this post is dominated buy male , and i tot chicks will be eager to comment. This show u how passive chicks are.

In my 20something years on this planet and from my own personal experienc (although i no fine reach trey songz or get money reach davido) . Girls will give u the signs its for u to decode and make yr move.

daryoor: this post is dominated buy male , and i tot chicks will be eager to comment. This show u how passive chicks are.

In my 20something years on this planet and from my own personal experienc (although i no fine reach trey songz or get money reach davido) . Girls will give u the signs its for u to decode and make yr move.

This is as far as it goes, and even then it will be subtle, approach ko lol

Very, very interesting and loving thread strictly for the realists in the game of love! Thanks to the likes of feed-me-more, shymexx, truckpusher, harbosede (a free spirit although naive), etc for keeping the thread alive with their e-flirtings and e-expressions! Yes, I had encountered such gestures before from two ladies back then, but being my type of person I kind of turned it down because I believed the men are hunters in the game

Creative mind: I have a stand-point on this topic of discussion. I am a typical African boy and i'm well vast in culture and tradition. In fact, our cultures and traditions are great. Nonetheless, permit me to say it unequivocally and in plain language that the restriction placed on ladies or women based on their gender is not only too much but also like searching for an honest man with a stolen lantern. Permit me to use this analogy. Let's say our law gave us the right to life and yet we are not allowed to eat, drink or even move about. Is that not a right to miserable life? Isn't that laughable and ridiculous? Exactly my point! I'm a law student, yet I know scientists are wonderful and engineers are great but despite the erudition of the duo, they are yet to invent a machine that will fight the feeling of love and sincere emotion and i have my honourable doubt whether such will ever witness the light of the day. Placing this fact in our minds, i have taken an intellectual excursion through the bible and several books, there is no where the emotion of ladies have been regulated to ensure they don't feel for men and that it's only men that must feel for them. If this is so, invariably the same way Henry can have feelings and affections of love for Sandra, so also Asake can feel for Akanni and Mariam for Danjuma. To this effect, i think it is an emotional punishment and a misguiding fact which may appear culturally stimulating but emotionally misleading to see a lady asking a guy out as a shame to either womanhood, human generation and our culture. It is a divine feeling which no culture should alter, our social status shouldn't condemn it and our sentiment shouldn't cloud good judgements. If a lady should ask you out, that is not to say she's cheap. Infact, i commend such ladies for being themselves and shunning pretence and silent emotional death. Love and affection knows no class, age, religion, status or even gender. I humbly submit

You'll make a good lawyer my boy!

Creative mind: I have a stand-point on this topic of discussion. I am a typical African boy and i'm well vast in culture and tradition. In fact, our cultures and traditions are great. Nonetheless, permit me to say it unequivocally and in plain language that the restriction placed on ladies or women based on their gender is not only too much but also like searching for an honest man with a stolen lantern. Permit me to use this analogy. Let's say our law gave us the right to life and yet we are not allowed to eat, drink or even move about. Is that not a right to miserable life? Isn't that laughable and ridiculous? Exactly my point! I'm a law student, yet I know scientists are wonderful and engineers are great but despite the erudition of the duo, they are yet to invent a machine that will fight the feeling of love and sincere emotion and i have my honourable doubt whether such will ever witness the light of the day. Placing this fact in our minds, i have taken an intellectual excursion through the bible and several books, there is no where the emotion of ladies have been regulated to ensure they don't feel for men and that it's only men that must feel for them. If this is so, invariably the same way Henry can have feelings and affections of love for Sandra, so also Asake can feel for Akanni and Mariam for Danjuma. To this effect, i think it is an emotional punishment and a misguiding fact which may appear culturally stimulating but emotionally misleading to see a lady asking a guy out as a shame to either womanhood, human generation and our culture. It is a divine feeling which no culture should alter, our social status shouldn't condemn it and our sentiment shouldn't cloud good judgements. If a lady should ask you out, that is not to say she's cheap. Infact, i commend such ladies for being themselves and shunning pretence and silent emotional death. Love and affection knows no class, age, religion, status or even gender. I humbly submit

You'll make a good lawyer my boy!

@Creative mind..Nyc1! U av spoken well. May God increase ur knowledge nd understandn(amin). Der z nothn bad 4 a lady to ask a guy out. I think d most crucial thing z LUV. May God help us all. Shalom!

Creative mind: I have a stand-point on this topic of discussion. I am a typical African boy and i'm well vast in culture and tradition. In fact, our cultures and traditions are great. Nonetheless, permit me to say it unequivocally and in plain language that the restriction placed on ladies or women based on their gender is not only too much but also like searching for an honest man with a stolen lantern. Permit me to use this analogy. Let's say our law gave us the right to life and yet we are not allowed to eat, drink or even move about. Is that not a right to miserable life? Isn't that laughable and ridiculous? Exactly my point! I'm a law student, yet I know scientists are wonderful and engineers are great but despite the erudition of the duo, they are yet to invent a machine that will fight the feeling of love and sincere emotion and i have my honourable doubt whether such will ever witness the light of the day. Placing this fact in our minds, i have taken an intellectual excursion through the bible and several books, there is no where the emotion of ladies have been regulated to ensure they don't feel for men and that it's only men that must feel for them. If this is so, invariably the same way Henry can have feelings and affections of love for Sandra, so also Asake can feel for Akanni and Mariam for Danjuma. To this effect, i think it is an emotional punishment and a misguiding fact which may appear culturally stimulating but emotionally misleading to see a lady asking a guy out as a shame to either womanhood, human generation and our culture. It is a divine feeling which no culture should alter, our social status shouldn't condemn it and our sentiment shouldn't cloud good judgements. If a lady should ask you out, that is not to say she's cheap. Infact, i commend such ladies for being themselves and shunning pretence and silent emotional death. Love and affection knows no class, age, religion, status or even gender. I humbly submit

Wow, this beautifully written and well said. I, being a woman, appreciate that some are walking away from misguided traditional pretenses and are reevaluating what gender roles should be in society. A woman should be proud to approach a man who she is attracted to just as much as a man should. I have never asked a man out, but could see myself do so if I was single and available. I will say that I don't shy away from expressing my love with mine. Too many people get lost in the tit for tat of who should do what.

There is no crime in dat.afterall its a free world

priscaoge: Have a crush on a guy,tell him and he says U̶̲̥̅̊ aя̩̥̊ε too loose or U̶̲̥̅̊ aя̩̥̊ε a flirt. Some guys aя̩̥̊ε so dumb dat if U̶̲̥̅̊ dare ask dem out,hmmmm U̶̲̥̅̊ will become so cheap 2 them. Personally I can't ask a guy out cos of τ̲̅ђe level of understanding som African's have.

simple

northpole1: always 'booked' ke? are u an escort?

i tire o
SMH

I did! Professed my love and,here I am,married with kids. Shikena

Creative mind: . Sorry brother, i wrote that for intellectuals and not loose-talkers. If your orison is inherently low to comply, contribute or analyse, why not concentrate on 2go alone. Nairaland is for more matured and articulate minds. I bet it's not for people who can't distinguish making one's stand known through comment and paper presentation. May God who gave you that big head teach you how to use it wisely. Amen. One love.

First of all, where is your sense of humour?
Dude get a life!

But really you wrote all this for me? Really ? So all u could do to show your "intellect" is waste precious time, waste bandwidth, waste space on d site, and type this waste? You are really showing the fact that all the money invested on you in wateva wasted education you have acquired is a waste! You are really a wasted soul, and you won't waste my time. .. Føool

Feed me more:

You this guy!

It's been a while, how have you been?

I am alright.
Let's chat offline.

To me i dont see anything bad asking a guy out in as much the guy is matured in mind to understand what it means. I do tell my female folks when we talk about this issue that i respect ladies who do that and even if i dont have feelings for such lady i will create it just to let her know that i appreciate her courage and value her as well. I think is high time for africans to stop all these our dogmatic attitutes.

lalaboi: They know how to make their moves when they see what they want. . .They dont directly ask a guy out, they attract his attention and lead him

Only very few ladies(5%)have the courage to ask guys out while the other indulge in the act of getting the guys attention at all cost.That is the way I see it

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See your kpofkpof face

lymelyte:
Only very few ladies(5%)have the courage to ask guys out while the other indulge in the act of getting the guys attention at all cost.That is the way I see it

exactly..i'd rather look for ways to get ur attention without been obvious dan asking a guy out. Gaddammit! I luv ma pride like dat.

melojames: Nigerian culture discriminates against that.

Yeah! Melo, U are very righty.

Harbosede02: Av neva asked n will neva ask a guy out,sey wetin??no matter aw much i might be into d guy,i wud neva tell im m intrested in im...

Even if you know is shy, but you really like him? Hmmmm.... ok o

lorretta u: Most guys would like a lady to ask them out so that they can brag to their friends how one slutty girl is throwing herself all over him.
And encourage him to 'knack' her. In their voice it goes "guy no dull o. See free punni. Guy no fall my hand o."
All these ones waiting for a lady to ask them out,lol you're in for a loooong wait.in this jungle of no gentlemen u really expect a girl to throw her dignity at ur feet just like that?
Truth is that it doesn't matter.and it's a bit admirable.
But problem is with the attitude of men. So many girls will NEVER take that chance,
Unless of course I find myself in yankee.
Sorry dudes.for now y'all gotta be doing the chasing.

"If you find yourself in Yankee"? And what makes these Yankee men any different from men all over the world?

J.lo, Genevieve, Omotola, Beyonce, Rihanna etc won't admit it on interviews, but they've all asked me out.

Harbosede,shey u na yoruba gal abi? I knw una naw,hmmmm una sabi cliam hard 2get ehn...mayb u go wait til wen jesus cm,den u marry jesus himself

;Dloooooool

It is so rare 4 ladies 2 go ask a guy out in diz 9ja of a country coz of their culture.
Most ladies wld refuse smtin lyk dt coz dey wnt 2 hold on 2 their pride. (I 1da wt pride, mayb 9ja pride)
Guyz coz of d kinda 9ja culture dey were born and breed in which somwot disregard smtin lyk dt, dey wil nw tend 2 wnt 2 take d gal 4 granted and dtz y most gals even if dey were supposed 2 hv put d culture behind dem and do it, wld refuse to coz 9ja guyz wld surely abuse dem smhw.

Bt guyz different sha. It has happend 2 me in som cases, and it went well. I didn't take dem 4 granted. I respected dem wella.

Harbosede02: i can c ur lyf is saved cos u wrote well..

Instead of you to learn from NL,you here showing your Ego.You better change before its too late. you be ALUGUTUNGUI

Harbosede02: if i want "sumfin",i wud go 2 any lenght 2 get it,bt if i want "guy"i wud sit n relax 4 miracle 2 happen..my pride is at stake here i beg

Hmmm..... then you are too proud.

My first gf approached me, we dated for 4yrs, and she was even d one dat also did d dumpin. LIFE!

interleukin: Hmmm..... then you are too proud.

don't judge me gurl

Re: Ladies, Have You Ever Asked A
Guy Out ?
Imagine how guys flood the thread as if the bolded mean Guys, I don't blame the guys sha cos ladies are not bold enough to share their experience on the post.
Kudos to those ladies that have contribute to the post .

Morning haterz and fwnds..av a nyc sundai

Harbosede02: Morning haterz and fwnds..av a nyc sundai

Harbosede02: Morning haterz and fwnds..av a nyc sundai