Xman12345goat: My younger brother is thinking of getting married to a graduate but she is unemployed. I want him to get married to a lady I introduced him to, although she didn't further her education, she knows how to sew cloth very well. She has a shop with two apprentice.
I don't want my brother to suffer in this harsh economy we are in now. I have warned him seriously to cancel the plans he has for Susan, because she has no skill and only knows how to spend money. She don't want to use her degree to get a primary school job, she just waiting for that federal government job or private job that pays.
Please advise me on this, should I allow him continue with his plans or advise him to stick with Precious.
Precious all the way. I am caught up in the same dilemma. The girl I admire is into fashion designing, humble, good conversationist, finished secondary school but her English is good, better than that of some graduates self.
I have been dating my girlfriend for some years now. She became an orphan recently, so I decided to open a shop for her so she can start earning something for her not to turn herself into something else since no family support.
Though she also invested all her savings into the business and I supported her also with the little i can. I thank God her business has been doing well and developing gradually.
But her behaviour has really changed seriously towards me. She hardly dail my number to check on me, she also goes out with any guy or men, she also password her phone, i cant even touch her phone, she will flare up. She will say it's nothing that she is just catching fun. I do overlook all this just to make peace rain.
Something happened yesterday that make me feel so bad. I told her I'm coming to visit her in her shop that if any food seller pass her shop, she should help me order food. So when I reached her side she told me to bring money that she can't use her money to buy food for me. I felt somehow inside with her response. I had to give her the money to get it because hunger dey wire me seriously.
So after I'm done eating, I was gisting with her but she is not responding, she was pressing phone, then a call entered and he told the man she is in her shop, that the man should stay at the junction that she is coming to meet him, she stood up and told me to be looking after her shop till she comes back. I was really dumbfounded and shocked, I coundn't utter any word as i don't want to talk or do anything silly as people are plenty around her shop. She left me there, I stood up also and left the shop. I really felt bad and sad. This is a person i have really tried my best for since she lost her parents. I'm planning to send her packing from the shop first, but my bro said i shouldnt try it that it's childish for me. He said I should chill for now. please I need your advice on how to go about this.
NOTE; I rent the shop for my MUM just to use it as her second shop to store her goods. Though the shop is too big, so i told her to let us split it into two, my gf can use the other half.
Just when I thought we had the last of these topics than another Simpson shows up.
Don't send her packing as long as she's meeting up with her part of the payment.
She was your girlfriend not that she would have done better as a wife but just to keep things in perspective.
Never sacrifice something for a girlfriend with the view that it will make her to love you more or marry you.
Settling down is not even her priority, she's materialistic, most women are especially the " your money is our money while my money is mine.
It's not the picture that worries me but the significance of the picture.
Bello represents hausa and appears bigger in the picture, then 2 men Yoruba and Igbo stand behind him inside a Nigerian flag. Bello is coloured while the 2 others are not.Bello and the Yoruba man are the only happy people there, the Igbo man doesn't seem so.
The Yoruba seems to be behind Bello and in touch with reality of the moment while the Igbo on the other hand is lost in an euphoria of his thoughts and oblivious of reality.
paulolee: nothing go change....super eagles players are all foreign based n well paid.... na just 2 or 3 players go wire d total money wey Nigeria go pay dm for match bonuses n allowances... abi u don forget say mikel once single handedly sponsored that last male Olympic football team dt he captained...
Didn't you read Guinea players profile?
Most of them are also foreign based players but no need for the order. I think their president didn't mean it, I believe it was to motivate them to try their best but I don't see them winning it.
Alfred74: Well said,no boundaries. A retired cultist on saynotocultism thread who was exposing their underground deeds was tracked down all the way to Italy,se na him eye dem pluck or him tongue b4 dem hang am for tree I no too remember. Thinking he is safe all the way in Europe, omo dem hack am o.
MurderX: If the moderators or Seun accepts what you are doing as lawful why do you think they never put your nonsense posts on frontpage. You will never make frontpage with this trash better take your trash back to the bin where it belongs. No normal person can stand the horror and gory videos you post and what exactly are you doing about them apart from glorifying these activities? You will be arrested both by the law and the Christ.
Shut up. Is it every thread you will view? I am beginning to suspect your involvement and police will soon carry you.
FalseProphet1: 9 Don't marry a girl with a high body count.
I saw one topic on the front page where one guy was saying if she's good marry her.
If he made this statement in the 90s and early 2000s I wouldn't have bothered.
But in this era of Yahoo boys and rituals, it's very dangerous. As a Prophet, I've seen a lot, the womb of a woman is a seed that brings life, wealth...etc. many evil people in search of quick riches are after it and the only way to access it is through sex, which they can pay anything to the girl just to have their way to access it.
Many decent girls who fell prey to this evil people in the past and got married later in the future...after marrying a successful young man the financial life of the man became useless.
Further spiritual investigation showed that at a point of her life she dated or had a one night stand with this evil people who used her womb to transfer her glory to himself, so if you join yourself to such girl through marriage, everything you've laboured for will automatically go to the person that used her leaving you wretched and frustrated.
10. Don't marry a stingy girl
I once dated a stingy girl, she's good looking with all the curves and all that, but what broke the camel's back was one day she came visiting, as she was going she told me to buy her dinner, so we branched at an eatery, I told her I don't have cash on me and I left my ATM at home so she told me she'll borrow me money. The food was 2k and she paid for it with her own money, can you believe that this girl got home and started telling me to send her back her 2k which she used to buy food for herself. That incident is what broke us up cos she kept on nagging about the money that I gave it back to her in anger and called it quits.
If you've officially dated a girl for 3 months, and you can't point out one material thing she has given you aside sex, don't marry her.
Many guys believe it's their responsibility to cater for their girlfriends, I'm not against taking care of someone you claim to love, what I'm against is when she's not reciprocating your gestures or using sex as payment for what you're doing for her.
If your girlfriend cannot spend her hard earned money on you and you go ahead to marry her and become broke later on in your marriage, you're doomed cos she'll starve you to death, don't marry such girl.
11 Don't marry a girl who acts cold towards your family.
I once dated a girl who told me clearly that if we get married, my people won't visit her house. This is a house I'm paying the rent for, she referred to as her house.
Girls such as this will ruin you, don't over look red flags in the name of love.
If she dislikes your sister, brother, parents, just let her be for your own good.
12. Don't marry a girl that cheated on you with her ex or male friend.
When I see guys saying they've forgiven their girlfriend for cheating on them and are planning to marry her I laugh.
Girls don't cheat the way guys do, if a girl whom you're dating and even planning to marry cheats on you with someone she claimed to have gotten over, then know that she loves that person as much as she loves you or even more.
If you marry her, get ready to start raising his kids cos she'll definitely continue seeing him even after getting married to you.
phranco: I am in a relationship with a girl I'm planning to get married to. I love her and we vibe together and play most times. From my own assessment, she is good, down to earth, knows how to cook, humble, respectful, and she is also very beautiful naturally, infact she passed 70% quality of the kind of woman I want in my life.
The problem is that I'm not attracted to her sexually. She has a small body, and doesn't have nyash or should I say small nyash (sorry for the offensive word). I'm not aroused if I'm with her. I can manage to have sex with her just once, even if she will stay five days with me, and I know this gives her concern.
I like ladies with backside, height and chubby. but the ones I have come across doesn't even measure up to this my girl in character.
Does sex Matter so much in marriage? Cos I'm afraid I may cheat on her or get sexual satisfaction outside our marriage. I'm just confused right now.
You are a mumu man.
#No oofense.
Free that girl away from your confusion. You don't know what you want. You see a girl that gives you peace of mind, you say it's big ass that will pound you like foofool you want. Go get big ass and allow us to rest.
ModelLook: When I finished University after getting a B.Sc in Geography and Planning, I applied to teach in a Secondary School. (Forget the Planning attached to the course, it's all propaganda to make the course look professional. We don't plan anything).
The first school said they wanted to pay me between N15-N19K per month. I refused and left.
The second school said they will pay me N22K per month. I also refused and left.
I went for service. Was posted to teach in a Missionary School at Ilaro in Ogun state. Their students school fees was N150,000 per month. The principal was paying me just N5K per month. According to him, Ogun state govt told them (School Owners) to pay Corpers that amount (N5K Per Month) and after all, we were being paid N19,800 as Alawee.
In that school, the principal gave me all the classes to teach. I taught Geography (SS1 -SS3) and Agricultural Science (JSS1 to JSS3). I was practically teaching the whole school. I was so over worked with little pay. After school around 5pm ehn, I will almost feel like collapsing on the ground everyday.
After NYSC, I refused to teach again.
Teaching in a country like Nigeria takes PASSION. If you don't have passion for teaching, you will hate your life.
Why because the GOVERNMENT is part of the problem why teaching is the way it is in Nigeria. Then School Owners Capitalise on them.
The Government And School Owners Are The Reason Why Teaching Is Not Well Paid.
Also remember, PASSION CAN NEVER PAY THE BILLS. MONEY MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND.
Why didn't you apply for reposting to another school?
bestme: Hello, nairalanders in the house, pls I need your sincere advice in this matter.
I have known this lady I really want to marry for over 2 years now. Though our friendship have been a casual one. The issue is she told me she is a graduate and then i visited her house over 2 years back I met her mom and she asked me where I came from- my tribe and if I am a graduate and told her my tribe and yes I am graduate.
She said she wants her daughter to marry a graduate because she has done her best to train her school. It was of recent we started a serious marriage relationship and I told my pastor and we both met with pastor already.
It Is now she told me that she did not graduate that she was unable to pay school fees, though she went up to 500level and did I.T but her parents only paid 100 and 200 level school fees. She said she has no result/certificate. I told her am honestly disappointed for hiding this from me ever since and she said it is because I have not really made my intentions know to her.
One of the reasons I like her was being a graduate and I have not dreamt of marrying a non graduate.
Pls your sincere advice.
You don't need any advice. She wasn't honest from start. It means you built on a faulty foundation and it would collapse somehow no matter how long it takes.
One of the criteria you loved her was being a graduate which turned out to be a lie. Even if we all tell you to forgive her, a part of you will always suspect her every move and action.
Be careful lest your first son resemble your caretaker.
tunjilana: She collected it...lokked at it and then slammed it on the fan.... ..she coud have accepted it and later thank the fan and others and announce that the monetary gifts wlll go to charity
Family › Re: What's The Average Cost To Marry An Akwaibom Girl? by zedegit(op): 9:33pm On Dec 31, 2021
..she coud have accepted it and later thank the fan and others and announce that the monetary gifts wlll go to charity