[quote author=Lexoria][/quote]

thank you sister, my wife is always proud of me.

I love this thread, i can't help but keep going over the pages again and again, it's fun !!!!

For him to assist me at d kitchen does not mean i should stress him. Thank God for flour atleast dat can go rather dan watch him pound, OMG dat will break mi hrt or else he insist on doin it.

@ poster,wake up,this is the 21st century where family roles are interchangeable

Only if I have tribal mark gush

What realy makes ladies think dat de cook more dan men?

No big deal joor.... But not my duty really... shld be done once in a while to show love !!, and often when the woman is down & female children still small....

what is too special about a men that he cant help with the cooking

one man's meat is another man's poison nt all husband can do dst bt to me there's notin bad in it..sumtimz wen she's sick,tire or she did much house chores nd u feel like assisting..nt an habit bt sometimes,it's really common among romantic guys

this issue of husband cooking sha

i can help my wife anywhere in my house and its non of your problem.

but i like to do it voluntarily not wen you want to force or think i must do it. i know when its right

freecocoa: I apologize if you think I was rude.

My first reply came as a result of some men saying they can help in the kitchen save for yam pounding, now between a man and a woman who do you think should take up the task of pounding yam? If you think it okay for a woman, you will have no qualms with your girl doing it, you don't allow her do it cos you prolly think its too tasking for her.

Women don't pound anything hard in my house and that's how I grew up, it has nothing to do with ego or pride for me, I believe its just too stressful for a woman and we can all agree that the less strenuous chores often goes to the woman so please, I don't sound nor reason like the OP.

The truth is that I learnt how to pound growing up and its same for my girl. I just have this kind of mentality that if there's an easier way to do a task then adopt it.
The issue is that every body grew up differently. I am proud when I tell people I can cook well. This is because in my house when growing up, it was competition.

davidylan:

Grow up. your wife is not your servant but your best friend and lover. I dont know what is wrong with doing dishes and helping to cook and clean. I would rather help out so she can finish quickly and we can move on to more fun stuff than cross my legs in the parlor while she slaves away.

Correct guy

I love a guy who can cook, since when is it the woman job to cook solely a d do house work. There are tons of who are great cooks. My husband should not expect me to cook solely in out home. He has to cook.

Missy_B: Good thing my man does not use Nairaland! Na so you all for corrupt him with your cave-man mentality
Wake up....it's 2013!

ur husband doesnt use nairaland and u use nairaland...u must b a suspect!

If my missing ngugu m is not around l ill enter kitchen plus if her pregnant get to 7months honestly l ill standby 24/7 watching to know when she need my assistance...

I LOVE MY HUBBY!!!!!!!?!.He's an xceptional Nigerian guy.There's no nigerian boy,guy or man like him.Prolly,most nigerian men will think he's a sissy cos he can sit on the floor and do homework with his kids,will insist in washing the clothes while I rinse,para-adventure the washing machine is incapacitated,will carry whatever we bought from shopping unless it is so much then he'd agree for me to help,he buys stuff for me by himself if he sees I need them or on impulse(I find it diffucult to buy anything for myself cos I end up seeing something(s) nice for the kids),Helps me in the kitchen sometimes etc...and I try to appreciate and not take him for granted.I don't know what I'd do without this angel.With everything that he was and is,he is the most humble,helpful(to everyone),nicest person I know.God pls keep blessing and blessing and over blessing this guy.Thank God my girls will reap what their father sowed with their husbands so I'm rest assured they'd be in good hands.

I pra3 for the touch of God in the life of most Nigerian men on this forum.I decree that every ancestral,generational curse of backward thinking and forward dressing will be roasted and uprooted from their lives by fire in Jesus name.Amen,Lord if they refuse to change,may their daughters reap more than they sowed in Jesus name.Amen!

Lexoria: I LOVE MY HUBBY!!!!!!!?!.He's an xceptional Nigerian guy.There's no nigerian boy,guy or man like him.Prolly,most nigerian men will think he's a sissy cos he can sit on the floor and do homework with his kids,will insist in washing the clothes while I rinse,para-adventure the washing machine is incapacitated,will carry whatever we bought from shopping unless it is so much then he'd agree for me to help,he buys stuff for me by himself if he sees I need them or on impulse(I find it diffucult to buy anything for myself cos I end up seeing something(s) nice for the kids),Helps me in the kitchen sometimes etc...and I try to appreciate and not take him for granted.I don't know what I'd do without this angel.With everything that he was and is,he is the most humble,helpful(to everyone),nicest person I know.God pls keep blessing and blessing and over blessing this guy.Thank God my girls will reap what their father sowed with their husbands so I'm rest assured they'd be in good hands.

I pra3 for the touch of God in the life of most Nigerian men on this forum.I decree that every ancestral,generational curse of backward thinking and forward dressing will be roasted and uprooted from their lives by fire in Jesus name.Amen,Lord if they refuse to change,may their daughters reap more than they sowed in Jesus name.Amen!

Nne dis ur prayer ehn!

Joliecoco: I love a guy who can cook, since when is it the woman job to cook solely a d do house work. There are tons of who are great cooks. My husband should not expect me to cook solely in out home. He has to cook.

gen gen gen gen

Na wa ooo...I've read an eyeful from nairaland today.

"A woman's place is in the kitchen"..."A man who cooks is a sissy"...

Can any of the 'men' vehemently opposing this notion categorically state anywhere that it is written, or perhaps cast in stone; that kitchen chores are the exclusive preserve of a lady?

This is the mentality of an individual with a less than zero IQ abeg. As a husband in the kitchen...do your balls shrink or grow smaller? Does your man..hood decrease in length or girth? Do you stop producing sper..matozoa and start having ova? Do you suddenly start experiencing monthly cycles?

Dear nairaland gentlemen...forgive me for being so explicit, but if your replies to the questions above are in the negative, then I can veritably tell you that kitchen duty is harmless! Worst case scenario has you sweating or cutting a nail. Doesn't change who you are or what you stand for.

A thorough analysis of this issue will show that majority of the guys who abhor kitchen duty are usually the most detail-specific about their meals...they'll wanna give specific 'instructions' on meal preparation (it should taste exactly like their mothers') and also state their preference for freshly cooked meals, as opposed to meals stored in the freezer and heated when necessary.

Come to think of it sef, any guy who knows his way around the kitchen is always eager to showcase his culinary skills...cooking for himself and his family, should the opportunity present itself. It is only those chauvinists who will burn water and cannot cook to save their own lives that will use this forum to 'rant'.

Dear Chauvinist, if you're lucky enough to find a girl who doesn't mind cooking and cleaning after you...good for you! More EKAETTE SYNDROME grace to her elbows. This is the reason why you find young women who look a lot older than their actual ages. They cook, clean, nuture the children, carry out a zillion and one chores in a single day...and still get to lay down flat for one last 'pounding' at night, before a day becomes complete.

Abegi jor...say no to slavery!

Come to think of it sef, any guy who knows his way around the kitchen is always eager to showcase his culinary skills...cooking for himself and his family, should the opportunity present itself. It is only those chauvinists who will burn water and cannot cook to save their own lives that will use this forum to 'rant'.


lmao, burn water. lmao

some guys can't help but can put head!

How about:

If you both agree before marriage that he is the provider and you will cook,then all is good

If you both work,then agree to cook together,or take turns,or swap if one hates to cook.. one will only cook but the other will do some other chore to balance it

And no matter what the arrangement, there could be room for random altering if necessary like - giving a tired spouse a break if theyre more tired or stessed than you( sweeeet)
- just for the fun of it
- because
Its fun to cook for each other
Its even funner to cook together
A man cooking up things in the kitchen is damn sexy!

I laughed wen I read d comments on this post. Am a typical african child. Edo pikin. I grew up to met my parents assisting themselves in kitchen work. It never minus from their luv. As kids den if my dad, get home before my mum from work, he fix lunch for d whole family. Wen he gt transfered he did his cooking himself. Mum own was to prepare stew and soup for him for d week to take to his station. And smtyms wen he is coming back, he prepares special delicacy for himself and my mum.Dads transfer taught dem hw to eat seprately, cos they always eat 2geda...Even@my dads age nw, cos he is close to 60, he does his cooking himself. Since my mum died If he comes back home for weekend and am nt around,he doesn't allow anyone else to cook for him, he cooks for himself. All thru my law school and during my service years, my brodas always call to complain dat my dad doesn't allow dem cook for him. I jst asked dem to leave him alone, cos I tried talking to him, he refused but rather lectured me on hw @ age 19, he was already a bachelor cooking on his own till he met my mum... Since am around nw,I always cook for him. Of recent he taught me hw to prepare his own kind of noodles. Dats d few I can say... To d young men, dat say they can't asist in d home to cook or help in other kitchen jobs, pls pull down ur ego. Pride will take u no where. You assisting in your home, won't make u a slave, it won't stop u from been d head of d home. It will add a lot in building up your home, teaching d kids, d real value of life. Remember d first place of childs education, starts from d home. As parents, ur marital journey, it wat ur kids will emulate in starting thiers. God forbid we show bad examples to our kids. So if my future husband says he wil assist me in d kithen, all good for d family. If he says no, I won't force him.

your household is your house hold you live your life the way you see fit.

ponder this: what if your wife is very sick and you have children? will you kick her out of her sick bed to cook for you because you gave money for food? Also seeing as women have free will, what if she refused to cook for you because she was mad at you or because she was tired?

just wondering if you would starve.


You are wonderful, you said it all. @poster it's not all about who is in charge, it is about sacrifice!!

Baby mama:

Are they now an item?
You mean Muki is now in Abeokuta eating amala and ewedu
Since when?

See ya mouth! you too like amebo.

Personali, i dnt c d crime dia buh i jst prefer 2 do my fin, buh my guy doesn't mind. I remember having cramps 1s n he cooked n fed me dat mornin

Lexoria: I LOVE MY HUBBY!!!!!!!?!.He's an xceptional Nigerian guy.There's no nigerian boy,guy or man like him.Prolly,most nigerian men will think he's a sissy cos he can sit on the floor and do homework with his kids,will insist in washing the clothes while I rinse,para-adventure the washing machine is incapacitated,will carry whatever we bought from shopping unless it is so much then he'd agree for me to help,he buys stuff for me by himself if he sees I need them or on impulse(I find it diffucult to buy anything for myself cos I end up seeing something(s) nice for the kids),Helps me in the kitchen sometimes etc...and I try to appreciate and not take him for granted.I don't know what I'd do without this angel.With everything that he was and is,he is the most humble,helpful(to everyone),nicest person I know.God pls keep blessing and blessing and over blessing this guy.Thank God my girls will reap what their father sowed with their husbands so I'm rest assured they'd be in good hands.

I pra3 for the touch of God in the life of most Nigerian men on this forum.I decree that every ancestral,generational curse of backward thinking and forward dressing will be roasted and uprooted from their lives by fire in Jesus name.Amen,Lord if they refuse to change,may their daughters reap more than they sowed in Jesus name.Amen!

Peradventure

Lolz, every girl, lady and woman here are now claiming that their boyfriends, lovers, fiances and husbands cook for them pls who are these plenty guys I know that are always clamouring to eat that special delicacy that only their gfs n wives can prepare?

Pls who are these men who keep thanking God for their wives that take good care of their home and cook good food for them?


Who are these men that keep bragging that- my wife is the best cook? She prepares dinner even before I am home? She is a wonderful woman, I wonder what I would have done without her?

Dear ladies, pls don't give away the great weapons nature armed u ladies with- giving birth to kids and cooking. The moment men discovers a lasting and acceptable substitutes for those two things, marriage will become a thing of the past and there will be more single ladies than married ones.

it gives every man joy to know that his wife is capable of taking care of the home in terms of cooking, keeping the house in good tidings, without grudges or ranting. They brag about it when u aren't there. Your wonderful meals make them desire home always.

Now ask yourself what would happen when a man can make enough money as he wishes, can cook any food he wishes to eat conveniently, and do all house chores on his own, what then is the need of him getting married? For sex and romance? Such marriages don't last and that's y most today marriages don't last cos ladies now want to share every duty and role 50-50 with the men, that's not how God and nature did it.

Why didn't nature and God made men to be giving birth and carrying pregnancy? Nature designed certain roles for the men and others for the females, if u like throw away your pride and keep fooling urself that u are a working class woman.

Ur working is just to keep u busy and lively, n also productive n not to make u the breadwinner of the home on a normal situation. A man is supposed to be the financial power house of the family n the wife's income should only be a support.

A man is supposed to be caring n loving to his wife, shower her n d kids with love, but making it his role to be cooking and cleaning the house is not ideal pls. Anyway, it depends on d career n nature of d work he does- cos most productive men are always busy n can even hire professional helps to assist their wives anyway. So ladies pls go back n talk to ur mothers, u ladies are getting it all wrong, this is Africa and not Europe or America.

Some of these traditional practices and system are what is keeping our marriages lasting more than the westerns.

And y do u think men stop eating their wives food when they offend them badly? Its their way of protest knowing that their wives food is so precious to them, so they use it as a fast medium to show their anger, and it is only a foolish wife that rejoices when her husband stops eating her food.

Or don't u think if most of those men could cook better food, they wouldn't enter the kitchen themselves and prepare a better meal to eat? Don't let a child taste the forbidden fruit.

Your meals are one of ur greatest weapons in marriage- both for winning the love of ur kids n that of ur husband. Dnt let him discover that he can cook better food without u cos if he do, u are gone becos once crises arise, he wouldn't even bother or miss ur absence when he and the kids can do without ur wonderful meals.

Pls ladies, try and grab a copy of this novel:

Like Water for Chocolate written by a Mexican lady residing in America, her name is Laura Exquivel.

That novel will entertain u and open ur eyes to the harms u are causing urself n also let u knw what ur meals as a woman can do for u in marriage, and beyond. Pls stop thinking too western cos even the responsible western ladies understand d true role of a wife in a family setting.

DailyNews: Lolz, every girl, lady and woman here are now claiming that their boyfriends, lovers, fiances and husbands cook for them pls who are these plenty guys I know that are always clamouring to eat that special delicacy that only their gfs n wives can prepare?

Pls who are these men who keep thanking God for their wives that take good care of their home and cook good food for them?


Who are these men that keep bragging that- my wife is the best cook? She prepares dinner even before I am home? She is a wonderful woman, I wonder what I would have done without her?

Dear ladies, pls don't give away the great weapons nature armed u ladies with- giving birth to kids and cooking. The moment men discovers a lasting and acceptable substitutes for those two things, marriage will become a thing of the past and there will be more single ladies than married ones.

it gives every man joy to know that his wife is capable of taking care of the home in terms of cooking, keeping the house in good tidings, without grudges or ranting. They brag about it when u aren't there. Your wonderful meals make them desire home always.

Now ask yourself what would happen when a man can make enough money as he wishes, can cook any food he wishes to eat conveniently, and do all house chores on his own, what then is the need of him getting married? For sex and romance? Such marriages don't last and that's y most today marriages don't last cos ladies now want to share every duty and role 50-50 with the men, that's not how God and nature did it.

Why didn't nature and God made men to be giving birth and carrying pregnancy? Nature designed certain roles for the men and others for the females, if u like throw away your pride and keep fooling urself that u are a working class woman.

Ur working is just to keep u busy and lively, n also productive n not to make u the breadwinner of the home on a normal situation. A man is supposed to be the financial power house of the family n the wife's income should only be a support.

A man is supposed to be caring n loving to his wife, shower her n d kids with love, but making it his role to be cooking and cleaning the house is not ideal pls. Anyway, it depends on d career n nature of d work he does- cos most productive men are always busy n can even hire professional helps to assist their wives anyway. So ladies pls go back n talk to ur mothers, u ladies are getting it all wrong, this is Africa and not Europe or America.

Some of these traditional practices and system are what is keeping our marriages lasting more than the westerns.

3 Gbosas for u!