Achiles: But later I was suprised that when she called me and said she had offended me because she had been seeing this guy she met in Unilag shen she went to submit her post graduate form for over two months now. That she had had to keep our engagement ring! I was dazed!

Achiles: I love this girl and can't imagine a life without her, but I hate lies, I hardly forgive been taken for a fool. I am damn too confused! could someone with a sensible head help me out here?

Achiles: The more I think about it the more I get confused. she claims she still lovees me and that it was the devil.

Sijo01:


If there is sincerity in her apology, try giv her the benefit of doubt.

deshclones:

bro..its how life is structured..gals are something else..i can forgive a gal that did the worst stuff to me but i dont think i will ever forgive a cheating gal...esp one that i was faithful to...never...you are better off without her...when next she calls..give her attitude...just start now to hate her bro...what she did is unforgivable man...d memories will forever linger in your head bro....do you know what it means to be visualizing anoda man making love to your wife??..whenever she is moaning during lovemaking ,your mind will tell you that she is imaging the other guy..just let her go...a gal that cheated on you while she was wearing your ring is a b1atch..just move on.

Achiles: The more I think about it the more I get confused. she claims she still lovees me and that it was the devil.

deshclones:

bro..its how life is structured..gals are something else..i can forgive a gal that did the worst stuff to me but i dont think i will ever forgive a cheating gal...esp one that i was faithful to...never...you are better off without her...when next she calls..give her attitude...just start now to hate her bro...what she did is unforgivable man...d memories will forever linger in your head bro....do you know what it means to be visualizing anoda man making love to your wife??..whenever she is moaning during lovemaking ,your mind will tell you that she is imaging the other guy..just let her go...a gal that cheated on you while she was wearing your ring is a b1atch..just move on.

frank3.16:


This is important: ignore every female post!!!

Sijo01:


why should he??

frank3.16:


Well, because women c things from a fantasy world while men c things from reality world

Consider this, most women are controled by what they hear (imagination and emotion) while men are controled by what they see (physical and reality)

Achiles: I was shocked to discover that my girl of over two years was it passing over me. We got engaged sometime March 2012 and we are currently preparing for our wedding. She meant everything to me and I love her with my life. And she is all I want. She is all I want because she is the best. We would talk, talk and talk. recently i discovered she was always in a hurry to end phone conversation, she started lying, and getting funny. Initially I thought it was something I did but then she said there was nothing I did. Few days ago, I called her and she said she was in the ladies that I should call back.

but then there was so much noise in the background. I did not suspect anything because trust has been the bedrock of our relationship. But later I was suprised that when she called me and said she had offended me because she had been seeing this guy she met in Unilag shen she went to submit her post graduate form for over two months now. That she had had to keep our engagement ring! I was dazed!

We never had no problem with money, I gave her all the attention. and I have always supported her. We're the best of friends I thought. I kept asking her what did i do? honey, did I offend you? was it me? did I push you out? no, washer response! she said she felt she had everything under control.

the problem is, she wants us back! she wants the joy and hapiness we once shared innocently back and she has been crying, I am also crying even though no one could see my tears or hear the sound of my wailings!


I love this girl and can't imagine a life without her, but I hate lies, I hardly forgive been taken for a fool. I am damn too confused! could someone with a sensible head help me out here?

Achiles: The more I think about it the more I get confused. she claims she still lovees me and that it was the devil.

Mynd_44:
Then its her and the devil who has issues not you and her. Cut her loose and get on with youth live but dont let this one blight affect your perception of women
#I can't stand cheats

Tellmeurmind: sensible head ba? Remove ur brain hardsick, enter market to buy better new version anti-virus and instal it in ur sensible head. There are million women in NL looking for sensible men to marry. Somebody like.........idowuogbo,abil etc but dont say i told u anything oo

Achiles: Thank you everyone. Your advice really came handy. I had a heart to heart conversation with her yesterday, and discovered what I thought was a fling actually run deeper than I could imagine. I could not go sleep until 3AM. she betrayed th only thing we had-trust. I have told her we can't continue with the wedding plan. You know, I have also told her we would have to reaccess everything. I'am so heart broken. I thought i was strong until this happened. I walked into my offie this morning feeling empty and crying inside of me. I just don't know where to start from. She lied, she did our thing with him!

deshclones:

bro,i feel you..infact am having goose pimples as i type..i remember what happened to me 11weeks ago...the chic that i loved with my life...the only gal that deshy boy believed in...she cheated on me..yes she did...even though she claimed she was drugged..but thats bullshit to me...infact she even got pregnant..and as we speak..her family are marrying her off this weekend to the said guy..i tot i knew her..this gal was my world..my pride and ma hope..she really invested time,resources and emotions in me..everything i have and i am today,i owe 80% to her..i was devastated...i cried maself to sleep on a daily basis..infact..the feeling is indescribable .at a stage pity replaced my anger..the gal was a nice person..now she is going to marry some dude that stays in onitsha...i just shudder at the kind of life she will live in onitsha.marrying a guy she doesnt love,a guy that obviously doesnt love her..a guy she doesnt know sh1t about him....i have stopped picking her calls cos i dont want to change my mind..she virtually cries and asks for forgiveness on a minutely basis..she even volunteered to remove the baby but ma mind is made up...i can forgive anything but i can never forgive an adulterous gal..never...i am healing gradually sha..the Lord has given me grace bro...i suggest you pray,ask God to give you grace man...you will be fine.

obowunmi:

MOVE ON friend. Time heals all wounds.