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They exercised their choices of what to do with their lives. They chose to be mercenaries. White men were here during the civil war fighting as mercenaries on either side of the conflict.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Una no get country again o

Terrorists have infiltrated all these organizations you mentioned.

You talk about yesterday.

elevated2:
Argentina and Spain?

Argentina and Brazil. I commented within the context of the topic.

PulaPower:
Going by your logic, that means NY & China are highly overrated?

Limited folks speak without caution and wildly. He is limited by his poor exposure. He speaks within the context of Nigeria.

elevated2:
They deserved more though. Hehehe

Little wonder, like both countries are favoured hideaways for wanted international criminals on the run! They are countries where you can easily be out of sight in the open!

ariamarks:
Every relationship has good and bad days, but some problems go far beyond normal disagreements. Knowing the Signs of a Toxic Relationship can help you protect your emotional and mental health before the situation becomes worse. When unhealthy behaviors become a pattern, it is time to pay attention and decide what is best for your future.

A healthy relationship is built on trust, respect, honesty, and support. In contrast, a toxic relationship often leaves one or both partners feeling stressed, unhappy, or afraid. While no relationship is perfect, repeated harmful behavior should never be ignored.

This guide explains the warning signals, common behaviors, real-life examples, and practical steps you can take to build healthier relationships.

What Is a Toxic Relationship?

A toxic relationship is one where unhealthy behaviors happen again and again. Instead of feeling loved and respected, you may feel anxious, controlled, or emotionally drained.

Some relationships become toxic because of poor communication, while others involve manipulation, disrespect, or emotional abuse. These behaviors usually grow over time instead of disappearing on their own.

Why Do Toxic Relationships Develop?

Many reasons can lead to unhealthy relationships, including:

Poor communication
Lack of trust
Jealousy
Controlling behavior
Emotional insecurity
Unresolved personal issues

Not every argument means a relationship is toxic. The real concern is when harmful actions become normal.

Signs of a Toxic Relationship You Should Never Ignore

Recognizing the Signs of a Toxic Relationship early can help prevent long-term emotional damage.

Constant Criticism

Healthy partners give helpful feedback. Toxic partners often criticize everything you do, making you feel like you are never good enough.

Lack of Trust

Trust is the foundation of every healthy relationship. Constant accusations without proof can slowly destroy emotional safety.

Controlling Behavior

A controlling partner may:

Decide who you can meet
Read your messages
Tell you what to wear
Control your money
Demand your location all the time

These actions reduce your independence.

Poor Communication

Instead of solving problems calmly, toxic couples often:

Shout
Ignore each other
Blame each other
Refuse to discuss problems

Without healthy communication, small problems grow into bigger ones.

Emotional Warning Signals of a Toxic Relationship

Many harmful behaviors affect emotions before they become obvious.

You Feel Drained More Than Happy

Relationships should bring comfort most of the time. If you constantly feel exhausted after spending time together, something may be wrong.

Walking on Eggshells

You may become afraid to speak honestly because you worry your partner will become angry.

Loss of Self-Confidence

Repeated criticism can slowly make you doubt yourself.

Feeling Isolated

Some partners slowly separate you from friends and family.

Common Emotional Effects
Anxiety
Stress
Sadness
Low confidence
Fear
Loneliness
Common Behaviors That Make Relationships Toxic

Not every toxic behavior looks dramatic. Sometimes small habits become serious problems over time.

Manipulation

Manipulation happens when someone controls another person's emotions to get what they want.

Examples include:

Making you feel guilty
Twisting your words
Blaming you for everything
Gaslighting

Gaslighting makes someone question their own memory or reality.

A partner may say:

"That never happened."
"You're imagining things."
"You're too sensitive."

Over time, this can reduce confidence.

Constant Jealousy

A little jealousy can happen in relationships.

However, unhealthy jealousy often includes:

Checking your phone
Questioning every friendship
Accusing you without reason
No Respect for Boundaries

Healthy couples respect personal space.

Ignoring boundaries may include:

Reading private messages
Entering personal accounts
Demanding passwords
Healthy vs Toxic Communication

Healthy communication includes:

Listening carefully
Respecting opinions
Solving problems together

Toxic communication often includes:

Name-calling
Threats
Silent treatment
Blame
Two Real-Life Examples of Toxic Relationship Behaviors

Real situations help people understand unhealthy relationship patterns.

Example 1: Emotional Abuse

According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, emotional abuse may include constant criticism, humiliation, isolation, and controlling behaviors that reduce a person's confidence over time.

Source: https://www.thehotline.org/resources/what-is-emotional-abuse/

Example 2: Controlling Relationships

The Mayo Clinic explains that unhealthy relationships may involve controlling behavior, fear, disrespect, and repeated emotional harm that affects mental health.

Source: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/domestic-violence/art-20048397

Lessons From These Examples
Emotional abuse is often difficult to notice at first.
Controlling behavior usually increases over time.
Getting support early can make a big difference.
How to Deal With the Signs of a Toxic Relationship

If you notice several warning signals, taking action is important.

Talk Honestly

Sometimes honest communication can solve smaller problems.

Stay calm and explain:

How you feel
What behavior hurts you
What changes you need
Set Healthy Boundaries

Clear boundaries protect your emotional well-being.

Examples include:

Respecting privacy
Speaking politely
Allowing personal time
Respecting personal decisions
Ask for Professional Help

Relationship counselors can help couples improve communication when both partners are willing to change.

Know When to Leave

Not every relationship can be repaired.

If there is ongoing emotional, physical, or verbal abuse, your safety should come first.

Building Healthier Relationships

Healthy relationships include:

Mutual respect
Honest communication
Trust
Kindness
Support
Shared responsibility
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
1. What are the biggest Signs of a Toxic Relationship?

The biggest Signs of a Toxic Relationship include constant criticism, controlling behavior, manipulation, lack of trust, emotional abuse, and disrespect. These patterns usually continue over time instead of improving.

2. Can a toxic relationship become healthy?

Yes, some relationships improve if both partners accept responsibility, communicate honestly, respect boundaries, and seek professional help. However, serious abuse should never be accepted.

3. Are arguments one of the Signs of a Toxic Relationship?

No. Every couple argues sometimes. The Signs of a Toxic Relationship involve repeated disrespect, fear, manipulation, and harmful behavior instead of healthy problem-solving.

4. How does a toxic relationship affect mental health?

A toxic relationship can lead to stress, anxiety, depression, low confidence, loneliness, and emotional exhaustion. Recognizing the Signs of a Toxic Relationship early may help reduce long-term emotional harm.

5. What should I do if I notice the Signs of a Toxic Relationship?

If you notice the Signs of a Toxic Relationship, communicate your concerns, set healthy boundaries, seek advice from trusted friends or professionals, and prioritize your safety if harmful behavior continues.

Conclusion

Every relationship faces challenges, but ongoing disrespect, manipulation, fear, and control should never become normal. Learning the Signs of a Toxic Relationship helps you recognize unhealthy patterns before they cause deeper emotional harm.

Healthy relationships are built on trust, kindness, respect, and honest communication. If your relationship regularly leaves you feeling anxious, powerless, or unhappy, it may be time to seek support and make decisions that protect your well-being. Remember that everyone deserves a relationship where they feel safe, valued, respected, and heard.

Fantastic! RCCG Home Fellowship Lesson yesterday 19/07/2026. Going further please learn to acknowledge the work done by others when you incorporate them in yours. Indeed true that obsession with the other person is not love. Love is basically a conscious and intentional decision constantly focussed on living with the other person in a manner that brings mutual joy and companionship.

zpakln:
Looks like a peautibul secondary school in aboki's voice

The journey of thousand years starts with a step.

UrVillageChief:
90 minutes keh? 125 minutes🤣
In fact, the players ought to be jailed for that criminal display last night.
Funnily enough, football is so cruel that they could mistakingly win the trophy with that horrible display and all their supporters would be telling us today is “na tactics”

On Point!

Sonnobax15:

Hehehe.

What a record. A very funny one indeed.

Not even our super eagles can be tamed like how Argentina was tamed yesterday . To the extent that Messi was begging for Cucurela to be sent off by covering his mouth with style . Last night final really exposed the fraud and equally restored peace back to the world at large

Argentina was not tamed. They were not interested in playing attacking and real and engaging football. They are cheats!! Shameless lot!!! Exocets were not available in aid of their disingenuous tactics.

politicoNG:
Argentina Is The First World Cup Finalist Without A Shot On Target In 90 Mins



Source

The Argentine National Football is a gathering of rogues in football jerseys! They fleeced folks who bought tickets to watch the FIFA Finals of their hard earned money by intentionally not playing football for the viewing public to enjoy and develop the game!! They were focused on stealing a match on the Spaniards by defending until the final whistle in the hope that the match will be decided on penalties. they knew that their goalkeeper was the best and could make saves that would give them the highest tally of scored penalties so they can keep the cup. The Argentines are cheats and should be appropriately sanctioned by FIFA.

Thank you NA,NAF,NN,DSS,NIA,NSA,NSCDC,NPF,JTF, et al.

Politicising the Nigerian Bar Association. Signposting the possible creation of multiple Bar Associations in Nigeria. Probably desirable in all the circumstances.

Jonah2022:
Prominent human rights lawyer, Femi Falana (SAN), is alleged to have withdrawn from legal representation of Mathew Adeniyi Adeyemi, the self-acclaimed Director-General of the controversial PFIPC, amid growing concerns over the credibility of the case and the conduct of the defendant.
Falana had earlier indicated his willingness to defend Adeyemi following his allegations against the Chief of Staff to the President, Femi Gbajabiamila and the operations of the purported agency. However, multiple sources familiar with the matter now suggest that the senior advocate has stepped back after encountering difficulties in obtaining verifiable information and supporting documentation from Adeyemi.

According to sources close to the legal team, Adeyemi allegedly failed to provide critical documents and evidence requested by Falana to build a coherent defense. The situation reportedly raised red flags, with claims that Adeyemi could not substantiate several of the allegations he had previously made, including those directed at the Chief of Staff to the President, Femi Gbajabiamila.

Further complicating the matter are allegations that Falana uncovered a pattern of inconsistencies linked to Adeyemi’s past activities, described by some insiders as potentially fraudulent. These concerns, sources say, contributed to the decision to disengage from the case.

It was also gathered that despite earlier efforts by Falana to facilitate adequate security arrangements for Adeyemi’s court appearance, the defendant allegedly showed reluctance to present himself for trial and preferred media interviews from different hideouts. Adeyemi was eventually arrested last week in Osun State after reportedly evading authorities.

In a significant development, Falana did not appear in court on July 14, 2026, at the Federal High Court in Abuja for Adeyemi’s defense. His absence, alongside Adeyemi’s failure to be present, led the court to issue a bench warrant for Adeyemi’s arrest.

As of filing this report, neither Falana nor his legal chambers have issued an official public statement confirming his withdrawal from the case.

Calls and inquiries seeking clarification were not immediately returned.

The PFIPC matter continues to draw attention amid broader concerns about the emergence of unauthorized entities presenting themselves as government-affiliated institutions. The trial of Adeyemi Mathew was adjourned till September 30, 2026.

Miserable and bleached up life!

He will be wise to do so all things considered!

Goodvibes007:
Absolutely disgraceful Argentina

The several videos of racism on instagram of Argentina fans directing monkey chants and mimicking monkey behaviors at black Americans, the pushing and rough tackle on opponents, the diving, the foul on that Spanish player that got the Argentinian player a red card almost ended the spanish player's career e.t.c

Then this Argentinian player punched the Spanish captain in the stomach as the captain ran into the field to celebrate after the final whistle was blown, then he throws another spanish player on the ground trying to slap/punch E.t.c

Absolute disgrace Argentina.

Argentina should be punished by FIFA and denied the hosting of the next World Cup! Little wonder, they are a shelter for criminals worldwide!

arantess:
they met a better team, simple

Sure but they refused to play football and that is the annoying thing! We deserved to see them play a better game!

Armaggedon:
Spain deserves to win. Argentina misjudged them. Argentina's attack in the last 5 minutes of the extra time with ten men showed their whole defensive game was a tactic which was a poor choice of strategy. If Argentina knew Spain wouldn't be very clinical, they would've gone all out to attack from the beginning.

They probably thought they could hold out until the final whistle knowing that on penalties they were likely to win because they knew that their keeper was very good and would make the penalty saves. Most dishonourable tactics targeted at stealing a match instead of playing good football!

SamuraiXXX:
Because they are not winning?

You can't always win it all

I understand that but they must be seen to have played well. Argentina did not play well at all! No value for the time I spent watching the game!

Argentina has been a disappointment! Simple! I just didn’t understand what strategy they had playing a defensive game until the dying moment when the efforts of Spain were deservedly rewarded with a goal! I feel for the Argentine Goalkeeper who gave his best only to be smeared by the mess the others were playing. Football specialists please help me understand the tactics Argentine deployed tonight. I guess defending champions don’t play attacking football!⚽️. Stupid Argentines wasted the fuel my neighbour bought to power his TV so his family could watch the game!

I love Owho Soup to bits! Please have the periwinkles out of the shell! Sapele Owho is best!

patrickcollins:
Tinubu is equally wicked a man that stood for him when the north wanted to go against his candidacy, I pity Lagos politicians serving under Tinubu they will surly get their doses when the time is ripe

That’s their business! I have no business with them. I’m focused on good governance. All the evil and inaction of El-Rufai while he was Kaduna State Governor are well chronicled.

PHIPEX:
I hope you will say same when those currently in power start reaping the reward of what they are currently sowing? Remember to be consistent

Certainly! Yes! I make bold to say that I am no Tinubu fan for reasons clear enough from my posts here. I’m not a partisan politician. I seek good governance!

fergie001:
Lateef Omoyemi Akangbe, SAN, secured 7,934 votes (30.39 per cent) to come second and Olumuyiwa Akinboro, another SAN, polled 5,855 votes (22.43 per cent) to take the third position.

https://www.channelstv.com/2026/07/19/badejo-okusanya-wins-nba-presidential-race-becomes-second-female-president/

The first female President of the Nigerian Bar Association is Dame Priscilla Kuye.

I use Olive Tree Bible App. I recommend it highly to everyone.

He started out early enough !

rapcy:
They didn't, if it was 6-0 then you can say they did.

Factcheck me and come back here to do the needful.

He is reaping what he sowed. He was a demon in power! Q.E.D.

Ironfaceman:
Mamdani says he’s still looking into arresting Netanyahu if Israeli leader visits New York

New York City Mayor Zohran Mamdani said his office is still looking into arresting Benjamin Netanyahu if the Israeli prime minister visits the city for the United Nations General Assembly in September.

Speaking on The New York Times’ “The Interview” podcast, Mamdani said his administration’s legal department is actively discussing the potential arrest of Netanyahu, something he vowed on the campaign trail to pursue.

“I believe that Prime Minister Netanyahu belongs in The Hague,” Mamdani said. “He’s a war criminal who has been charged by the International Criminal Court. And what you will find is that is an opinion that is held by many purely because of what his actions have wrought over these last many years.”

Asked what he believed the law allowed him to do, Mamdani responded: “That’s an active conversation with our legal department. However, what we’ve seen at the national level is a desire sometimes to write your own laws, to go outside of the bounds of legality. That’s not something we have an interest in.”

Asked what he believed the law allowed him to do, Mamdani responded: “That’s an active conversation with our legal department. However, what we’ve seen at the national level is a desire sometimes to write your own laws, to go outside of the bounds of legality. That’s not something we have an interest in.”


The US has not ratified the Rome Statute, which obliges countries to arrest people who have ICC warrants against them. The Trump administration has escalated its long-running battle against the ICC, with Secretary of State Marco Rubio recently promising to “dismantle” the court and accusing it of “waging a war against our country, not with bullets or missiles” but with “the force of so-called international law.”

Mamdani is a fierce critic of the Israeli government and has repeatedly criticized Israel’s war in Gaza as a “genocide.” Israel denies those claims.


US Ambassador to the United Nations Mike Waltz on Saturday called the mayor’s comments “pure political theater” and noted the US is not a member of the ICC.

Speaking to WABC radio host Sid Rosenberg earlier in the week, Netanyahu dismissed concerns about Mamdani’s calls for his arrest.

Israel’s ambassador to the United Nations, Danny Danon, said on social media Saturday that Netanyahu “will come to New York, address the United Nations General Assembly with pride, and stand before the world to state Israel’s truth and its unwavering right to defend its citizens.”





https://edition.cnn.com/2026/07/18/politics/mamdani-netanyahu-new-york

It’s only a matter of time before it is settled on whether a people have a right to defend themselves against invasion by terrorists. Mamdani is not ashamed of himself for speaking for the people who murdered thousands of New Yorkers on 9/11!

England spelt “FRANCE”! And WON THE MATCH!!!

mastermaestro:
I don off gen. I don't do basketball. I only watch football.

You are missing out on something here!

Ekaka14:
Goal 4-0 Saka !!!
He has 2 now

England hopefully should spell “FRANCE”!😅. And they did!! AND WON THE MATCH!!!🔥

Ironfaceman:
https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c3ryr5yxy28o

The report meant to say that the animal sodomised a man!