I have sacrificed everything for her

this is not the first time she has brought up these issue of us staying apart for a while this is the third time but now she is really adamant for this time apart

have begged her, her friends have begged her, my friends also but she is still adamant

she has a crush on someone and don't understand why she is in love with me and also falling for another guy

Is it that she found these other guy more better than me, or what

I some time wonder if its because of the age difference.

If these finally pass away and we don't get to stay together, i don't think i would ever love someone so deeply anymore again

no realize why guys don't fall in love and just have girls for fun and i think she is pushing me to see it that way.

I don't know what to do

What should i do?

Alapo meji:

First answer this qtion, so nairalanders can knw how to judge n advise.

what n what or hw ve u sacrificed for her?


I was faithful to her, i devoted my time to this relationship, i never cheated on her, i made her comfortable, i provided for her anytime she was in need when the needs in question can be met by met which were mostly met. I am really confused in the sense that i thought this was a dream come true that they were still ladies out there that one could appreciate but now i can say all ladies are the same.

If she asked us to continue, do u think its best for both of us

phemmy26:

My girlfriend and i have been dating for the past two years and all we ve had our ups and down, but now she said she needs a break as in time for herself to know what she really wants. She said many things that like want to know what she really wants in a man, and that also she is 4 months older than me, and she has a crush on someone and don't understand why she is in love with me and also falling for another guy, the funiest thing i and this other guy, we greet each other every time we see, even ln the presence of my girl friend. She says that we mostly argue and fight most time but we don't. The only reason why i get angry with her is that when she gets annoyed on small issues which she shouldn't, i then get angry because of that, but the funniest thing is that it doesn't last more than two days.

I really love her so much and this is not the first time she has brought up these issue of us staying apart for a while this is the third time but now she is really adamant for this time apart. Am already heart broken because no one would ever know that it come to this, almost every one are aware of our relationship and they envy us. Its even shocking to people that we are going apart. I really don't want to loose. I have been unable to eat since sunday and its really telling on me. What should i do? Is that she found these other guy more better than me, or what. She says she has seen some qualities in that man that she hasnt found in me. I have sacrificed everything for her, and she know that and even tells me that she hopes that this is not a mistake that she would regret later in life. I have begged her, her friends have begged her, my friends also, but she is still adamant. I don't know what to do. I have never loved anyone like this before, she is my first love. I some time wonder if its because of the age difference. Please i need a shoulder to lean on. If these finally pass away and we don't get to stay together, i don't think i would ever love someone so deeply anymore again. I no realize why guys don't fall in love and just have girls for fun and i think she is pushing me to see it that way.

~Xerxes~:


She is fed up already. . . . . .
Women are very dangerous animals. . . . The break she is talking about is actually a break-up but she is trying to cushion the effects with lets stay apart for a while and reh reh reh. . . . . .
When people have problems, they stay together to solve it. . . . Great minds don't run away from their problems.
Ma advice: Kick her ass out like POLIO. She doesn't deserve u.

i don't think i would ever love someone so deeply anymore again. I no realize why guys don't fall in love and just have girls for fun and i think she is pushing me to see it that way.

®Th£ Sly®:

Life . . . .The more we live. . .The more we learn. . .
Get sum first aid kits to repair your damaged heart. . . .she's gone.

LadyT:

Xerxes whenever a see your comments I just want to jump on you and do something!!!

j-girl:

anidote, darl - did you just call sly thoughtful?
I knew it! this earth is upside down!!!!

LadyT:

Xerxes whenever a see your comments I just want to jump on you and do something!!!

~Antidote~:

There say absence makes the heart grow fonder, Give the lady her space, Who knows! It can be better the next time around,

j-girl:

You've started again.
What are men? They are more dangerous than women afterall, is it not a man on Nairaland that chose the username Jackal out of his own will? What human names himself jackal ehn?

She needs a break because she needs to make up her mind. You need to stay with her and help her through her confusion. Like they say out of sight is out of mind. You guys cannot deal with breaks easily. As soon as the girl leaves your house for 2 hours, you're already looking for a stand-in. How much more 3 months? You need to keep her close by you and watch her handle it. Maybe you're not satisfying her with your love enough. maybe you're not showing her love. You need to treat her like a princess. She'll make up her mind and stay with you.

eldee:

Ahem. . .

@j-girl
Hmmn. . .so u chose to come back huh?

@topic
Concur with Le Chacal

~Xerxes~:

Jump on me and do something?
My wife is a wrestler, be careful what u say!!!

Space? Space for her to go and shag another dude?
I'm gobsmacked.

I am shocked.
J-girl, must u be biased to back women on this forum?

onyinye2:

the time apart will help. you guys can rediscover what brought yall together in the first place. [b]or maybe you should start dating other people to see what else there is to offe[/b]r. but seriously you need to pick yourself up. you should never cry over no one. you had a life before her and one afterwards.maybe this is a sign that the women who you truly were meant to be isn't her but someone who is more of your soul mate.but seriously pick your self up. there is nothing sexii about a guy who is hung over a girl

~Xerxes~:



Space? Space for her to go and shag another dude?
I'm gobsmacked.

j-girl:

anidote, darl - did you just call sly thoughtful?
I knew it! this earth is upside down!!!!

~Antidote~:

How thoughtful of you! ,

~Antidote~:

No space for her to sort herself out, Maybe see if the relationship is worth keeping, Maybe to step out and look in, Maybe to give the guy a chance to "step-it-up",

Relationships are difficult, people handle them differently, Who knows, as i earlier said, maybe they will discover something special about each other and start loving again crazier than before,

®Th£ Sly®:



You know how i do!