As many would argue that it is wrong for u to call ur EX especially when they are married, I'm still of the opinion that u need to keep contact with ur EX afterall u guys once enjoyed life together and should not stop communicating just because something happened and u can no longer become man and wife.

I never won the argument but I want to present a case for further argument.

I dated this girl back then, we had a very good time together, permit me to say that we were best of friend. I use to go to her parent's house, her father became a friend and also her sibling.

Due to the fact that I was uncertain about the future and I was not ready to walk her down the aisle being a final year student then (a mistake I regret up till this moment). I kept a lil bit distance from her, went for NYSC and reduced the calls. She got fed up and accidentally got pregnant for a guy (though she considered abortion *that's a story for another day*). She gave birth to the child and also married the guy.

We never lost contact though, but when all these church fanatics I work with told me in a heated argument that it is not right for me to call my ex, I stopped calling.
I ran into her father today and the father was like she was rushed to the hospital yesterday cuz she collapsed due to a brief illness.
I now asked myself, what does the father expect me to do? Why did he tell me about the daughter's sickness and all that baring in mind that I am an ex and the daughter is legally married?


Now, is it justified if I call her phone to ask after her health or I should just stick to the belief that it is wrong to call an ex no matter the situation?

It is not wring to call her, but it is wrong to start to chop the thing again.

tpacalipse: It is not wring to call her, but it is wrong to start to chop the thing again.

its wrong on so many levels

I wanted to say WRONG! but I changed my mind..u can but once in a blue moon

My married ex bf do call me but I hardly pick his calls....even if I do,I talk as if am busy or in a hurry to drop and ....He is married so I believe his chapter in my life is CLOSED!!!

lynpetra: My married ex bf do call me but I hardly pick his calls....even if I do,I talk as if am busy or in a hurry to drop and ....He is married so I believe his chapter in my life is CLOSED!!!

not in extreme cases even?

I rather send a prayer message than call.

I cannot categorically say one thing now and my OGA at the top
Would say another thing

That's why I'm keeping quiet especially when the said girl is nigerian

190 n Nigerian girls: inseparable twins

I am still friends with guys I have dated but I do not call them unless it is to get information but I prefer email.

Communicate with your mate about what you are doing that way she or he can be assured you are not hiding anything.

Very right!

aniiii: Very right!

Are u married How does ur husband feels when u talk with ur ex(s) on phone

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if u do not have feelings for her anymore u can call her. u have to be sure she doesn't too.

ayoremilekun:
if u do not have feelings for her anymore u can call her. u have to be sure she doesn't too.

Well said, but how do you prove this

Na old fire wood dey catch fire pass o. So be careful

U can call 2 check on her but make sure u more careful so u dnt fall bck inlove wit her

Very very wrong

right, but it should not be a habit