My partner tried a few of this with until I read the riot act! She tried putting me down severally,hardly appreciative

Dear Op, your assessment is slightly skewed. It is obvious you have not considered some social characteristics of human nature; emotions and the concept of love. Your assessment is a straight jacket scientific suit that doesn't fit into most of human society where emotions and other things play a part. Much as you may disagree, love which is a strong emotion, constrains you to make sacrifices. Therefore what you may considers as abuse is seen as sacrifice by another.
It is no news that most women in love are more emotional and more likely to make these type of sacrifices. Now i in no way condone any form of abuse, but fear is an integral part of love and respect in any society. This is visible in the family, school, military, society and even religion.
So Op, good as your post is (and i strongly encourage people to ask themselves your questions), it is not applicable in all cases that where one or more of these arise, an outright case of abuse exists.
Cheers :-)

Emotional abuse applies to both male and female.Guys may add physical abuse,but ladies are leaders of the act itself.

yuzedo:
Bro, send me ur adrest. U disserv a plate of beer!!!

plate or bottle? OLODO

To me o, there is nothing like 21 signs. There is only 1 sign: if you are emotionally abused, you are emotionally abused; period.

kulyie: gbaaagauuunnn . there is nothing like 'a plate of beer',it's 'a bottle of beer'.Drinks are kept/stored inside bottles,not in a plate. 8-)

dont u undastand wen sum1 z joking? U lukin bookish

Da Mayor: Dear Op, your assessment is slightly skewed. It is obvious you have not considered some social characteristics of human nature; emotions and the concept of love. Your assessment is a straight jacket scientific suit that doesn't fit into most of human society where emotions and other things play a part. Much as you may disagree, love which is a strong emotion, constrains you to make sacrifices. Therefore what you may considers as abuse is seen as sacrifice by another.
It is no news that most women in love are more emotional and more likely to make these type of sacrifices. Now i in no way condone any form of abuse, but fear is an integral part of love and respect in any society. This is visible in the family, school, military, society and even religion.
So Op, good as your post is (and i strongly encourage people to ask themselves your questions), it is not applicable in all cases that where one or more of these arise, an outright case of abuse exists.
Cheers :-)

Ciaman, u no kum geh any like eeyah

Da Mayor: Dear Op, your assessment is slightly skewed. It is obvious you have not considered some social characteristics of human nature; emotions and the concept of love. Your assessment is a straight jacket scientific suit that doesn't fit into most of human society where emotions and other things play a part. Much as you may disagree, love which is a strong emotion, constrains you to make sacrifices. Therefore what you may considers as abuse is seen as sacrifice by another.
It is no news that most women in love are more emotional and more likely to make these type of sacrifices. Now i in no way condone any form of abuse, but fear is an integral part of love and respect in any society. This is visible in the family, school, military, society and even religion.
So Op, good as your post is (and i strongly encourage people to ask themselves your questions), it is not applicable in all cases that where one or more of these arise, an outright case of abuse exists.
Cheers :-)

Ciaman, u no kum geh any like eeyah

Am guilty of some, but I sweAr am not abusive
When people argue or quarell with me I walk away or keep quiet, how does that make someone emotionally abusive. Fork ur 21 normal things people in relationship do

noted

duly noted

nonjebose: My partner tried a few of this with until I read the riot act! She tried putting me down severally,hardly appreciative

Are you still with this person?

BabaAlabi: Loolz..You call it emotional abuse some girls call it LOVE.

Emotional Violation Of Liberty....

israel007:

#8 Two faced personality. Your partner’s behavior and attitude confuses you. At times, they may be extremely loving and caring. And at other times, they’re really mean and hurtful. You just can’t predict how they’ll react to anything you do.

#9 The sadist inside. Your partner feels better about themselves when they point out your flaws or criticize you. They may be more jovial or happy on days when you’re overworking or stressed because of your own mistakes.

#10 The humiliation. Your partner humiliates you or makes nasty remarks, especially around your friends or people who admire you.

#15 The silent treatment. If you stand up for something or try to take control of the situation, your partner may walk away in a huff and give you the silent treatment. An emotionally abusive partner works on guilt, and they hate giving power away in a relationship. Your partner may just ignore you until you apologize for opposing their decision!


#21 Denial. Even when you point out their emotionally abusive ways, your partner doesn’t accept their emotionally abusive ways as a flaw. Instead, they convince themselves and try to convince you that they’re doing all this only to help you become a better person and stand on your own feet.

classic signs.
the entire list is on point but the above esp. stood out to me.
what they show is that the emotional abuser has extreme levels of insecurity and self esteem issues.

El Guapo: Some Folks who're not Assertive enough would resort to Physical assault Just to make a Point, that doesnt mean they intend Abusing their partner emotionally.

We're humans with diverging traits and temperaments, some actions could Just, I repeat, Could just not be what u felt it was directed for.

you really believe that?

nbright: what if it's not the entire 21 commandments?.

Even 1 is enuf 2 mak u feel abused emotionally

So true

I guess if this Is what women term emotionally abusive, then I guess we all have been abused and are continuously abused.

nice post.

All ds signs no dey finish sef ..iz eida 12signs you are ds,10signs you are not dat,20signs dat u will neva b ds, 15signs uv nt done dat, 5signs uv bein doin ds..afta all ds signs shits stil Hapn..can we hav our peace plz

OP,

You wasted a hell lot of my time reading this garbage. We all have been emotionally abused and it is not with spouses and partners alone. Even a girl you try to toast(woo) may emotional abuse you and emotionally beat you senseless.

At work, I have been emotionally abused, so it is a way of life.

To hell with that 21 rubbish point

Cipriani: OP,

You wasted a hell lot of my time reading this garbage. We all have been emotionally abused and it is not with spouses and partners alone. Even a girl you try to toast(woo) may emotional abuse you and emotionally beat you senseless.

At work, I have been emotionally abused, so it is a way of life.

To hell with that 21 rubbish point

Abeg tell them o, it seems in this modern age of everybody claiming ITK, they are just causing more harm than good.
In life activities, most things are based on emotions, how else do you think advertisers appeal to you to buy products you don't use, do you sue them for abuse, since they took advantage of your emotions?

Or the girl who gets into a fight with you when you say : am not buying you a blackberry?
Or the wife that compares you to all her friends bf and husbands

It is highly unfortunate , that there are many gullible people who would read this and take it to heart hence raising dust where there should not be one.

In life, you win some and loose some, you compromise for peace to reign, and sacrifice if you love someone , cos no one is perfect
And always try to treat someone the way you expect to be treated

Cipriani: OP,

You wasted a hell lot of my time reading this garbage. We all have been emotionally abused and it is not with spouses and partners alone. Even a girl you try to toast(woo) may emotional abuse you and emotionally beat you senseless.

At work, I have been emotionally abused, so it is a way of life.

To hell with that 21 rubbish point

The fact that it's become a way of life for YOU doesn't mean it's acceptable. Good luck being abused