LastApostle:
A man is a symbol of God authority on earth. Women are just vessel of honour.
There is a very clear distinction. Feminism is a tool used by forces of darkness to to challenge the authority of God. Women keep improving on their Garden of EDEN rebellion and God and man keep watching them.
You women betrayed God and man, how much more do you want out of this planet earth?

Adaeze003: #off topic.
I'm no feminist as well. And I'm against do me I do you. But its time for women to live a better life!

I know to some of you wife material=a*ss kisser. I'm sorry but you're in the wrong era

@ last apostle, men have misused their 'authority' allot. They've stepped on women and transformed them to 2nd class citizens. Should women continue to watch them? MBANU!!! We have to fight for our right! And talking about how God made things, I've never heard or seen it in the bible that women are slaves or 2nd class citizens but if you have, pls enlighten me .

Adaeze003: #off topic.
I'm no feminist as well. And I'm against do me I do you. But its time for women to live a better life!

I know to some of you wife material=a*ss kisser. I'm sorry but you're in the wrong era

@ last apostle, men have misused their 'authority' allot. They've stepped on women and transformed them to 2nd class citizens. Should women continue to watch them? MBANU!!! We have to fight for our right! And talking about how God made things, I've never heard or seen it in the bible that women are slaves or 2nd class citizens but if you have, pls enlighten me .

byvan:


Meanwhile,the last time I checked,women were asked to submit to their husbands and not some random handles on NL.Men have failed in their roles,and rebellion is inevitable.The few worthy men are enjoying their lives and when they speak on this forum,they exude inner peace.The moment they change this daft mentality of a man can cheat,a women belongs to one man,the better for them.Am glad women are taking their destinies into their own hands.If you have a responsible man as a partner,Submission won't be a biggie.Ihe onye metara oburu,Onye nya na nWoke na emeko ihe na eji ogologo ngazi.Igba ndia nkiti,ha chie gi onu n'ala.

LastApostle: @adaeze,
God created for man an HELPMATE not EQUALMATE.

Helpmate otherwise known as a helper is a Vice, deputy, assistant, subordinate, junior et all. Do it surprise you that a woman wasn't the first human created?
What I am saying as regards the topic is that there must be certain privilege and preference the male folks MUST enjoy and it mustn't be contested whatsoever.
The duty of a woman aside other things is RESPECTING her husband wish and actions even though it comes in violation of her moral ethics. No sacrifice is too much to massage her man's Ego, pride and dominance!

Let us return to the status quo and savour what our fore fathers enjoyed.

LastApostle:
Talking about random handles on nairaland....is that a twist to the already heated argument?

adabeke12:

did u c my video?

adabeke12:

did u c my video?

LastApostle: @adaeze,
God created for man an HELPMATE not EQUALMATE.

Helpmate otherwise known as a helper is a Vice, deputy, assistant, subordinate, junior et all. Do it surprise you that a woman wasn't the first human created?
What I am saying as regards the topic is that there must be certain privilege and preference the male folks MUST enjoy and it mustn't be contested whatsoever.
The duty of a woman aside other things is RESPECTING her husband wish and actions even though it comes in violation of her moral ethics. No sacrifice is too much to massage her man's Ego, pride and dominance!

Let us return to the status quo and savour what our fore fathers enjoyed.

adabeke12:

my sista i guess u can take a whole lot than i can. being nice to ppl haven't really worked for me... turning the other cheek haven't work either

byvan: Stab am now!!Ode!!!You cheated,she forgave you,she cheated and its a big deal.You never suffer,you both deserve each other.

honeric01:

She didn't forgive nada, she cheated to do her own back because if she actually forgave him, she wouldn't have cheated, so let's not try to make it sound as if she actually forgave him.

Na revenge mission she went out to do with her ex BF.

na them sabi sha.

CAMEROONPRIDE: no one forced her to forgive him
She is disgusting. Don't even allow her to come close to your children

byvan:

Don't you think that whatever that pushed the man to cheat,must have pushed the woman too??or do you think the man intentionally cheated to spite his wife??

Biim:

@ all "Do to people what you want them to do to you" Men should also bear in mind that a woman is hurt when her husband cheats on her.

honeric01:

according to the article, the man cheated first, the wife 'forgave' but ended up cheating too. So how did you come about the 'man cheatin to spite his wife'?

byvan:


If you feel that the woman cheated for revenge,then won't it be proper to think that the man cheated to spite his wife,did you get my point now??

honeric01:

No, you're assuming while that of the wife is factual. How can you forgive someone, then go back to commit the same offence you forgave someone for?

Anyways i believe birds of a feather flock together. Two cheating and unforgiven couple. Na their palava!

honeric01:

so the best was for her to go cheat to prove how hurtful its for her hubby to have cheated even after 'forgiven' him? What kinda mindset is that?

adaeze,
God created for man an HELPMATE not EQUALMATE.

Helpmate otherwise known as a helper is a Vice, deputy, assistant, subordinate, junior et all. Do it surprise you that a woman wasn't the first human created?
What I am saying as regards the topic is that there must be certain privilege and preference the male folks MUST enjoy and it mustn't be contested whatsoever.
The duty of a woman aside other things is RESPECTING her husband wish and actions even though it comes in violation of her moral ethics. No sacrifice is too much to massage her man's Ego, pride and dominance!

Let us return to the status quo and savour what our fore fathers enjoyed.

cooker: women don't cheat for no reason unlike men, it was the man that pushed his wife outside at the first instance, i am not sure but i think the man cheated many times that was why the wife cheated back. while cheating men tend to neglect their wives or flaunt cheating in their wife presence as a human being, what is she suppose to do ? a lot of women are also physically abused because of their husband affair but endured because of children. husband treat her like shit and boyfriend treat her like a queen why won't she fall into temptation cheating is bad but if a man must cheat don't get caught and if he marry another woman she might still cheat if he cheat on her so he has to forgive her and both should work on their marriage.

okon007: The rate of infidelity in marriages these days is quite alarming. Read this man’s sad story below:

I found out my wife of 11 years cheated on me with her boyfriend. This was last year June. She confessed to me after I confronted her with the facts. I decided to forgive her and stay married to her because I have cheated on her in the past too and I didn’t want to destroy our family because we have four small children together.

The thing now is; I don’t love her anymore. I can’t stand her and can’t even bare to touch her…
When she talks to me I get so angry I feel like stabbing her in the eye but I’ve never laid hands on her. I don’t talk to her much except when we want to talk about the kids. We live in the same house but as strangers.

She’s really tried to make it up but it’s not working. I actually hate it when she’s around me, and haven’t touched her since I found out about the cheating. I thought my anger and disgust at her would fade with time but it’s been 9 months and I still feel this way.

Will this anger ever go away or should I just end things with her?

Read More:http:///life-and-styles/i-feel-like-stabbing-my-wife-for-sleepi.html

cooker: women don't cheat for no reason unlike men, it was the man that pushed his wife outside at the first instance, i am not sure but i think the man cheated many times that was why the wife cheated back. while cheating men tend to neglect their wives or flaunt cheating in their wife presence as a human being, what is she suppose to do ? a lot of women are also physically abused because of their husband affair but endured because of children. husband treat her like shit and boyfriend treat her like a queen why won't she fall into temptation cheating is bad but if a man must cheat don't get caught and if he marry another woman she might still cheat if he cheat on her so he has to forgive her and both should work on their marriage.

Biim: Some fools have no issue with a man cheating on his wife but are angry when a woman cheats on her husband. Una sure say una well?
I just tire for some men.

MsDarkSkin:

I agree with the bolded.
Women cheat out of emotion but seriously what could you possibly expect if you decide to play the game of revenge in your RELATIONSHIP? if it pains a woman so much why not tell him how she feels and truly mean it?

don't say "i forgive you" kiss and make up then go and cheat.
it would defeat the purpose, no?

Biim:
I believe you didn't see your above statement in my post? Don't get me wrong am only saying that the both are guilty and people should judge them both and not just the woman.

Talking about forgiveness if the man forgives his wife will he die?
Besides the woman succumbed to adultery just like her husband, he either forgives her or go for a divorce since he can stand her no longer.

honeric01: Anyways i believe birds of a feather flock together. Two cheating and unforgiven couple. Na their palava!

cooker: how are we sure he asked for forgiveness some men after cheating brag to the wives that she can not do anything about their cheating, i am sure she stayed because of the children not because she has forgiven him and why will a man cheat and expect to be forgiven while he can not take the same shit from his wife is she not a human being like him in all cheating is not good.

MsDarkSkin: i feel for you brother.
i won't chastise you and call you a hypocrite for cheating on her first and being upset that she did the same thing. Reason being is that obviously she must have claimed to have forgiven you after your affair but still went and committed the same act of betrayal. That is no way to live.

Revenge and tit for tat should have no place in any relationship. You said it yourself you no longer love her and I am sure she must have her ill feelings about you, so perhaps you should divorce or better yet take some time away from each other.

They say "distance/absence makes the heart grow fonder" - well that might be true and might not be, but it won't hurt to try. Either way you two need to be alone so you can take time to reflect and see if you are better together or apart.

Whatever you decide to do just don't deprive yourself of happiness for the sake of this marriage and definitely don't stay married for the kids. Kids witnessing two parents vexed and fed up with each other can be far detrimental to them than the actual separation.

Just take time out for yourself man.
And take it easy.