kemmyangel: If she cant cook, nd you love her....please do the cooking for her oooo.....anytime you are in the kitchen, just invite her playfully, with time she will get use to it, nd if she is not...get a house made to do that for you.....afterall, God created man to be an help mate to woman...lol..........

Mrs..Chima:


I don't do deadbeats and if I can work..so can my husband.

Rocktation:

Lol. Not to worry, you're good to go. We're independent, not just for the name of it. You excluded an important bit of info from your CV though. Can You Cook?

kemmyangel: If she cant cook, nd you love her....please do the cooking for her oooo.....anytime you are in the kitchen, just invite her playfully, with time she will get use to it, nd if she is not...get a house made to do that for you.....afterall, God created man to be an help mate to woman...lol..........

favouryemmy:
I tell u, getting househelp is not d best, especially if ur wife neva does it. If ur house help always does the cooking and serves u evrytime, with time u might begin to develop feelings for her. U know d way to a mans heart is thru his belly. Im talking from experience, I had to seriously caution myself and God helped me thats y I did not fall. My consolation is that she'll soon leave us and return to her parents.

vivian chinaza: Being an independent woman doesn't automatically make you a man! And it really pains me when women blame their inability to be a real woman on "independence!" A woman should be a woman anytime any day! Being independent is just an added advantage!

@ op, I'm gonna be as blunt as possible...... The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is to marry a woman who can't cook or keep a house together! A woman is supposed to be a home maker! Forget this love matter.......na u go tire by the time it starts frustrating you! This is not yankee or Jand! This is Africa for goodness sake! Here in Naija, men come home from their hectic jobs to a delicious home made meal prepared by their lovely wives, not order for chinese food joor! Don't even think of house helps cos its gonna get worse, and the lineage passes over to ur kids (girls) cos a snake begets a snake! If she can learn fine, in fact if she truly loves you and she know what marriage is all about she shouldn't wait for you to say something before she starts making an effort! But if she doesn't want to make an effort pls drop her like she is hot!

In fact, she is even missing a lot! Oh yes! She is missing that innermost joy that every woman feels when the man she love eats her food and almost chop the plate join cos he enjoys her meal!

vivian chinaza: Being an independent woman doesn't automatically make you a man! And it really pains me when women blame their inability to be a real woman on "independence!" A woman should be a woman anytime any day! Being independent is just an added advantage!

@ op, I'm gonna be as blunt as possible...... The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is to marry a woman who can't cook or keep a house together! A woman is supposed to be a home maker! Forget this love matter.......na u go tire by the time it starts frustrating you! This is not yankee or Jand! This is Africa for goodness sake! Here in Naija, men come home from their hectic jobs to a delicious home made meal prepared by their lovely wives, not order for chinese food joor! Don't even think of house helps cos its gonna get worse, and the lineage passes over to ur kids (girls) cos a snake begets a snake! If she can learn fine, in fact if she truly loves you and she know what marriage is all about she shouldn't wait for you to say something before she starts making an effort! But if she doesn't want to make an effort pls drop her like she is hot!
In fact, she is even missing a lot! Oh yes! She is missing that innermost joy that every woman feels when the man she love eats her food and almost chop the plate join cos he enjoys her meal!

Rocktation: Naija men...just when they say they want independent modernists as wives, they ask for house helps in the same breath.

kemmyangel: If she cant cook, nd you love her....please do the cooking for her oooo.....anytime you are in the kitchen, just invite her playfully, with time she will get use to it, nd if she is not...get a house made to do that for you.....afterall, God created man to be an help mate to woman...lol..........

Mr Lee:
worng!!! God did'nt create man 2 be a help mate 2 woman but vice visa.

dabossman:

Ah, now what makes me a deadbeat? The fact that I don't know how to do all those things that society says is a man's duty to do in the home? That's old fashioned lady. This is the second decade in the new millenium. You go make the money, provide for the home, you can work, who says your husband has to.

Oh, by the way, if I can cook, then so should my wife.

oradee:



so,lets get this straight, if the guys profession is beign a top chef in a hotel or restaurant, he shldnt cook at home cos its a wife's duty? (even as we know hes more skillful there?)
We still think inside a box sha...
So if the husband is a medical dr,when he comes home to a sick child he shldnt treat his child abi? the wife shld do the helter skelter run cos shes the woman?

Rocktation: Naija men...just when they say they want independent modernists as wives, they ask for house helps in the same breath.

Rocktation: Naija men...just when they say they want independent modernists as wives, they ask for house helps in the same breath.

Mrs.Chima:


You are deadbeat if you dont think you should work to support YOURSELF. Yeah you know how to cook otherwise you will be a hungry mofo.

berem: she should go back to her mother and learn how to cook! Which kind thing be dat? Abi na love you go chop? A grown up girl like that can't cook? Only spagetti and indomie! Na wetin you go dey chop for the rest of your life? Please send her home let her learn joor!

crislyn: its nt like that ok, I mean if it were u would u marry someone who can't takia of ur house and dont 4gt dat househelps culd b dangerous too. Abeg bro follow ur hrt if u can teach her then fine.

dabossman:

Here is an answer from you from a female like you on this forum called Wislet:

Ok, let me talk.
All des women supporting a lady being lazy about domestic work or not knowing how to (or want to learn) how to cook, can you marry a man that sleeps at home everyday- no job, no help around the house??
Can you marry a man that thinks his 'love' for you should be enough for you to say YES to his proposal. He musn't have a house or money to take care of you??

And now my comments: Mrs. Chima stop speaking from both sides of the mouth. You're sayin someone is deadbeat because he "doesn't work to support himself", but its okay for a wife not to cook to feed HERSELF and her family right? By your philosophy then it is safe to conclude that a woman who can't cook for her hubby and kids is a DEADBEAT WIFE TOO! Now I wonder who wants to marry such a woman.

Maybe we should just advice the OP to cook for himself and his kids alone. His "I can't cook and clean" wife can take care of herself or be a "hungry mofo"