sadeiyare: One thing I looked for and found was content of character. We can always meet people anywhere, but I don't believe that is what finding is all about. Its was said about the man that found a piece of jewery in a land; He went sold all he had and bought that land.
If I did explain this practically : I met my wife on fb,which was my own village square as an I.T person.I went through her timeline and pictures (please non should patronize me,that why its called fb), and looked out for things like photoshoped pictures which I didn't see(natural was a plus), and square/swear words (which I ddnt see), before I started asking for her nos. We got talking, one thing lead to another and the rest is history.

Note : I was having lots of friends at the time because of the nature of my job, but I ddnt see them ask qualified, because of content of character. And for me the quickest way to know this is by what/how they say what they say (out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks).some did pretend but not long, the character will speak, either they react angrily as a result of status or pride, impatience, e.t.c

Like a chemistry experiment,these were some of the indicators of finding my wife

bros u make plenty sense.

sadeiyare: One thing I looked for and found was content of character. We can always meet people anywhere, but I don't believe that is what finding is all about. Its was said about the man that found a piece of jewery in a land; He went sold all he had and bought that land.
If I did explain this practically : I met my wife on fb,which was my own village square as an I.T person.I went through her timeline and pictures (please non should patronize me,that why its called fb), and looked out for things like photoshoped pictures which I didn't see(natural was a plus), and square/swear words (which I ddnt see), before I started asking for her nos. We got talking, one thing lead to another and the rest is history.

Note : I was having lots of friends at the time because of the nature of my job, but I ddnt see them ask qualified, because of content of character. And for me the quickest way to know this is by what/how they say what they say (out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks).some did pretend but not long, the character will speak, either they react angrily as a result of status or pride, impatience, e.t.c

Like a chemistry experiment,these were some of the indicators of finding my wife

Great answer!

I must admit, this is the least romantic meet-up story I ever heard, no insult intended.

bobbyruffy: u dont have 2 judge, all gurls are not d same. I met my wife on 2go and shes d best tin dat ever happened 2 my life. #winks#

As guys, we meet promised looking/eligible spinsters every/anywhere, every/anytime. but the thing is not all eligible spinster would be suitable for you. The big question is -WHAT IS IT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR?- The first thing is knowing who you are then you can know what suits you. I made the mistake of not first identifying what I wanted and ended up in a web of relationships. Simply pretending to be broke was how I got out of that mess. I have eliminated 6 candidates that way. One is still standing(hanging on), turns out she used to be about the least I had any kind of plans for but things have taken a big swing around between us and I'm left with no choice but to conclude she might be the CHOSEN ONE . still keeping up my act though to see how much longer she can endure. wish me luck guys!

atbu1983: for a lady, i may agree with u. For a guy like i am, i bliv it shd be a conscious effort because it is a serious business/contract/partnership. A guy need to know what he want in his wife to be and where he is most likely to find her.

I don't think search for a life partner should be as serious as u make it sound. I think there is a downside to this perception that u must hookup by all means and that the man has the burden to make it happen. That's why nowadays u see the ladies having a laid-back attitude towards guys because they believe you should be the one toasting even if they don't do anything to encourage you on. And foolishly most men are happy to be on the toasting side for months and weeks since ladies are just that 'special' creature meant for them by destiny! What a crap! While I would not want a lady to toast guys, I believe she has a burden to indicate interest by some subtle means otherwise as for me nothing is gonna happen. If a lady sees what she wants she has to encourage the person, that's my philosophy. Infact I believe any guy that keeps toasting even where he isn't encouraged is daft naturally and not a good choice.
Lastly one of the first problems that arises from most marriages occurs when the 'toasting' man who pleaded throughout to make the marriage happen now turns around after the wedding to assert some authority or contrary opinion. This normally shocks then seriously offends the lady who has been spoilt by the 'toasting' guy. Its like re-negotiating and it has caused problems in many marriages. So my point is girls should start knowing that soon their comfort zone of sitting comfortably to be toasted will soon end o! And it has started.

toilet i guess.. Mtcheeew!

Ezyoung: toilet i guess.. Mtcheeew!

Yes na! toilet no be place?

Efficacy of prayer can't be overemphasized. As a guy/girl, God can always show you the right person in a lot of different ways... But it's left for you to make the final effort to meet that person. Some people do otherwise anyway, they find a partner, and pray to God the relationship works out.

chief batiatus:

I don't think search for a life partner should be as serious as u make it sound. I think there is a downside to this perception that u must hookup by all means and that the man has the burden to make it happen. That's why nowadays u see the ladies having a laid-back attitude towards guys because they believe you should be the one toasting even if they don't do anything to encourage you on. And foolishly most men are happy to be on the toasting side for months and weeks since ladies are just that 'special' creature meant for them by destiny! What a crap! While I would not want a lady to toast guys, I believe she has a burden to indicate interest by some subtle means otherwise as for me nothing is gonna happen. If a lady sees what she wants she has to encourage the person, that's my philosophy. Infact I believe any guy that keeps toasting even where he isn't encouraged is daft naturally and not a good choice.
Lastly one of the first problems that arises from most marriages occurs when the 'toasting' man who pleaded throughout to make the marriage happen now turns around after the wedding to assert some authority or contrary opinion. This normally shocks then seriously offends the lady who has been spoilt by the 'toasting' guy. Its like re-negotiating and it has caused problems in many marriages. So my point is girls should start knowing that soon their comfort zone of sitting comfortably to be toasted will soon end o! And it has started.

true the part about comfort zones, but I on my part just pray i meet the right person.I am quiet so I wont go around bumping into strangers trying to make friends, it must be someone that life brings along my path you know, thats the way I see it, but then I see so many beautiful women these days or is it the weather...

lari03: true the part about comfort zones, but I on my part just pray i meet the right person.I am quiet so I wont go around bumping into strangers trying to make friends, it must be someone that life brings along my path you know, thats the way I see it, but then I see so many beautiful women these days or is it the weather...

LOL I think its the weather.

Da poem below shows ow I met mine........had tried all sorts,from online to frnds sisters to church to school but I met her in a brt bus and we making plans to get married,so far she seem the right one for me.


Red bus discovery!!
Quietly she sat....eyes closed in d moving red bus!
Curiosly I stare.....could she be real or just a fuss!
Make 'A' move is da voice ma brain tells me!
Common sense tells makes mi let her be!

Time and time again I see a sleeping face of innocence!
Emotions so high I made a move out of pretence!
I dnt tink I can stand it anymore!
Feelings getting stronger dan before!

...And so I made a move...beside I her I sat!
....She felt da groove....her smile penetrates ma heart!
The picture of her smile still lingers!
Thought of loosing her makes gives me shivers!

Would she stay?would she go?
What can I say?what can I do?
Like a teenager am entangled in wat I wish I cld control!
Feelings like I jst had da experience of superbowl!
Wld she be mine?...a question only to be answered by Her!

She eventually said yes !!!!!!!

seriously, women sit butt down at home waiting for a man miracle?
like seriouly?

[quote author=Ezyoung]toilet i guess.. Mtcheeew![/quote

am sure your type eventually ends up in the toilet if you are not already there

i tink 2 find ur mr or mrs right is nt d amount of seachin u made. time wil tel, blif God

vivian chinaza:

I don't know, am yet to find out!

I'm or I am!!

nyere84: The topic its abt d efforts u made, in finding those your seven gfs.

Is

you can only tell if its the right person after you have been married for over 20years with four kids.

lari03: true the part about comfort zones, but I on my part just pray i meet the right person.I am quiet so I wont go around bumping into strangers trying to make friends, it must be someone that life brings along my path you know, thats the way I see it, but then I see so many beautiful women these days or is it the weather...

Hahaha!It is d weather,bro.

My prayer for everybody is that God should give us d bone of our bone and flesh of our flesh#shikena#

finguy: you can only tell if its the right person after you have been married for over 20years with four kids.

ignoramus...u can ONLY know after those kids' DNA match your own.pcout

finguy: you can only tell if its the right person after you have been married for over 20years with four kids.

And what about the clergy that divorced his wife after 20years and about 6kids.

The right one is whoever you say he/she is, no other person can determine this for you

This's a thread with a lot of potential.

Well I have honestly desired to meet a spirit filled christian who loves God as much as I do.the thing is that most men these days are into clubbing and drinking,so I keep praying to meet the flesh of my flesh.

[color=#770077][/color] @OP. Whatever happened to God's time is the best? You need to understand that each individual has a unique pace and path for just that person. If you understand that your ways are not other people's way, Life will be simple and beautiful.

amyg:
No venue?

Oh sweet angel, am just seeing this. We gotta plan better, need to see you my baby

divinelove:

Hmmmm well talking as a lady i can understand where u r coming frm. The bible which shld be our reference book states that he who has found a wife has found a good thing. Nw to find sth presupposes a search or seeking for it. Here d man is d one who has got work to do in this regards. Gentlemen on NL how r u conducting ur search for her.

Well, I bought myself a torch and I have been looking under the bed.Please wish me luck.

Okay jokes apart I have resorted to social media cos am the shy type. Wish me luck all the same.

taniboo: Well I have honestly desired to meet a spirit filled christian who loves God as much as I do.the thing is that most men these days are into clubbing and drinking,so I keep praying to meet the flesh of my flesh.

most is not all,keep looking

D-Explorer:

Oh sweet angel, am just seeing this. We gotta plan better, need to see you my baby

Dancing away*etighi*

amyg:
Dancing away*etighi*

*admiring her backside* Ho-ho!!!

D-Explorer:

*admiring her backside* Ho-ho!!!

modella is watching u oh

amyg:
modella is watching u oh

She got nothing on me babe. I like what i see *behind frame*

Did u just deny her? hope u don't do same 2 me