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Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by MrsChima(f): 11:06pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
For wetin nah?: I dey like. 1 Like |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by MrsChima(f): 11:08pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
Buktanye's post: Some women aren't wives material and some men aren't husband material. May I kiss you no homo style? 1 Like |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by DeraOfobike: 11:13pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
No b small real man!, lol. Ladies abeg d end should b beta dan d begining. I hp this piece wl reset d minds of many unmaried ladies. Love n respect wu u are. 2 Likes |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by haulagehandlers(m): 11:35pm On Oct 07, 2013 |
[quote author=soul_glo] So what is considered African? Beating your wife? Verbally abusing her? That's basically what you've said. Just like one black kid telling another black kid that they are acting white because they speak English properly. Of course you are that's your mentality. When you wife leaves you I can see you blaming the western culture. Not you who has the problem. I am African and I do not subscribe to your type of African. And we are not less African because we were raised to treat people with respect and be civil. The fact that you quote Fela in a thread that is admonishing women to value themselves says a lot about you. Fela was many things but certainly not the poster boy for a respectable family man. Not by any standard[/] You either did not read my post carefully or mayhaps you did not comprehend it.FYI i never stated that it is African to physically,verbally or psychologically abuse anybody least of it your wife. I merely pointed the op to the glaring fact that there are some advise that would not work for us as Africans,because culturally we are very different from the westerners.Talking about Fela, that he never lived his life according to the dictate of a strange religion does not in any way make him a bad model,he lmarried according to the dictate and accepted norm of his tribe or was there a time that he abused any of his wives or that he married lotta women he is not a role model? Maybe you would refer to his peculiar habits of drug abuse....well (in Felas voice)....thats a subject for future symposium. |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by pinkshell(f): 12:49am On Oct 08, 2013 |
eddiebruk: Eddie bruk, abi na wetin u call ya name #InIgboticTong! U sound lik a frustrated guy, wus proposal az bin refused n turned down in diff languages. Its eida dat or U apen to be one of dose guy I refer to as leeches, u don't av a job, no drive , no future ambition, dat solely depend on a woman to takia of ur needs. Dese are d oly options dat cn make me understand ur rage. Kpele, get off ur lazy azz, n go get a job. N den u cn try agen. Cheer up dear, its nt ova until its ova. #Cheers! 3 Likes |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by lekpalicious(f): 1:07am On Oct 08, 2013 |
pinkshell:OUCH!!!!! |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by biggiyke(m): 3:32am On Oct 08, 2013 |
Ketimae: Mz Vox,Welcome to Nairaland, land of a little bit of this and a little bit of that, where nothing is ever what it seems and everything is never what it ought to be. 3 Likes |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Blackskin: 5:55am On Oct 08, 2013 |
[/b][b][font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font][color=#990000][/color] nice write up |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by mspee(f): 8:07am On Oct 08, 2013 |
Buddy dogg: what useful here! That's my opinion, sorry! |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by sereen: 8:10am On Oct 08, 2013 |
@Op, a lot of women are in bondage of loving a man too mch that they loss their sense of reasoning and self-esteem, because of marriage, I pray this changes their mind-set. |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Lula5Nash: 8:35am On Oct 08, 2013 |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by aswani(m): 8:41am On Oct 08, 2013 |
For both men and women, tolerance and endurance is the secret to a long lasting marriage. If you are not ready to say sorry even when you are right, please stay single. Once you have children, let them be your focus. Avoid comparing your marraige or spouse with others, you don't know what is happenning behind closed doors. The men making fun of women here for not being married at a certain age are just being immature, they should be ignored. As per the initial post, I doubt that MEN exist that have time to monitor their partners movement when they have to face life's everyday battles. |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Nobody: 8:54am On Oct 08, 2013 |
carujmonella: Listen to urself again. Are you kidding me? So what about those women with eloquent careers and yet no husband? You seem not not to know what you're talking about. You think a successful career is an automatic ticket for a husband or perhaps, a good husband? 1 Like |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Nobody: 9:45am On Oct 08, 2013 |
eddiebruk: This is very realistic. It happens everywhere. Truly, marriage is a thing of honour especially in Nigeria. 2 Likes |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by soterene: 10:25am On Oct 08, 2013 |
this is someone's work and i know the author. why are u taking credit for somene's sweat. this is ow people sow bad seeds o and when they begin to reap it people wld be wondering. with the way u ave been replying many might evn think u actally wrote that. why take credit for someone' s sweat. God dey o. i shake my head for u. u are so miserable and pathetic |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Nobody: 10:28am On Oct 08, 2013 |
ileobatojo: Elaborate pls |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Nobody: 10:30am On Oct 08, 2013 |
Ab-sadiq20: Why did you ask if she's single at the end? You want to marry her? Hypocrisy at its peak. |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by bukatyne(f): 11:41am On Oct 08, 2013 |
Lightening: Instead of reading and applying this wise counsel from Cleft Events who might be running her home on those principles successfully, you are trying to prove to every poster that does not agree with the myopic opinions of your obviously frustrated likes here. We continue to copy the western ladies who can readily cope with multiple divorces, but when the chips sre down you will not let the pastors be where you are looking for quick miracles. Common sense is not so common! The Op talked about avoiding a potential abuser and someone else is talking about ready made men, submission etc. I don not care the principles anyone wants to run his or her home on. Don't just spew non sense in a public forum. Anyone who is against abuse or low quality riff raffs is now frustrated. |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by bukatyne(f): 11:51am On Oct 08, 2013 |
RedBenson: You don't really mean this, do you? It is well o! |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by bukatyne(f): 11:57am On Oct 08, 2013 |
For wetin nah?: My dear, The men sadly are not the problem; we women are. If you know your value, no body can treat you less |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by bukatyne(f): 11:58am On Oct 08, 2013 |
Ketimae: Thank you, Mz Vox for finally acknowledging your source. Well done! It was a very nice writeup! You have done your part(writing), I pray others do theirs (read and practice) |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by bukatyne(f): 11:59am On Oct 08, 2013 |
Mrs.Chima: Lol! Here is my cheek |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by efun209990: 12:53pm On Oct 08, 2013 |
i have been reading some interesting comments, but this is a well written and insightful article, there are so many men out there that have no business being married, the rate of abusive men is alarming, believe me, a lot of women will be better off without some men in their lives. getting married should enhance you, make you better, enrich you and not be a sorrowful venture. the common saying of 'dying in your father's house' because you are not married is simply propagated by mostly misogynist people. the key is prayerfully enter into a marriage, a man that will add value to you ( not just financial value), that is the key thing i got from this article, not every one in trouser is a logical human being. a husband has a lot of responsibilities for his family, ladies, choose wisely dont be desperate, dont fall for that crap of not being enough men out there or whatever, 4 of my friends got married last week, they are in their mid thirties, happily married because they refused to settle for abusive touts. so please let everyone work on their character ( both men and women) before choosing someone to partner with. cheers! 2 Likes |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Nobody: 2:10pm On Oct 08, 2013 |
bukatyne: I meant every single word in it. My dad is not a perfect man and if my mom could marry him and despite his flaws such as abuse etc and still have a successfully marriage with him, why cant other ladies put trust in God and go into marriage with a man peradventure with the mindset of 'enduring' it and not 'enjoying' it like my mom. I've said!!! |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by bukatyne(f): 2:40pm On Oct 08, 2013 |
RedBenson: I ask again: Do you really mean your post? So abuse is now ok because your mum endured it? What is your definition of a 'successful marriage'? Ladies should go into marriage with the mindset of enduring? What is the reason for marriage? Once again, are you serious with your posts? 2 Likes |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by Nobody: 5:15pm On Oct 08, 2013 |
bukatyne: I ask again: Babe, lik som of u assume dat marriage is a matter of choice, u can decide either to get married or stay single, but i must tell u, no woman has ever been truly happy staying single. One 'll sincerely tell u dat she's so happy being unmarried. If she does, she's lying. U cant cajole nature just d way u think. What am saying is, if you like, heed to my advice and get married trusting in God or decide to stay single cos you want a perfect man. Time shall tell who's at lost. Maybe this will be ur portion during family gathering: eddiebruk: As your papa name sweet you to answer am continue, it is when they call for Family reunion and people are contributing that is when you will shed tears when someone from the crowd ask you to shut up and go and marry |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by BlackKenichi(m): 6:56pm On Oct 08, 2013 |
@Okija_juju: Keep up the good work on this thread bro. Your posts are making me laugh! |
Re: A Special Message For Unmarried Women by pinkshell(f): 7:30pm On Oct 08, 2013 |
RedBenson: Lol! Redbenson, can u give an accurate statistics of nigerian wmen whom marriage az brot so mch happiness to. Cos u seem to be aving a lot of fun, taunting ppl, while a crious discussion is goin on. So many nigerian marriages ar in turmoil, d woman isn't apy, d man is nt responsible n probably cheatin outside is matrimonial hom. My point is, dia is no guarantee dat a marriage coms wit happiness(I hope am sayin dis rite) its nt like buyin a thermocool fridge n gettin a 2yr warrantee. Marriage is smthg I com in in2 wit my own apyness, understndin my man wld av is flaws, n noin am matured enof to tolerate dem. Oga dia is no guarantee for marriage ooo. Trut is I can be married to a perfect man n yet not b apy. U say unmarried wmen are unhappy, u wanna no y? Its cos of d pressure frm d society. DON'T EVA EXPECT TO GET SOMTIN U LACK FROM A MARRIAGE (marriage no be gold mine ooo). 1 Like |
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