A girl I loved so much that we grew up together, that I have spent a lot on was telling me something strange. I asked her today wether she loves me, she was rescillient to answer yes and when she finally spoke out she said ''Im not in her fully yet'' what should I do? Should I leave her and have my life somewhere else or I should still give her sometime

pls advise!!!

how old is she ? how old are u?

emiye: how old is she ? how old are u?

good question! Op, oya answer

poster

how long have you actually been dating her?

omega25red: poster

how long have you actually been dating her?

we have been a good friend since 2002 and when I gained admission into university she about 3 years layer gained admission. Im through now and she also ready to for NYSC scheduled for next month. Meanwhile all she will need in Camp has been duly paid for by me yet she still say such thing to me

omega25red: poster

how long have you actually been dating her?

i knew her around 1998 with strong emotion towards one another but the dating start around 2000. Though we lost contact but later found our way back. She also told me that during those years we lost contact she had a guy but about 2 month before we got back together they parted.

emiye: how old is she ? how old are u?

Im 30 and she is 27

bid4rich:

Im 30 and she is 27

No woman who has plans for a guy would date him for 10years and not be sure if she loves you or not. The truth? She doesn't love you. Infact she's only tolerating you cos she has not been able to replace you. Once she finds someone you're up in smokes. So bro. Move on!!!

bid4rich:

we have been a good friend since 2002 and when I gained admission into university she about 3 years layer gained admission. Im through now and she also ready to for NYSC scheduled for next month. Meanwhile all she will need in Camp has been duly paid for by me yet she still say such thing to me

Why would you pay for her stuff? Crazy! She has no parents?

bid4rich:

we have been a good friend since 2002 and when I gained admission into university she about 3 years layer gained admission. Im through now and she also ready to for NYSC scheduled for next month. Meanwhile all she will need in Camp has been duly paid for by me yet she still say such thing to me

. Okay,so because u paid for all what she would need while in camp,u expect her to date u,is it now trade by barter?kk dts one,another thing,this girl obviously isnt into u,considering the time u guys ve known each other.so in ur best interest,run and never look back and stop giving her things dude,since she isnt into u she shdnt be into collecting money to spend in camp from u too.

Thanks to you all for your comments; I really appreciate. I have earlier said that no woman will break my heart, my heart is conditioned towards this and I think I will rather flee than to run. I have shut my heart towards her. Many girls are waiting I guess. God bless you all

Your judgement was wrong. Your spendings shouldn't be the reason why she must love you. I'd advise you give her more space, she just might appreciate you more and come to a point of remorse.

D-Explorer:
Your judgement was wrong. Your spendings shouldn't be the reason why she must love you. I'd advise you give her more space, she just might appreciate you more and come to a point of remorse.

thanks, im not even with her right now. Im faaaar up in the middle belt while she is in Lagos preparing for her compulsory one year youth service corps

bid4rich:

thanks, im not even with her right now. Im faaaar up in the middle belt while she is in Lagos preparing for her compulsory one year youth service corps

Ok though that wasn't my ref. I think it's time for you to define your relationship. To do that, you need to see her, take her out somewhere cosy and ask what's the future for you both. Her response could tell the colour of the flag.

bid4rich:

Im 30 and she is 27

A lady at 27 is expected to be mentally and physical matured for a serious relationship and marriage. I initially thought she was a teenager from her response. As she said she is not into you, you are probably trying to buy her affection through naira notes. Dont take that statement lightly, especially now she is going for NYSC, talk it through with her, Give her space, and explore . A Girl not in to her guy, will explore with others at the slightest opportunity,and dump him like hot potatoes at her appropriate time

emiye:

A lady at 27 is expected to be mentally and physical matured for a serious relationship and marriage. I initially thought she was a teenager from her response. As she said she is not into you, you are probably trying to buy her affection through naira notes. Dont take that statement lightly, especially now she is going for NYSC, talk it through with her, Give her space, and explore . A Girl not in to her guy, will explore with others at the slightest opportunity,and dump him like hot potatoes at her appropriate time

you are very correct. Your comment is taken. I love that