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Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Decryptor(m): 8:32pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
[b]Sorry for the lengthy typing but i just need to explain this scenario in details I visited a friend of mine over the week and discovered he was devastated and worried. His reason: He suspected that his fiancee was cheating on him. At first, i gave it a wave of the hand as nothing serious but the manner in which he was moody was so worrisome so i decided to ask him why he thought so? He explained that he called her on phone the previous day in the morning by 8 am and heard the sound of a television at the background. (She is currently serving in Ile-Ife...the same town which she schooled (OAU)...He knew that she didnt own a television so was curious to know where she was...She replied that she was in a "friend's" place who happened to be her fellow corper who turns out to be a guy. He said he didn't have any problem with that and suspected nothing until he called her again by 9:30 pm that same evening and still heard the same Television noise at the background...He inquired if she was still in her friend's place and she said yes, he asked what she would be doing there by that odd hour?...according to him, she flared up and retorted in igbo language (cos the guy was yoruba) to him that he should stop monitoring her and hung up. This according to him made him so restless for the rest of the night; especially because of the fact that when he called her earlier in the day and they were about to end their conversation, he said the usual thing lovers say "I LOVE YOU" but she didn't reply and just dropped the call. I told him not to give such matter a serious thought but my words of encouragement fell on deaf ears. He was so much in love and couldn't bear the thought of her being with another man. The following day which was a Wednesday, he waited for her to finish her Community Development programme which according to her they were having that day and then called her in the evening when he felt she must have freshened up for the day and was about to retire to bed. According to him, he tried her number and it rang once but there was no response and the next thing, the line went dead. Her number was "switched off" through out the rest of the night till around 8:30pm the following morning. This made him put an urgent call to me and when i got to his place, he told me he wanted me to keep him company in other to get his mind off the past events. I obliged and stayed with him cos i really did not have much to do in my place of work that day and decided to keep myself busy with his laptop and modem. But this guy was not just himself as he kept on prancing up and down in the living room. I really felt sorry for him and an idea hit me.... i told him that we were going to find out if his fiancee was really cheating like he suspected and he asked how? I told him that one of the ways to find out was to get to her phone or any social networking site she uses and is fond of but since she wasn't present for us to use her phone, we'll make do with a social networking site. I asked if she was in BBM and he said no but that he was aware that she chatted alot on facebook via her phone. I then decided that we should try facebook. I requested for her email address which she gave me and then within 10mins, i "hacked" into her facebook account (Pls don't ask me how cos i ain't telling)and to God who made me, it was a decision i almost regretted instantly because there staring at us was the "unbelievable"!!! My friend's fiancee was having the time of her life flirting with some of the guys on her list and there was this particular one which made him almost run mad. It was the one involving a guy whom his fiancee met in the bus while she was coming to visit him for the second time in Abuja some days after Easter. This particular guy was younger than her and according to my friend, when she got to his house after her journey, she called him to inform her that she was in her fiancee (my friend's) place already. My friend said she told him how they met in the bus and chatted together until they got to "Gwagwalada" a suburb where my friend resides before the main town in Abuja where this other guy was staying so she alighted first from the bus before him. My friend just took it as one of those things and didn't give it a thought until something strange began to happen... She told my friend that this guy offered that she pays him a visit to Garki "for those who are familiar with Abuja but my friend said No cos he believed that if she should visit Garki, she shouldn't go alone but after thinking about how bored she might be at home, he decided she would go the next day to visit the guy just because according to him "He trusted her". he told her that she would go the following day after he would have provided her with transportation fare cos it was quite a distance. But somehow or the other, he did not give her the money to go out to meet him and so she arranged that the guy comes to visit instead. . This particular guy came to visit my friend's girl in his absence and takes her out while my friend is out to work hustling for the day and when he calls her to know how she was doing, she tells him that this guy took her out. To be honest, my friend said he didn't feel bad about it at all and when he came back that day, she narrated some details of their outing. The following day, this guy still comes around and takes her out again, gives a break for a day or two and then takes her out again until the day before the girl was supposed to leave back for her base. That particular day, my friend says he got back from work at around past 8 in the evening and his fiancee is not at home, he calls her on phone and she says she's out with this guy. He shrugs and fixs dinner himself and when she arrives after about an hour, she comes into the house and says the guy brought her back and is outside...she also says that she wants to stay outside with this guy before he leaves. My friend in a bit not to be "possessive" says ok to this and she goes outside, spends another 30-40mins with the guy before coming to tell her fiance that the guy wants to say hi to him. Even though my friend was boiling on the inside of him esp because of these ongoing events, he still keeps his cool, goes outside to meet the guy and they exchange pleasantries...he even thanks the guy for keeping his fiancee company because he said he was quite considerate of the fact that she would have been bored while he was away from home. Later that night, he decides to make his feelings known to his fiancee and tells her that he was not really comfortable about the closeness between the guy and her...As usual, the girl switches to defensive mode, reminding him how she is older than the guy and how impossible it was for her to feel anything for him. She gets upset and says my friend is suspecting her unnecessarily and then turns the other way and faces the wall in bed refusing to talk to him for the whole of the night until morning. Just because of the love this guy has for his fiancee, he apologizes and says he's sorry and everything ends there......OR SO HE THOUGHT Now back to the day i hacked into her facebook account....This same guy whom she claimed to be "just a friend she met in the bus" and a "small boy she can never have feelings for" is now the one she was chatting with in a romantic mode. The chat according to the dates started from the day after they first met in the bus until sometime in the latter part of July (before she went for her service) ...I took snapshots of them so as to keep them as proof for him to confront her. You need to see the way my guy was trembling with emotions and tears while he read this messages which you are about to read in just a moment. I couldn't take them all cos facebook blocked the account when she tried numerous times to log into it unsuccessfully. But from the ones you can see, i would like you all fellow Nairalanders to please comment on the following: 1)Was this actually a harmless chat which was done for fun or did she have ulterior motives? Because up till now she still claims the chat was just to keep up the conversation going on between them. (I don't see how this makes sense). 2) Should my friend reconcile and go back to her because he called her the night we made this discovery and told her it was over between them and she has been pleading ever since. (Though i suggested that he should stick to his ending the relationship because a partner who intends to or cheats will always do that if given a second chance.) Please i need answers on these 2 points and any other matured suggestions are welcomed. Please and please, try to stick to the topic and no harsh words....thanks. PS:I humbly and earnestly request this topic be taken to the front page in other to get more audience and timely response. [/b] 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Decryptor(m): 8:34pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
Here below are the screenshots of the conversation i took from the page...I omitted their names in order to protect their identity. |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Decryptor(m): 8:41pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
I'm trying to upload the pics but it's not working....i saved them in PNG formats. does it mean that png images can't be uploaded in NL? |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by venorite(m): 8:45pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
Where is the screenshot |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Nobody: 8:50pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
23 hours won't be enough reading that |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Decryptor(m): 8:55pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
i have to convert them to jpg to see if the upload will work |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Decryptor(m): 8:56pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
Jeez...It's not working! Can someone tell me why i can't upload images on this forum anymore? |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by StPete: 8:57pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
Pls I'd like to see those screenshots before I comment. But I can imagine what this guy is going through cos I've once experienced this exact same thing before |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by slimyem: 8:59pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
gosh! Too long! Anyways from what i read halfway,all signs point to flirting,cheating and unseriousness on the part of the girl. ...and why is your friend not sleeping all night and needs you to stay with him on top woman matter? Na so the love reach? IMO,i'd say he forgets about her no matter how much she pleads. She gave room for doubts and suspicions in the first place and now that trust is out of the picture,patching up is pointless! Goodluck 1 Like |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Decryptor(m): 9:00pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
St_Pete: Pls I'd like to see those screenshots before I comment. But I can imagine what this guy is going through cos I've once experienced this exact same thing before I'll try uploading them in a remote Image Hosting server and place the link here or i'll just put them on a zip file and place a link for download but i'm afraid the spambot or mods will ban me if i do that |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by StPete: 9:07pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
I think what your friend should do is forget d two-timing biatch and move on with his life cos she's bound 2 do it again if she scales thru dis. Trust me, I've been there before and I know exactly how it feels! |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Decryptor(m): 9:21pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
They say where there is a will, there is a way....As a web developer, i've quickly cooked up an amatuer webpage and hosted the files on a domain server i purchased recently for someone who doesn't need it any more.. View the chat on www.nigerianroyalmail.com keep refreshing the "go to next pages" links below cos it a long but interesting one and i'm still working on it at the moment Happy viewing |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Decryptor(m): 9:32pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
Keywords:Please note that her "I" means "Hi" Any repetition of the same words on the next image was done so as to ensure that the conversation was uncut and ran concurrently |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Decryptor(m): 9:39pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
slimyem: gosh! Exactly my point @slimyem...she even kissed the guy according to the chat at some point. something which she vehemently denies till now but was boldly written on the message. slimyem: ...and why is your friend not sleeping all night and needs you to stay with him on top woman matter?He truly did love her. I remember how he swore to me that she was his "final destination" when it came to marraige! it really devastated him |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by slimyem: 9:57pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
^your friend never reach destination then..im still dey road.. I'll help him pray for journey mercies!! |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Decryptor(m): 9:59pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
slimyem: ^your friend never reach destination then..im still dey road.. |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by jhydebaba(m): 10:07pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
Love died a very fatal death years ago. Most girls these days can't be trusted. For you to keep yourself away from emotional trauma: 1. Don't love 2. Close your eyes to her unfaithfulness. @OP, you went too far when you hacked the girls facebook account, don't you know the discoveries would break their relationship. Imagine my case, I opened my girlfriend's facebook account, still keeps the account's password till date even though she is an ex. Checked all her sexcapedes while we were together even till date. Girls are fvcked mehn! Sometimes while reading, I feel like confronting her but that only means that I won't get to read other ones. I have been playing it cool and I have learnt so much. Bottomline: don't be blinded by love. 2 Likes |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Idowuogbo(f): 10:10pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
jhydebaba: Love died a very fatal death years ago. Most girls these days can't be trusted. For you to keep yourself away from emotional trauma: 1. Don't love 2. Close your eyes to her unfaithfulness.I gerrit now! Hmmm... |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by jhydebaba(m): 10:16pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
Idowuogbo:u mean you did not read the whole epistle? |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Ghydyon(m): 10:28pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
Gals ar weaker vessels nd all dis social network makes dem weak d more....i dont blame her cos dats in all gals gene |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Idowuogbo(f): 10:32pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
Lmfaoo@ I like it wen u play wiv my hands Toto dey scratch am o! DUMP DIS BIATCH!!! Imagine na small pikin she cheat wiv ya no! Mama paedo! Mstewwww... 2 Likes |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Idowuogbo(f): 10:33pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
jhydebaba: u mean you did not read the whole epistle?I did! |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by jhydebaba(m): 10:37pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
Idowuogbo:So ma'am, what did you get? |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by biolabee(m): 10:53pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
brosssssssssssssss you are really a decyptor The Q is what does the guy want? obviously the lady is of 2 minds If he cares for her enough, he should go for it If not , let her go Even some of mothers of the older generation were double dating before they married |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Nobody: 10:59pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
@ op if your friend has phucked the girl enough he should forget about her and move on but if he hasn't phucked her enough he should get back and phuck some more. The girl is really cheap mehn and a poor village girl lmao at going to the stream to wash everyone's cloth in this 21st century? And what's that she tied on her waist? She carrying a baby? The boy and girl are both stark illiterates ! lame chat ! Nothing fresh |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by freecocoa(f): 11:01pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
Mumu girl, very immature and boring chat. Your friend should forget about the cheating and lying b1tch, she's the one that even kissed the boy, very f00lish girl i must say. 1 Like |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Decryptor(m): 11:04pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
There we have it! I've uploaded the whole files to the server. But please reading it is not enough...I need comments. Thanks for the contributions so far. Please Mods, kindly move to the frontpage if you think it's necessary. I'll show my friend this topic and it could help him alot and other readers too. I need to setup an opinion poll for this but i think I've forgotten how to do that. any help |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Decryptor(m): 11:06pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
Idowuogbo: Lmfaoo@ I like it wen u play wiv my handsThe thing really tire me o! no be small |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by tunnytox(m): 11:07pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
@OP You be good detective I swear! Tell your friend say im don enter one chance. Truth is bitter but must be told, the girl does not love your friend at all, she's just using him to pass time. If i'm treated like that by a lady, I will just accept my fate and move on no need crying over spilled milk. Chei! Wo----men abi na Woe------men 1 Like |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Decryptor(m): 11:11pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
saint pipe: @ op if your friend has phucked the girl enough he should forget about her and move on but if he hasn't phucked her enough he should get back and phuck some more.LMAO! Same thing i asked him when i saw "the stream" part. according to my friend, that was after she left his house to the village for easter in Ebonyi state. They dated for about 6 months or so in which she visited twice or thrice and spent a minimum of a week on the least |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Bluemoon1(f): 11:15pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
chai!!! the girl is definitely cheating. the chat is rubbish sef |
Re: Was She Cheating Or A "Harmless" Chat? by Nobody: 11:21pm On Sep 04, 2012 |
Decryptor:tell your guy not to worry about the fat cow mehn she aint worth it! Cheap thing I swear this kind girl only 1 chat section i go undergo with her before i phuck life outta her brain! ur guy must be a 'mumu' to still worry about this kind of girl after reading this chat! She how she was bugging the guy mehn arrgh! Cheap tokunbo thing!! |
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