Oga Klassy, I was puzzled when I read this from you "Should i hide my fears and let her accept this job or do i tell her not to go for it if she eventually gets it"?

Lol, after some weeks off NL I still come back to see people like you. You got jokes.

First of all, either you hide your fears or make it known you can't decide if she accepts the job and neither can you stop her from doing the job when she gets it.

I understand the whole aviation madness but on the other hand I worry seriously where some of you get this spirit of dictatorship.

Bros David she is flying on aircraft as an air attendant, not joining the Japanese Kamikaze crew

I won't roll with a girl who tells me to choose between her and my friends, so for me that is out anyways - I don't support any party throwing ultimatums in that fashion. While someone is your girlfriend, would you just throw words carelessly that can be misinterpreted?

Young man it seems you still have some things to learn - What I would tell my male friend that he would understand fully once I said it, a woman can arrive at a completely different conclusion from the same words. I am not saying don't speak your 'mind' as it were - but the focus is on what you are trying to communicate - rather than blowing your top or laying down ultimatums in the name of both of us being involved and needing to decide together.

You learn to communicate, not just 'speak your mind' - the aim here is to let her see what he means, if in speaking his mind he comes off as selfish and not wanting her interests, what good is that? Is the issue not letting her realise how he really feels? Or being a man means you tell it as it is, whether or not it gets lost in translation or not?

This dude travels for business or other reasons, did she say 'don't take your job' because of that? Lets be rational here and not blow this air hostess thing out of proportion, it is not as unsafe as you're making it. Her parents have concerns yes, but are they saying do not do the job?

he is telling her to 'go for it'? Is he her boss? that is the issue here - expressing your feelings are one thing, but if its in his mind to tell or not tell her to go on, it means he likely laid it down like the law.

Lol. . . Cute Debo, which do u prefer , a kiss or a hug?

Radiant:

Lol. . . Cute Debo, which do u prefer , a kiss or a hug?

I think he prefers a gun

Lol. . . .and who is "Rampant"? You people never get tired of changing IDs

"Rampant", you don't shoot a cutie, aight?

Radiant:

Lol. . . .and who is "Rampant"? You people never get tired of changing IDs

"Rampant", you don't shoot a cutie, aight?

Ofcourse not. . .

That's why I'm allowed to shoot debo

God shes trying to better her life.

She nots selling her body or drugs!

No job is safe!

[b]Thank you all for your responses. I just want to make a few things clear to you all and to those who misquoted some of the statements i made earlier:-

- Some of you were of the opinion that it was a "choose me or your job" kind of situation. Let me tell y'all that i never, ever think that way and i will never impose myself on the girl. It's she who will make the final decision. We had this discussion sometimes last year when we were first going out newly, and i asked her then that what does she feel about being an air hostess. It was she herself that told me she never liked the job, that she wouldn't want to work in this country's aviation industry, etc. Now that she told me she got a job, what i only told her was that i didn't feel too comfortable about it, and that i'll prefer her to be on the ground with me rather that flying around in the Nigerian airspace, but if she feels that she wants to go for it, i'll have to sit back and prayy everything works out well. Everyone knows hw unsafe our airspace is with the level of decay which had occurred in the sector over the years.

- What i meant when i said i "told her my mind" was what i have explained above. I'll never use my selfish interests to spoil her dreams. She asked me for her support and i've told her that when we see (possibly today as i'll be heading back very soon) we'll talk more on the issue and we'll then have a joint issue and conclusion. i'm not that kinda guy who just imposes things onto my girlfriend, even if we were married. I always like to hear everyone's side of issues first. What i intend doing later on today is when we sit down and talk, we'll weigh both ways and whatever comes out will be our final decision. She too told me on phone yesterday morning that she has mixed feelings about the job and she doesn't know whether to accept it or not. Whatever happens, i'll surely give you all the updates.

I hope i've made myself clear. Kapish, everyone?[/b]

good job klassyguy.

debo, wa jere

klassy, It's nice to know unlike the other neanderthals you dont believe in imposing yourself on your partner, quick quesdtion though. . . how do you travel for business?

D-reloaded:

how do you travel for business?

Rofl. . .

Air travel is the safest way of travelling but with the exception of naija local airlines tho. Those airplanes are so old

paddy look i have the perfect ans to your problem i know the chairman of conductors association in obalende i can talk to him 4 u im really positive he would have an opening for your gf.

look men i have to b frank wit u let the babe be dont push her too mch else u cld loose her just support her

I notice that air hostess in 9ja usually have big bootie.
If ur girl fits the profile then ur fears are mis-directed!
Trust me, her courtesy will be converted to customer servicing.

Men like you need to be beaten.

Debosky

I might as well catalogue the myriad of risks involved in merely driving to work everyday
- death from potholes, armed robbers, police men extorting money, danfo drivers, suicidal okada men, 'one chance' bus operators and so on. . .does that mean you will stop going to work while living in Nigeria

Basing your argument on the dangers of travelling by road multiplies her wahala because she has to travel by road to get to the airport. I believe the aircraft does not take off from their house.

stillwater:

Men like you need to be beaten.

doncaster:

Debosky
Basing your argument on the dangers of travelling by road multiplies her wahala because she has to travel by road to get to the airport. I believe the aircraft does not take off from their house.

o boy, Debo's argument just left me slack jawed. I cant believe in this era we no longer have the chance to tell our gfs how we sincerely feel about their own choices. We may as well just be friends.

@Poster!

Good man you are ,imaking progress about the whole thing.

this frank person sounds like a psychopath



Reloaded, i totally agree. The guy did not even hint at the phone incident at all but all the ego tripping chauvinist could bring out of the whole story is the fact that she dropped the phone on him. Thank God Say u no be the guy close friend, na una type go poison the guy mind come pour sand sand for them garri.