It was by far d worst tin dat av eva happened 2 me, it broke me down and I nva moved on till nw. I have 2 let her go, she is nw married and still my frnd, I love her so much but I can't jst stand cheating!

How did it CHANGED your... Did you just MOVED on... Rokiatu and others please get the brighter grammar book-study it in private. You can also learn about grammar, composition, tenses and all from the internet. Spend less time on Nairaland and use that time to improve your English. ABEG.

rokiatu:

How did it changed your view on relationship? Did you just moved on with your life? Did you lose hope in love? Did you lose trust in people? Did you cheat also out of spite? Now you get what I mean right?

My reply

https://www.nairaland.com/1444579/dont-get-emotionally-hurt-when

I felt BAD! because of dat I decided not to marry again.
May God help us.

It made me more harden n less emotiönal.

I almost cried. thanks to a frnd of mine she was there for me.

uj_sizzle: Like a trailer rolled over my chest

eeyah you mean that same guy that bit your neck while trying to kiss your neck?

Deschil: How did it CHANGED your... Did you just MOVED on... Rokiatu and others please get the brighter grammar book-study it in private. You can also learn about grammar, composition, tenses and all from the internet. Spend less time on Nairaland and use that time to improve your English. ABEG.

Funny, I saw those conspicuous blunders even before making sense from the post. I guess moderators could also help with such.

Ugom38:

surprisingly am still a virgin,my dignity remains wit me.it is only my husband dat'll hav it.not evry girl is lyk de female folk around u.

Ur d lady av been looking for. Can we relate

Chiamaka01:

Excuse me? my love Geolan, just cos' you're on a rebound doesn't mean you should go about with a chip on your shoulder. Live a little!

Pls am not ur love btw is it your shoulder?. Some ndi ala sef en

Imanuelle: When you love someone, hurt is kinda part of the package.
-TWD

BTW

I've not been cheated on before!

More like you have never found out (probably not vigilant or you are gullible...or maybe you are young and have only dated a little.) Most women cheat at some point, maybe out of adventure or stupidity or even by accident...even if it is once. It is the finding out that is a whole new ball game as women are smarter and more subtle than men when it comes to "chop and clean mouth". Their most common victims are those guys who strutt around as the 'lord of the manor" giving the impression that they are monitoring her...I sorry for you as you are on a very long thing! If you wanna get the 411, you gotta move stealthily like a cat, no sound.

too urealistic when fall victim

feel like how?

chineloSA:
He cheated with a ''MAN''



Disbelief and funny, after some months I started absorbing reality. We still friends though.

Don't wish it for anyone. Rather cheating with a woman.

Yes I know him. He left you for me. He couldn't get enough of me, and vice versa..

Dewze:

off topic.
pls my sister, what tribe in Nigeria bears the name Rokia? I had a friend named Rokia. She was from Cameroon. Thanks.

Rokiatu is not a Nigerian, by birth that is.

masonkz:

Yes I know him. He left you for me. He couldn't get enough of me, and vice versa..

Mcxxxeeeeww, you did me a huge favour hey. No easy to be in war with a gay.

Honestly speaking, it was very painful. No woman should experience that. Not to be cheated on, but that kind of deception.

Knowing that he was doing it with other man, yuuuuuuuuuck . Why do you guys live double lives?? Foolishness.

Well your boyfriend apologised and wanted me back. What do u say about that And he also had several girlfriends ( or should I say boyfriends, whatever crap you call it ) , fool

masonkz:

Yes I know him. He left you for me. He couldn't get enough of me, and vice versa..

Aaaaargggghh, you are a devilish, evilish, Lucifer. Going around stealing man

May he leave you the same way you got him. You insect.

Pls pple how do I create a thread

Hurt, angry. I was so shocked i couldn't get my words out when I confronted him with the evidence.

Anyhow, i did give him another chance. We are not together anymore but I do not regret the decision of getting back with him because he has become one person I can rely on.

chineloSA:

Mcxxxeeeeww, you did me a huge favour hey. No easy to be in war with a gay.

Honestly speaking, it was very painful. No woman should experience that. Not to be cheated on, but that kind of deception.

Knowing that he was doing it with other man, yuuuuuuuuuck . Why do you guys live double lives?? Foolishness.

Well your boyfriend apologised and wanted me back. What do u say about that And he also had several girlfriends ( or should I say boyfriends, whatever crap you call it ) , fool

LMAOOO

On a serious note, sorry about the whole thing. We live double lives cos the society we live in wants us to be so. If you remain long without a gf, they start talking all kinds of rubbish behind your back. If they learn you're gay, that becomes the height of it all. Everyone would start looking at you with disgust.

So MANY gay men in Nigeria end up having "girlfriends" when they get to a certain age. Mostly cos they don't want people suspecting them of being gay anyway.

That's one reason gay people need to be recognised in our society, so that they won't be a need for a double life. The more we feel threatened by the society, the more we try as much to blend in. But we all know that no amount of girlfriend in this world can stop a gay man from being gay.

I'm not supporting the guy for what he did anyway. I don't have a girlfriend myself. Just looking at it from his point of view.

I'm sure you'll get someone more deserving of your sweet personality, that's if you don't have one yet.

chineloSA:

Aaaaargggghh, you are a devilish, evilish, Lucifer. Going around stealing man

May he leave you the same way you got him. You insect.

. Pele o. I have him on a leash.

masonkz:


LMAOOO

On a serious note, sorry about the whole thing. We live double lives cos the society we live in wants us to be so. If you remain long without a gf, they start talking all kinds of rubbish behind your back. If they learn you're gay, that becomes the height of it all. Everyone would start looking at you with disgust.

So MANY gay men in Nigeria end up having "girlfriends" when they get to a certain age. Mostly cos they don't want people suspecting them of being gay anyway.

That's one reason gay people need to be recognised in our society, so that they won't be a need for a double life. The more we feel threatened by the society, the more we try as much to blend in. But we all know that no amount of girlfriend in this world can stop a gay man from being gay.

I'm not supporting the guy for what he did anyway. I don't have a girlfriend myself. Just looking at it from his point of view.

I'm sure you'll get someone more deserving of your sweet personality, that's if you don't have one yet.

Its funny because he used to condemn gays and say all sorts of things. Meanwhile I would support them and tell him that the society should let gays be.

When I found out, it was hard I never suspected anything since he is also Nigerian as well, so I thought, well he is Nigerian, he cant be gay. Nigerians hate gays .

Very sweet person, never suspected him of anything.We use to share phones, laptops, space, pin for bank cards, and just comfortable to be with, he was just an open book, but not open enough.

But have no problem with you guys though. We are still friends without benefits of cause.

masonkz:

. Pele o. I have him on a leash.

Am over it. Am ok, luv. You may have my leftovers

Hope someone wont snatch him from you as well. BE careful.

chineloSA:


Its funny because he used to condemn gays and say all sorts of things. Meanwhile I would support them and tell him that the society should let gays be.

Lol. That's just some kind of facade that many gay people put up just so you don't suspect them of being gay. They'd curse and rant against all gay people even more than the average heterosexual. They are much on NL. I just smile whenever I come across their posts

chineloSA:


Very sweet person, never suspected him of anything.We use to share phones, laptops, space, pin for bank cards, and just comfortable to be with, he was just an open book, but not open enough.

Yes yes yes we're always so sweet

Trust me, gay guys are the kindest, sweetest guys you can ever come across. I'm glad the two of you are still good friends.

chineloSA:


Am over it. Am ok, luv. You may have my leftovers

Hope someone wont snatch him from you as well. BE careful.

LOL! Cos of this, I no do again. Off to go find my first-hand guy. Hehe.

masonkz:


LOL! Cos of this, I no do again. Off to go find my first-hand guy. Hehe.

[quote author=rokiatu]Please for all those who have been cheated on, how was the aftermath like for you? How did the experience changed you? and how did you cope with it? And I will appreciate if you please take your time to please vote above.
Truth of the matter i never trusted the opposite sex 100%,have always protected my heart. So it made me resolved to always be wary of female species and keep protecting my heart.