ogugua88: True, but at the same time, I don't think a girl should chase only men with fat pockets or be discouraged by someone who isn't stable or wealthy. Today's circumstance(s) can be different tomorrow. I'd have no problem dating someone who wasn't financially stable, as long as stability is his goal and he's working towards it. Sometimes what he needs is motivation, and that motivation can be a woman.

If the guy is broke and a loafer, then pas possible.

pekelepekele: & y are the galz also saying yes to their request , in fact i pity some gals that doesn't know wears quality .

Imagine most guys now a days with their raw okirika collection of 1k , 2k and aboki perfume running after gals .

You see them they never forget to use powder , use their mama relaxer to coil their hair , with a n50 white handkerchief .

& gals will be like nigga is got future , nigga smells good

TouchDown:




You made some valuable points but what's with the beef for guys who look after themselves?

Hitting the gym and having a good head on your shoulders are not mutually exclusive man.

Orikinla: Some people are misunderstanding the premise of this topic.
What I am saying is guys who are poor or jobless should be REALISTIC.

When you are jobless or poor, your focus should be improving your life and social class status and not using a girl or woman as your antidepressant which is what most of the poor and jobless guys in Nigeria do these days.
That is why they are engaged in questionable and illegal schemes and scams to get rich quick for their vanities instead of being engaged in legitimate pursuits of livelihood and human capital development to become more responsible members of the community and society at large.

Many poor guys who get girls pregnant in the slums cannot even afford sanitary pads for their babes and Pampers diapers for their babies.

The worst thing any poor guy or poor girl can do is bringing an innocent child to come and suffer and be disadvantaged in an underdeveloped country like Nigeria.

These insecure people are the most dysfunctional and have the most unplanned families in Nigeria. And it starts with an unnecessary relationship.

Why borrow to take a girl out?
Why end up in debt or theft, because of your lust for a girl or woman?
Why not study and do legit work to earn your income and then pay your own bills for dating and marriage.

There was a poor jobless bloke who complained to me that he had no money to even travel to his village for Christmas and I gave him N13, 000.
But what did he do?
He ended up adding more to the sums he also got from others to buy a Blackberry to impress the equally unreasonable girls he was misleading and seducing just to have S*E*X with them.
Most poor and jobless guys misplace their priorities for their unnecessary vanities.
N29, 000 - N44, 000 spent on purchasing a smart phone by a jobless guy in Nigeria is enough for him to start a lucrative trade to give himself a good job first before looking for a good girl to date and marry later.

[size=18pt]If you calculate the sums of money majority of poor guys and girls waste on negligible things in Nigeria, the total amount would be enough to float a micro-finance bank!
They spend millions of naira on useless booty calls alone every week!
If you doubt me, ask for the reports of majority of calls and text messages of the majority of GSM subscribers in Nigeria.
Majority of these so called jobless graduates and secondary school leavers go about with smart phones and clothes bought with borrowed money just to go hunting for girls and women.[/size]

2kurupt:

So what happens when his fortunes dwindles, lost his job or falls out of favor? seek a divorce??
Your post reeks of insecurity on the part of the males & opportunistic mentality on the part of the ladies.

BOYS & GIRLS aspire to be who you want to be, like someone said earlier 'success is not sexually transmitted'

playcharles: God will continue to punish our past rulers for mismanagement and corruption, if u agree, click liked button

DailyNews: ...Just ask a Nigerian girl who is searching for a guy to love her with all his heart or even marry her this question:

What do u have to offer to this young man that will end up becoming your boyfriend?

Majority will tell you this:

Sex of course
Won't he be sleeping with me?

Highest value they will tell u they will offer to guy is this:

I will be cooking for him. Wash his clothes, blah, blah, blah. Lol

Now, ask her what she expects from a guy she would love and cherish, and hear her tell you:

He should be working and earning good pay in order to take good care of me.
He must be tall, dark, handsome.
He must be good in bed
He must be outgoing
He must be God fearing and faithful
He should be able to take care of my needs.

Imagine her expectations from a boyfriend, and weigh it with her own offer:

Sex
Cooking for him
Washing for him

Now, tell me why a guy who is still struggling financially should embark on a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship in Nigeria when the girls have no plans to add value to his life?

In summary, majority of the relationships in Nigeria are plain prostitution and we all know it, and we all must rise up against all forms of prostitution in Nigeria if we want this country to move forward.

gsalvatore: Yeah well said Op. This is the exact phase am in right now, No relationship with any female till all my piece of Puzzle fits- jst platonic.. God Bless ma Hustle

The funny thing is that I get to meet some beautiful nice gurls/ladies at this point, u know... we get to chat,hang out, I even call them often but I won't set the table for anything "Unplatonic" if u know what I mean, it gets them worried. Thats when the interrogation happens " what do u want from me?" " Is like u are self centered" " do u really care about me?". Ofcuz I care about them its just that I need to show it through spendin/action to avoid being a Nuisance.

If you are a correct dude, you will know that without cash in a relationship, the whole thing will breed contempt IMO.
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The painful thing is that you get to Miss some nice gurls that you are not sure u will see/meet when u reach the finish line. Am a loner, I tend to succeed alone, I don't fancy the idea of a man and woman building Something or getting any kinda support from women as someone mentioned earlier on- thats just how am wired.

Now am not sure if I will be able to love a woman 100percent after all this hustle because there is no way for me to know if its Me or the Money they love.

To me this whole thing works somehow.

DarryOsh:

you are so right! It is an insecure man that wil expect to use his wealth to hold down a lady.

And it is a foolish girl that wil assume she is a commodity available to the highest bidder.

I have always known that most nigerians do not kno what it really means to be in a relationship but I had no idea it was this bad....listen to what our youths are saying. I am quite disappointed in a lot of the ladies. If guys say that the reason you r with them is because of their money, shouldnt you scream No and make them realise that you are priceless and that you can make all the money you could ever need, all by youself. Oprah, in her youth was not thinking like a lot of the ladies on this thread.

My God! And then we wonder why the entire nation is currupt and we are not moving forward.....when everyone thinks its all about money

most nigerians have faulty mindsets
*signs* well, i cannot say God made a mistake by placing me in this country

martowskin1: From wat av seen, this poor guys of which most ar from humble background, tends to have attitude with great sense of humour dat d rich dudes can't buy wit their cash, cos most of them only think with their money.......however ego is a sure needed tin in romance but its shouldn't always be d case

DailyNews: Hello Darry, read the poster's undertone very well. He is letting financially unstable guys or will I say broke guys to understand that involving in a relationship while they are still struggling financially will only end up distracting them in life and draining up the little money they have which they ought to have used to better their lives.

I am solidly in support of his argument. He is not justifying that girls should date only rich guys, but he is instead discouraging guys from wasting their time and meagre resources in dead-end romantic affairs.

Try and understand him.

This topic wouldn't have arose if majority of Nigerian ladies don't go into a relationship with the mentality that a guy they are dating should be the only one taking care of their financial/material needs while they offer him sex in return.

Orikinla:

You were even laughing at your own joke.
Most gigolos end up as errand boys of their mistresses.

No reasonable woman respects any man who cannot pay his bills and take good care of his woman.

ibkaye:
You definitely have some points, what value would he also be adding to her life besides financial aid? Genuine question here

DailyNews: Hello Darry, read the poster's undertone very well. He is letting financially unstable guys or will I say broke guys to understand that involving in a relationship while they are still struggling financially will only end up distracting them in life and draining up the little money they have which they ought to have used to better their lives.

I am solidly in support of his argument. He is not justifying that girls should date only rich guys, but he is instead discouraging guys from wasting their time and meagre resources in dead-end romantic affairs.

Try and understand him.

This topic wouldn't have arose if majority of Nigerian ladies don't go into a relationship with the mentality that a guy they are dating should be the only one taking care of their financial/material needs while they offer him sex in return.

Orikinla: If you don't like this post, that is your headache and heartache.

What I hate most is to see boys who cannot even feed themselves looking for relationships with girls.
They are in fact, the most sexually active in Africa.
You see jobless guys who should focus on being creative and innovative like their mates in America, Europe and Asia, but their best pursuits are looking for girls to date and they cannot offer these impressionable and vulnerable young women nothing more than S*E*X. And that is why the National Agency for the Control of AIDS, NACA, reported that 3.4 million Nigerians were living with HIV/AIDS, the second largest globally.

Later you see them and their ill bred kids and suffering and smiling baby mamas increasing the population of the poor masses in the slums where they breed anti-social characters, robbers and other criminals who become socioeconomic liabilities and threats to the society.

You want a girl to be your honey, but you don't have money.
You better go and get busy first to add value to your life and stop being a romantic nuisance.

Only a re-tarded girl will date any empty suit.

ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE IS NOTHING BUT A NUISANCE.
~ BLANCHE MC MANETT

DICKtator:

The main reason why it is best you are in a relationship now .You know the kinda girl that started from the bottom wit you are surely the best cos she stayed when you had nothing so she deserves you when you have something!!

mencade5: its a big lie. Most nigerians ladies will never stay with you. To do what? Stay with you when you are a nobody? I completely disagree with you. I witness so many cases with guys that were dumped, ignored, and flunged like trash by ladies they so admireed or were one time dating.

Our ladies are like money for hand, back for ground. I tell you, when you are not well to do, ladies will see you as a failure, slowpoke, and a nobody.

Orikiola tank u jare

Eeja Nla01: Nice1 from the oP,

And our ladies should not misunderstand the op,

Struggle and motivate dat guy that has ambition yes struggle together

our women are ambitious, that will not fly with them, a gal earning 100k would not date a guy earning 150k and hope for the best especially when she is younger, for where?

at 24 earning 100k, she will be dating a married man to make up for her excesses and perhaps get a better position at work, when she is 30yrs, she wants to hook you by all means thinking you were growing stuupiid all these years.

that is the world we live in, even secondary school gals are aspiring to date working class guys, undergraduates - working class, corpers - working class, job seeker - working class, nothing for student, well
Op said the students dont need it, well, i am forced to agreee ooooo.
where will the student get the money to maintain those leeches whose needs are bigger dan the Nigerian parliament?

my only vex are the working class mid twenty gals dating married men, what are they thinking??

ACM10:

Why not castrate them because they are poor? Your post reeks of arrogance. Someone who had a humble beginning will not make this comment. For God's sake, those people are not poor by their own design. Failure of the government to perform its most basic functions condemned those people to the life of poverty and misery. The fact that they are poor do not mean that you should deny them their freedom to make choice. I don't share your view brother. You have no right to pokenose into the affairs of two consenting adults.

ixora3: Romance witot finance leads to cheating

Ugosample: When you get successful as a guy, no gn carry mgbeke oh! Marry your class e.g. A businessman marrying a bank executive... Not just any street girl.

Adaeze003: Are men confused? YES!
When he's poor, he'll say 'I can't get married now, I want to make money' then when the money comes its 'all girls are gold diggers/no wife material/where were they when I had no money'. SMH

Still on this same NL, if a girl says she wants a guy with allot of money they'll call her a slut, whor£, gold digger and etc. Yet, most of you are saying 'no romance without finance'

What men want remains a mystery