kunletiwoo: lol, funny you.

chii8: Most 9ja guys hardly luvs,dts d prob,cos if u luv a lady,u wont give it a second tot 2 pay 4 her tfare back home,mtcheeeeeeeew

acidtalk:

That's just the annoying thing. Dem no get and na dem form pass.

They aren't work or come from a wealthy home yet they want to carry the most expensive phones, weave on, hand bags,dresses, perfumes.

That's why most of them have resorted to executive prostitutes.

sosoluv: Happy 101 Thread Day! its not an obligation on the guy to pay for fuel or transport, the lady should also pay for it herself sometimes

aribisala0:
Actually I do not give it a second thought, I pay and I pay very well and the reason is because I don't love them.

The moment a woman starts taking my money we are doing business. Paying makes it easier for me to say "get lost" when I am done.
They too can say they did not waste their time and everyone is happy. During a visit to Naija sometime ago after two weeks "friendshiip" a naija girl asked for"trans".Normally I would ask someone to drop her but that day I could not. I asked how much she said 2000(It was maybe 200).I gave her 5000 and decided at that moment we were finished. I never saw her again but she was always calling daily maybe hoping for even more pay.What she did not realise was that 5000 was her pension. what a lot of guys do not know is sometimes it is good to pay the Devil to exit your life.
When I love someone I support them to get educated and to eschew the "handout" mentality" so they can become rich for themselves,that is real love" .The problem is too many Naija women have a poverty mentality and do not believe they can be rich or financialy independent.
There are some women that own houses and shops in Nigeria through hardwork not sleeping with politicians or anyone.I know them and there are others who start to invoice you from day one for trivial things like laptops,phones etc.


i probably wont have had the time to piece the above.... well said

Unfortunately the latter are more numerous. It all has to do with social/family background.

pro01:
Love gbukwa gi dia. Shebi una dey see the typical mindset?

jay bee: Not a must but [b]courtesy [/b]demands you do if you're the one doing the inviting and her transportation cost is going to be beyond the norm e.g she had to take a licensed cab for the sole purpose of visiting you

joeydozzy:

what sort of username is this

TalkingBird:

Interesting!

TalkingBird: Could it be an African mentality?
Do European ladies do the same?
I wont be wrong to say no, because they - Eurpoean ladies, take responsibility for their engagements.

slimyem: same old story of crying broke-assss [color=#006600][/color]men !
Hia!

jay bee:
Why is it interesting Sir/Ma?
Look at this scenario.
You own a car and seriously tied up to the extent that you are unable to go pick your date for one reason or the other. [b]You [/b]ask her to get a cab instead of waiting for you to come pick her so as to save time. Would you expect her to pay considering the fact that you asked her to come see you, she is having to change her usual mode of transportation because of your busy schedule so as to please you.

TalkingBird:

Good logic. It follows an age long principle-
(Matthew 7:12) 12 “All things, therefore, that YOU want men to do to YOU, YOU also must likewise do to them; this, in fact, is what the Law and the Prophets mean.

However, it shouldn't be an excuse for commonizing it as found in every day relationships around us.

jay bee: [/i]Not a must but [i]courtesy demands you do if you're the one doing the inviting and her transportation cost is going to be beyond the norm e.g she had to take a licensed cab for the sole purpose of visiting you

jay bee:

TalkingBird:

Jaybee

aribisala0: Guys pay up please stop arguing and pay up.If you can't pay do not keep Naija "girlfriends" just focus on improving your life . Although maybe we should change the thread title to Should Men pay for reasonable expenses associated with services rendered.

There is no point deceiving ourselves. These relationships are generally transactional and should be paid for by those deriving benefits.

Having said that there are a smaller number of relationships where the man (usually young and virile) is servicing the woman(usually married and sex-starved) and getting paid for his endeavours. This is life. In fact if you settle these girls well they can arrange others for you so you have the best of both world.
What I do not accept though is the use of phrases such as "I love you" that is absolutely Forbidden.

queensmith: I don't know why anybody has to pay for anybodies transport. But its cultural courtsey [/b]in a way, if someone pays you a visit the least you can do is reimburse them for their troubles. I'm guessin if your girl has better use of her money then sure.

TalkingBird:

Unless I misunderstood this thread.
I am talking of very decent relationships

aribisala0:
I am not sure what "decent" means as no relationship is fun without INDECENCY
kidding
If you mean a marriage or relationship with a realistic chance of marriage then it is simple
There are different social classes in Nigeria and so it depends;not every Nigerian uses public transport even when flying so there are levels and levels
A woman with a job and income who expects reimbursement for visiting is not wife material but may fulfil other requirements
However the reality in Nigeria is the economy is largely controlled by men and some cultures discourage women from working/earning thus reinforcing dependency and slavery.What is painful is women do not see it as slavery.[/b]If the women has no money you should pay if you can and if you can't well ; cow wey no get tail nagod dey help am drive fly.Reality is there are many Nigerian girls who spend money on men hoping for marriage and end up disappointed by some bastards so it is not only women who are mercenary
There are however large numbers of women from social classes where even their grandmothers are Professors,doctors etc e.g the likes of Achebe Okonjo-Iweala etc' children/grandchildren and I would be surprised if people from such backgrounds expect transport fare.
[b]Women like to be pampered and a man paying her fare is an admirable act of chivalry that some well-off women would appreciate occasionally .I think it is a different thing when there is a need to "balance the books" and this is considered obligatory for every visit..In that sort of situation the relationship is not "decent" as you call it but business which is actually perfect for me and a lot of men because everyone knows the score

TalkingBird:

I really would not have liked to quote you, but I think it is instructive.
As for the italized- I no dey oh!

acidtalk:

That's the username you see when conji don almost kill person.

acidtalk:

That's the username you see when conji don almost kill person.

acidtalk:

That's the username you see when conji don almost kill person.

Sylverbox: there is a big difference btw WASTING and SPENDING on a lady. If u hav many gals den ur wasting ur money but if U hav 1 U love, even if u transport her 2 d Olympics u will not feel a pinch! Guys I think we were made 2 care 4 them, period!