Again if I were a kid, I'd post the YIM convo of bennygee and his loser partners but I dont have that time.

All this idiots think we are in primary 3, where you pull a girl's pigtails then run away hoping she'll "understand" that you have a crush. Im in my 20s my friend, it doesnt work that way anymore.

So take your pitiful words that you ASSUME is written in English and get out of my way.

Thanks.

toyin, I see you've been released. Lol we thank God.

boooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

ThiefOfHearts:

toyin, I see you've been released. Lol we thank God.

LOL. . .

chei, naija guys shall never change. because a woman has strong opinions, u then think she's not being ladylike or you say BS like its affecting her beauty etc. WTF? i fear o! ya'll just have the mentality that women should accept some men for the goats they are, that they will always cheat blah blah blah. that shit it getting so tired, and i'm sick of it. 2 can play that game remember.

if a man can decide to stick it to another woman other than the one he's with, then let it be known that his woman can always lie on her back too for another man. its just a matter of choice and discipline. so if you don't want your woman to one day get back at you (and trust me, if ever she's stupid enough to stay, she WILL get back at you somehow, and you will never find out till you die! yes, women, are more discreet than men), then do not cheat. so when the urger to screw someone else pops up into your minds, try to imagine another man giving it good to your woman and see how that feels. rubbish!

what i'm trying to say is, what is good for the goose is good for the gander. no one should get away with cheating in my opinion. its a slap in the face and its disrespectful and humiliating. i'd break up first before i cheat on anyone.

Only a desperate, sex crazed, insecure, uneducated, trifling, woman of a dish rag would put up with a philandering, disease spreading, local tout of a dude!!!!

I do not know how many times we would discuss this type of topic on Nairaland.

Do women ever learn?

aisha2 please you are way too intelligent for this piece of garbage.  You of all people should know you are gambling away your life with a cheating boyfriend. I have no doubt that the love is genuine.  But for heaven's sake, please learn to love yourself before you can appreciate when someone truly loves you. I guess as you get older, you will understand that the best companion you can have is yourself. No man is worth that kind of attention.

Happy New Year!!!  Do not start 2008 putting up with those yahoo, kolanut selling polygamists in Abuja. 

almondjoy:

Only a desperate, sex crazed, insecure, uneducated, trifling, woman of a dish rag would put up with a philandering, disease spreading, local tout of a dude!!!!

AJ, those women might stick with cheats but they cheat as well. Anyway you are right. That Aisha should really learn to love herself before *has forgotten the remaining part*

Goodluck!

michelin89:

AJ, those women might stick with cheats but they cheat as well. Anyway you are right. That Aisha should really learn to love herself before *has forgotten the remaining part*

Goodluck!

I guess you are right Michelin. But what is the point cheating with another low life only to complicate matters by increasing your chances of catching a terminal illness?

Look, I am in the least the most moralistic person on this planet. My scare is from a medical point of view. Not to go to heaven to please God, but because I love my good health and most importantly myself. There is no man on earth that is worth risking my life for.

Like you said, we can only wish aisha2 goodluck. If it were some other poster with 1 post, I would not even bat an eyelid. But aisha2 is a popular well known persona on this forum. How in the world she could come up with such a dilemma is beyond me.

Goodluck aisha2. May you have all your heart's desire. Please take care of yourself. NO MAN IS WORTH THAT KIND OF RISK OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH. NO MATTER HOW WELL HE "VIBRATES"!!!!

Aj, they are sex-crazed! Sex is such a dangerous drug. We should abstain from it like I did for 16 years before giving in.

We have nothing left to say. Although there are more males than females in this forum, I am glad to see that women are speaking loudly. As an 18 year old emancipated chocolate, sleep addict, I say "long live bold women".

Aisha,
HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Hmmm the topic is extra sensitive. But I would have to read from start.

For now, let me summarise the experience of the people I studied.

A cheating boyfriend can change and can never change. Same for cheating husband. Only you can read his level of perversion.

If he can't change, you would settle for one of these two options after marriage:

1. He would be polygamous. He would bring another lady home later when you are already late in leaving.

2. He would steal time out and cheat on you behind you or even before you but may not be polygamous. To such, don't be surprised if after decades of marriage, you are presented with the product of his extra marrital affairs. This could be kids, or STIs.

On how to handle him. I would give you some options to choose:

1. Pre-marrital precaution:

measure his level of perversion. Since you know him better. On a scale of 5.

Level 5 is the extreme case, irredeemable,
Level 4 is advanced case, redeemable but too stuborn to reform;
Level 3 is redeemable but willing to reform albeit slowly;
Level 2, is mild case needing your attention.
Level 1 is amateur just sowing wild oats.
0 is a mere case of unfounded suspicious.

Now rate your man. If he is at level 3, Yellow card. put marriage on hold and have word with him before he graduated upward. If at level 4, find someone who know him well to give you honest assessment of his stubborness. Check out if he is irredeemable. 5, is straight Red card.
Level 2 is tolerable he could change if you do right the thing.
Level 1 is in every man. Just keep watch over him.
Level Zero is your problem, not his.

Surely, you would find answer to the premarital cheating here.

As for marrital cheat, later.

Enjoy your weekend.

i've always wondered though, for those that are married, if your husband or wife cheated on you, what did you or what would you do? did you work things out or straight up seperate? it's so easy to say one would leave a spouse's trifflin ass if they cheated, but i'm just curious to know, how have people handled it? by no means should it be accepted in my opinion, but i want to know from our married people in the house, how did ya'll go about the issue? i'm trying to be realistic here because no marriage is perfect, and there would come a time when 1 of you might be tempted to "step out" on the other. so, what do you do to prevent that? reasonable and mature answers only, please and thank you.

Souljagirl:

i've always wondered though, for those that are married, if your husband or wife cheated on you, what did you or what would you do? did you work things out or straight up seperate? it's so easy to say one would leave a spouse's trifflin ass if they cheated, but i'm just curious to know, how have people handled it? by no means should it be accepted in my opinion, but i want to know from our married people in the house, how did ya'll go about the issue? i'm trying to be realistic here because no marriage is perfect, and there would come a time when 1 of you might be tempted to "step out" on the other. so, what do you do to prevent that? reasonable and mature answers only, please and thank you.

No one is advocating speedy Las Vegas divorce for infidelity.  I personally would quarantine the guy for like 2 Years in the basement with series of STD panels to make sure he is not septic.  Then it is condom all the way of course. No more kisses of course!!!!!!  

That is if I still have the slightest feelings for him ooooooooooooooooooooooooooh!!!!!!

If I do not have the slightest feeling for him, he just made things a whole lot easier for me. He just gave me the most gracious excuse to excuse myself. Not negotiable at all. I think it would definitely be time for us to part ways.

really thats harsh

blackgucci:

really thats harsh

he he he he he he he

You do not want me to lock you up in the basement? Abi you dey fear HIV test?  If you cheat you should go for series of STD panels before you can proceed with the marriage or relationship. SIMPLE!!!!!

If you catch me too, I should be able to agree to your own terms to show how sorry and penitent I am.

For me, I don't deal with person who tells me a lie that he loves me more and still is constantly cheater/womanizer/player---i dump him instantly to move on.

Cheater is Cheater, ALWAYS!

@poster

You can do that using pre-marital precaution scale as @olanajim has said it all at above that is helpful tool for yourself in the quality of anti-heartbroken protection.

@poster
realistically speaking, what u think u see as in, u think u see some signs of cheating, might not be cheating at all. The only way to find out is to have a good talk with him. then from the result of ur talk, i guess u will know what to do

almondjoy:

he he he he he he he

You do not want me to lock you up in the basement? Abi you dey fear HIV test? If you cheat you should go for series of STD panels before you can proceed with the marriage or relationship. SIMPLE!!!!!

If you catch me too, I should be able to agree to your own terms to show how sorry and penitent I am.

i know my status am clean,

made a point,

I don't even care about the emotional aspects of the cheating.  The health risks are my main concern. Not in this day and age.

Abeg oooooooooooooooooooooooh!!!!!

Say wetin happen?

almondjoy:

I don't even care about the emotional aspects of the cheating. The health risks are my main concern. Not in this day and age.

hahaha
what are you scared of?

really it should, the world aint safe.

Ask me

blackgucci:

hahaha
what are you scared of?

really it should, the world aint safe.

Have you ever seen or worked with an HIV+ or AIDS victim before?  I say it is not worth it at all!!!!

Yes ooooooooooooooooooh, I am scared.

but we cant be too careful, you know that?

ok, i get that better to be safe than sorry and wear a condom always, but what about the ones that are not just dumb enough to cheat, but are even dumber not to wear a condom with a stranger, on top say it was in the heat of the moment? i wish people would just shine their eyes, and not get carried away by lust. condoms may not be 100% effective in preventing diseases or whatever, but going unprotected is a heck lot worse don't you think? 

@Aisha2
hope ure gud now?

Hey, you all. I just resumed work today from a long break, When i saw the post i was suprised that because
1. I was in a place where there was no GPRS or internet connectivity
2. I broke up with my boyfriend sometime ago and i am not rushing into any relationship

To say am shocked is an understatement. Anyway happy new year sha.I dont want to believe someone knows my password.

To say am shocked is an understatement. Anyway happy new year sha.I don't want to believe someone knows my password.

are u saying u didnt post that thing? cos i was a bit worried that came from you. . .you need to read what some dunderheads said about u.

Hope ure gud? enjoy the brand new year!!

My dear, am really worried oh, left my Laptop in the office because i didnt want to be distracted, Whenever i am on line i always try to contact Olanajim, so he should know that i have not been around, the last time we communicated was a day to Christmas, since then I have not been able to Access the net. I am asking around in my offfice to find out who used my computer.
I tire oh. This is seriuosly embarassing.

Cheating? Castrate him!

candies:

Cheating? Castrate him!

how do you do that?

a lady has as an option to quit, afterall what will a guy do if he finds his girl cheating on him. its just that most of our ladies are still far from discovering themselves. if you can't quit then accomodate it and don't complain.

zheroes:

how do you do that?

a lady has as an option to quit, afterall what will a guy do if he finds his girl cheating on him. its just that most of our ladies are still far from discovering themselves. if you can't quit then accomodate it and don't complain.

how?why?

candies:

Cheating? Castrate him!

how?why?

aisha2:

Hey, you all. I just resumed work today from a long break, When i saw the post i was suprised that because
1. I was in a place where there was no GPRS or internet connectivity
2. I broke up with my boyfriend sometime ago and i am not rushing into any relationship

To say am shocked is an understatement. Anyway happy new year sha.I don't want to believe someone knows my password.

whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat

how?why?

how do you do that?

its easy. . . . just place his balls on the table and slam a sledge hammer on it ^(phew). . . .