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Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by Udehpaschal1(m): 5:24pm On Oct 15, 2013 |
jumzzy448: WTF. My advice is ; let her leave the house and go else where. She should also inform her mum.me i wonda oo |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by Udehpaschal1(m): 5:30pm On Oct 15, 2013 |
Hmmmmm. I can see RAPE lingering in the air. The devil is at work.. Run for your dear life before its too late |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by TobechukwuEze: 6:35pm On Oct 15, 2013 |
may God help them |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by Honeybabs19: 10:07pm On Oct 15, 2013 |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by fumisko(f): 11:48pm On Oct 15, 2013 |
thanks so much. actually to most of the questions i dont kind of live with her in her parent's house so i dont know why her mum would let her be that close. i know shes very very close to her dad but i never knew to what extent. also from what we are all told when we grow up her father is her father and her mother is her mother. her mum stays in the same house, i would admit she can be carefree but i believe she trust them enough. yea both parent's have separate rooms i know she calls her "daddy's girl in fact she teases her with leave my husband for me o go and find your own like jokingly sometimes even when am there. but i also know that she and her mum are always fighting about one thing or the other (mother and teenage daughter issues). i sincerely also cant tell if they have slept with each other as in if it did happen. but i want to believe that she would tell me if it had gotten that far. she believes her dad needs help that is he's too good to hurt her and not that sort of a person(as in a psycho). also i don't think she would naked herself as in strip herself nakedly directly. i think its more like he can enter the room if shes dressing or undressing or bathing in the bathroom. her dad is a doctor(gynecologist actually) so i want to believe that its possible he sees it as no big deal to see her i guess. shes an only child for now. i know the parents have been trying and are still trying i think am not sure. as for those who speak of wearing full clothe at home. well even i at home especially at night wont tie myself like am going somewere. why cant i be free in my home whether my dad is there or not i wear a vest and short and am good to go. so is something bad in dressing at ease at home? |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by fumisko(f): 12:35am On Oct 16, 2013 |
stede: shes the first and last(only child) yes its her mum (her father's wife) i used that word there maybe because it best described what i wanted to explain there i think their family are together (mum n dad)and from what i know happy. yes i know her mum's room is different and her dads own too her dad is a doctor and comes back home late. the mum is a nurse and goes on night duties too and come back in the morning so when her mum is on night duty shes with her dad and she cooks his food (food for the house), wash his clothe etc when she is home she said he hasn't slept with her except those advances she thought was normal since the were close....until she realized there was more to the gestures on that night he attempted taking from her. yes the father i feel felt terrible about it. cus in her own words(i wasn't there) he told her(actually a phone sms) that come what maybe he's sorry and he wanted her to know that he would never hurt his own that he loves so dearly and that he would seek help with his all. she showed me the message. i guess that explains why he's seeing is it a counselor, or psychologist or sociologist or what( whatever its called). she n her mum argue alot they hardly agree that i know (teenage issues with girls and mum) yes the gesture is public. i have been in her home and she has sat on her father's laps in the sitting room, eat the food his eating, steal his meat, even her mother's meat. looool so i guess much more happens in that house that is quite normal to them |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by Ruq: 1:47am On Oct 16, 2013 |
^^ And the pops as never given you a raunchy look ? |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by jap132: 3:50am On Oct 16, 2013 |
This is lust and not luv it is spiritual and can not be handle physically. In fact, been possessed with a demon, they should seek for a TRUE man of GOD and be deliver, or else they will ever regret the step they have taken, in other word may results to a generational curse. |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by walexguru: 5:38am On Oct 16, 2013 |
i will be sleeping at the sitting room my bedroom will be enough for you. come without hesitating. run for your life |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by Nobody: 9:18am On Oct 16, 2013 |
I'm a psychologist and from what I've read so far. I am sure to an extent that you're not your fathers biological child. Most times when this kind of story arises, if the child involved is the only child, there is a 95% chance that the child was adopted due to the fact that the parents were not able to bear a child together. For the poster. Please I will need you to ask your parents the following questions. 1. Why am I the only child? 2. Is there anything you're not telling me about myself? 3. When am I expecting a younger sibling? 1 Like |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by Vires: 10:25am On Oct 16, 2013 |
for those saying she should go and marry she should just walk into a supermarket and pick a husband off the shelf!!!!!! abi ? But on a serious note she should tell her mother, this attraction has been growing for TWO YEARS, it didn't just start last week, but TWO YEARS She had to plead with him 9 TIMES for him to come to his senses, that is serious!!!!! some other guy might have r@ped her by then Being an only child, she has lived a pampered and sheltered life, but its not an excuse, but she needs to grow up. Her father being a gyny, hope he hasn't tried it on his patients, now wants to try it on his daughter |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by mikella: 10:26am On Oct 16, 2013 |
Seriously this is weird,but it does happen.i think de man is impaired.we need to Know a lot in dis story.as a behavioral scientist this two people ve done something closer and gone pass this stage . |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by fumisko(f): 11:39am On Oct 16, 2013 |
Alexkene: I'm a psychologist and from what I've read so far. |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by tomnmenace(m): 12:45pm On Oct 16, 2013 |
modele2: I dont understand why people fail to apply simple details of modesty and separation. Why should she be sleeping in her dads room at that age? Why should he even come into her room anyhow? Why should she be scantly dressed in the house? After inviting the devil we start shouting. try giving a pervert a slap wen his hands are squeezing ur bum and he's trying to kiss ur n*pples and u'd know tha full definition of a 'TURN ON' tha girl irrationally liked tha closeness and advances and has got bleeped once or twice but is now overwhelmed with guilt and is gored by the fact that tha dad is now inflamed by this desire and doesn't wonna stop. ..Now whu are does that said she shouldnt tell her mum or some close elderly person to get this sh*it blasted rit tru?? - I guess she should get pregnant for tha dad then! ** wen tha gangrene sets in, tha only solution is to amputate!! ** |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by benjibabs(m): 7:50am On Oct 21, 2013 |
It is very sad to see a sweet innocent relationship go sour. In as much as parents should be "friends" with their children there has to be clear boundaries. Dad enters toilet to pee when daughter is bathing Dad enters room when daughter is dressing /undressing Dad slaps daughter's bums Dad gives extended hugs Daughter steals dad's meat Sleeping over in dad's room All these are telltale signs that dad/daughter boundary was either never established or has been broken down. When boundaries do not exist or got broken there is bound to be problems. Parents should be sensitive to their children's transition periods and establish appropriate boundaries as they (kids) transitioned from stage to stage. The inordinate familiarity between the dad and her daughter has led to ungodly attraction. Constant exposure to her daughters youthful juicy endowments has desensitized the dad to the blood relationship between them. While I'm not completely ruling our spiritual aspect to this issue, it will be better to start seeking resolution by first tackling the obvious physical errors. You should start by cutting off the excesses I mentioned above - lock door whenever you need to be naked, don't condone any act of sexual advancement e.t.c. In a nut shell, all those unusual things that have been normalized should by corrected. Answers to your questions: Is it normal for men to be attracted to their daughters? It is not normal, but could happen. As it has been mentioned on this thread, men are quite visual; however, self control is the key. If the father could control himself with women outside of his home, he should be able to control himself where his daughter is concerned. A proper boundary would've helped to keep any unlawful attraction at manageable level. Her behavior towards him ? Obviously, the dad does not only need help with self control but also with his child upbringing principles. I will go with helping him especially when she has not succeeded in him ungodly quest. She should continue to relate to him as the loving and caring dad she knows him to be, but put up and maintain that boundary mentioned above. How to behave normal like it never happened? First, she should not try to live in denial as this will make it worse. She should accept it happened, try to understand why it happened and seek healing. Second, would it be ease to continue life as usual? No! Part of the consequences of the issue will be the awkwardness that has surfaced in their relationship. It will be a struggle at the beginning, but with time it will get better if properly handled. How can she stop him from wanting her and she if she gets molested? She cannot stop him; and yes, she could get molested. What should she do? Get someone else involved. Secrecy will never produce a solution. While I understand that he is seeing a shrink already, an accountability partner other than the shrink will go a long way to help. Who would be the best candidate for this task? Your guess is as good as mine - your mum! While I agree with you that this will be difficult and will rock the boat of your "blissful" home, the pros outweighs the cons. Once your mum is aware, your dad will sit up. Your mum should be able to help you get through the situation, but be prepare as this could open up a can of worm 'cos your mum will question your dad's faithfulness to her. At this point you have to use wisdom before telling your mum. If by your judgement, your mum will not be able to handle it please approach a trusted close family member. Don't keep it between you and your dad alone!!! In whichever path you decide to follow, always have these truth at the back of your mind: 1.) You are the victim 2.) Telling your mum does not make you a bad person or guilt of destroying your "blissful" home as your dad suggested. You are only telling the truth. 3.) Your dad destroyed the bliss in his home the day he tried to have you 4.) Telling you to keep it secret is an attempt to escape from the consequences of his action By the way, did I commend you for standing your ground when he tried to taste the forbidden fruit? Good job! I can only imagine what both of you will be going through now if you had consented. I pray that the almighty God will grant you wisdom and courage to take the right step in Jesus name - amen. Remain blessed. Shalom |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by simdam500(m): 12:10pm On Oct 21, 2013 |
sparta: i never enter my brothers' room without knocking and they never enter mine without knocking. How much more my parents' room? Crapy upbringing indeed.coooool... It not a matter of spirituality neither is it physical... it just a matter of Upbringing |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by Youngpo413: 7:54pm On Oct 13, 2014 |
Re: Her Dad Is Attracted To Her - What Should She Do by franco3075q(m): 6:07am On Dec 03, 2015 |
Avoid him b4 he clean ur plug |
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