Sweetlemon:

*sighs and prays that this explanation will be well comprehended by them*
See bros, I didn't say that you should empty your purse on your babe. What I mean is that you cannot claim to love your girl if you cannot buy her little gifts once in a while just to put a smile on her face (pls note that buying gifts is not the only way of making her smile) they don't have to be expensive gifts, just thoughtful gifts to show that you appreciate her. just to surprise her.
It could be in form of dinner dates, outtings, etc.
If you earn a salary and you cannot do this for your babe (after you have already invested of course) then you are not just stingy, but very selfish. Love is not selfish so you cannot truly love a woman and not give her something from your pocket. It's not possible!
If you doubt me, go and ask your dad how he wooed your mum or ask any happy couple of at least 10 years how the lady was wooed......and how she was retained.
Don't let anybody decieve you, money is an important part of romance. However the amount of it all depends on the size of your pocket. A woman who truly loves you will not allow you go broke just so you can please her.

Sweetlemon:
Love is not selfish so you cannot truly love a woman and not give her something from your pocket. It's not possible!

six one:

You broke like Mc Hammer,
You Ŋ☹ de find boys,
Boys Ŋ☹ send you.
You UuUglyyyyyy life some daaaaaaaamn Chimpazeeeeee.

I ‎see where †ђǝ frustration ι̥ƨ coming from. Sorry dear

safarigirl: it's only in nigeria you hear such arrant nonsense about things bigger than someone's brain.

My dear, maybe @19, you had a docile brain, but mine is highly active and curious. Na teenager wey google don dey pay 30million dollars now, if he had stuck to your thesis of handling things his brain can manage, he would still be playing Nintendos by now.

You should encourage young minds to seek knowledge, not crush their curiosity with this apparent attempt to belittle the person.

safarigirl: lol, bros I'm far from ugly, dem don dey toast me since nursery levels, but like I said, Naija boiz neva reach to handle me with their pea-brains.


Why body dey scratch you like dis sef? You must be one of the gold-digging never-do-wells.

How many women have you scammed? Or are you also waiting to marry a 75 year old Australian like your colleagues?

safarigirl:
Wondering why men who God made providers would want to alter that and become liabilities to those they ought to provide for.

thoth:
oooh Welcome to the world of Gender Equality. I guess the say now should be "WHAT A WOMAN CAN DO A MAN CAN DO BETTER" Women and their hypocrisy.

fewj: We need to import those ABJ, PHC and Lag guys to Warri to mentor Us, Warri girls wan kill us!!!

Sweetlemon: I'm so happy that more ladies are now opening their eyes to this.
There have been an increasing number of them roaming about the whole place looking for ladies with powerful surnames or fat pay cheques to toast.
They cover this act up by claiming they don't want a "liability" and that they want an independent, resourceful, blah blah blah, woman.
Ladies of nowadays seem to give them more oppurtunity to do this because many of us are now turning into "career women" They now want to achieve to a certain extent before they settle down. Some of them are just stubborn feminists who just want to prove that they can do whatever a man can do.
These gold diggers take advantage of such women because by the time the career lady has "achieved" her target, she is already in her 30s and consciously or unconsciously getting desparate to marry. The gold diggers thereby comes in, strokes her ego, then before we know it, he starts milking her. If she is lucky, he will marry her, but we will all know why!
It is women like this that are now making our men lazy. In the past, men worked really hard to cater for themselves and their families. Their pride will not allow them collect free money from a woman without paying her back. But what do we have today? I'm not saying that women should not work and be independent, In fact I'm all for it. But trying too hard to prove that you are independent will only be detrimental at the end. Sometimes, a women got to just sit back allow a man spoil her you know.
My mum always told me that any man who truly loves you will HAPPILY spend his hard earned money on you.

suniblu:

na u sabi. first time front page after many years.. who even care. u think say i read d article mtchewww..

safarigirl: I've made my point.

NL guys should stop attributing gold digging to only women when it's in every one of us.

At leats with girls you know what you're getting into, they don't put up any facades unlike their shameless male counterparts.

kramer:

Ok thanks for clearing that up, i now know where you and your mother are coming from.

Not to sound rude but i believe that women who believe they are entitled to these things from men are usually material women, and I have noticed most of them who have this trait are usually always in want. I also know for a fact that there are women who don't get phased by all these things because they themselves can get it and so nothing impresses them other than the feeling of being cared for emotionally not financially. These women are usually the independent types...never in want.



And regarding this statement


A man in love will do what he feels will make his woman happy.. if she's material = money ... if she's not = love + respect

Sweetlemon:
let me tell you a fact, Folorunsho Alakija will blush if her husband surprises her with a dinner date tonight. Not because she cannot afford to take herself to eat in that restaurant, or because she cannot afford a some diamond earrings, but because it was thoughtful of her husband to think of buying those things with the money he worked hard for.
Don't you get it? It's a romantic gesture! One of the ways of showing that she's on your mind.
Like I said earlier, you cannot love a woman and not bring out money for her. It's just not possible. Won't you take her out on dates? Won't you give her something on her birthday, vals, Christmas, etc? Won't you spend credit to call her? You can see what I mean now don't you?
Remember the key word here is that it is just a romantic gesture to show that you care and that she is worth your money. Even if she has hers.
Show me a woman who doesn't want her man to buy her lil thoughtful gifts once in a while and I will show you a woman who wants to control you.
Chikena!

4llerbuntu:

do u feel better now after the improbable and ass-brained rant?


Like seriously, The above is NOT TRUE.

and even more pertinent is, why does it bug u pple so much? since the advent of time, you pple have been doing this, under various guises and celebrated it as being smart, sharp etc etc.

ALL those fun cliches, ALL those "pay my bills" etc etc.

now the shoe is on the other foot,its now bothering u pple?

Nna, deal with it. Just the way all those Mugu men have dealt with it over the years.

feel free to rant, it helps relieve the stress.


BTW, in case you dont agree, feel free to be gay. since in your dystopic world, women are not gold diggers.


And just to be clear about all this BS, for every male gold digger, there are 1000 female gold diggers. matter of fact every female is a Gold Digger. Yeah i went there.

disprove it

six one:

And WTF ι̥ƨ all †ђǝ Gender Equality bullshit? Den ι̥f Folorunsho or whatever buys her man an Italian shoe or take him out ƒσя dinner it becomes A̶̲̅ sin. †ђǝ guy will den be labelled A̶̲̅ Golddigger huh? Make una fry MESS chop. Guess you took †ђǝ bitter pill this afternoon

Sweetlemon:
let me tell you a fact, Folorunsho Alakija will blush if her husband surprises her with a dinner date tonight. Not because she cannot afford to take herself to eat in that restaurant, or because she cannot afford a some diamond earrings, but because it was thoughtful of her husband to think of buying those things with the money he worked hard for.

Sweetlemon:
Don't you get it? It's a romantic gesture! One of the ways of showing that she's on your mind.

Sweetlemon:
Like I said earlier, you cannot love a woman and not bring out money for her. It's just not possible. Won't you take her out on dates? Won't you give her something on her birthday, vals, Christmas, etc? Won't you spend credit to call her? You can see what I mean now don't you?

Sweetlemon:
Remember the key word here is that it is just a romantic gesture to show that you care and that she is worth your money. Even if she has hers. Show me a woman who doesn't want her man to buy her lil thoughtful gifts once in a while and I will show you a woman who wants to control you.
Chikena!

Sweetlemon:

You misunderstand me. Besides, I'm not a feminist and in my first post I stressed my belief for ladies to retain their feminity no matter the level they are.
I believe in fairness, justice and respect not gender equality. I believe men and women have separate roles which should never be over-mixed or confused to avoid problems like this. But that is as per relationships
When it comes to life in general, like work, politics, etc, then women should be given equal rights to show what they have got to offer.
There is no problem with a woman buyng things for her man. I do it and I can testify that it spices up a relationship. However, it should be a two-way thing and not her doing most of the giving. So Alakija can buy her hubby an estate as long as he keeps buying her things too. It's just a way of caring and sharing among lovers. It is an indispensable tool for spicing up a relationship

dusty84: i totally agreee with you dear!! men have become very lazy this days.its the natural order of things for a man to be the provider.women mk it easier for many of them to golddig becos they are desperate,successful and their are no men to marry them.This abuja head quaters nah die...go to Bolten Wh... hotel dress well speak small better english you go see the women comin after you.its very pathetic!!!

safarigirl: My dear, I'm not married...I've never even had a boyfriend, I'm 19.

safarigirl:
Me, I broke like MC Hammer, I no dey find boyfriend, dem no dey find me

safarigirl: You must be one of them.

Must a woman tell you to take care of her before you do what the lord put you on this earth for? Was Adam a lazy slob who Eve had to ask for everything?

Work una no wan work, yet you have the nerve to call women that cook for you, clean up after +ur disgusting selves and have to lie in bed for you to stick your 3inches in them at the end of a long, tiring day gold diggers?

What do you give a woman that should make her stay? What exactly do men offer in relationships? Nothing! The obly thing y'all are good for is the heap change you scrap off.

You drain women physically and emotionally with your lies and manipuzlations and she's supposed to remain in a relationship that offers her absolutely nothing?
You take from women to give women, so who is collecting money from your poor azz? Y'all be talking like you actually work for the money when you just scam it off of people.

kramer:

Yes she would appreciate it but i bet you she wouldn't demand it or say her husband doesnt love her if he hadnt done it. That's the point i'm trying to make.



Yes it's one of the ways, meaning there are other ways a man can express his love without money being invovled. And not spending money does not automatically mean he doesn't love you.



Yes i accept that there are essentials which a man should shed some money on, but what I dislike is when women believe they are entitled to being spoilt and say you don't love them if you don't spoil them.. huh?? .. The gifts should come from the heart not because he feels he needs to meet her material demands.



Money neednt be used as a way to measure anything related with love please!

I can assure you there are women who just want love and companionship above anything else, though its hard to find women like this in Nigeria.

I rest my case.

Sweetlemon:

Abeg, I'm tired of explaining myself to you.
You just want to justify your stinginess or laziness. That's all!
Bye!

safarigirl: My dear, I'm not marri[url][/url]ed...I've never even had a boyfriend, I'm 19.

Just making an honest observation.


And to whoever said I'm a lesbo in the making, dude, I'm #TeamDeek, but these days, most men act like they've got vaggies between their legs and I can't get with a dude who's okay playing the role of a female in the relationship.

Sweetlemon:

Abeg, I'm tired of explaining myself to you.
You just want to justify your stinginess or laziness. That's all!
Bye!

six one:

Well yarns men. Dem don chow her lean change she de come vent her frustration here. Mtcheeeew

six one:

And you jux flaunting your Hypocrtical Gold digging skills huh

Okija_juju:

Bitches be hussling brothers everyday for everything from; Recharge cards to Cellphones to cars, house rents, lands, open up boutiques for them, shopping in Dubai, Private jet lounging, Yatch cruises, expensive vacations, money in the bank, etc.. This has been the case since the beginning of time. We men complain, but we keep it on the down low..

A Man gets some help from a woman, she opens a website and tells the world...

Whats the ratio of Guys who hussle women to girls who hussle guys?! Prolly like 500,000 : 1 (in just Abuja o!!)