₦airaland Forum

oldienavie:
So I am 36 years and looking to settle down.
I have a lady friend who I have know for a while and is a really decent lady.
She is the type of person I would like to marry (I like conservative ladies and she is the conservative type no makeup which is what I want).
She is 32 years old.

A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.

To the men, what would you advise ?

I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.

Edited: A lot of people asking why I am not married at 36 years old, I was studying abroad, I just got back to naija to try and marry.

Which idiota would ask you why you are not married?

Are all his or her family members and relatives married?

Abi naija breeze no reason their side? I hate hypocrisy.

The mofos that asked may still be single.

Charly500:
To you they are being greedy by investing abi?

Some investment company's do work, you just have to find the competent and reliable ones, and also invest wisely.

4 Chickens and a bag of rice i got during the Christmas period was through my investment last year.

That you joined them when they are doing well doesn't mean you should feel invincible.

Chinmark during startup was praised by people like you which made others to join.

I fear pesin wey no fear you.

nwajesus12:
My boss has over 29 Million with them, omor

I hope it won't affect your salary?

I wonder why nobody is mentioning moneybookers.

Those fvckers chop my mama. I warned her though because I saw it coming.

December period is usually the time they collapse/cashout.

gidgiddy:
BBC Igbo has reported a 100% compliance of IPOB's directive in the 5 States of the South East that there should be a lockdown today January 18th, the day IPOB leader, Nnamdi Kanu goes to court

Enugu, Imo, Abia, Anambra and Ebonyi, which Governor Umahi said was not part of Biafra, all shut down completely

Pictures below, and if you are not from the South East, try not to have heart attack

https://www.bbc.com/igbo/afirika-60020577

It's because of security reasons. If only FG can assure of tackling those esn that shoot gun up and down. There will be major turn up of people.

aanuoluwami14:
You are foolish also, That is what a jobless son should do to his mother, when she ought to have taught her son to zip up when he is jobless, she didn't. He went to bring troubles now, let all of them face the consequences

What goes around comes around. You think you have it all figured out, abi?

aanuoluwami14:
With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all. Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

Let an aged mother endure 1 square meal a day?

You are very wicked.

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

Don't be a simp. It's very clear she's ungrateful and yet has entitlement mentality.

What is her usefulness to your life besides birthing your children?

What does she do to support you financially?

DamnnNiggarr:
Four armed robbery suspects caught in Kwara forest, arrested

https://dailypost.ng/2022/01/18/four-armed-robbery-suspects-caught-in-kwara-forest-arrested/

This is why nonsense will not stop in Nigeria.

You caught terrorists and you called them armed robbers!

Please shoot them at sight. Arresting them will get them released next day and the trend continues...

nwekeugochukwu:
https://igberetvnews.com/1412456/mummy-g-o-shares-video-hotel-room-dubai/

Did I hear 13th floor?

That must be a skyscraper.
Dubai is doing better because Nigerian leaders are corrupt.

Yes that's right. According to IPOB there will only be sit at home today.

The outcome of today's process is inconsequential. The adjournment will not provoke another sit at home which must be resisted at all cost.

Any mofo that harrass you tomorrow in the name of a useless sit at home should receive jungle justice treatment.

Say NO to intimidation.
Say NO to nonsense
Say NO to oppression

Maxymilliano:
Blocheads!

Enforcing a sit-at-home in this barbaric manner will not do Nnamdi Kanu any good, it will rather worsens an already worse his situation.

I wish these Ipob enforcers find their match in you. Please come and help us knock sense into their thick skull

I hate rubbish.

ThEGodFaThEr101:
This is getting serious. I ply this road almost every week. God, please save your people.

What is Amotekun doing about it?

FG army should have deployed drones around that spot.

Those bastards should be shot at sight but it seems they have a Godfather above.

That's why I am not in support of another hausa president.

Nigeria needs to be sanitized.

Techibi6777:
Don't try it man. Stay back in Nigeria, like someone mentioned earlier, learn a digital skill and be making money from the comfort of your home. There are so many out there, buy some of these courses, do research, YouTube is your friend ! You can't make that move just because of that small moni na when you can earn more than that weekly.

Lemme tell you, Nigeria is one of the freest places to live on earth. Stop sleeping all through the night, Youtube is the best University that will teach you life changing skills that will fetch you money. Use your head sir and do research. No try am go o I no go happy with u o. Buy courses online, watch plenty YouTube videos on different digital skills you can acquire. It's only a lazy man that thinks all businesses need capital. From buying courses, reading books and research you will be opened to a whole new world of possibilities.

I used to earn 25k monthly working from 8am to 7pm everyday including Saturdays, but today I make between 30-100k daily from just 1 of my businesses which I run from the comfort of my home, and guess what, I didn't start with any capital o. Now that is just 1 business. I make so much more daily from applying one of the numerous knowledge I acquired all from YouTube. Abeg I no wan talk again. Go do research.

Is Affiliate marketing one of them?

MrBachelor:
Bone am. Na scam.

Myopic people everywhere. He never even asked you to pay him anything. Kai. Some naija youths are truly lazy.

AgentGoat:
At the end of the day. Na this rubbish you suggest.

It's not rubbish. Wisdom is profitable to direct. You can't do it, doesn't mean it's rubbish.

People make money from digital marketing, graphics designing, coding, app development. If they tell you you can start the business with less than #100 000. You don't have to call it "nonsense" simply because you lack the knowledge.

sambright2012:
100k can not start any business, the cheapest business to start this day's is POS , a good POS machine is 50/40k , a busy location will cost you 30k and kiosk will cost you nothing less than 40k , how much you want take they run the boss?

Dem use POS swear for you? Must it be POS?

You can start foodstuffs business with #100 000 or less.

Hathor5:
He thought he was doing her/them and ended up doing himself.

You probably think you sound sensible. Do you really think you are the only one that read my post?

The sensible ladies have seen, taken correction and are grateful for it while you want to spew out your ignorance.

Biglittlelois:
@Op, comments above has satisfied your curiosity abi? Don't cry o

Cry? How and why?

I have a good self esteem and confidence. Thanks for asking. Besides their write-up makes no sense as it seems they are trying too hard to be sensible.

BobRisky made a request to the Oba and I truly missed out on his response as there were people 'threatening' to beat BobRisky which made me to miss out on whether or not the Oba finally responded.

Please does anyone have the update?

VEXT:
Go online and ask what attract men to prostitutes,then act like one to your man..Be his prostitute..


You also have what those prostitutes have...

Nonsense advice. It won't change nada.

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

Is it a red light? I don't get this part.

You're already married to him.
Do you wish to divorce him?
I hope he doesn't transmit STD to you.

Uyi168:
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How many tailors and barbers do u see doing very well?

at the end, the same Nigeria bleep us all.

It's not about doing "very well" which is relative.

Your own might be earning #1 Milla monthly as doing "very well" while mine might be when earning #200 000 monthly.

The most important thing is they get to satisfy their basic needs.

odinson1:
You are trying so desperately to Avoid the point he's trying to make

Don't mind them. Very anyhow people. They will leave the message and kill the messenger.

Hathor5:
What reality? That she doesn't deserve better than you?

I will be doing her a favour to look her side self.

The continual and delayed trial of MNK is crippling the economy of south eastern states.

FG should either sentence him by next week, release him or stop arraigning him.

Every time Nnamdi Kanu comes to trial, there's a forced sit at home with ipob shooting guns up and down. This is affecting business.

FG should intervene.

Hathor5:
Maybe she told you she had a boyfriend because she wanted you to leave her alone without hurting your feelings.

She is single but you are the one opening threads because of her.

Why I posted this is because I slid into her DM and she's acting more receptive now. Reality has set in.

There was this girl I was toasting in 2018 and she told me she has a boyfriend already. Now this is 4 years after and she's still single.

What am I saying? Ladies you should know the end from the beginning. After a year in a relationship, you still don't know what your guy wants. He hasn't taken you to meet his parents or family and you are claiming he's your boyfriend. You are hoping he'll marry you, yet he hasn't even done anything towards that plan.

Please this is 2022, tell yourself the TRUTH.

yomi007k:
Laziness is not for me.

I have two jobs and work 28 days a month.

Then it's means that your previous write-up is irrelevant.

yomi007k:
What I typed is also a reality. There are less jobs and more hardship for people not earning at all.

That's a falacy. You need to learn a skill or fill a need to know that what you typed is just an excuse to be lazy.

Have you carried foodstuffs in a barrow into a busy market and nobody bought it?

Have you opened a barbing salon or opened a tailoring outfit and nobody patronized you?

Did you do research on the course you chose before entering the university?
Tell yourself the truth. This is 2022.

GeneralOjukwu:
Run for your life.

A woman who is only useful for sex is a liability.

NEVER settle for less

Who even told you she would be good at sex?

Nobi to lie like wood and watch you knock yourself out?

kkins25:
from what i understand, a man, they say is supposed to provide for the home while the woman takes care of it.

in your case, both of you are providing for the home. Who is going to take care of it now?

Our mothers were going to farm, market etc and still taking care of the home.

This generation slay mamas are something else.