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Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 6:44pm On Jun 14, 2013 |
dayokanu: @Ileoba I have. How does that change the question I'm asking? |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by coogar: 6:45pm On Jun 14, 2013 |
dayokanu: @Ileoba ileoba is lost! CNN has messed with her psyche. she thinks every woman in the world buys into the western civilisation bullcrap! women in amazon forest think hilary clinton is crazy for wearing clothes..... |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by dayokanu(m): 6:55pm On Jun 14, 2013 |
ileobatojo: The question you are asking wont be necesary if you have considered it because Not only Polygamist make decisions based on their religion, culture and environment but ALL HUMAN beings which polygamists are a subset of. You think Monogamy is right as a result of your culture religion and environment too. How about that? 1 Like |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 7:00pm On Jun 14, 2013 |
dayokanu: Oh boy! This is tiring. Okay, let me use another analogy. Some people decide to practice abstinence before marriage because of their religion. Now if I asked those people, 'If not for your religion, is it your natural desire to practice abstinence?' Would that question be as hard for you to grasp as the one I'm currently asking? |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 7:02pm On Jun 14, 2013 |
dayokanu: There ^^ ile..... Question for you to answer . Afterall both practice exist from ages ( bibles & Qoran). why is one superior and considered the right one? |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 7:24pm On Jun 14, 2013 |
100 years.. polygamy was not seen as strange; Rather monogamy was |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 7:33pm On Jun 14, 2013 |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 7:39pm On Jun 14, 2013 |
bukatyne:if you cannot go there and read up on your own instead of relying on secondary informations online,thats up to you.this convo is over babes |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by lovelydoll: 11:13pm On Jun 14, 2013 |
Women work and go to school now.Polygamy is not necessary for this time and day .so stop bringing up the past. 1 Like |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by somegirl1: 11:58pm On Jun 14, 2013 |
coogar: Refer to this post. chaircover: I doubt it. Replies from women in this thread should tell you that we could never truly be happy in such a setting, we could accept it however. If you aren't a woman, don't speak for women on the issue of polygamy. coogar: Are you're insinuating that polygamists and their wives engage in group se.x? |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by coogar: 12:25am On Jun 15, 2013 |
some-girl: why should i? chaircover stays in the west. if she's a 5th wife in medina, would she be writing the same?
all the women on this thread lean towards western education, the opinion is bound to be the same. what about women in the northern africa or the middle east? the women on this thread do not speak for other women in the world!
why won't they? they believe love is sharing, isn't it? if there's no fuss about their husband marrying multiple wives, why should there be any problem in group sex? 1 Like |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 7:20am On Jun 15, 2013 |
lovelydoll: Women work and go to school now.Polygamy is not necessary for this time and day .so stop bringing up the past. We need to know where we come from before we know where we are going 'Monogamic marriage' as you call it a union of one man n woman may be a thing of the past in another 100 years itself Anyone that still says humans are not a function of their environment is at best propounding a laughable theory If this were yemeniland the ladies here will be opening classifieds to find the next wife for their harem as it too boring living alone |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by damiso(f): 7:58am On Jun 15, 2013 |
This thread just made me remember that i wrote my final yr project on feminist views in islam and based it on african writers mainly from islamic countries.Chose that topic cos it was like a contradiction of sorts also cos my supervisor then needed to be impressed cos the man was something else(I wanted to prove a point cos the mam used to pick on me alot). So I had to do alot if research.One of the texts I used (can believe I still remember after so many yrs ) was from a relatively unknown Egyptian writer called Alifa Rifaat and it was a collection of Short stories called Distant View of A Minaret.It was written in Arabic then later translated to english and for a very long while was banned in Egypt.This particular one touched alot on polygamy, child marriage and the internal wranglings muslim women face when deep down they sometimes resent having to share their man.Some felt guilty that those feelings made them feel they were not good enough muslims and quickly suppressed those desires.I also used Mariama Ba So Long A Letter (though from senegal) and so many other ones. The conclusion was that feminism in Africa especially those of islamic extraction had to toe a different line I.e they are more womanists.But that research threw up polygamy as an issue that most of these women accepted as part of their faith.Some would choose it but sometimes (as normal for most human dealings) deep deep down they sometimes resented or questioned it. 1 Like |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 8:40am On Jun 15, 2013 |
^^^^ interesting insight... do u have links to the egyptian book |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by damiso(f): 9:49am On Jun 15, 2013 |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 9:54am On Jun 15, 2013 |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 9:58am On Jun 15, 2013 |
No matter how much we want to debate this topic , there is no place for polygamy in the life of the modern women.Women endured it years ago but we don't have to anymore,oh yes!we do have a choice!! Thank God for civilization!!!!!! 2 Likes |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by luqken: 3:26pm On Jun 15, 2013 |
[quote author=onila] I hate them because I hate their mothers their mothers are dumb evil wicked b1tches. .trust me, their mothers will transfer der wickedness to the children [quote author=onila] I hate them because I hate their mothers their mothers are dumb evil wicked b1tches. .trust me, their mothers will transfer der wickedness to the children [quote author=onila] Sorry to say ds Onila but i think ur mum had also planted and nutured ds same wickedness and hatred u are vehemently displaying here. ur are as guilty as d people ur are condenming. My take on polygamy is d success depends on all d stakeholders esp d man. |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 3:46pm On Jun 15, 2013 |
byvan: No matter how much we want to debate this topic , there is no place for polygamy in the life of the modern women.Women endured it years ago but we don't have to anymore,oh yes!we do have a choice!! you sound like those women were/are forced? If that's the case why is that not everyone is/was in polygamy? Stop playing the victims, women were not enduring anything. |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by mbulela: 3:49pm On Jun 15, 2013 |
AjanleKoko: Polygamy's a no-no. Way too expensiveone wife is surely enough my brother. I often wonder how anyone will manage to date 2 women at the same time,talk less of marrying them. |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by bukatyne(f): 3:50pm On Jun 15, 2013 |
kulyie: if you cannot go there and read up on your own instead of relying on secondary informations online,thats up to you.this convo is over babes Take it cool missy |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 9:49pm On Jun 15, 2013 |
Playing victim ke kedu Ihe onye a Na ako? |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 9:55pm On Jun 15, 2013 |
byvan: Playing victim ke kedu Ihe onye Na ako? I have no idea what you just said, but it's cracking me the heck up!! |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 10:53pm On Jun 15, 2013 |
^how dumb? I thot endured meant victim |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 11:24pm On Jun 15, 2013 |
^ I can't be pained when the number 1 buffoon on NL calls me dumb. No need to be when I'm 100% confident my own dumb doesn't even hold a candle to his. It's like a morbidly obese person calling the size 12 person fat.... So yeah, call me dumb as much as you need to dear, it's all good. 1 Like |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by somegirl1: 1:05am On Jun 16, 2013 |
coogar: I reiterate: Acceptance of a situation isn't same as happiness at the situation. |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 4:08am On Jun 17, 2013 |
I don't know, can A man stomach sharing his wife? biolabee: 1 Like |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 4:25am On Jun 17, 2013 |
I honestly can't give an opinion because I was not born into polygamy. But, I can't imagine sharing my husband with anyone. That would tear me apart. Namely because of trust, would he tell other wives my/Our personal problems. Also, because of conflict resolution, would he turn to another wife when we have problems in order to clear his head. Finally, in my opinion it would create, big head syndrome, as in the man's head go inflate from too much attention. |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 8:04am On Jun 17, 2013 |
vivalableue: I don't know, can A man stomach sharing his wife? No i cannot... i will leave the wife and go and look for my own vivalableue: I honestly can't give an opinion because I was not born into polygamy. But, I can't imagine sharing my husband with anyone. That would tear me apart. Namely because of trust, would he tell other wives my/Our personal problems. Also, because of conflict resolution, would he turn to another wife when we have problems in order to clear his head. Finally, in my opinion it would create, big head syndrome, as in the man's head go inflate from too much attention. Haha... now you talking |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by lovelydoll: 8:14pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
biolabee: and homo marriage/no marriage/poly marriage can also be a thing of the future. but Today is monogamy . Polygamy is not necessary,men do not go out to war in large numbers anymore and women are not so dependent anymore. |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by lovelydoll: 8:17pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
coogar:your right that's what i mean they gotta either be bisexual/gay/stupid/desperate/or forced to be in a polygamy marriage. |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 8:27pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
lovelydoll: it will be... it will be just a mata of time |
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