y not. he's meant 2 be d head. u remeber 4 primary school. . . .whos d head of the family? abi u skip primary school sef?

Cadet:

two can play a captain.

in your imagination i suppose? There are no 2 captains on a plane, ship, presidential palace.

4 Him:

in your imagination i suppose? There are no 2 captains on a plane, ship, presidential palace.

In your imagination, men will always be captain. shior

acidrop:

y not. he's meant 2 be d head. u remeber 4 primary school. . . .whos d head of the family? abi u skip primary school sef?

In primary school, we weren't thinking about who is the leader of the house.

in primary scool we were not thinking @ all, but babe, look at it on d natural side, u should submit nahhh, dont go and shame us in ur husband house oooooooooo

acidrop:

in primary scool we were not thinking @ all, but babe, look at it on d natural side, u should submit nahhh, don't go and shame us in your husband house oooooooooo

Not submitting is a wife being shameful?

wat u dont wanna submit, u wanna be rude and all that, cos dat the opposite of submitiing, yes it is shameful, cos u wont have ur fairytale marriage

acidrop:

what u don't want to submit, u want to be rude and all that, because that the opposite of submitiing, yes it is shameful, because u wont have your fairytale marriage

Not being submittive does not alway equal rudeness. just to let u know

yes it does. . . . xceot u get example

acidrop:

what u don't want to submit, u want to be rude and all that, because that the opposite of submitiing, yes it is shameful, because u wont have your fairytale marriage

You are surely joking, right?

gurls on a serious note, take away the whole womanism and feminism thing away. it is a general thing for a lady to submit to her husband, y u wanna chnage that

acidrop:

girls on a serious note, take away the whole womanism and feminism thing away. it is a general thing for a lady to submit to her husband, y u want to chnage that

No its not. In a culture where it is encouraged even punishable if not practiced maybe. Other wise no submitting is not a general thing.

waaaaaaaaaaaaaat? u lost me here.

wendymanda:

No its not. In a culture where it is encouraged even punishable if not practiced maybe. Other wise no submitting is not a general thing.

ofcourse its not a general thing, we saying d same thing. submiting is a general thing in most married house hold

acidrop:

waaaaaaaaaaaaaat? u lost me here.
ofcourse its not a general thing, we saying d same thing. submiting is a general thing in most married house hold

You say its general as if practiced all over the world however its only practiced widely in Nigeria. I wonder if any female politician submits to their husband like a docile puppy.

[size=13pt]I think women should be submissive but many men do not know where the line is. They think being submissive means her agreeing with everything he says and that is what pisses many modern women off.[/size]

while submitting to your husband,keep checking to make sure he doesnt have someone locked up in the basement oh.

sometimes the gragra don't question my authority attitude is a cover up for some crime he could be committing.

acidrop:

yes it does. . . . xceot u get example

Your husband does not want you to go out, you find a way to pacify him gently, changing his mind, until he lets you. No rudeness.

tpia:

while submitting to your husband,keep checking to make sure he doesnt have someone locked up in the basement oh.

sometimes the gragra don't question my authority attitude is a cover up for some crime he could be committing.

Thank you. The only way I will submit is if he will submit which will bring us back to do ooo. Which kind submission in a marriage where we are equals. That is rubbish or nonsense as my dad would say.

Cadet:

Your husband does not want you to go out, you find a way to pacify him gently, changing his mind, until he lets you. No rudeness.

Or your husband does not want you to go out and then when he wants to go out you say no. Whats good for the goose is good for the gander.

wendymanda:

Or your husband does not want you to go out and then when he wants to go out you say no. Whats good for the goose is good for the gander.

abi o

I guess the situation here is the definition of submission in the context of marriage. Nobody is asking U to be a slave. Matter of fact most women that I know that are submissive to thier husband are the ones who eventually control thier hubbies like a puppet. The ones that scream "equal rights" are the ones who end up end up taking a whole lot crap.

wendymanda:

You say its general as if practiced all over the world however its only practiced widely in Nigeria. I wonder if any female politician submits to their husband like a docile puppy.

submitting 2 ur husband dont necesarily mean u wont have ur own say. . . . .u are not imprisioned. . . . . u are looking at it form a slavery perspective. these female politicians if they dont submit to their husband its shamefull as well cos they should be role models.

Cadet:

Your husband does not want you to go out, you find a way to pacify him gently, changing his mind, until he lets you. No rudeness.

but he is the one that still authorized u to go out now, after enough begging, only God know how u take begg am oooooo. but u still submitted and he the authorized u. bt even that is too rude on a woman's side, no man should just say "no dont go out" they should say it in a respective way and give reasons y not. a suitable one

Uche2nna:

I guess the situation here is the definition of submission in the context of marriage. Nobody is asking You to be a slave. Matter of fact most women that I know that are submissive to their husband are the ones who eventually control their hubbies like a puppet. The ones that scream "equal rights" are the ones who end up end up taking a whole lot crap.

[size=13pt]I'm calling BS. That's so not true.[/size]

StephenP:

[size=13pt]I'm calling BS. That's so not true.[/size]

i will agree with uche, what is not true about that. remember he said in most cases not all cases in his illustration. but his definition of submissive is very correct it dont mean u are a slave, its like listening to a senior bro, or a father's perspective

Uche2nna:

I guess the situation here is the definition of submission in the context of marriage. Nobody is asking You to be a slave. Matter of fact most women that I know that are submissive to their husband are the ones who eventually control their hubbies like a puppet. The ones that scream "equal rights" are the ones who end up end up taking a whole lot crap.

O.K one woman I know or would consider submissive had a stroke because of overwork and worrying about her husband. Anyone screaming equal rights probably will end up taking crap because they are probably crazy. However someone that believes in and insists on equality in their marriage probably will have a good marriage where they are not controlled or subjected to demands they can't meet.

Also there is no form of submissiveness in context of marriage submissive is submissive. I think the role of women in sex is submissive enough if you want more then too bad.

wendy if ur hubby really loves u, he will never submit u to a demand u can never meet. i mean that is humane. . . . . . what is the hardwork, cooking and raisning ur children is hardowrk? u are kinda doing it for urself. @ d end of the day the love grows stronger and the kids love their mom

acidrop:

submitting 2 your husband don't necesarily mean u wont have your own say. . . . .u are not imprisioned. . . . . u are looking at it form a slavery perspective. these female politicians if they don't submit to their husband its shamefull as well because they should be role models.but he is the one that still authorized u to go out now, after enough begging, only God know how u take begg am oooooo. but u still submitted and he the authorized u. bt even that is too rude on a woman's side, no man should just say "no don't go out" they should say it in a respective way and give reasons y not. a suitable one

If you want someone to submit then it is as if they are imprisoned. Thus far all those on the defense for submitting have made it a one sided venture where only women submit. Therefore if it is not a concerted effort it must be some type of slavery.

acidrop:

wendy if your hubby really loves u, he will never submit u to a demand u can never meet. i mean that is humane. . . . . . what is the hardwork, cooking and raisning your children is hardowrk? u are kind of doing it for yourself. @ d end of the day the love grows stronger and the kids love their mom

Well I guess my problem of not being objectified into submission by my husband lies in me not wanting my children to segregate and have favorites. I want them to love us both the same. I guess that is what makes me different from women lobotomized into submission

waaaaaaaaaaaaat noo way, i seriously disagree with that. submitting dont make u imprisioned. thats like following God's commandemnet christains sure dont act like theyy are imprisoned. and ofcourse the men submits too. jst that its not called submitting its called woman wrapper. now thats something i cant figure out.

wendymanda:

Well I guess my problem of not being objectified into submission by my husband lies in me not wanting my children to segregate and have favorites. I want them to love us both the same. I guess that is what makes me different from women lobotomized into submission

and what example are u giving ur kids, da its ok not to listen to their husband?

wendymanda:

If you want someone to submit then it is as if they are imprisoned. Thus far all those on the defense for submitting have made it a one sided venture where only women submit. Therefore if it is not a concerted effort it must be some type of slavery.

U can see it as slavery but I bet U it is not. One cannot enslave oneself.

However, as long as U expect certain things to be initiated by man , like ask ur hand in marriage (not the other way round), dowry payments and all that stuff, U have to also give him that room to lead during the course of the marriage. The idea of giving him a little bit of room and trusting that he would be there for U and take care of U and if it comes to that, even lay down his life to protect U and the kids is what is known as submissiveness. DONT GET IT TWISTED!!!!

Unless showing my kids that mother is not an idiot but believes everyone has rights or teaching the children they should be assertive is telling them not to listen to their husband then no.

Also we should submit but men are women wrapper. There are just too many inconsistencies in this whole belief system.

Uche2nna:

You can see it as slavery but I bet You it is not. One cannot enslave oneself.

However, as long as You expect certain things to be initiated by man , like ask your hand in marriage (not the other way round), dowry payments and all that stuff, You have to also give him that room to lead during the course of the marriage. The idea of giving him a little bit of room and trusting that he would be there for You and take care of You and if it comes to that, even lay down his life to protect You and the kids is what is known as submissiveness. DONT GET IT TWISTED!!!!

As my mom puts it she was not bought. Both my parents I guess are forward thinkers because they don't believe in the dowry system. In the case of waiting for a marriage proposal. . . am shy until I want something and if I want something really bad I go for it believe, if I ever think a man is worth spending a life for then am asking. And am also one of those contemplating keeping or extending my last name especially since I want to get a doctorate degree.