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Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by myk2mic: 6:14pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Idowuogbo: capital ?, the internet is available, a blog wld be a good start nd from there boom, she gets sponsors and she is good to go ,or hw u sef take see am |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by sewenn(m): 6:17pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Bruh!!!! Use your brain and act like a man |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by hardeyincah(m): 6:18pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
djeezy: Listen to Jude your friend.u are a dream killer... happy bachelor at 45 |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by israelbenzion: 6:19pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
omosexy1: I will advise you do a court wedding since you love her and to show you are serious. Court weddings are not expensive. Please don't collect her money, she needs it better than you. Encourage her to get a job, she can get a job. In the Labour market, nobody cares about your degree now, experience sells more. After the court wedding, bring to her notice her promise to get you a better job through her Uncle. However, you have to be certain about the job because people promise and fail. Also continue to monitor her because she seems to be a bossy type and you have to act the man. Before you go into the court marriage, inform her that if she fails on her part to fulfill her obligations, she would leave you with no option than to pull out of the marriage. When is ur 16th birthday coming up? |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Ekowise(m): 6:22pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
She was with u wen she was financially ok(a good job & even rich toasters) coming her way. For d fact dat she stickd to u den mean she lookd beyound ur inferior status in relative to her superior to love & u also do love her i gues. So judge right. But in all, FOLLOW YOUR HEART |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Idowuogbo(f): 6:28pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
myk2mic:I likey! |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Idowuogbo(f): 6:28pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
israel ben-zion:Loolzzz... B nice! |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by mikedaniel76gmailcom(m): 6:35pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
If she's the definition of "ur Kind of woman" Why waste time feastin on jude's advice. Yak!! |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by jarkata(m): 6:36pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Do not compromise,why can't same brother find job for her in dat same company? It doesn't matter which field. Im of d opinion dat d girl is under pressure to hook up since age is not on her side.she should be above 30yrs by now,if u mary her u r only helping her unless u are also under pressure to mary.d fact still remains dat just try to get a good job so dat u can settle down.i don't want two of u to surfer poverty after marriage,LET HER GO. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by HARDDON: 6:37pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
freeamie: I met this girl last year September at a cousin’s wedding reception and we exchanged contacts. the bold letters says it all! she has always bin in control and so it wud remain! she tells u those stories to intimidate u so u wudnt boda ha wen she pick their calls and do the ping tin: INTIMIDATED, U FEEL SHE DESERVES BETA THAN YOU AND SO THEREFORE, DONT BODA QUERYING HA ABT HA NUMEROUS ISH CALLS! I HAD TWO DAMES LIKE THAT....BUT AT THOSE CALL SEESION, I PLACE THEM WHERE THEY BELONG.....EVEN IF I EARN LITTLE, U DONT INSULT MY PERSONALITY BY TAKING CHAIKERS' CALLS IN MY VERY BEFORE! TIS CALLED RESPECT! PERIOD U WANT MY ADVISE? LET HA GO.... SHE ISNT THE RIGHT ONE FOR YOU! WAS NEVA YOURS N WUD NEVA BE ! |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Holyrule(m): 6:49pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Beync: poster U'v answered ur self. u said u can't see her heart, u can't see future with her.i think he meant he can't see d future(i.e to say no one knows tomorrow)... He can't see her heart(he can't tell of her true heartfelt for him)... |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by maclatunji: 6:57pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
chaircover: You see... where did you leave all of this one before? Not that I agree with you totally though. OP, you know what? Print out these points, answer them yourself and ask the lady for her own reaction to them. The counter-argument to CC's points is that she could as well dump you and look for rich sugar daddies to meet her needs. She was a banker and will know some men. Remember, she didn't have to tell you that her family won't tolerate her living alone in Lagos. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Meeky(m): 7:04pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Na wa oh!pple shdnt decide for you when it comes to important issues in life like getting married.first u shd inquire of God abt ur suppose fiancee.2ndly you shd be able to know by now if u truly love her and if so u better marry the person u love,not d person who is in ur head.This one decision u shd make urself. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Holyrule(m): 7:10pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Now my humble advice... First, if u can bear the hissing of a snake don't complain wen ur being bitten... Secondly, you don't have to rush into marriage based on pressure... You need to set ur mind ready. Thirdly, lyk u said "SHE IS ALWAYS IN CONTROL"... I think inferiority complex got u there, and am thinking, "if she eventually gives u these assistants,do u think u can ever be in control"... Now if u can answer this question, i bet u know what to do. If i might ask, for how long have you guys been courting?.. However, she loves you, but doesn't lyk ur job... And she answers to calls as she wishes(always in control as u said)... Could it be that you couldn't put things where they re meant to be because u feel inferior...now lemme ask you... Assuming you were earning more than her, wud u have tolerated all those stuffs... If ur answer is no, then i sense complex. After all said and done, always be a man at all times. Marry only wen ur ready, both financially, psychologically, emotionally, etc. You call the shots... (i don't make choices for people, the choice is all urs to make) |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Nobody: 7:24pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
She is not unemployable. Experience trumps degree. A degree is just a paper that says you have enough discipline to learn stuff and complete tasks. When it comes down to useful knowledge, that can only be acquired from actual experience. Nigerians just have a funny way of thinking when it comes to these things. -- That being said, please don't let any woman pressure you into something like marriage. "You MUST marry me before this given timeframe" na serious wow statement....but at least she knows what she wants. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Nobody: 7:31pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
The woman makes perfect sense. 1) She has money. 350k in savings 2) You're broke 3) She can get you a better job 4) She kept dating you even when you had rags on. 5) Seems like you get more out of this marriage o. 6) She could have asked any of her other rich colleages Ayam just saying. Love is overrated, think with your head. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Onasa22: 7:31pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Marriage as we all know is like "Salvation" which is personal. As a man, you have some major qualities that you would like your wife to possess. Does she have those qualities after going thru your checklist? If yes, then forget about what Jude and others are telling you. Pls remember, nobody is perfect |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by emsquare(m): 7:42pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
sadeiyare: She started dating u when she had a job abi ? She didn't see you as an opportunist. She liked you even when you have a not too good job. She is not unemployable, she is a graduate and can even get a job in any food company. Her experience is an asset. She is matured enough for marriage. Guy make you marry the girl, I wonder which girl dem born out there with Mrs right boldly written on her fore head. Is your jude married ? Don't mind jude, follow your heart. Marriage is sacrifice; we all get to marry because of one thing or the other,you have been a bachelor since birth, don't be an unrepentant bachelor lol. Godspeed Word! |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by andyanders: 7:46pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
From your write up, I found out here that during the time she was with the bank, she expected much from you in terms of a good job as she never loved the job you were doing. Then, she was also answering calls from her toasters whom she trusted better than you and hoping that they will make a better husband with their cash. As a teacher, she ONLY expresses her likeness on your person but not love. Later, she lost her job and wants you to open up as to settle down with you and also, to help you secure a job with an oil company through her brother ONLY if you marry her. Listen, she is only after money and not love. Why didn't your lover girl propose to you so to say when she had job until she lost her job? Why didn't the so called lover girl help you secure a job through her brother when she had her bank job? And now also, why does she want to help you ONLY when you marry her. Listen to me my brother, I don't think that she is real as true love will not hate your job, rather help you stand when in need. Do not be surprised that if she helps you secure the job and you annoy her tomorrow, she might end up going through same process to see that you loose same job. The taste of friendship is not the taste of marriage. A true lover will stand by you no matter your job, so far you don't steal, since you are already a graduate but managing a teaching job and hoping that things might change for good at any time in the future. Never marry out of sympathy. 1 Like |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Tlake(m): 7:51pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Bros I dnt knw if u believe all dis seers u can go see one about it |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by DUBES(m): 8:39pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
She i̶̲̥̅̊s an opportunist, marry her if you are convinced she i̶̲̥̅̊s the one for you, but if you ask ♍ε̲̣̣̣̥, I don't she i̶̲̥̅̊s right for you. After you marry her, she will reveal her whole color to U |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by freenature: 9:03pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
dude o gotta be vrey careful in taking da damn decision cos when yo married there aint no way yo gonna break da convennant made to her even if u are divorced the convenant still remais. yo gotta pray to Jesus about, and also yo gotta watch her move. It could be a set up for her to boss u around later and start saying if not for her you wouldn't be where u are |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by 7footre(m): 9:04pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
She proposed to you and will provide money for the wedding!? Dude is she getting married to you or are you marrying her? Forget wha jude says..what do you have to say?? |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Ninapha(f): 9:22pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
OP, i dont believe dis lady loves u enough. Any lady dat loves a man wd never give such idiotic conditions. One thing i believe strongly is dat u are 'manupulatable' so she wants to add ur name to hers 'mrs' i laughed at her family not allowing her rent a house in lagos. White lie. If she had been transfered to Kogi nko? She wants to put fire on u. Was she living wit them during uni days? Whats dis BB thing? Ok to remind u she belongs to a class. I dont promote poverty and i dont write off any man. As a teacher cdn't she hv encouraged u to go for masters take a stake at lecturing job. Cdn't she hv asked u to invest d 350k and take d profit to enlarge ur income? Cdn't hv asked d uncle to help witout making it a condition. Am sure if she has, u wd hv been d one doing dat proposal. No she is lookn for 'Mrs' witout potfolio. Wait, look, think and reason. Whatever ur heart says. B of Luck |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by oohunt: 9:43pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
My own humble opinion: Her wrongest move was to give you the condition that she'll help you get a job after marriage. As in bribing you into marriage. (I would personally dump the person after such statement) Do not rush into marriage with this lady, you need to invest more time into this relationship and then decide if she is truly for you. And like others mentioned when it comes to marriage use you head and not entirely your heart. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by damoobaba: 9:54pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
freeamie: I met this girl last year September at a cousin’s wedding reception and we exchanged contacts.Jude wants you to dump her so he could marry her afterwards.Sincerely, the only assesment you need to make is to know if you actually/truly love her.Dont let her money/job offer or anythin else be ur guide.Goodluck without Jonathan to you. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Scarpon(m): 10:12pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
acidtalk: Rarely respond to threads if I can't relate to the message 100%. As for this, I can relate to it 101%.well said brow |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by DANILSA(m): 11:15pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
freeamie:Thank God ur not for sale. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by photons(m): 12:00am On Jul 27, 2012 |
u need a long talk with her |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Atesian(m): 12:26am On Jul 27, 2012 |
Man,marriage is nt joke,b careful |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by deezed1(m): 12:27am On Jul 27, 2012 |
NLDers, u guys r darlings. From Acidtalk 2 Dof1 an all others I couldn't read deir replies.am seriously impressed by these responses. Learnt something. Thanx Guys n thanx OP 4 such a topic. (In MI's voice calling out Audu) Seun, Seun, I'll kiss ur bald head(if u av any) 4 dis forum. Muah! |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by kandiikane(m): 2:44am On Jul 27, 2012 |
Ileke-IdI: I only came on here to agree with this. |
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