you as itching for an argument especially to gain cheap popularity on here. Even if your arguments about the name thing is justified. Shouldn't you be happy to bear arabic names simply because arabic is the language of the qur'an and/or because you simply want to associate yourself with the noble Prophet Muhammad?

Another cheap score is saying you do not despise non-muslims. Who's asking you to despise non-muslims? I have non-muslims as close and distant relatives, friends, colleagues, neighbours. I have very wonderful ones among them and the word 'despise' never comes to mind when dealing with them. We relate well as long as each party respects himself and does not cross the line. But I will not watch them or keep quiet when they blaspheme Islam.

@tpia
I understand your point.

@usisky
I SMH for you too. Though it's not worth it going back and forth with you, it may do you some good to answer this simple question: what's your own definition of an unbeliever?

I've been at both the giving and receiving ends. Not interesting
at all. Especially when you splash on pedestrians. The look they'll give you and the curses can spoil the whole day.

When walking by the road on a rainy day, I try to stay as far away from the road as possible and when I see an oncoming vehicle, I dash to a safe place. But then it's not everytime you get to avoid been splashed.

Motorists can avoid splashing on pedestrians if they drive very slowly and carefully in the rain.

^^ what's your point?

Thought provoking.

Alhamdulilah!

Hmm. SMH @justaqad. If you're been praised and cheered by non-believers, truly you should be concerned about yourSELF. I'd be very worried if my sayings attracts non-believers singing my praise, especially when other muslim(s) are condemned by them.

Remember we shall account for everything we do/say. Even the seemingly harmless internet banters.

Thanks justfash. Will check it out in sha Allah.

Interesting

It does not look like he's sleeping to me. Someone who's sleeping will have his head fallen. This man looks like one in full control of himself. His head is lowered but I very much doubt the claim that he's sleeping.

Barka Jum'a.

I missed this thread back then, just going through it now, and I am truly amazed at the sheer ignorance displayed by the non-muslims here. Most of the Christians I know, neighbours, friends, colleagues, use water to clean after using the toilet. Any right thinking person knows that water cleans better than tissue. But these people are blinded by hate and too rooted in myopia to see or accept what is right.

By the way, the OP's initial argument was that tissue is forbidden for muslims. That was what she intended to ridicule Islam for. But when she learns that she's wrong, she switches to tissue is better than water.

The only thing I can call these is ignorance.

Ihdinaa siraatal mustaqeem. Amin.

Alhamdulilah for Islam. Barka jum'a folks.

Thanks justfash. Please where is Akute? Do you work in the school or have a child there?

How can a man just wake up one morning and tell his wife, mother of his kids, to pack and leave? Valid marriage or not, things don't just happen that way. There must be underlying reasons your cousin hasn't told you or you haven't mentioned. Even if a man is tired of his wife and has someone else, he won't just throw away a marriage of 9years away like that. He may begin to misbehave, have extra marital affairs etc but not ask wife to leave.

Ask your cousin what's been happening in her home, what arguments/disagreements she and her hubby have been dealing with, to know the best way to approach the matter.

Salaam all,

I know quite a handful of Islamic Nursery and Primary Schools in Lagos and I've seen more listed here.
I'm now in search of VERY GOOD Islamic secondary schools, specifically in Lagos as well.

Thanks.