LotaTee: She leaves for work by 7.30am and you still want her to cook for you and do house chores?Are you a slave master?You want to kill somebody's child because she agreed to date you?Abeg abeg, if you can't cook for yourself then hire a help.This shouldn't even be a problem talk more of bringing it to nairaland.
Why not cook it the previous day against the next day?
For me, it's a bloodied RED flag.
She can't keep a home, what's the need for marriage?
It's only a short she complains of tiredness to knack. You will be begging for the tip to just touch her kitty.
There was a time I was earning #30 000. My prayer then was that I should get a job where I would be earning #50 000. Now my monthly earning is nearing #100 000 and I suddenly realized that naira has no value.
I am single and I wonder how married people survive earning minimum wage.
Gone are the days one prays to be a millionaire because 1 million naira itself has no value. It can only get you a second hand car.
MrBrownJay1: by all means, educate us all: A) if you believe that a person only needs to say they will run for presdencial election to "make their mark", then you indeed have a lot to learn. Kanye West also ran for the election of the 46th US president...and thats exactly how many votes he got... 46!
B) what compensation again are you on about?! as much as Nigeria is filled with greedy selfish people, i doubt she is doing it for "compensation".
I wish to educate you but you need to pay tuition fee.
MALIGNANTGuest: Hello! Guess you all have fastened your seatbelts for the New Year? We hope for better days ahead.
I was at home yesterday & I got the shock of this festive period when a delivery agent kept dropping off items at my doorpost. Little did I know my backbone (my wife) who never ceases to surprise me had planned to lavish me with Xmas Gifts. To my amazement, she apologized for late arrival of these items, as she had earlier booked & expected them to arrive during the Xmas period. Honestly, I appreciate her immensely!. Although, she's known to be ladened with such traits, but I expected a Seasonal Card in return since it was exactly what I hurriedly gave her earlier because of my tight schedule.
Honestly, she's been so wonderful! I had to bury my face in shame . She was able to execute such within a short time. Just want to say a Loud & a Palpable THANK YOU 2 All the Good and Hardworking Ladies out there. Keep it up. Ur efforts will always echo.
Is this away or Nigeria? These items look posh. Damn to be rich and marry an equally rich spouse has it's perks.
enonche85: he never said she should spend all her salary on the family. She earns 80k, is 30k too much to contribute?. He earns 300k and will be responsible for house rent, car, all the hard food stuffs, contribute 4x of what he's asking her to bring on their children's education. By the time you do all the calculation of his contribution he will have little or nothing left for himself not forgetting that he may have siblings who are in school that he might be paying tuition fees for.
Like I said what he requested is like a woman suggesting having a time table for intimacy: twice a week(Friday and Sunday by 10pm)
How will like a woman to suggest you cooking always during weekends?
Yes a woman should assist but not like this. Let him ask her instead of imposing it on her.
That #80k for your information is nothing in this present economy talkless of removing from it.
Some of his demands are ridiculous. It shows autocracy.
bigpicture001: Thanks man.. heard from her friend that sh said am too stingy,.
Honestly I didn't make her spend up to 50k from her wage.. 300k is not big and can be exhausted soon..
The weight will be too much if I form the normal Nigerian guy who likes to carry load on their head
I don't think you were considerate to be honest with you.
She has her own financial plans and would likely wish to have savings for her personal use and family upkeep because girls still uphold their families after marriage.
You just want to subdue her unnecessarily. It will take you time to marry and if any girl should agree to that Sharia law, it's only a matter of time before she calls off your bluff especially after child birth.
bigpicture001: My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...
These are the proposal...
1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..
2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her
3. I will be responsible for rents
4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..
5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.
6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..
7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.
8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..
Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?
I think it puts strain on the relationship. The most sensible on that list is the children trust fund, that should have been enough.
Nigerian girls are mostly selfish, know this and know peace.
Foreverdope: Nigerian lady has taken to Instagram to chastised men who patronize prostitutes yet are reluctant to wish them “Merry Xmas”.
Mama T, a well-known Instagram influencer, chastised them for disregarding the girls they seek sexual fulfillment from daily, during this yuletide celebrations.
She claimed that prostitutes are entitled to wishes from their male clients, just as same men are accustomed to sending greetings to their friends and family.
AmancalledGod: Good morning friend's, please i really need an urgent answer to this, thou for now I'm still staying with my people (parent's) pls is it proper for a friend to carry a woman to your parent's house to sleep over obviously to have sex with the girl, when your parent's is not around. He has be begging me to allow him come over with the girl.
I have agreed shaa, but I'm still thinking of it if i could have a change of mind.
The kind of friend you keep defines your personality.
He lacks respect for your family to suggest that. Keep away from him.
He should book a hotel or do it in his own family house if he must.
zedegit: Their girls are very humble, respectful and can keep a home. My best oza room esperience was with someone from there. They can cook too. What more can a man ask for?
Alimoney: For one who was financially bankrupt less than 1 year ago, but changed the narrative within a year making about 1M, I'd definitely recommend Affiliate marketing.
Crypto too, but you must know what you're doing.
If you're intentional about making money, you will, remember don't look for free things.
Synord: In this thread , we are seeking to know what type of business and investment should a person who wants to be financially independent go for in 2022 ? A legal one that is acceptable to our rules and regulations .
If you have a business idea , you can share and seek opinions or even get someone that is ready to partner with you . You can never say .
Wishing all Nairalanders a prosperous new year in advance
Thandiubani: Nollywood actress, Uche Ogbodo has revealed how God saved her life after doctors told her that she was going to drop dead because of an illness.
In an emotional note on her Instagram page, the actress said that she nearly died in 2020, but God came through for her.
According to her, doctors told her that she was going to drop dead because of an illness.
See her post below:
I am that Woman the Lord Showed Mercy and I am finally ready to share my testimony. Better half of 2020 was the worst Time of my life cos I was Told I was gonna Drop Dead According to Doctors they said my Condition could only be managed and worst case Scenario was Death and I might not know when death would come , they said I could be walking down the street and just Slump cos my heart could stop beating due to suffocation from acute Angioedema . They advised I Relocate cos I can’t survive here in Nigeria, they said I should stop coming to the hospital every 2 days to take Steroid Shots that help me with The Swellings and Itching from Acute Urticaria �.
I Almost Lost hope, I had started making plans of Exit putting my properties in my Younger Sisters name and my Baby Mildred’s name cos I believed if I left this earth my Sister would care for my baby better.
But one thing I never did was give up on my God! I Prayed! I fasted ! I hoped! I sowed seeds! I wailed in Agony most nights I couldn’t sleep due to attacks , i didn’t know what to do anymore , my body started rejecting medication even the steroids stopped working so I decided on my own to give up my Medication, but I never stopped praying � until God showed up for me! ��…….Since my immune system was super weak and my hormones were malfunctioning I wasn’t even seeing my periods most times I was shocked when I got Pregnant! Instead of Dying I Became Pregnant with my BUNNY , and my Life Changed, that Pregnancy changed my life! Reset My Imbalanced Hormones, upped my immune System, my blood count became normal, it Reset my Dead Skins, My Red and white Blood Cells started working better . Glowed my body and demolished all my Attacks , I could now breath , I no longer had Things blocking my airways, I didn’t have problems with my heart anymore!�
This was the Major reason I was Dancing all through my Pregnancy because God gave me a Second Chance at life and Even dashed me a beautiful human being that used her fathers Genes to Reset Me ����
I can’t explain this Miracle but I know that What God can not Do Does not Exist ! 2022 we move! Healthier and more Vibrant!
yanabasee: It depends on the family..... and the clan....
If she's Oron girl, it's going to be moderate, if she's Ibibio, it will be an average spending....
If she's Annang, bros na your pocket oh.....
But in all, some families will just put tradition away and have you pay the necessary things.... but others will sit down and gulp you dry....
Try and keep alot of money for gin/ogohoro/ufofob those old men can consume that thing eh .....
My wife to be is from Akwa Ibom and I've spent 1m already...
Their girls are very humble, respectful and can keep a home. My best oza room esperience was with someone from there. They can cook too. What more can a man ask for?
Romance › Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by zedegit: 9:31pm On Jan 15, 2022
